How Do You Deal With Haters/Negative People?
Below are my thoughts on this topic. What are yours?
Have you ever heard of Tall Poppy Syndrome? It’s a non-U.S. term used to describe the situation that occurs when someone is criticized, put down, etc. by “haters” when they’re growing and achieving/accomplishing more than ever before. In other words, they are standing out, or figuratively, growing too tall in a field of equal-sized poppy’s.
If you ever decide to do something grand or enormous that others around you are too afraid to do, and really take on this new challenge or project—get ready for the haters. In the few short months that I’ve ventured off into the world of solopreneurship, I’ve experienced my fair share of negative comments, jealousy, and even criticism.
Now, let me be clear, a good percentage of my friends and network have been extremely supportive, and you too will have your share of cheerleaders and positive supporters. However, a lot of people will automatically make snarky comments, and will be the first to “talk smack” about your latest successes and accomplishments. It’s simply a natural, gut-level reaction; and while they may not mean to sound so negative, it will definitely affect you.
You may also notice that the people you expected to be the most supportive and celebrate with you are the ones that are the most hesitant. What an interesting phenomenon! A lot of new faces may appear to tell you they’re proud of you, inspired by you, or just simply excited. When I committed to becoming a Solopreneur after seeing there were more than enough solid reasons to make the leap, I was ecstatic to receive so many positive, supportive comments from friends, and even friends of friends.
Why is it that your best friends, colleagues, perhaps even your own family, are the most apathetic about your success? Well, it looks like you’ve grown too tall, amigo. You’re no longer part of the same peer group. You’re no longer there to commiserate and sympathize with the old daily struggles.
Here’s the cold, hard truth: This isn’t going to change. The more you grow, the more haters you will attract and the more negative, snarky comments you will receive.
Solution:
I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t worry about them! Some people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. It may be time to evaluate how much time you’re spending with these people and which of those categories they best fit.
Surround yourself with more positive people and set higher standards every single day. The key to success is having a peer group that challenges you, motivates you, and is there to celebrate and congratulate you with every single success along your journey. After all, if you do that for others, why shouldn’t you expect the same?
Remember:
You are a product of the five people you associate with the most. Are the five people you’re currently spending the most time with aligned with your vision for success?
Onward and upward! =)
-Arman
Have you ever heard of Tall Poppy Syndrome? It’s a non-U.S. term used to describe the situation that occurs when someone is criticized, put down, etc. by “haters” when they’re growing and achieving/accomplishing more than ever before. In other words, they are standing out, or figuratively, growing too tall in a field of equal-sized poppy’s.
If you ever decide to do something grand or enormous that others around you are too afraid to do, and really take on this new challenge or project—get ready for the haters. In the few short months that I’ve ventured off into the world of solopreneurship, I’ve experienced my fair share of negative comments, jealousy, and even criticism.
Now, let me be clear, a good percentage of my friends and network have been extremely supportive, and you too will have your share of cheerleaders and positive supporters. However, a lot of people will automatically make snarky comments, and will be the first to “talk smack” about your latest successes and accomplishments. It’s simply a natural, gut-level reaction; and while they may not mean to sound so negative, it will definitely affect you.
You may also notice that the people you expected to be the most supportive and celebrate with you are the ones that are the most hesitant. What an interesting phenomenon! A lot of new faces may appear to tell you they’re proud of you, inspired by you, or just simply excited. When I committed to becoming a Solopreneur after seeing there were more than enough solid reasons to make the leap, I was ecstatic to receive so many positive, supportive comments from friends, and even friends of friends.
Why is it that your best friends, colleagues, perhaps even your own family, are the most apathetic about your success? Well, it looks like you’ve grown too tall, amigo. You’re no longer part of the same peer group. You’re no longer there to commiserate and sympathize with the old daily struggles.
Here’s the cold, hard truth: This isn’t going to change. The more you grow, the more haters you will attract and the more negative, snarky comments you will receive.
Solution:
I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t worry about them! Some people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. It may be time to evaluate how much time you’re spending with these people and which of those categories they best fit.
Surround yourself with more positive people and set higher standards every single day. The key to success is having a peer group that challenges you, motivates you, and is there to celebrate and congratulate you with every single success along your journey. After all, if you do that for others, why shouldn’t you expect the same?
Remember:
You are a product of the five people you associate with the most. Are the five people you’re currently spending the most time with aligned with your vision for success?
Onward and upward! =)
-Arman