Can money buy you love?

11 years ago

Originally Posted by tommyr69

Don't you think we often incur unaffordable levels of debt to try and smooth over twisted contours in relationships?

We may be acquiring more than we can afford, in order to fix a relationship leak that can never effectively be plugged this way. We'll use excuses such as "I need time out from the situation, so I'll go indulge in a little retail therapy." It might not only be the malls that are used as scapegoats; even something as honorable as "getting away from it all" in the form of a holiday that you can't afford right now seems justifiable.

Complicated and challenging relationships seem to stay with us no matter where we go or what we accumulate to perk them up with. They're constantly playing out in our minds, consuming energy, and attracting more experiences that match the low vibrational frequency of the unhealthy exchanges often found in troublesome relationships. How much of one's headspace does a relationship like this take up?

You would constantly be processing ways to deal with the situation, or when you feel that it's beyond the stage where you want to deal with it, escape from it.
So my question is, does spending money to perk up a relationship in trouble, buy any goodwill? Does it in fact buy more time to work through issues?

What about those who don't have ample resources to spend on a partner? How do they perk up a relationship, especially in our global village where partners can be traded like commodities?

If my girlfriend loves lemon ice cream, and I buy lemon ice cream for her, then at least indirectly, money CAN buy love.

Just like all those small careless actions tear down a relationship over time, small thoughtful ones can build it up. If it costs a couple bucks... fine.

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Tommy Rothmann 11 years ago

So a thoughtful purchase is more important than a mere purchase just for the sake of "getting her something"... I've heard so many partners tell me exactly that. I don't expect him'/her to buy me an expensive gift, just one that shows that he is aware of my personal likes and dislikes......
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kellyyarnsbro

11 years ago

No, you can't buy love. You might have your dreamgirl or perfect girl because you're a millionaire and famous but in reality it's not the love you have, and that's the sad truth.

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Tommy Rothmann

11 years ago

Originally Posted by kellyyarnsbro

No, you can't buy love. You might have your dreamgirl or perfect girl because you're a millionaire and famous but in reality it's not the love you have, and that's the sad truth.

Under what circumstances actually would you say can someone with great wealth? I know many very wealthy people that are afraid of commitment because they have been burnt so many times by "gold diggers". Many of them end up living a very sad and lonely life...any advice for someone who find themselves in this predicament?

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Bri777

11 years ago

Originally Posted by tommyr69

Under what circumstances actually would you say can someone with great wealth? I know many very wealthy people that are afraid of commitment because they have been burnt so many times by "gold diggers". Many of them end up living a very sad and lonely life...any advice for someone who find themselves in this predicament?

Gold diggers are such a different issue. Some women take advantage of rich men who don't really understand women's psychology.

Girls are different though. Just like us men. Never generalize.

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chsmart

11 years ago

I agree with your opinion. Truly, love is everything, everything can be gotten with love includes money, but it is impossible if you can pay love with your money because love only can be paid by love.

Originally Posted by kellyyarnsbro

No, you can't buy love. You might have your dreamgirl or perfect girl because you're a millionaire and famous but in reality it's not the love you have, and that's the sad truth.

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TimK06

11 years ago

Hi Tommy! How are you? Not sure I can answer this question in the form you were expecting but I've been in a relationship for the last four years of my life.

There's been good times and we've had our share of bad, but throwing away money has never been the solution to any of our problems.

Granted, I'm well aware that no two relationships/marriages are the same. The biggest problems normally come when communication in the home becomes non-existent.

Sometimes conversing in a different location can be just what the doctor ordered. Be thoughtful, think of places that naturally relieve stress for your mate and kindly voice your opinons to each other.

Spend time together. Suprise him/her with little conveniences. The biggest spender isn't always the biggest winner. " love conquers multitudes of sin". No matter how mad they are at first, no one can resist thoughful affection for long.

Finally be consistent. Sometimes when you decide to treat yourself to your favorite meal, stratch that and get your mate's favorite instead. Develop a give first mantality. Also praying together certainly doesn't hurt.

I hope this was helpful to all of you!
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Tommy Rothmann

11 years ago

Originally Posted by TimK06

Hi Tommy! How are you? Not sure I can answer this question in the form you were expecting but I've been in a relationship for the last four years of my life.

There's been good times and we've had our share of bad, but throwing away money has never been the solution to any of our problems.

Granted, I'm well aware that no two relationships/marriages are the same. The biggest problems normally come when communication in the home becomes non-existent.

Sometimes conversing in a different location can be just what the doctor ordered. Be thoughtful, think of places that naturally relieve stress for your mate and kindly voice your opinons to each other.

Spend time together. Suprise him/her with little conveniences. The biggest spender isn't always the biggest winner. " love conquers multitudes of sin". No matter how mad they are at first, no one can resist thoughful affection for long.

Finally be consistent. Sometimes when you decide to treat yourself to your favorite meal, stratch that and get your mate's favorite instead. Develop a give first mantality. Also praying together certainly doesn't hurt.

I hope this was helpful to all of you!
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Thank you Tim K, very helpful indeed. I like the practical suggestions of surprising him/her....and then a give first mentality(obviously not to your own detriment) but we do seem to discover whole new dimensions to our beings when we give of ourselves. How much is too much giving though?

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bhuvananichi

11 years ago

Money is important but it can't buy you love and happiness

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webgal1985 11 years ago

Never. Money and love are like oil and water.
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- Edman15 11 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by webgal1985
  
  Never. Money and love are like oil and water.
  
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TimothyTorrents

11 years ago

Nope. But it sure helps. Women are generally attracted to people who have money.

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Rachel McKnight 11 years ago

Originally Posted by timbonitus

Nope. But it sure helps. Women are generally attracted to people who have money.

Very true. Keyword "Generally".
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winz 11 years ago

Originally Posted by timbonitus

Nope. But it sure helps. Women are generally attracted to people who have money.

I agree with you
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talfighel

11 years ago

Originally Posted by timbonitus

Nope. But it sure helps. Women are generally attracted to people who have money.

That is not true all the time.

They are attracted to the person first. Usually it is about "good looks" or "general attraction".

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dennis09

11 years ago

Originally Posted by talfighel

That is not true all the time.

They are attracted to the person first. Usually it is about "good looks" or "general attraction".

With all due respect, I beg to differ. Women are naturally attracted to men that will be good providers. Even an unattractive man with a lot of money will 9/10 get further with women than a man with no money and a good personality.

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Bri777

11 years ago

Originally Posted by dennis09

With all due respect, I beg to differ. Women are naturally attracted to men that will be good providers. Even an unattractive man with a lot of money will 9/10 get further with women than a man with no money and a good personality.

I also beg to differ man. With all due respect also.

There are two types of men women categorize us into.

First is the Lover.

The other is the Provider.

I'm primarily the former. The bad boy type. Young women usually like bad boys. Older women are with providers and have stayed with them, but get enchanted still by the lover types.

Status is a big thing with women. So money definitely helps with that.

However, women are really looking for MANLY qualities.

Namely,

Leadership

Bravery

Courage

Love for others

Social skills

Can protect her

Her genes are looking for it.

The funny thing is even a bouncer can be physically attractive yet his mental and emotional faculties are sub par.

And even an average guy can demonstrate these qualities and become REALLY attractive. Even better become that kind of man.

The role of money in the game of attraction is actually an illusion.

Believe or not, usually the men with hot women in the $$$big boy$$$ tables are not shagging them HAHA

UNLESS, they are also alpha males. You seem like one sir.

Game recognizes game.

We all just sometimes formulate this 'love and attraction' thing logically hence the confusion.

Because the thing is, it's NOT logical.

You can never LOGICALLY convince a woman to like/love you.

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talfighel

11 years ago

Originally Posted by dennis09

With all due respect, I beg to differ. Women are naturally attracted to men that will be good providers. Even an unattractive man with a lot of money will 9/10 get further with women than a man with no money and a good personality.

That is why we all have our own views on things. Some people will see things others can't see.

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kellyyarnsbro 11 years ago

Originally Posted by timbonitus

Nope. But it sure helps. Women are generally attracted to people who have money.

That's the sad truth and it's called Practicality. They care about the future and that could be the best reason.
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Shubh Ashish

11 years ago

Sometimes Yes.Most of the Times,No.

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johnben1444

11 years ago

Let's try to be realistic.

Girls tends to love guys who are caring..... And for you to be caring in most of their ways you have to buy that drinks, that gift, take them out, smell nice, wear good clothes and what not.

Let's not try to decide ourselves by assuming love and money don't go together..

If you think this is BS, experiment by wooing different ladies and appear in rags, without future, no money but be brilliant, smart and see how it turns out.. You won't have a second chance..

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InfiniteInc

11 years ago

Originally Posted by johnben1444

Let's try to be realistic.

Girls tends to love guys who are caring..... And for you to be caring in most of their ways you have to buy that drinks, that gift, take them out, smell nice, wear good clothes and what not.

Let's not try to decide ourselves by assuming love and money don't go together..

If you think this is BS, experiment by wooing different ladies and appear in rags, without future, no money but be brilliant, smart and see how it turns out.. You won't have a second chance..

Exactly having money not only shows that you have reached success, it also shows that you can take care of yourself and at some point the other person as well.

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Jeff Schuman

11 years ago

Not according to John, Paul, George, and Ringo...

The Beatles - Can't Buy Me Love (Live) - YouTube

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hardraysnight 11 years ago

Originally Posted by Jeff Schuman

Not according to John, Paul, George, and Ringo...
The Beatles - Can't Buy Me Love (Live) - YouTube

paul is still saying that a billion bucks later
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Bri777

11 years ago

Money can buy anything superficial.

It cannot buy the intangible things.

A common misconception is that women LOVE men with LOTS of MONEY.

That is true to some extent. But that is not love. This is a very emotional topic, many will reject the information because of deeply ingrained social conditioning. Another is the "looks" thing.

If you really see the world for what it is, you will see countless examples and real life scenarios where our preconcieved notions are shown to be inaccurate.

The key is to see it for what it is instead of looking at the world through our "trained" and "conditioned" lenses.

Money and status can easily get your foot in the door. But the real game is something else entirely. There are dynamics in our psychology for why people fall in love and/or get attracted.

I mean wth, such a ridiculous question. No offense intended. just messin

Like, "Here's your receipt, you just bought MY LOVE FOR YOU."

hehehe

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Bri777

11 years ago

Most men think that by wooing them with gifts and money will make them really love them.

I mean, of course I won't mind becoming really rich. haha But I know that it's not the deciding factor for a woman's attraction or love.

Wether you have a fat bank account or not, you can meet women TONIGHT.

All you have to do is be confident with yourself and believe in yourself. Believe in who you are.

If you base your confidence from external things like status symbols, a fat bank account, it is not real confidence. It's something that can easily be broken and you know deep inside that you are lying to yourself.

You already have that confidence within you and you just have to reconnect to it.

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dee4d

11 years ago

No it can't. Among all the qualities of love, money aint 1 of them.

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Kragsig

11 years ago

No you can't buy money, but.... with money a lot of things will be easier and maybe you have more time to workout, travel and things that make you happy. Doing this surely will improve your winner mentality and that's what every woman wants

(but also sometimes the money... lol)

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Sue McDonald

11 years ago

No money can not buy love but it can take a lot of pain out of life. Money allows you to have a good lifestyle. You can have the home you want, the car you want and travel and enjoy life but if you don't have a deep feeling of affection for your partner - the money will not give you this.

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Odahh

11 years ago

answering a question with a question.. do you personally want the love from someone who love depends on money being involved ?

love can be bought in ways it happens all the time .. but money problems destroy more relationships than infidelity does ..

and it is great hearing my retired parent constanly fighting about money problems they are having .

money gives options .. the more money you have the more options for lovers ..but there really need to be a compatible attitude for money not to be a problem point in the relationship .

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chiukev

11 years ago

I suppose it can't directly buy love. But I think it makes it easier.....

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talfighel

11 years ago

It is like people who are broke say:

Money is not everything in life.

It is not but it ranks right up there with the oxygen we use to breath.
Zig Ziglar.

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chrisuchi

11 years ago

money is not really everything in life but is a necessity to keep us going in life, with money love can be a strengthened and built well because we can really care for our love ones but really a real woman wont want a man because of money, though it provides comfort for them but without cool attitude you might lose it.

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Paul Gram

11 years ago

Women tend to be attracted to money and abs. Make sure you have both and you're good to go bro!

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MarcusJohnson

11 years ago

Depends on the kind of girl. But nowadays, I can see in some situations that money can buy love. Say for example, a 70 year-old wealthy man dating a 20 year old hot chic...I guess that happens usually in Hollywood where money is more of the necessity. But in the place where I am now money can't really buy love and happiness.

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AmilieLarson

11 years ago

That sometimes turns out a reality, but really money is not everything.

In most cases, love bought by money has always gone worse or is later revealed to be fake. The man is simply misunderstood.

The world is wide, and so is the people's nature, lol

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jay walters

11 years ago

What is common with money and love is VALUE.

You can't actually buy love. It's an emotion with a Value.
Money seems to buy everything because it has a value.

If you can equate then both money = love.

But what is love?
When you truly give something without expecting something in return, that is love.
People value relationship like family and friends.
When you were a baby you don't have a money to buy love but your parents
love you anyway beyond reasons without expecting you love them too.
You have all the comfort in the world and they don't assume you love
them back coz you were a baby back then. Right? To them you are more valuable than money.

What people feel when you buy them somethings is the feeling
that you valued them by giving them something. So they feel
loved and pampered. They feel secure and significant.
Security and significance is not love.
I believe that's what people feel when they are valued.

Love encompasses them all. Because love is something
you don't deserve but still is given to you without expecting
love to return. That is love.
It may be given freely
but is is more valuable than gold or silver or even money.

Love is not something we are obliged or something we need to do. It is unconditional and it comes from the heart of giving.

Money on the other hand is way lower value than love. It has a value but it could never be as high as love.

Hence, money can never buy love.

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Toby.T

11 years ago

Not love but definitely buy you above your batting average.

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MarvyDery

11 years ago

money can't buy you love but it can't make love a happy one

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Heart Cardio

11 years ago

Money can not buy you love. Some may think that money leads to love but it does not. Material possessions may make you happy for a while but that is often short lived.

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techbul

11 years ago

This is the 21st century. You can buy anything with money. You just have to make an offer. However, it is a fact that you cannot buy happiness and true love with money.

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barefut

11 years ago

Money attracts a higher class of people, but REAL attraction comes from within. There are extremely wealthy people that are lonely.

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QuelThalas

11 years ago

money will lead you to a better society. there you can meet people who can help you as a link. new people new client new idea new strategy new paradigm.
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