WARNING WARRIORS: Don't build on other people's rubbish heap!

by Raydal
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Take this piece of advice for what it's worth.

I've seen this in the forum many times. A Warrior falls from
grace and many people use this occasion to say that
they are 'better'--always honest with their clients, give
back refunds on time, take care of their customers etc,.

Sometimes a Warrior needs to be called out, but it's not
a good idea to set yourself as the example to follow instead.


From a psychological standpoint, if I just hate gamblers, it's
99% likely that I have a gambling problem. Human nature.

As parents we hate the child who is most like us! It can
be uncomfortable looking in the mirror sometimes.

Frank Bettger, in his classic book, How I Raised Myself From
Failure To Success in Selling
wrote how he often won huge
contracts while selling insurance by speaking well of his
competition.

If I were to respond to a post about another business owner
in my own field you should be very suspicious of my motives.

Am I jealous of that other person? Do I want to pull them
down so I could do better?

All I'm saying is that we should be a little more humble in
our assessment of our fellow warriors because we are all
flawed and tainted.

I wish I were a better human being. I'm not all there yet
but I want to be more patient with people who are not
as far up on the ladder as I have painfully climbed.

-Ray Edwards
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  • Profile picture of the author shan beach
    true and insightful. i'm new to the forum, so i'll be sure to keep this close to heart. thanks!
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    • Profile picture of the author Raydal
      Originally Posted by shan beach View Post

      true and insightful. i'm new to the forum, so i'll be sure to keep this close to heart. thanks!

      Welcome to the forum and if you do this you'll be making
      a great start.

      -Ray Edwards
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  • Profile picture of the author Cmizer
    Hey Raydal thanks for the wise words. That is definitely a great mindset to have.
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  • Profile picture of the author jcisme
    Great post Raydal. It is so easy to fall into the trap of pulling someone else down to make oneself look better whether that be for monetary or ego reasons. You sumed it up particularly well and made your point abudently clear.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vincelog
    I did a sales job when I was a teenager and there will be times when I will need to compare products of different brand and I found that my conversions are better when I do not put down other brands.

    Vincent
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  • Profile picture of the author A8ch
    Hi Ray,

    I concur with the advice in your well-articulated post. You are appealing to the softer, gentler
    aspect of our humanity and asking us to subordinate the harsher part of ourselves; the part that's
    capable of demeaning the other guy and celebrating his shortcomings as a way to enhance our
    own stature.

    It's a continuous process that will take a lifetime. But we can begin by heeding your wisdom and
    applying it to those areas of our nature that need improvement. It'll speed up our advancement
    as individuals, as a society, and we could all sooner enjoy a richer and more fulfilling quality of life.

    Real good stuff!

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  • Profile picture of the author Bruce NewMedia
    Originally Posted by Raydal View Post

    From a psychological standpoint, if I just hate gamblers, it's
    99% likely that I have a gambling problem. Human nature. ......-Ray Edwards
    So true Ray, I've experienced that exact phenomenon myself. ....but it was a long time before I recognized it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    Very good advice, Ray. Very often what we say about others is a direct reflection of our own inner reality. I like that you admit you have a ways to go, we all do. The important thing is not where we are at the moment, but that we're aspiring and evolving into better people as the stream of time flows by. I've been on this quest for over 30 years, and fully intend it to be a lifelong quest. I think it's starting to pay off.
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  • Profile picture of the author DirectoryKing
    Quite a good advice, we are humans and we are bound to err.
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  • Profile picture of the author Raydal
    Thanks for all the responses of those who found this
    post helpful. We are not careful enough to know
    how our reaction to others reveal a TON about
    ourselves.

    I once heard of a high school teacher who in a
    disciplinary counsel was adamant about the
    suspension of another teacher who had used some
    sexually explicit language before his class. All the
    other teachers wanted to give the teacher a second
    chance but not this guy.

    Less than 6 months later this "high principled" teacher
    who insisted on the suspension was himself suspended
    when it was discovered that he was sexually molesting
    his own daughter!

    With the same judgment you judge remember that you will
    be judged as well.

    -Ray Edwards
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    • Profile picture of the author Christie Love
      Whoa. That's pretty deep. Thanks for the reminder. Sometimes, I get caught up too, but try my best to refrain from such actions.

      Not playing the tit for tat games used to get me in trouble at my old job. Inside, I felt I had to be the bigger person and not allow myself to feed into such nonsense. It's a shame that my past bosses listened to the person's deceitful lies about me.

      I guess I've been on the other side of the coin and understand the damage negative talk can cause.


      Originally Posted by Raydal View Post

      Thanks for all the responses of those who found this
      post helpful. We are not careful enough to know
      how our reaction to others reveal a TON about
      ourselves.

      I once heard of a high school teacher who in a
      disciplinary counsel was adamant about the
      suspension of another teacher who had used some
      sexually explicit language before his class. All the
      other teachers wanted to give the teacher a second
      chance but not this guy.

      Less than 6 months later this "high principled" teacher
      who insisted on the suspension was himself suspended
      when it was discovered that he was sexually molesting
      his own daughter!

      With the same judgment you judge remember that you will
      be judged as well.

      -Ray Edwards
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  • Profile picture of the author doomain
    Im new in here. anyway this is a good posting, I must keep it
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  • Profile picture of the author zeasondesign
    Thank you very much for sharing ^^
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