10 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

by Mousumi 64 replies
Sometimes giving up and letting things go can make us the happiest.
Turning over the pages of time you are quite likely inviting depression,
stress and excuses, all leading you to an unhappy and unfulfilled life.
So, let us see what are those ‘give ups’ that can make us happy and content.

1. Give Up your self-directed negative thoughts


2. Give up your mean habit of criticizing unnecessarily



3. Give up the Past


4. Give up living your life on others expectation



5. Give up your resistance for change

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6. Give Up Limiting Beliefs



7. Give up Your Fears


8. Give up the Habit of Blaming Others



9. Give up finding causes not to be happy



10. Give up your personal requirement to control situation

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  • Profile picture of the author Heart Cardio
    Nice post. ALl of these do make sense to me. I know that in order for me to be happy, I had to give up some of my past because there were things that were causing me conflict.
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    • Profile picture of the author konakid
      That's a good reminder. I think in general just letting things go and letting of things you have no control over is always a good idea.

      If you can change something for the better, do it.

      If you can't, let it go as there is nothing you can do and spending emotional energy on it is a waste of time.

      Meditation really helps me practice this. I'd recommend it to everybody!
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    • Profile picture of the author Saintsfan40
      Great stuff here! Maybe you could add a number eleven. "Staying away from negative people that bring you down and negative people in general". That's what I'm doing for 2013. Not associating with any of that drama or garbage of any sort.
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      • Profile picture of the author namktqs
        To be happy need don't worry about what will happen. Because it can not happen. Even it happen, that is your life and result of your action before.
        You can have good things more. You get more when you open your mind on good things out there waiting you.
        Focus on action to make dream become true. That is enloy process for people.
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      • Profile picture of the author Dan Hower
        Originally Posted by Saintsfan40 View Post

        Great stuff here! Maybe you could add a number eleven. "Staying away from negative people that bring you down and negative people in general". That's what I'm doing for 2013. Not associating with any of that drama or garbage of any sort.
        Thanks Saintsfan, that is what I have been doing for one year now, and it really works wonders.

        Whenever somebody starts talking about sickness and diseases I leave the conversation. That saved me lot of time and worries and I feel much healthier now not knowing how sick I am probably.

        And 4. Give up living your life on others expectation
        is my favorite from the original list
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      • Profile picture of the author Mousumi
        I should have added it among the tens. Thanks for sharing!!
        Originally Posted by Saintsfan40 View Post

        Great stuff here! Maybe you could add a number eleven. "Staying away from negative people that bring you down and negative people in general". That's what I'm doing for 2013. Not associating with any of that drama or garbage of any sort.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Ten
    Going with the flow and not fighting life makes it a lot easier to be happy, for sure!
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  • Profile picture of the author Jarmila
    I would add, "DECIDE to be happy."
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  • Profile picture of the author thedanbrown
    I think blaming others is a critical mistake that leads a lot of people to give up what they really want because they're just thinking about all the excuses instead of what's actually causing the problem.
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    • Profile picture of the author Andy Fang
      Originally Posted by thedanbrown View Post

      I think blaming others is a critical mistake that leads a lot of people to give up what they really want because they're just thinking about all the excuses instead of what's actually causing the problem.
      Very well said!
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    I have to let go of my fears, they hold me back.
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  • Profile picture of the author danits
    Great post!

    The one I like most is: "Give up living your life on others expectation"

    I've made some very big changes in my life that I'm happy for because I got tired of living on other people's expectations
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    • Profile picture of the author tlbowers
      This is awesome! I love it. Many people need a reminder.
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    • Profile picture of the author Mousumi
      Wish you all the very best!! keep shining

      Originally Posted by danits View Post

      Great post!

      The one I like most is: "Give up living your life on others expectation"

      I've made some very big changes in my life that I'm happy for because I got tired of living on other people's expectations
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  • Profile picture of the author Vortex Creator
    Thank you!!! I love letting go, especially when the situation demands looking at it from a different perspective.

    I love this one:
    9. Give up finding causes not to be happy

    The fastest way to joy is indeed to let go of all the things that don't bring us joy. How often do we tolerate thoughts that bring us sadness, worry, anxiety? Would we wish these thoughts for a loved one? No? Then why are we tolerating it for ourselves??

    Feels good to let go
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  • Profile picture of the author @JohnVincent
    Give up news. TV, papers, internet... It's just doom and gloom. Bad hypnosis. I gave up newspapers, TV news etc in 1992. Trust me, you dont miss the big stories, it's impossible too. But does anyone need to hear about people being stabbed, raped, murdered, the lack of money, jobs, clean air, the list of negativity goes on, but so does life... Who needs an hour a day sucking up bad vibes from a suited authority figure on TV when it's so much more fulfilling to spend that hour focusing on what you want or making a difference to people...
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    • Profile picture of the author lometogo
      Originally Posted by @JohnVincent View Post

      Give up news. TV, papers
      A wonderful Mark Twain quote: "don't read the news and be uninformed; read it and be misinformed."

      And misguided, I'd add. The news is not intended, generally, to uplift, inspire, or motivate us to greatness.
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      • Profile picture of the author William Prawira
        This is a good post, you get your points right

        I don't have the intention to be rude, just want to give a bit advice. If the images are more or less in the same width, will be much better because you will have a better content arrangement, and people with smaller bandwidth can still access your content fast enough.

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        • Profile picture of the author Mousumi
          Thank you so very much william
          Could you tell me how you did that?

          [QUOTE=William Prawira;7756846]This is a good post, you get your points right

          I don't have the intention to be rude, just want to give a bit advice. If the images are more or less in the same width, will be much better because you will have a better content arrangement, and people with smaller bandwidth can still access your content fast enough.
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          • Profile picture of the author William Prawira
            Originally Posted by Mousumi View Post

            Thank you so very much william
            Could you tell me how you did that?
            I did it by using picture editing program (for example : adobe photoshop). Just resize the image into the more or less same width in pixel.

            now the post loads lot faster right?

            :rolleyes:
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  • Profile picture of the author Jeff Schuman
    Great post. I'm glad you did not say give up sugar.

    I like #3. I see people all of the time blaming things that happened to them in the past for why they are not successful today.
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  • Profile picture of the author kellyyarnsbro
    Nice share, those images are cool it expalins it wel, lol.
    11. Get a complete rest so as not to worry too much and this way you are happy.
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  • Profile picture of the author jade69
    Easy to say... BUT...
    I just can't give up all these....
    I just can't give up the past...
    It's not something I hold on to...
    The past is a like a computer virus.
    You got it, you are screwed....
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    Great post - Thanks for sharing...
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  • Profile picture of the author Japles
    Awesome! 10 physical things I gave up to live a better life are:

    1. Television (My shelf now holds books...a lot of them)
    2. Xbox (No more Halo..or paying pricey xbox live fees which means more money for me)
    3. Soda (Water all day. Everyday)
    4. Having a Messy Room (When my room is organized, my mind is organized)
    5. World of Warcraft (No more wasting my life making a non-living characters' better)
    6. Junk Food (You are what you eat and I am not junk)
    7. Frowning (Fix the problem instead of complaining about it)
    8. Sleeping All Day (When I wake up early, I get more done)
    9. Procrastination (Still struggling with this one, but I'm getting a lot better)
    10. Heavy Drinking (No more killing a 6 pack and suffering the consequences)

    What are some things you guys have given up?
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    • Profile picture of the author Mousumi
      Thanks for giving me an idea for another post

      Originally Posted by Japles View Post

      Awesome! 10 physical things I gave up to live a better life are:

      1. Television (My shelf now holds books...a lot of them)
      2. Xbox (No more Halo..or paying pricey xbox live fees which means more money for me)
      3. Soda (Water all day. Everyday)
      4. Having a Messy Room (When my room is organized, my mind is organized)
      5. World of Warcraft (No more wasting my life making a non-living characters' better)
      6. Junk Food (You are what you eat and I am not junk)
      7. Frowning (Fix the problem instead of complaining about it)
      8. Sleeping All Day (When I wake up early, I get more done)
      9. Procrastination (Still struggling with this one, but I'm getting a lot better)
      10. Heavy Drinking (No more killing a 6 pack and suffering the consequences)

      What are some things you guys have given up?
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  • Profile picture of the author humboldt84
    Great list, Thanks for sharing. We all have things we need to work on to become better human beings.
    I also really like Japles' list. Those all hit home, thanks!
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  • Profile picture of the author Evocess
    Cool!
    I really love your lists Mousumi.
    I was on your thread a while ago about the things that you want to experience before you die.

    Well in life there are time that we need to sacrifice something in order for us to be happy and achieved our goals. Just make sure that things that you give up are worth the result.
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    • Profile picture of the author Mousumi
      Thanks
      And well said Just make sure that things that you give up are worth the result

      Originally Posted by Evocess View Post

      Cool!
      I really love your lists Mousumi.
      I was on your thread a while ago about the things that you want to experience before you die.

      Well in life there are time that we need to sacrifice something in order for us to be happy and achieved our goals. Just make sure that things that you give up are worth the result.
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  • Profile picture of the author TheOcarlsen
    I have one.

    Realize that so-called negative reflections is the only reason you have ever taken action.

    Do we ever become creative and innovative because of abundance? Do we ever find our curiosity and desire for exploration from being satisfied? Positive never builds a thing, the lack of it does. Negative is only negative (and turn into depression) if you don't believe something can be done about it. If you do, you take action. There is no need for action if there is not a hole to fill. Whether that is about hunger vs getting food or lack of money vs start of business. Happiness is something we enjoy, not something that creates an urge to do.
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    • Profile picture of the author Mousumi
      The best thing I read today...Many thanks for your wonderful words!!
      Originally Posted by TheOcarlsen View Post

      I have one.

      Realize that so-called negative reflections is the only reason you have ever taken action.

      Do we ever become creative and innovative because of abundance? Do we ever find our curiosity and desire for exploration from being satisfied? Positive never builds a thing, the lack of it does. Negative is only negative (and turn into depression) if you don't believe something can be done about it. If you do, you take action. There is no need for action if there is not a hole to fill. Whether that is about hunger vs getting food or lack of money vs start of business. Happiness is something we enjoy, not something that creates an urge to do.
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  • Profile picture of the author Heart Cardio
    2. Give up your mean habit of criticizing unnecessarily~
    I think that this one is a good one. When you criticize others, are you doing it to be helpful or to hurt the person?
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  • Profile picture of the author Sue McDonald
    Great post. You cannot change others you can only change yourself.
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  • Profile picture of the author Skiz
    Cool list, nice delivery. The angle of photographs adds some comical silliness to the negative things we can get wrapped up in sometimes
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  • Profile picture of the author talfighel
    Mousumi,

    Good stuff.

    I love #4:

    4. Give up living your life on others expectation

    Look at it this way. People will not want you to succeed and will tell you that you can not make it and laugh at you for trying. Never listen to these people because you can not learn anything in life from them if you want to be successful.
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  • Profile picture of the author HypnoJunkie
    Nice post!

    I would add: "Give up comparing yourself to others! - You always lose because you see yourself naked!"
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  • Profile picture of the author cloudchief
    fantastic advice. happiness is a decision.
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    I love how you put this. This message is just what people need to "hear".
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  • Profile picture of the author Heart Cardio
    Give up living your life on others expectation
    There are always others out there that think that they know what is best for you. But you know what? Only you know what is best for you and your life. So I do agree with this one a lot. If you want to be happy you must live how you want to live and not live how others want you to live.
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    Great post. I love it
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    Give up the past but don't forget to learn from it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vallank2
    Great information and I love your post as well as the 10 physical things to give up. I never forget, I heard a speaker one time say, "I love you, but you gotta go"......sometimes it is important to know when we must let somebody or something go.

    I'm a big fan of starting your day off with exercise, then reading and prayer, then work.

    Just my take
    Lank
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    • Profile picture of the author Mousumi
      Well said, we often need to get rid of the things we feel attached to....

      Originally Posted by Vallank2 View Post

      "I love you, but you gotta go"......sometimes it is important to know when we must let somebody or something go.
      I'm a big fan of starting your day off with exercise, then reading and prayer, then work.
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  • Profile picture of the author Maya2066
    Great reminder. Some of these are not easy to let go of. One has to keep applying him or herself to it. Letting go of control particularly.
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    Awesome share! If everyone can let these go, they'll be far more successful.
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    Giving up never leads to happiness
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  • Profile picture of the author Richard Phillip
    What is "happy" though? I'm happy when I'm drinking my Yerba Mate tea. Happiness doesn't take a lot of work depending on how you define it.

    R.
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    Awesome list of give up items
    Thank you for sharing!
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  • Profile picture of the author ashwinvidiyala
    I like this post. What I liked most is the "give up resistance to change." Because if you want things in your life to change, you're going to have to change things in your life.
    And if you're resistant to change, you won't change.
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    I hope nothing here includes your spouse. Have a nice day.
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    very useful post.

    avoid conflict with each other and learn to think positively. The enhancements for a better life
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  • Profile picture of the author RestlessBlaze
    Fantastic post mausami. What a great way to start my day
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    Mousumi!

    Good reminder! Often I forget some of these points.... hehehehe

    Take care!
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  • Profile picture of the author infinitesuccess168
    Great Post. I also believe in Feng Shui, so I would add: Giving up the need for Clutter.
    Clearing out Clutter allows for a new space. Space Clearing can open the way for your manifestations to become a reality.
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    • Profile picture of the author Mousumi
      Giving up the need for Clutter.
      Well said!

      Originally Posted by infinitesuccess168 View Post

      Great Post. I also believe in Feng Shui, so I would add: Giving up the need for Clutter.
      Clearing out Clutter allows for a new space. Space Clearing can open the way for your manifestations to become a reality.
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  • Profile picture of the author hostdare
    Make no time for excuses.Excuses are only rationalizations that make you feel better about yourself for not doing something you want/need to be doing.

    Remove negativity:Stop thinking of life as a glass half empty, but rather, half full. You have so much to be grateful for, if only you took a moment to appreciate it.

    Happiness is not having what you want; it’s wanting what you have. Stop envying others and learn to appreciate what you have

    Do not make the unfortunate mistake many people do and put your happiness in the hands of others

    Stop living in the past! There is virtually nothing you can gain if you wallow in mistakes you have previously made. Take past mistakes as lessons learned, and move forward.
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    I should have added giving up your fears.
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  • Profile picture of the author RVS3
    Great post, I can't imagine what one would be able to do if they followed through on this advice. But how do we motivate ourselves to follow through and actually do this stuff?
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  • Profile picture of the author JessUBotNinja
    I feel like I battle with #10 multiple times a day. I definitely see how that can have affects on one's level of happiness... take a deep breath and let it go.... Do you want to build a snowman?
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