Just keep going, no matter what happens.

Profile picture of the author James Gould by James Gould Posted: 02/20/2013
I was 12 years old, still innocent, not really sure what I was doing with my life. I saw something shiny, I went for it.

I went to the swimming pool with my Dad in Florida (on holiday, I'm from the grey UK) and it was absolutely packed. At least 200 kids running around, all with parents, staff, you get the idea. My Dad went off to get a drink I went swimming, except I couldn't find him. His seat was empty, nobody had seen him walking around.

After 3 hours of being alone in a very loud, foreign land, I was taken in by the security of the hotel for a few hours. My Dad turned up with tears in his eyes, he had no idea what happened.

Fast forward a few weeks. I go to school and pass out from an anxiety attack. What the hell? I quite literally dropped to the floor because it was too loud. By being lost, I'd developed social anxiety, great stuff.

Over the next few months, I struggled. Very upsetting and stressful (for a 12 year old, being social is all you have. Playing football, seeing friends etc) and I could barely cope. I took to the internet because I physically couldn't be outside where it was loud.

At the age of 12, and given a few months, I set up my first business. I connected local businesses to online eCommerce sites, blogs, you name it, and sold advertising space. Very little work from me, but after 2 years of doing this, I sold the business for $40,000 at the age of 14.

I still had social anxiety, I had around 4 friends, but my god I fell in love with IM.

Over the next 5 years until today, my anxiety isn't as bad. I still have small episodes, but I'm actually glad I got lost in the crowd. It forced me to find something else to do, and I fell in love with IM.

In 6 months, I'm going to uni to do a business degree. I've managed 2 businesses externally, owned 3, and I'm currently setting one up now which is a very long term project.

No matter what happens. No matter where your life leads you, if you give up, you've lost. Never stop trying. You'll miss every opportunity you never take.

I hope this helps a few of you who may be close to giving up. Whenever I have a low day, no income, no opt-ins, I think back to that day where I set up my business. Just keep yourself motivated, if it feels like you're at rock bottom, it can only get better.

No matter where you work, which niche, I wish you all the best of luck.

Jamie.
#matter

  • Profile picture of the author Malcolm Thomas
    Malcolm Thomas
    That's the secret. To never give up and keep going no matter what obstacles you may run into.
  • Profile picture of the author jvm127
    jvm127
    That's an inspiring story! I can relate to how your father felt with the tears in his eyes and my son wasn't out of my sight for more than 10 minutes. We were at a football game with over 100,000 people in attendance and we went to the bathroom and I lost him in the crowd. I panicked and freaked out and that was only a couple minutes!

    Internet marketing is great for anyone with social anxiety and people who simply can't leave their homes for whatever reason. I know several disabled people who drop ship Ebay products for a living. It's all about taking lemons and making lemonade.

    Congratulations on your success!
  • Profile picture of the author Mattds
    Mattds
    This story touched a nerve with me. As a child/teen i suffered from extreme social anxiety. Dropped out of school and become very insular. It was in those troubled years i became fascinated with computers and was what most people would call a geek. Locked in my room with my old PC for company.

    However through the continuing efforts of my parents i grew into a confident young man.

    And as a result of being a geeky type i am now a web designer / programmer who loves his job who is confident in social situations. It wasn't easy but i have become used to it through years of dealing with clients. I still feel anxious sometimes but its not a bad thing. Keeps us on our toes!

    Matt
  • Profile picture of the author James Gould
    James Gould
    Originally Posted by Mattds View Post
    This story touched a nerve with me. As a child/teen i suffered from extreme social anxiety. Dropped out of school and become very insular. It was in those troubled years i became fascinated with computers and was what most people would call a geek. Locked in my room with my old PC for company.

    However through the continuing efforts of my parents i grew into a confident young man.

    And as a result of being a geeky type i am now a web designer / programmer who loves his job who is confident in social situations. It wasn't easy but i have become used to it through years of dealing with clients. I still feel anxious sometimes but its not a bad thing. Keeps us on our toes!

    Matt
    That's great to hear I know a few people that got social anxiety and then developed depression, one even end his life... It's a sad reality really, but it's what keeps me motivated, just gotta keep on truckin'.

    Originally Posted by jvm127 View Post
    Internet marketing is great for anyone with social anxiety and people who simply can't leave their homes for whatever reason. I know several disabled people who drop ship Ebay products for a living. It's all about taking lemons and making lemonade.
    Precisely, it's wonderful and helps out so much. Thanks for sharing

    Jamie.
  • Profile picture of the author Kukelka
    Kukelka
    If you never give up and always keep going you will NEVER fail! Just learn from mistakes and keep going. It's advice/tip/secret number ONE in IM . I think not only in IM , but in all your life
  • Profile picture of the author jazbo
    jazbo
    Never give up. But also never give up changing.
  • Profile picture of the author James Gould
    James Gould
    Originally Posted by jazbo View Post
    Never give up. But also never give up changing.
    Adaptation. There's only so far you can push something before you have to cut your losses, so yes change is extremely important.

    Jamie
  • Profile picture of the author northernbird
    northernbird
    Hey Jamie,

    Great advice... don't ever give up! As you can see by the words under my username, I'd never give up, either!

    Thanks for sharing your story!

    JR
  • Profile picture of the author wakey7
    wakey7
    This is a great story, thanks for sharing. I'm someone that always tries to keep this in mind. I used to make loads of money from Facebook before they changed their app approach and now I earn nothing there. I felt like quitting but I picked myself up and kept going and I am now SO pleased that I did.

    I think it's too easy to quit, but for me, I wouldn't know what else to do with my time!
  • Profile picture of the author JamesColin
    JamesColin
    I don't know what is social anxiety, I don't think I have it, but it's true that I've never liked being in groups, I much prefer being one to one or at most me and two others, after it feels a bit like a group.. Of course that depends, if it's a group of like-minded people it's less of a chore, but if it's a group of people like in a party or events, I don't enjoy it. But I don't have panick attacks, it's just that I feel bored and not nearly as excited as others seem to be. :-)
    As for computers, I started very young, but unfortunately it was too early, I would have prefered to be born later so that I could start directly with internet, not swapping disk copies over snail mail.
  • Profile picture of the author James Gould
    James Gould
    Originally Posted by wakey7 View Post
    This is a great story, thanks for sharing. I'm someone that always tries to keep this in mind. I used to make loads of money from Facebook before they changed their app approach and now I earn nothing there. I felt like quitting but I picked myself up and kept going and I am now SO pleased that I did.

    I think it's too easy to quit, but for me, I wouldn't know what else to do with my time!
    I did the exact same, made around $14k from CPAlead and Facebook apps, and then they changed everything, CPAlead turned very strict and I gave up. Left IM for a year out of exhaustion, now I'm back baby!

    Jamie.
  • Profile picture of the author YouWillKnow
    YouWillKnow
    Thanks for the post, Jamie. Your inspirational message is just what I needed to start my day today.
  • Profile picture of the author Chri5123
    Chri5123
    Originally Posted by Jamie Gould View Post
    I was 12 years old, still innocent, not really sure what I was doing with my life. I saw something shiny, I went for it.

    I went to the swimming pool with my Dad in Florida (on holiday, I'm from the grey UK) and it was absolutely packed. At least 200 kids running around, all with parents, staff, you get the idea. My Dad went off to get a drink I went swimming, except I couldn't find him. His seat was empty, nobody had seen him walking around.

    After 3 hours of being alone in a very loud, foreign land, I was taken in by the security of the hotel for a few hours. My Dad turned up with tears in his eyes, he had no idea what happened.

    Fast forward a few weeks. I go to school and pass out from an anxiety attack. What the hell? I quite literally dropped to the floor because it was too loud. By being lost, I'd developed social anxiety, great stuff.

    Over the next few months, I struggled. Very upsetting and stressful (for a 12 year old, being social is all you have. Playing football, seeing friends etc) and I could barely cope. I took to the internet because I physically couldn't be outside where it was loud.

    At the age of 12, and given a few months, I set up my first business. I connected local businesses to online eCommerce sites, blogs, you name it, and sold advertising space. Very little work from me, but after 2 years of doing this, I sold the business for $40,000 at the age of 14.

    I still had social anxiety, I had around 4 friends, but my god I fell in love with IM.

    Over the next 5 years until today, my anxiety isn't as bad. I still have small episodes, but I'm actually glad I got lost in the crowd. It forced me to find something else to do, and I fell in love with IM.

    In 6 months, I'm going to uni to do a business degree. I've managed 2 businesses externally, owned 3, and I'm currently setting one up now which is a very long term project.

    No matter what happens. No matter where your life leads you, if you give up, you've lost. Never stop trying. You'll miss every opportunity you never take.

    I hope this helps a few of you who may be close to giving up. Whenever I have a low day, no income, no opt-ins, I think back to that day where I set up my business. Just keep yourself motivated, if it feels like you're at rock bottom, it can only get better.

    No matter where you work, which niche, I wish you all the best of luck.

    Jamie.
    Awesome post Jamie,

    I think this post also illustrates that you can view the cards you are dealt as a blessing or a curse.

    With the social anxiety problem you could of let it beat you but you focused on what you COULD do DESPITE the problem.

    By the way, you have NOTHING to worry about socially - There are not many 14 year olds that sell a business for $40k! WOW!
  • Profile picture of the author James Gould
    James Gould
    Originally Posted by Chri5123 View Post
    Awesome post Jamie,

    I think this post also illustrates that you can view the cards you are dealt as a blessing or a curse.

    With the social anxiety problem you could of let it beat you but you focused on what you COULD do DESPITE the problem.

    By the way, you have NOTHING to worry about socially - There are not many 14 year olds that sell a business for $40k! WOW!
    I guess my business course at uni is justified then?
  • Profile picture of the author MyNewMama
    MyNewMama
    Great story. That goes to show that you never know why things happen the way the happen, but just as scripture says, "ALL things work together for the good of those who are called according to His purpose."

    We're sure that your long-term business that you're setting up now will be a huge success!
  • Profile picture of the author James Gould
    James Gould
    Originally Posted by MyNewMama View Post
    Great story. That goes to show that you never know why things happen the way the happen, but just as scripture says, "ALL things work together for the good of those who are called according to His purpose."

    We're sure that your long-term business that you're setting up now will be a huge success!
    Great quote, and thank you!

    Jamie.
  • Profile picture of the author talfighel
    talfighel
    This should be applied to anyone who wants to make money online. If you fail over and over again, that's OK. Just keep at it and never give up.

    The fact that others are doing really well online shows us all the anyone can succeed and we all have the same opportunities to do great things in our lives.

    Never give up but always try to see what works best for you online with your online business. That is the secret.
  • Profile picture of the author dsouravs
    dsouravs
    U A RockStar
  • Profile picture of the author PinkVelvet
    PinkVelvet
    I believe things happen for a reason - especially in your case. That's amazing that a 12 year old could actually do that. Just imagine what you can do now...

    There are virtually no limits to what we can do. Overcoming obstacles is just a part of life and it's something we need to learn to live with. The way you handle it is the key.
  • Profile picture of the author CPAleadJustin
    CPAleadJustin
    Welcome back Jamie!
    Very inspiring story and a great message to keep fighting on! Best of luck to you and your continuing success!

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