Should I Get New Friends Who Support My Cause?

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Hello there fellow warrior(s)! Thank you very much for reading this post from me.

I apologize for a recent weird post that was deleted. Although, my message remains the same for it; retain your "sexual energy".

Anyhow, this post is about a serious issue and social dilemma I am facing right now.

It is about the most powerful force that can wreck or help your success in any part of your life, namely, your peer-group, your so called "friends".

To be completely honest, I only really have ONE true friend (someone I meet on a weekly basis eye to eye talking about life, things we want to achieve, girls since we're two young studs haha, etc).

Then I have my bigger "peer-group" or "friends" that I talk regularly on Skype-like software such as Mumble (the advantage is that you can use push-to-talk which Skype don't have, why not?).

This group of friends are NOT as long-term thinking as my "true friend" is and they prefer to play video games all day long. They want me to purchase games and play with them. They rarely want to talk about life-stuff such as girls or making money, and yeah, some of them are overweight and insecure around girls.

My "true friend" has told me that he used to be a "nerd" (a gamer) and it was a fun time (three years in college but stopped with it after college) but it did not really give him what he truly wanted: a prosperous future and meeting lots of beautiful women (yeah, typical young guys-talk).

Now, my "true friend" supports my cause of wanting to make money by helping people online with information products and free stuff too, but I do not meet every day as I do with my other "friends".

I am thinking of to actually STOP having these daily communications with my "other friends" and get some new ones. I am thinking of getting new friends here on WF (but people ain't replying to my Mastermind-threads, gahhh xD) since I need like-minded people.

According to social research and Think & Grow Rich-book, the most powerful influence on one's success in life is one's peer-group or mastermind (if one has any) and that is what I want to achieve.

The deal is this: I love being social with my "friends" but I also want to be able to focus on my long-term dream and vision of making it online, and I feel that my peer-group is just not the best one for that.

What I really need, is a true Mastermind where I regularly communicate with other WF members that I have as "accountability-buddies" (as it is called in that funny South Park episode).

Right now, as I am writing this post to publish, I hear my friend play that multiplayer-game online and yeah, it is fun, but at the end of the day, it is NOT investing for the future, and in a sense, kinda sad because of that.

I have lived a fourth or third of my life so far (24 YO) and I think my "childhood" is pretty much over now. I am integrating myself into the "adulthood" and need some true "adult friends" and not young men who still live like teenagers.

Anyone else who can relate? Any harsh advice (maybe I should cut off the contact with them? But I still want to socialize with other people online to not become a nutcase)? What should I do?

And yeah, if anyone wants to create a daily or weekly mastermind-group with me, that would be awesome, because I really want to be able to socialize with people who wants to be succeeding and not nerding! ^^,

Take Care & Have An Awesome Day, Fellow Warrior(s)! / Max "MaxTheMarketer" K.

P.S. I am Swedish so don't diss me because of that!
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  • Profile picture of the author Jack Gordon
    Max,

    No need to drop your friends unless they are doing things that negatively affect your hopes and ambitions. If that is the case, they really aren't very good at being friends, are they?

    However, it sounds like you need to expand your social circle to include more people who share your new interests. Save most of your energy for those who will help you move forward in the right direction.

    To gain friends, be a good friend first. If WF members are the ones you want to start associating with, do your homework and be active on the forum. Earning respect from your peers opens doors to opportunities like mastermind groups.

    Oh, and posting creepy things is probably going to be counterproductive. Just don't do it.
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    • Profile picture of the author MaxTheMarketer
      Originally Posted by rocket2uranus View Post

      Max,

      No need to drop your friends unless they are doing things that negatively affect your hopes and ambitions. If that is the case, they really aren't very good at being friends, are they?

      However, it sounds like you need to expand your social circle to include more people who share your new interests. Save most of your energy for those who will help you move forward in the right direction.

      To gain friends, be a good friend first. If WF members are the ones you want to start associating with, do your homework and be active on the forum. Earning respect from your peers opens doors to opportunities like mastermind groups.

      Oh, and posting creepy things is probably going to be counterproductive. Just don't do it.
      Thank you very much for your reply. True, creepy post was a huge mistake from my side and I apologize for it sincerely.

      I was not looking it from all others' perspectives so I didn't realize at first how wrong it would come across. Lesson learned! ^^,

      I understand. So, should I share tons of great stuff I have learned along my own "internet marketing career" here as a way to show that "hey, I got value to share too, I am NOT a value-taker!"? :-)

      Take Care & Have An Awesome Day! / Max "MaxTheMarketer" K.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vallank2
    As the saying goes, "If you show me who your hanging with and what your reading", then I can predict your future. Reading Thinkg and Grow Rich as a great choice, and I would also suggest you read "You Were Born Rich" by Bob Proctor. I would create my own Mastermind group with at least 1-2 of them being alive and present........the other members to your group can be obtained through their books, audios, and videos such as Napoleon Hill. If you want to be more social, then I would suggest either attending a Networking Group in your area, Chamber of Commerce and such events, also look at Toast Masters as an option. To reach the levels in Think and Grow Rich you only have to change EVERYTHING......People, Places, and Things. You can have your group meet on YT hangouts and such for weekly Masterminding.

    Just My Take
    Lank
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  • Profile picture of the author Heart Cardio
    No you do not need to get more friends. Be happy with the ones that you have. Not everyone can be into what you are into and so therefore they may find it hard to support you in your endevours. Just look for other friends who are like minded like you, but keep the ones that you have already.
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