A small remark about self-help thing...I finaly registered here.
In the spirit of this subforums'll try to formulate my thinking is best achieved what I can in the hope that the reaction of members to be thinking the same. I apologize in advance to the length and maybe bad English but I hope it will help many of you.
In this forum I finally registered (and I read it regularly) to discuss interesting things along the way and learned something from people who know more than me. For years, I do NLP, hypnosis and marketing as an amateur and I read tons and tons of "lemonade" on self-help and all I can say about it is that it's all a big mistake, especially since one can not be a little more than it actually is. Of course it's in the background of all earnings but I see that people run into problems perpetuating them indefinitely.
The point is this. ALL psychological problems caused by conscious identification, and the irrational and subconscious desire for psychological security ... it is impossible to completely illusory. Psychological problem of a person is a part of the same person, so any response to such a problem only further alienation and sharing of "best."
Just clarifying the fact that there is no division between "me who has a problem" and the problem itself, and the fact that "I am my only problem", it can lead to the final lack of need for identification and psychological security.
Only wanna say that each book of "self-improvement" is oxymoron. "Alone," you're "helping" by reading a book that someone else wrote. Alone, we obviously can not help ourselves, so we find ourselves in the problem. Because we are able to solve this problem, until, it would not have happened in the first place. If we were just careless, not concentrated, underestimated the situation, or the like, then we have a problem ... We fail and we do not need "correction of myself" already disciplined attention and focus which is able to keep the "one stop shop" for more than 60 seconds before the "stray" in their own "soap opera" in which it plays all the roles and all audiences using while the "excess staff" created in the process of developing "self-esteem" and similar, equally complicated, and equally futile methods. Even the analysis of the "problem" is nothing to convert the "I" part of the problem and search agents seeing a picture in which the "I" always missing since accidentally "I" is busy with analyzing.
Who keeps guard's daughter while the guard is busy keeping?
IMO a complete concept of self-help is total bullshit. It is a narcissistic tendency, which is based on "self-denial" or the degradation of the criteria values. Widespread habit among people that always humiliate, ridicule and discredit everything that is different from themselves is just "an act of the confidence." When I hear that someone advised "work self help" my hair is up in the head ...
Such behavior is typical for all the people who feel inferior. Always seek the more people "follow me" to the number found a basis for confidence. Whenever I tell someone that I do not want to buy on credit as long as I have a loan I did not free to choose with whom they will work, all of a sudden stumble on each other rushing to explain to me how a loan is actually a fantastic thing and it was as good as we can have. .. Regularly come to the conclusion that I am either stupid or hardened drone.
What we need instead of false confidence (because the "right" does not exist and can not be "acquired") is "self-acceptance." This means you do not respect yourself like a fact, but rather to accept that we are able to be just as bad and the good, and that we are ourselves responsible for the decisions, choices and actions that we have left behind choosing between the two caricatured extremes we call "good and evil ".
Self-esteem is a serious ego trip and a great ego gymnastics that only reinforces the impression that indeed there is this "I" separate from the "self" and the "I" still adhered to the "self" itself. People seem to have an unlimited capacity to complicate their lives believing that it helps them... and their lives going in hard work anchored on the job they do not like spending the remaining loan money on antidepressants and self-help books suggesting me with unwavering certainty that I "need to work on self-esteem," and I do not really know what life is because "things are not exactly so simple as you think. " In this view often wander in the hands of spinning a new cell phone, the keys to a new car, sunglasses with the signature of an ego guru or a counterpart of status symbol. And I see them and I do not know whether they should laugh or cry over them. All this just because of stupid ideas about self-esteem that is impossible to establish "himself" so vain attempt to establish a collection of things around. As howling ... and self-esteem quickly becomes annoying and environmentally destructive "self helper".
Cheers!!
In this forum I finally registered (and I read it regularly) to discuss interesting things along the way and learned something from people who know more than me. For years, I do NLP, hypnosis and marketing as an amateur and I read tons and tons of "lemonade" on self-help and all I can say about it is that it's all a big mistake, especially since one can not be a little more than it actually is. Of course it's in the background of all earnings but I see that people run into problems perpetuating them indefinitely.
The point is this. ALL psychological problems caused by conscious identification, and the irrational and subconscious desire for psychological security ... it is impossible to completely illusory. Psychological problem of a person is a part of the same person, so any response to such a problem only further alienation and sharing of "best."
Just clarifying the fact that there is no division between "me who has a problem" and the problem itself, and the fact that "I am my only problem", it can lead to the final lack of need for identification and psychological security.
Only wanna say that each book of "self-improvement" is oxymoron. "Alone," you're "helping" by reading a book that someone else wrote. Alone, we obviously can not help ourselves, so we find ourselves in the problem. Because we are able to solve this problem, until, it would not have happened in the first place. If we were just careless, not concentrated, underestimated the situation, or the like, then we have a problem ... We fail and we do not need "correction of myself" already disciplined attention and focus which is able to keep the "one stop shop" for more than 60 seconds before the "stray" in their own "soap opera" in which it plays all the roles and all audiences using while the "excess staff" created in the process of developing "self-esteem" and similar, equally complicated, and equally futile methods. Even the analysis of the "problem" is nothing to convert the "I" part of the problem and search agents seeing a picture in which the "I" always missing since accidentally "I" is busy with analyzing.
Who keeps guard's daughter while the guard is busy keeping?
IMO a complete concept of self-help is total bullshit. It is a narcissistic tendency, which is based on "self-denial" or the degradation of the criteria values. Widespread habit among people that always humiliate, ridicule and discredit everything that is different from themselves is just "an act of the confidence." When I hear that someone advised "work self help" my hair is up in the head ...
Such behavior is typical for all the people who feel inferior. Always seek the more people "follow me" to the number found a basis for confidence. Whenever I tell someone that I do not want to buy on credit as long as I have a loan I did not free to choose with whom they will work, all of a sudden stumble on each other rushing to explain to me how a loan is actually a fantastic thing and it was as good as we can have. .. Regularly come to the conclusion that I am either stupid or hardened drone.
What we need instead of false confidence (because the "right" does not exist and can not be "acquired") is "self-acceptance." This means you do not respect yourself like a fact, but rather to accept that we are able to be just as bad and the good, and that we are ourselves responsible for the decisions, choices and actions that we have left behind choosing between the two caricatured extremes we call "good and evil ".
Self-esteem is a serious ego trip and a great ego gymnastics that only reinforces the impression that indeed there is this "I" separate from the "self" and the "I" still adhered to the "self" itself. People seem to have an unlimited capacity to complicate their lives believing that it helps them... and their lives going in hard work anchored on the job they do not like spending the remaining loan money on antidepressants and self-help books suggesting me with unwavering certainty that I "need to work on self-esteem," and I do not really know what life is because "things are not exactly so simple as you think. " In this view often wander in the hands of spinning a new cell phone, the keys to a new car, sunglasses with the signature of an ego guru or a counterpart of status symbol. And I see them and I do not know whether they should laugh or cry over them. All this just because of stupid ideas about self-esteem that is impossible to establish "himself" so vain attempt to establish a collection of things around. As howling ... and self-esteem quickly becomes annoying and environmentally destructive "self helper".
Cheers!!
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