Lost My MOJO

Try taking your focus away from what you don't have and putting on what you do have. A helpful exercise is to visit people less fortunate than you. Pick a nursing home at random and go visiting. Spend some time with various residents who have no one else. You'll see how glad they are to have anyone at all visit them. You might even find volunteering at such a place to be very helpful.

Then take a drive or walk through a poor part of town and look around. What you'll be doing is adding perspective to your situation. Getting in touch with the truly downtrodden usually helps to remind you of how much you actually have.

One other thing. Packing up the truck and finding your place won't do a thing. There's a saying, wherever you go, there you are. In my experience, you've got to deal with your stuff in the here and now. Good luck...

Hi,

I read your post and immediately had a very good idea of what you've been through. The effects of it all, not the same experiences. I could recount all I've been through in the past two years but I won't. It's just personal, and I'm a private person to begin with.

But I can tell you, in a nutshell, I went through some major life experiences. There were many times I felt like I was getting my ass kicked by life. Right now, I'm in a new apt. Moved in about a month ago. I lost nearly everything I had, materially speaking. Financial issues, etc. I'm beginning to rebuild my life.

I'll say this, just to give you a better idea. I guess it really does not matter. We're all adults and this stuff is just life. I was without electricity from early Sept 08 until about a month ago. No kidding. No bs. No power, no heat through an entire winter, no hot water. I took 1 hot shower in almost 7 months. This is all true.

I had a lot of time to think. lol But all that was the beginning of the end of many things. Now, I have emerged in a better place. I paid my electricity bill last week. I cannot tell you the feeling I had being able to do that and knowing life is normal.

Ok, pal... I'll tell you some things in the spirit of trying to help you, help yourself. That's all I can do.

Perspective. It will make or break you.

Right now, you're feeling like you've lost your stuff. You haven't. But it's natural to have those feelings. For certain reasons, they don't necessarily matter at this point, you're going through this. I read two books late last year, and they both were immensely helpful for different reasons.

From one book, accept that life is about change. You're going through some right now. From the other book, "Be here now." The second book is about deep survival and contains real stories of horrendous situations and how and why some people survived them and others did not. It's an incredible book.

We humans exhibit very predictable behavior and thoughts in times of serious stress situations. Right now you're questioning almost everything about yourself. That's natural and expected.

You have not lost anything like your mojo, or whatever. But... to be a bit cliche... if you think and believe... and say... that you have, then you will behave like you have. You will not have lost it, you will stop using it. You know and understand this.

Be here now. Right now, you just need to navigate your way into a better situation. It more than likely will require some patience on your part. Every single day, do what you need to do, in your own head, to maintain a healthy and strong perspective, outlook, attitude, whatever.

You can choose to allow your experiences to defeat you, or make you stronger. This is a real choice. Not that it is necessarily an easy thing. Often times it is not. I will tell you with no bs that I know you're perfectly capable and strong enough to get through this. I have no doubts about that.

Assess your situation, decide what you want, figure out how to get from point A to point B as best you can... then take action, no matter how small, to get from A to B.

Be here now, every single moment of every day. It's ok to feel afraid, to wonder if you can do it. It's ok, but replace those thoughts with positive thoughts. Things like fear and doubt can take over your head. You must take control over your thoughts and refuse to allow that to happen. The more you do it, the better and easier it gets to do it. I can promise you that.

Feel free to pm me at any time.

We're all incredibly stronger than we know, and that includes you.

Take care...

hi there,

i went through the same a few years ago.

everything came crashing down and i lost virtually everything that i owned.

i also had a poor run of health.

it seemed as though there was no where to turn or go until:

i changed my thinking to attract things that i wanted in life (it wasn't easy).

rather than be in a bubble of negativity i challenged life and started to value myself again.

i then started on an incredible journey that has opened me both spiritually and mentally.

and you know i would not change anything in the world - the materialistic things houses, nice cars etc can go by the wayside it's quality of life that counts.

i truely believe that life has to crash down with some indivudals as they would keep making the same mistakes and without a crash they cannot change.

good luck
Genie Of Wealth

The thing is, I've lost the material things...the things I spent years trying to build for the sake of having them. Now that they're gone and I realize the things that give me true joy in life (my time living and enjoying the things around me), I don't really have the drive the have "things" any more.

I believe that this is my dilemma...not wanting to the point of not being driven to obtain. Hence my missing mojo.

Once you discover what is truly important, how do you find the drive to obtain those things that are not?

how true,

in other words the things that were important to you before you lost them are not important anymore.

without hitting the wall and crashing you may not have changed.

life has thrown you a chance to reassess and sort out.

you set sail for the things in life you want and you make a living in the meantime taking steps nearer to what you want to achieve.

regards

I recommend reading "The Glass Castle" by Jeanette Walls. My mom lent me this book awhile back. It's essentially about a family where the parents CHOSE to be homeless and rely on their own devices, while their children not only had to deal with their parents' lifestyle but they had to bond together and become resourceful themselves. The children settled down in houses eventually, but even then the parents stayed homeless. This is a true story.

I've been through some stuff I'm not proud of, but to sum it up these are the three lessons I've learned:

1.) Before others can help you, you must first help yourself. As the cliche goes, you can bring a horse to water but you can't make him drink.

2.) You must maintain the correct perspective. Life isn't permanent. The world is always evolving. Materials are replaceable, but people aren't.

3.) You don't *have* to do anything. Biologically, all you need to do is eat, sleep and breathe. You CHOOSE to do these things, because you choose to stay alive. Life is dictated by the choices you make. You can choose to wallow, or you can choose to learn. The choice is yours.

I think you're off to a good start, just being here in the Warrior forum. I've just recently rededicated myself in several areas, and one of them is my online work and the warrior forum.
This forum is also very therapeutic in many ways. Besides having the solutions we need right now

Thanks to everyone who responded. I am now reminded of my old love of reading and will pick up the suggested book to start. I'm also going to work on doing nothing which is what I feel like doing at the moment. I think I need to regroup and rest (without worrying about what will happen) is going to be my first step.

Other suggestions are of course welcome, and all comments are appreciated.

Get your testosterone levels checked if you can.

If you're over 40 then your age, genetics, diet, bad habits, too little exercise, etc may mean very low t-levels. People may tell you that reading a book, thinking positively, etc, will do the trick, and who knows, it might.

But get your testosterone checked. With everything you're experiencing in life right now, at the very least you want to make sure you're working with sufficient levels of what really gives you your mojo.



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You have lost your MOJO, okey, let's find where could we find it.

Don't worry, if you have confidence in life, you can get your MOJO back. Just check out your dedication, your devotion how much you need it.

Its like quick sand to lose it all. Tell about it, cause I can tell you how bad my luck is. Few days ago I lost a lot of expensive equipment of mine. I kinda lost my cash inflow and then the stock market. You can cheer up. The only sign of relief is that I got keep my house from mortgage. A site called editmyloan helped me with it. I hope others will help me with my job too.