Low on self confidence

I'm sorry to hear about your loss buddy! Hope you are coping well.. it must be terribly hard to concentrate on work in such a situation. I'm sure you will fight back and get control of your life again - the question is how soon.

and Jonathan said it best .. I wud probably say the same.

Nothing can fill the void of your loss, it's only natural to break down - Give yourself time.. read books, biographies,audios if you can't gather the energy to work. There will be a time when you'll somewhat get used to the void and start working and living life normally again.

I only hope it is sooner than later.

But when you do decide to get back up, use the following tips..

.. Just remember, everyone goes through tough times ..losers give in and winners keep pushing.

You can either sit and feel sorry for yourself or stand straight and declare to the world you're going to make things happen - no matter what it takes. and start working harder than what you did earlier.

- Take massive action, 10 times more than what you usually do.

- Take control of your mind before you proceed. - Load your iPod with some good audio programs and continuously listen to them. (Business,marketing, motivation.. any u like). If you're lazy, watch motivational videos on youtube atlst.

- Make a list of all your accomplishments,assets,skill sets,contacts,projects - start exploring these list for new opportunities.

- Declare your outcome loudly/write it down 10-20 times - then make goals backed with task list and start working on them immediately with all the energy at your command.

- Look for new ways to make money - try 10 different things. Scale the one that makes some money. Abondon old strategies that made u money a year back, try new things - internet is evolving rapidly so should you.

- In business you're going to make more bad decisions than right ones. But you only have to be right a few times to be successful. But those grandslams are placed far apart with a lot failures, adversities, learning & struggle in between. You can decide to quit,rest or keep walking depending on how bad you want your dream.

Remember every project you're failing at, you are actually getting closer to your next grandslam victory. However if you quit or waste time - you're only Dalying your arrival at success. Losers quit during tough times and winner fight back and run harder

- The most important key to success is "FOCUS". If you focus on your outcome hard enough, and put in everything you have got - you're going to get results without a doubt. Explore many things, but settle down with only one project and set a grandeous goal for it- a goal that you get Super enthusiasictic to work for. Then FOCUS ON IT and put all your energy,time,blood,sweat n resources into it - like it's your last chance to win in life. You either succeed or perish, You MUST MUST MUST succeed!

- Forget complaining of low-confidence. Acting confident is your hand. Start acting confident and once things start rolling - you'll regain your confidence.. till then fake it if you have to.

- Don't complain and ponder about all the sh**ty stuff happening to you. If you look close enough, you'll still find a lot of you things to be thankful for. Start practicing 'Gratitude' - it does help 'scientifically'.

- Lastly, be a man. It's upto you. Talk yourself out of your situation - remind yourself that things are not as bad as they look.. it could have been MUCH MUCH worse.. Many people have lost all their weath,lost their limbs, imprisoned for no reason,born with severe conditions, become homeless,met with natural calamities .. things that would be impossible for us to even comprehend. They are also fighting life - so can you. Make best use of what you have, there is always a way.

My wishes are with you.

Yeah I agree with Nic. Sometimes taking a break can be beneficial.

I can only speak from personal experience, however as my self-esteem increased I stopped being worried and fearful as much. (And am happier generally.)

I think most people can go through a low time in their lives, but you are already taking action to change by sharing on here, that is a big step.

I have always found that reading self help books and material always lifts your spirits, and what you can learn from these can strengthen not only your confidence, but your belief in what you really can achieve in life.

Happiness is not a result of success.
Success is a result of happiness.
And happiness comes from inside.

Just remember that most people that we perceive as successful did not just have it fall in their laps, most of them had many failures before they finally saw success. So, never give up, you will make it.

Everyone has made some really great comments on the issue of low self confidence. We all deal with it. I've been doing a lot of self-development work and I'm coming to see that failure is not failure. It's truly an opportunity to reflect on what worked and didn't work. I'd like to suggest a site called Prolific Living. The lady that runs it gives great advice on increasing self-confidence. Good Luck!

I have confidence issues as well. I listen to motivational speakers, ministers, leadership coaches. And not the kinds you heard in high school; the world leaders. Zig Ziglar, Les Brown, Jim Rohn, Craig Groeschell, Dave Ramsey, people like that. I would start there.

When I am having a crap day and feel like giving up, I'll look up an audio/video clip (Youtube, podcasts, their websites) and just listen to it while I'm doing something else. Often it will inspire me and I'll actually want to start doing something productive!

Once in awhile they will say something that clicks in my brain and I have a mental paradigm change. These are those wonderful "eureka" moments where you can see your situation in a different light.

Also, not sure if you are a man of faith, but looking for some sound and well-make spiritual content can do wonders for your life outlook. I enjoy reading Oswald Chambers and listening to people like Francis Chan.

I hope that helps a little. Doing these things really helps me to ground myself and regroup my scattered and broken thoughts. There is no miracle or cure, but if we build momentum little by little we can get rolling again.

This guy is absolutely right. Everything you put into your body (from food and beverage to shampoo, soap, and toothpaste) affects how you feel mentally, physically, spiritually.

When I switched to natural and organic hygiene products and cut fast food, soda, and terrible junk snacks from my diet, I felt amazing. Now if I go back to eating any of that stuff I will feel sick. Wow! How did my body ever cope with that stuff?

This also works the other way around. One of my favorite Ziglar sayings (not a direct quote, but an abbreviated version): If I were to come into your house and dump garbage on your floor you'd be really angry and talk about it for weeks. But we neglect to think about all the garbage we put into out minds daily.

Your physical condition and your mental condition are so closely connected. If your body feels bad, that affects your mental state. And if your mental state is crap, then your body will react negatively.

This stuff may not seem to be linked to confidence; and maybe it isn't directly affected. But it certainly does affect how you feel overall, and when you feel better overall it's easier to feel confident.

Dear Priyankeshu,

I posted an article on my website entitled Remedies for Low Self-Esteem.

The link to this article is as follows:
Remedies for Low Self-Esteem5 Springs Media | 5 Springs Media

I hope this article provides you with some helpful information that will support and guide you.

All my best,
Bob