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Your Deep Desire and Defining Your Focus

by Clint
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Dexter Yager:"You will never leave where you are, until you decide where you'd rather be."

There was a time in my life where I felt unsuccessful and desired greatness. But when anyone would ask me what it is I wanted to accomplish but had not a clue of what it would take to get me to that point.

It wasn't until I defined what was wanted that that my desires became fulfilled.

Do you remember the point in your life where you have a deep desire for something he did not know what was?
#deep #defining #desire #focus
  • Profile picture of the author webmatic
    Never had such a feeling as i don't even try to share my desires with anyone or even don't even think about it alot. Just try to fulfill my desires and when its done, i just tell everyone that i succeeded
    Thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author ramohr
    I agree with you...to help me define my goals what I do
    is write them down and post them in different places so I can read them
    everyday.

    I ask myself what is it that I really want to do...if money wasn't an option?

    And I get my answer.
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  • Profile picture of the author phiROSSophy
    I feel as though I have no ultimate goal. I simply hoping to improve. I am not sure if this means I will pursue an ultimate euphoria that will not come, or I lead the path of ultimate fulfillment. I'm not sure, but I am ready for the journey.
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  • Profile picture of the author GFox
    I think that one of the most important steps that you can take to realize your goals is to write them down. I have practiced this for many years and although I haven't yet reached my financial destination in life, I have had the pleasure of putting a few check marks on my list as "done that". The funny thing though, is that each time I achieved any of my goals, I conjure up a new one to take it's place, so it's an ongoing process. The key, I think, is to live as fulfilling a life as possible, based on YOUR dreams and goals (not your parents', spouse, friends, etc.). It puts into greater perspective the saying: Success is not a destination, it's a journey. Enjoy it!

    Much success to you!
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    • Profile picture of the author nursewriter
      I am having this problem. I am in my middle forties....I work full time and do writing on the side. For the past few years I have this burning need to be someone great....to be the best at something.

      I live in fear that my life is passing me by and I haven't done anything that people will remember me for. I don't want to be famous but I would like to be wealthy and be able to travel. (I have never even seen the ocean).

      I am a decent writer but I am far from the best. I am an okay copywriter but far from the best. I write everyday but feel like I am stuck.

      Meanwhile, time is passing and I am no closer to being someone special. Sometimes I think I have a mental disorder. I look around at my co-workers and other people my age and they don't seem to be having this problem. They seem content in life so what is wrong with me?

      Does anyone else feel this way? Do I need a psychiatrist?
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      • Profile picture of the author wolf29
        First of all, you have many negative comments in your post about yourself. I realize you're expressing how you feel but step 1 IMO is changing how you see yourself.

        You don't have to see yourself as the best writer but I would say you need to start thinking of yourself as better than decent. Which I'm sure you are.

        As for feeling like you do, I've been down that road many times. Still take a trip down memory lane every now and then. I've always felt that I was destined for something better than what I've been doing in my current "job" and I still feel that way. Since changing my attitude about myself I've seen glimpses of what can and will come my way.

        Will I be written about in history books? Probably not, but that's not what I'm after. I just want more than contributing to my company's bottom line.

        So I've been there, done that and know exactly how you feel. But changing how see yourself is the first step if anything else is going to change. I'm also in my forties and it's taking me this long to figure what makes me tick. So don't be too hard on yourself but be better to yourself

        Cheers
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        • Profile picture of the author nursewriter
          Originally Posted by wolf29 View Post

          First of all, you have many negative comments in your post about yourself. I realize you're expressing how you feel but step 1 IMO is changing how you see yourself.

          You don't have to see yourself as the best writer but I would say you need to start thinking of yourself as better than decent. Which I'm sure you are.

          As for feeling like you do, I've been down that road many times. Still take a trip down memory lane every now and then. I've always felt that I was destined for something better than what I've been doing in my current "job" and I still feel that way. Since changing my attitude about myself I've seen glimpses of what can and will come my way.

          Will I be written about in history books? Probably not, but that's not what I'm after. I just want more than contributing to my company's bottom line.

          So I've been there, done that and know exactly how you feel. But changing how see yourself is the first step if anything else is going to change. I'm also in my forties and it's taking me this long to figure what makes me tick. So don't be too hard on yourself but be better to yourself

          Cheers
          Thanks for the reply,

          I think that is a lot of my problem......I don't really know who I am. How do you find yourself? When I try to think of how I would describe myself to others I don't know what to say.

          It is a relief to know that there are others out there that feel the same way I do. I felt like maybe I was losing it. It just scares me to think that life is going by so quickly and one day I will realize that there is no time left to do all that I wanted to do.

          Lucinda
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  • Profile picture of the author clubvikram
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    This is the problem with most of the people that they do not know what they really are.Moreover they do not brood in silence over what they really want out of life and what are the strengths and weaknesses.
    Remember its always wise to play by your strengths than your weaknesses.
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