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Help: I Need More Patience and ...I Need it Now

by The Niche Man
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In a fast food, instant gratification world is patience a dying art? Something only monks and yogi's meditating on mountain tops do? But not modern day business people, the educated or go-getters.

Reading the article below helped me ask certain questions, some of the answers I liked, others I didn't.

Oftentimes being a business owner and being patient doesn't always mix. But having patience is essential for body, mind and spirit to work together efficiently.

Here's the article that helped me reevaluate my patience, hopefully it will help you to. It includes the many surprising benefits of having patience.

Would people say you're a patient person? It would be interesting to know how you cultivate or maintain a patient attitude. I believe that's a skill that will be in demand more and more. Because it's so under-rated, but still essential in social, business and economic settings.

Developing Patience
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  • Profile picture of the author rickdangelo
    The article is pretty useful. I'm personally not a very patient person. I dislike waiting but as time passes i'm trying to learn how take one step at a time, to take things slowly so I could put myself in the shoes of others.
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  • Profile picture of the author beastwood
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    I would like to believe that I'm a patient person. It takes a lot before I find something intolerable. Also, I guess its because I'm the type to take things slowly. I've always had this mentality that things don't come easily. There might be shortcuts to some things but sometimes the longer journey, the better.
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    • Profile picture of the author The Niche Man
      Originally Posted by beastwood View Post

      I would like to believe that I'm a patient person. It takes a lot before I find something intolerable. Also, I guess its because I'm the type to take things slowly. I've always had this mentality that things don't come easily. There might be shortcuts to some things but sometimes the longer journey, the better.
      So, how do you deal with impatient people? I found for every patient person, at least 3 people or more surround them who are impatient. For example, spouses, children, co-workers, supervisors, customers, etc. Sometimes they'll even label you slow poke.

      Habitually patient people can tend to stress out impatient people sometimes. They want it now, tapping their foot, fidgeting and your hands are comfortably folded, you're relaxed and calm. Sometimes that can be calming to others and other times it's irritating. How do you deal with that?
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  • Profile picture of the author Noctilus
    If you want to deal with impatient people, establish reasonable yet firm timetables. Put the timetables in writing and reference them as necessary if you're asked about the status of the project.

    Remain Calm! It’s easy to lose your patience if you're continually badgered about the progress of a project. Keep your cool and don't allow yourself to be ruffled, flustered or distracted by impatient individuals.

    Also, see things from the impatient person's perspective. If you work as part of a team, and your on-time work product is essential to someone else meeting her own deadlines, that person may be rightfully concerned about your expediency. Determine the core reason for the initial impatient behavior and address it before it manifests itself in an unhealthy way.

    If you want to be more patient I would suggest to stop and think about the last time you were impatient. What caused it? Ask your family, friends, and co-workers about your impatience. Chances are that they know what gets you "wound up". Keep a journal with you to record when you start to feel impatient. Write down what the situation is, and why you're getting frustrated.

    Many people become impatient due to physical factors such as hunger, dehydration, or fatigue. Analyze your body the next time you start to feel impatient. A simple remedy might be a snack and a glass of water!
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    • Profile picture of the author RichBeck
      Originally Posted by Noctilus View Post

      If you want to deal with impatient people, establish reasonable yet firm timetables. Put the timetables in writing and reference them as necessary if you're asked about the status of the project.
      Noctilus,

      I think you pretty much nailed it....

      The first step is mutually agreeing to exactly what will be delivered at a specific time.

      The second step is constant communication along the way. Some people may just ignore it.... Others love the "warm fuzzy" they get when seeing progress.

      All The Best,

      Rich Beck BCIP, MCSD, MCIS
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  • Profile picture of the author RichBeck
    Originally Posted by The Niche Man View Post

    Would people say you're a patient person? It would be interesting to know how you cultivate or maintain a patient attitude. I believe that's a skill that will be in demand more and more. Because it's so under-rated, but still essential in social, business and economic settings.

    Developing Patience
    TNM,

    In general, I would say I'm a patient person...

    Clients have frequently commented about how "calm" I am.....

    I'd have to step back and look at the situation.....

    Is this a potential client? Are they impatient right off the bat?

    That is a red flag the size of "The Republic of Texas."

    I would find a polite way to end the interaction, thank them for their time... and move on.

    Is this an existing Client?

    I would then look at what is happening....

    Did I not give a specific "deliverable" and schedule? Is there something I "dropped the ball" on?

    Is this person simply wanting "his" way? Does he have any reason to be impatient with me?

    There needs to be a thorough diagnosis for existing Clients...

    We either need to improve our business process or be more selective in taking on Clients.

    In some cases, we may need to "fire" an existing Client.

    This is tough because it is a case by case basis based on a variety of factors.

    All The Best,

    Rich Beck BCIP, MCSD, MCIS
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    i gave up on being pateint long ago..i was just a tad to patient .

    what i developed was a reasonable expectation for the time it takes thing to happen .

    if you make bread by hand or a sour dough bread that need 12 hours to rise..you don't stop everything and weight for it to rise.. you put kneed the dough put it in a bowl.cover it and do something else .

    i am not tolerant with people who dither and waste my time ..
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    i gave up on being pateint long ago..i was just a tad to patient .

    what i developed was a reasonable expectation for the time it takes thing to happen .

    if you make bread by hand or a sour dough bread that need 12 hours to rise..you don't stop everything and weight for it to rise.. you put kneed the dough put it in a bowl.cover it and do something else .

    i am not tolerant with people who dither and waste my time ..
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