I am on Mental Diet for 10 days need your suggestion

Thanks for your solution but the real problem is that my conscious mind accept the situation but my unconscious mind does not accept the present situation. This create the problem for me. To accept it emotionally I am releasing on it. but it is taking too much time from me. Accepting the situation or circumstances emotionally is the real problem for me. I find that I am busy in convincing myself that accepting the situation is good and I have to do it. This is the real problem.

I am always talking a lot to myself and telling myself again and again that do not dwell on negative or participate in negativity. Offcourse I am getting some success with it but the resistance is so high that at the end of the day I find myself exhausted but mentally I feel peace. I like the peace feeling but does not like the headache and feeling drained.

Yes that is the easy part for me to change the negative language into the positive and right now I am doing it successfully. Instead of using calling problem as a challenge which seems fake to me I started asking questions from myself. How can I use this problem to move myself into the next higher level in all area of my life.

The real problem I find that whole day instead of concentrating on work I find that I am talking to myself and asking the question from myself again and again. Which is very frustrating for me. I am looking for a way in which I can live completely in mental diet but also able to change my thinking or focus without any resistance. I mean that I wanted to remove the resistance I am getting now to move into the positive side.

I do not understand what you are trying to say.


Day - 1
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After getting some feedback I am thinking about doing an mental diet journal so that I can be accountable to this place for completing this mental diet. I hope You do not mind it. I really want to be successful in this mental diet.

Today is the real struggle but having good results give me true satisfaction. I just wake up while remembering that I do not allow myself to indulge or dwell on dis-empowering subject. So after struggle for few minutes than I am able to focus myself on what I want.

when I started doing my work I am still struggling with it but I am focusing myself again and again on what I want by asking question that how can I use this circumstances to grow in every area of my life. I do not remember that how many times I let go of thinking about negative and take myself to focusing on empowering subjects by asking question. This is real struggle for me. And around 12.30 PM I find some peace.

This is incredible feeling to me. I have this kind of feeling 3-4 times in my life. Instead of focusing on my work I find that I am enjoying this feeling. around 2 pm i seriously start doing the work. and I find myself that i am concentrate myself fully in the task in hand. But the most important thing I find that the problem I am facing now is easily solved by myself which is not so often happened in my life. The frustration which take over on me on little problems are not having effect on me. I do not know that it is one time thing or consistent thing. Time will tell me about it. It is 10.30 PM here and I am still on diet and able to keep myself away from dwelling on dis-empowering subjects.

Sanjay Sharma

I suggest that you be ready to endure the worst hell you after ever faced in your entire life.

I just like to rake mines out.

Day - 3

Actually this is day 1 is for me because yesterday I am not able to consistently focus myself on what I want. The funny thing is that I am learning a lot during the mental diet. In the past I always read about the personal development and feel good about it. I do not go deep into the subject I am reading it now. I read philosophy about it and other stuff. now I find that I am looking for the material which is useful for me right now. I am just skimming through the material a lot more. No more unfocused reading the blogs and books instead I find that I read with the intention of something which make me feel good inside that I am using it instead of thinking about it. It means that the things which are helping me to stay positive in the present moment, no matter what, is getting my attention. It is my hobby to read about personal development articles, blogs and books with out any purpose. Not any more. I am now looking for the material which helps me right now to be positive.

One more thing I notice that Now I am going deep into the subjects. I am getting an kind of feedback which tell me that this technique work for me or not. For example affirmation. I always think that affirmation help me a lot So I am doing it for many years without thinking about the outcomes. But not any more. I am not saying the affirmation does not work. It works wonderfully for some person but not for me.
I also find that if I change the affirmation into a question and ask it from myself than I am not deluding myself.

I always use the affirmation, "Every day and in every way things are getting better and better and I am growing rich in every area of my life". But internally I does not believe it. I feel that I am telling lie to myself. Affcourse many people get most benefits from affirmation but I think it is not for me. Because this does not suit me. Now I put this into the question. How Can I make things getting better and better in the present moment and growing richer in every area of my life. this question put me into finding the ways to make it happen. I am accepting that my life is not positive right now but I am looking for the ways to make it happen.

Now my focus or searching for the answer is finding the ways to learn that how person give meaning to life situation. Because I know that how can I give meaning to my life situation and experience than I am able to live an peaceful life because whatever happening outside does not effect me internally. And for this purpose, I am searching in blogs and books on this subject. I am getting answer that our beliefs are responsible for meaning but I am sensing that we can also give meaning to the situation in certain way and it change us. I have read some material on this subject but did not use it in life situation. So within a day or two I am able to give some example that how I change the meaning of the situation and would it helpful to me or not.

Today I am not able to consistently continue for single day in mental diet. I have to start all over again from tomorrow. To me it seems failure but the strange thing is that I does not feel negative any more. Changing are happening in me. more and more helps are coming to me from within when I need them. I also find that in the middle of the problem I am still focusing on how to change this situation and feel good about it. If I compare Mr. Sanjay Sharma from 10 days earlier to Present Moemnt 's Mr. Sanjay Sharma I am noticing a lots of change in the positive way. This telling me that Choosing the mental diet helping me a lot. The difference I am noticing in myself is so profound that I am feeling winning instead of defeat inspite of this fact that I am not able to live more than one day in mental diet.

I am guessing what would happen If I am able to hold myself in positive state for 10 days consistently. Now I am believing that it will change my life for the better. This is the key to life. I wanted to write more but my other obligations does not allow me. Talk to you later.

And thanks Dain Supero for tell me about changing meaning of life. and thanks to Mr. crums1371 for giving me good advice. If anyone can point out to a good resource about changing the meaning of life situation than please write it in this thread so that it helps me to complete my mental diet successfully.

Sanjay Sharma

No I am not able to finish the challenge. In the latest attempt, I am able to go upto 7th day without any negative thought but fail again. So I give myself two day off. I will start again. I donot want to clutter this thread about my failure because it is going to discouraged lots of people. So I am writing in journal and if I am able to complete my mental diet successfully than I write my experience, insights on this thread.

If you are interested in doing it than I definitely recommend it. Even your fail attempts will bring good results. Now, even I am not able to finish 10 days challenge, but if I compare myself from 2 months ago than i can see the difference which is equivalent to day and night.

I am sticking to it because if it bring so much positive in my life in failed attempts what if I am able to complete it successfully.

Sanjay Sharma

Thanks Pmcfitnes for your suggestion. Now things are easy for me. I am not struggling any more and find that I am positive in tough times. My mind automatically searching for good in the situation when it is happening at that moment. Which I cannot imagine, that I can do it, two month earlier. Now I am focusing more and more in the present moment. This helps me to stay positive and deals with the things right now. Moreover, I find that I am changing my meaning to the situation. Whenever, I face an tough situation, instead of beating myself, I find that I am looking for good in that situation and telling myself or thinking that this situation actually helping me to grow.. The habitual quality questions helping me a lot in the mental diet. Now I am start doing Meditation. Let me see how this effect me. I am also trying to be grateful but the situation here is tough for me so instead of feeling grateful, I find that I am looking for good in the situation but I am going to do it because gratitude is best emotion for abundance.

the basic rule for me in mental diet is that I does not allow myself to dwell or participate in any negative thoughts and feeling more than two minutes. Offcourse, negative thoughts are coming to my mind all days but i did not entertain myself on that thought. I just let it go. I am automatically aware about my thoughts pattern because of rule of not allowing the negative thoughts in my mind. I find that I am automatically checking myself that I am positive or negative. So I think that awareness is now going automatically. I am not doing any efforts on awareness but it is coming to me automatically.

Yes you are right that it is pretty difficult thing to do but if you done it successfully, you cannot imagine how far you reach. It is not about being positive only. it means that you are facing every fear and conquering it. I cannot write more about it because it is become long post. but definitely it worth it. I am going through very tough situation right now. and before two months if i know that i am going through this situation, I am gonna mad but now instead of gonna mad i find myself facing the situation gracefully and working on it. and at the same time laughing and enjoying the life. may be I cannot explain, but if you do it than you know how you changed yourself. Now small matters does not bother me anymore.

Sanjay Sharma

Fantastic! Thanks Sandycmy, I'm going to practice this too.

The link to the second video is:
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