You have GOT to do this one thing

You are right... but doing it is difficult. Especially if your life sucks.

I think this is absolutely true. Love is the most powerful emotion in the world. We will fight harder for something we love than anything else.Think about a mother protecting her child from danger, if you question the power of love....she'll literally die to protect her child. If you really hate your life, you might fight really hard to change your situation if you have a great deal of willpower, but there's an equally good chance that you will fall into a state of apathy and just give up because hate has a way of just sucking all the energy out of you. However, if you really love your life, you will do anything and everything in your power to protect it and not risk losing it. Love truly gives us crazy powerful positive energy like nothing else in this world.

Great post.

I believe that loving your life comes second. First you need to love yourself. Having great self esteem and confidence will help you in tackling all the challenges that life throws at you with ease.

Cheers,

C.G.

Absolutely. If you love yourself then your life will be what it will be and it won't really matter. By learning to love WHO YOU ARE, "life" is what you make it and you are happy with it.

Sure, it will also "open up" the creative mindset that will allow you to "create" whatever life you desire.

There are many that some look at with envy, thinking that they "have it all" when, in fact, many of the people in this category are absolutely miserable

On the other hand, happiness/satisfaction/contentment comes from inside and the peace that comes from being happy with and loving who you are.

How true. Loving your life brings about confidence, and confidence is what attracts others to you. Even online where we are so distant compared to face-to-face interactions, confidence is king. People can feel it through their screens, and they won't trust people that aren't confident. It's like good soul food. You can mix together all the right ingredients, but if you don't LOVE making the food, it doesn't taste the same. You can honestly taste the LOVE. That's what makes it soul food!

being grateful and your life sucking are TOTALLY 2 different things

I definitely agree. Loving your life is a choice. Being happy is a choice. You can have the best luck in the world but if you don't love your life, you'll never be happy. You'll never feel successful. It will never feel worth it.

Take it this way.

Hating your life is a consequence of other things. These may be depression, bipolar disorder, stress, etc.

You wouldn't ask someone with a broken leg to work in a mine. Then you shouldn't ask yourself to do things that you are too hurt to do, even if that pain is emotional.

Focus on fixing yourself and what is wrong, emotionally, physically, mentally. This may mean anything from carrying a conversation with your parents for what they screwed up to taking Valium.

Then once you are OK, get to work.

Very well put, Rogoz.

Right.

Hating your life is NOT a choice unless you can prove it otherwise. It is a consequence of poor self-esteem. Poor self-esteem is a consequence of many things ranging from self-image to abusive childhood.

You've got the mind of matter type of mindset. That's alright. We can agree to disagree.

But I'm a bit more pragmatic. I understand that what we feel at any given time is more a consequence of our chemical balance, our environment and our programming than a real choice.

Tell someone who is suffering from an intense anxiety attack NOT to suffer from it. Tell the person who is sad not to be sad because it is her choice not to be sad. Yes, it will agree. In the end, we are all as happy as we make it to be.

But saying that it is only a choice is a very dangerous assumption and advice. It is not all mind over matter. It is also emotional / physical health over psychological states.

Great comments on this thread. Yes - loving yourself and loving the life that you have are two very important things. As the Law of Attraction teaches us - having the Attitude of Gratitude will lead you to having a better life everyday.

Living a life with out mean is were we tend to get stuck. The hard part is finding that meaning that is important for you and realizing that it is giving you completeness in all matters. Look to no one to answer these question other than yourself. Do not let your emotions lead you astray stick. Good luck!

Eric, I consider your approach to be dangerous from a single reason.

Some people actually need help. I've seen many cases. They don't need to read Napoleon Hill. They need to fix their lifestyle, their eating, to stop their abuses and to get professional help. Self-help is not a replacement for actual professional emotional health help.

Re-framing sometimes works. Most of the time it doesn't. Why? Because we are human.

I am happy when things go well for me and sad when they doesn't. This is the way my brain works. Sometimes when I am so unhappy, I try to find a reason for why I am this way and I learn some lessons. And then I am happy.

But I don't rely on re-framing so much. It is a one trick pony in the end.

Let me give you an example. I am supposed to be on a tropical island right now. At least that's what the travel agency told me. Yesterday night I went out to get a drink. It was freezing cold. This is considered one of the warmest places on Earth. So this morning I woke up with an headache, a very low energy and a sore nose.

And yes, my first thought was ...

"I ******* hate this morning".

Would thinking positive about this actually help me in any way? No. I've simply took action. Took a hot shower, went out, ate, drank a hot coffee and now I'm sitting on the porch writing this, because the air in the room may be full of germs.

Some people, especially the law of attraction bunch may simply said "I will visualize how now I am healthy". I've decided to actually make myself healthy.

Plus, the entire attitude thing creates incompetent idiots in the marketplace. I know a lot of people who have attitude but can't deliver any results. To have attitude is one thing. To have the skills to back up that attitude in a manner that you can win is another. Too many people think themselves are very good when in reality, they are not.

And they write checks that they can't cash.

As I've said, my personal view is that our psychological state is determined by our bio-chemistry and the brain is usually in a state of reaction towards the events around us. The fastest way to NOT hate your life (or instead of using a negation, TO LOVE YOUR LIFE) is to tweak that balance towards your advantage. Good food, exercise, the right people around you, a lot of sunlight, laugh, cry, feel alive.

And the logical flaw, at least in how I see it, in your argument is that you say there is a better way available. I know that. There always is a better way. But the brain doesn't work this way. When you are depressed, it is locked on everything that is bad. It is like a closed operating system and it doesn't want to open that folder called "Good things". So asking a depressed person to see the better things in life is like asking a child who doesn't know what the color blue is to point it to you on a board.

It is more on the romantic, philosophical side, on how "things should be" than how "things are".

I don't think happiness is a choice. I don't think that suffering is a choice. I personally believe both are consequences of our environment and of the way our brain is functioning. This doesn't negate personal responsibility though. They are not a choice but no one forces you to watch TV instead of going to the gym. Or not to eat that Big Mac and instead eat that salad.

And my pragmatic way of seeing things is because I'm an atheist. I don't believe in destiny. I don't believe in things supposed to happen. Things just happen as the consequences of causes set in motion.

I clicked on Eric's link just to see who he was. I was pleasantly surprised. I was expecting one of those self-help gurus who are all overly hyped up on positive energy... but...

Eric seems nice. He's got a pleasant face, a cute son and a story on his blog about his battle against alcoholism. The guy does art, photography and genuinely seems to want to help people.

He's a good guy.

Hello Eric!

Hi Arun, thank you for the great compliments! I really appreciate that.

What I practice daily for loving my life is gratitude.
I found out that with gratitude, more good come to my life.
Then I become much calmer and less stress.

Cheers,
Awan

I agree with this. You got to love your life and yourself first. You're not doing the things you are doing now to love yourself, it should be the other way around. I believe that loving yourself is important because at the end of the date, you only have yourself.

Love yourself and love others(empathy).its really one of those amazing experiences as human beings,

I concur.This is one life you have got and if you are unhappy with it then take steps to change it.Period.

A great book on this topic is called "Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It" by Kamal Ravicant.

Brilliant!
So true though....If you don't love your life, you will get back in turn what you put out.

"If you want to find success and fulfilment in money, life, love, and the world we all live in, then this is the one thing you have GOT to do.

You have GOT to love your life. You have to love yourself and love the life you are living. So if you aren't loving your life right in this very moment, it isn't getting to somewhere else that is going to change things. If you think you are waiting for success and fulfilment to come to you, after which you will then be in love with your life, then you've got the process backwards! Love your life FIRST then all else will fall into place.

So if you aren't loving your life first, if all you can see around you is things you don't like, relationships you aren't happy with, financial situation that has you stressed, or whatever circumstance you're in that isn't where you want to be, then yes take steps towards changing that. But you should make your #1 goal to be in love with your life. This is the rising tide that will raise all the other boats in your life.

Once you are in love with your life, that's when you get all the momentum going in your favor. And guess what, mind warriors - you absolutely do NOT NEED to be super wealthy and financially independent to be in love with your life. But being in love with your life WILL lead you to the well being that you're spending your time chasing after.

So get with the program and LOVE YOUR LIFE.

Eric"


OMG if a person were to read only the above words his whole life for inspiration, then it would be enough. Seriously amazing words. You spoke to my soul.

This is easier said than done. If you see that your life is going downhill its get tough to actually love your life first. But yes, I agree you have to love your life and yourself first. If you can't love your life, how can you love other things? This is basically how everything begins with ourselves