Raising Daughters? Some things to think about.

#1 is true of daughters AND sons! Of course CHILD in both cases!
#2 Okay for daughters, but not sons, as far as I am concerned. Still, girls DO naturally tend to be drawn to more feminine things, and boys to more physical things. You see that even in babies. But females HAVE excelled at things that they generally aren't pushed to, and some males have excelled at things that, at least in my generation, weren't seen as so masculine. Take cooking, for example. Outside of camping, roughing it, and barbque, bachelors, and the galloping gourmet, Graham Kerr - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia I never saw a man cook, yet even THEN there were a lot of male cooks. And today maybe 60% of the cooks, on TV, are MALE!
#3 is true of daughters AND sons!
#4 Hopefully, this is how MOST are today! Even in Leave it to beaver, the couples showed respect for one another.
#5 That is a generalization. I think all should know that there is a time to play even when you have no hand!
#6 Doesn't this kind of come with everything else?
#7 Watch for the contradiction here! Of course this should be true for daughters AND sons!
#8 Watch for the twist! But this should be true for daughters AND sons!
#9 Should be true for both.
#10 Again, doesn't this come with everything else?
#11 Doesn't every caring parent do so?
#12 Has any man truly told a female to stop acting feminine? Trust me, we appreciate it even if we don't understand it.
#13 So if a daughter asked you some question in a feminine way you should just insist she won't hear it from you? Some things may be answered in different ways, and may be appreciated better that way.
I think she is aluding to an idea about misogynistic things, etc... Hopefully not many daughters hear such things.
#14 OK, this kind of contradicts what was requested in #13! You can't have it both ways!
#15 WHY would ANYONE talk with either their son or daughter about such things with disgust?
#16 OK, this is similar to #15!
#17 Well, if I had a daughter, I would certainly bring up people like Margaret thatcher, Angela Merkel, and Marie Curie. ALL were strong women that changed the world for the better and took risks and, though their opposition may have hated them, they are respected to this day. And they are NOT respected because they are women, or were first, or because they were famous or powerful.
#18 AGAIN, isn't this generally done? Even on leave it to beaver.....
#19 OK, this contradicts #1, #7 and 14, as well as another! The child should APPRECIATE your having their back!
#20 Yeah, nobody that merely believes should even bother having kids! Support those that are oppressed, and expose the rest.
#21 If ONLY that were true. STILL, the above 20 points will effectively lead by example!
#22 It can get WORSE, and that is the reason for #19! The FLIP side of #19 is that you ARE there to support them!
#23 It IS implied by #19, and others.
#24 When deserved, CERTAINLY! If you congratulate a child for getting a 60% on a test, it can amount to an insult. The same is true ELSEWHERE!
#25 Again, kind of repeated elsewhere.

Outside of being a TAD too liberal, and talking about girls as if they should get more than boys do, it is generally good advice.

BTW I mention leave it to beaver simply because it is an old well known sitcom that tried to give a pretty fair glimpse at what life was like back then. Women were mostly left to the home to take care of domestic chores and the kids, and had their roles, but weren't demeaned by it. I don't think they ever said even one word against women on the show. GRANTED, there was eddie who was obnoxious, etc... and HE might have said some bad things but, if he did, he was ridiculed for it.

To give you a taste of what he was like, HERE it is!

http://youtu.be/TYcqPbpRX9I?t=14

Steve

A friend told me he heard someone say they set up an IRA fund when his daughters get married.

He said if things went bad that it was their I'm Running Away money.

I think that a daughter is best off thinking for herself and neither needing nor expecting perfection from her father. A good concept is, "If daddy can be full of it, so can any other man. Think for yourself. Be self-dependent." People become vulnerable to cults because of believing an authority figure is some kind of god.

I'm just finishing up my daughter's 3rd year in high school with her going without a boyfriend.

She told me that after witnessing all the trouble and heartbreak she's seen and heard of other female classmates going through, she understands our decision and its not a major problem for her.

One of my sisters had a daughter who's already done it and she turned out alright.

One more year to go.

My dad taught me survival skills. Changing tires and oil, how to find my way when lost, how to use a jackknife, build a fire, find food, etc. He taught me how to fight and watch my surroundings for danger. He taught me to shoot a gun.
He taught me to be physically fit and to face situations with reasoning. I've had daddy issues because he seemed to think I never did anything right and always harped on what I did. Yet - when I was stranded for 4 days and he was called and told I was missing in the Mts in winter - he wasn't worried. He just said to have me call him when I got back to town. He knew I could get there and would. So........

I don't think there's a perfect parent out there. We just have to be glad that there's so many that really and seriously try.

Be careful what you're modeling for your daughter.
Chances are, if you're not happy with your body or the way you look, your daughter will copy your actions. You are the most powerful role model in your child's life.