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Beating down your detractors

by barbling
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Earlier, I wrote about a MommyBlogger who dared shed the light on some of the not-too-good practices she saw in her industry.....

Shortly after she wrote that she deactivated her blog....

But today it's back up and she followed up with a doozy!

Women Who Deserve Sexism · Josi Denise

As a woman myself, I think she is sooo spot-on about the comments she shared including:

If I was a man, who wrote an honest, strongly opinionated critique of an industry in which he had years of experience, would any of these specific responses have been said as debate against the points he made?

If you are a woman reading this, and a man said any of these things to you, would it be worse than a woman saying them?

If these women pride themselves on being professional and positive, is their behavior justified in this specific case because they disagreed with my opinion? Why?

How can you expect the rest of society to take women seriously, to value the opinion of any woman, if our work can be so easily tossed out as lacking credibility because she is more easily assumed to be seeking attention, emotionally unstable, or hormonal?

When is it ok to say these things to a woman? What is the criteria that must be met in order for this type of behavior to be socially acceptable?

Which women deserve sexism then, if you can so easily choose to use it yourselves when convenient?


Personally, I think both genders get crucified online if they dare go against the Powers That Be.

But I will admit - standing up for your beliefs is a pretty gutsy thing to do.

What's your take?
#beating #detractors
  • Profile picture of the author zarrylopez
    Yeah, "standing up for your beliefs is a pretty gutsy thing to do." It's the bravest thing you will ever do.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sid Hale
    Hey Barb,

    I guess I should preface this with the following disclaimer...

    I do not read/follow/like any of the so-called "Mommy Blogs" (go figure), but the controversy generated by Josie peaked my interest.

    However, rather than the comments that were shared in her latest post, and the question of sexism - I found myself drawn to the post that actually created the controversy.

    Dear Mommy Blogger · Josi Denise

    I think it deserves a good read (maybe even a few times through) by anyone trying to use a blog to generate advertising revenue and/or affiliate sales.

    I think the best way to create long-term revenue from a blog is to develop a following... repeat visitors who may occasionally click on some piece of monetized "content". That means your "message" must be consistent and (IMHO) have a ring of truth - in other words, "followable". Of course that also means it must be readable, believable, interesting, sincere,... ad infinitum.

    She says it much better.

    Don't create a half-hearted post just to create the opportunity of promoting a particular product. Create the post first (at least in draft) - something that you have a real opinion about. Only then should you look for the proper ads/products to promote with that content. Readership and conversion will both benefit, greatly.
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    • Profile picture of the author barbling
      Originally Posted by Sid Hale View Post

      Hey Barb,

      I guess I should preface this with the following disclaimer...

      I do not read/follow/like any of the so-called "Mommy Blogs" (go figure), but the controversy generated by Josie peaked my interest.

      However, rather than the comments that were shared in her latest post, and the question of sexism - I found myself drawn to the post that actually created the controversy.

      Dear Mommy Blogger · Josi Denise

      I think it deserves a good read (maybe even a few times through) by anyone trying to use a blog to generate advertising revenue and/or affiliate sales.

      I think the best way to create long-term revenue from a blog is to develop a following... repeat visitors who may occasionally click on some piece of monetized "content". That means your "message" must be consistent and (IMHO) have a ring of truth - in other words, "followable". Of course that also means it must be readable, believable, interesting, sincere,... ad infinitum.

      She says it much better.

      Don't create a half-hearted post just to create the opportunity of promoting a particular product. Create the post first (at least in draft) - something that you have a real opinion about. Only then should you look for the proper ads/products to promote with that content. Readership and conversion will both benefit, greatly.
      Totally agree with you Sid. I had referenced that post yesterday, I believe, but I think said post got deleted.

      Powerful words.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jeff Burritt
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    Stick your neck out for anything and risk being a target. But it's a risk worth taking when you consider the rewards. Know your beliefs, know your subject, communicate with confidence and conviction, and you'll build an audience of fans and followers. Almost doesn't matter what the niche is. Ok, maybe not pet rocks, but any product, service, occupation, or hobby that other people are in to.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    Honestly, I think it's a pile of steaming....

    ....and I apply that to both articles.

    It's one thing to be honest and admit you lied on your blog - you exaggerated your life - you posted positive reviews about bad product to get sales. You did it - and if you want to be honest, own it. Or just walk away and stop doing it....

    It doesn't mean you are now the final word on bloggers - mommy or otherwise - or have the status to lecture other women on how to blog - and how to live - and what time to spend with their children. Maybe some of them had it right all along - and YOU were the odd woman out.

    The first article is a rant full of f-this and f-that (so impressive that mommies/women can spout that, too). The second is a "they were mean to me" - of justification.

    You don't want to lie on your blog - don't do it. You want to admit your own mistakes - do it. That doesn't give you a platform on high to lecture everyone else but seems to happen often online.
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