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I SUCK At Gifts And Romance! What Am I Going To Get My Wife For Christmas?!

by doylesoft
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I don't have any money. I have a J.O.B. a home, heat, and lights so I really can't complain but money is very tight right now and I did NOTHING to prepare for the holidays.

My wife has taken care of EVERYTHING and all that is left is to make sure she has a nice Christmas. I was informed by someone in the family that she has prepared a very nice gift for me. I'm just sick about the whole thing.

Am I screwed?

She likes her digital SLR and I am going to try to get her an accessory for it.

What else can I do? This happens to me every year. No wonder the Fourth of July is my favorite holiday.

Can you help a poor Joe who sucks at romance and lacks imagination?

Thanks in advance!
  • Profile picture of the author tjmiller
    My husband has had a few flashes of inspiration in our 20+ years of marriage. Not many, but a few.

    The gifts that have meant the most to me were the totally unexpected ones. The ones that proved to me that he had HEARD me when I mentioned something that I thought would be a great experience.

    Two that come to mind both happened when we were in Europe with the USAF.

    While we were in Germany, he surprised me with tickets for a castle tour for Valentines day.

    While we were in England, he bought us tickets for The Phantom of the Opera at Her Majesty's Theater in London.

    Those were both experiences I will never forget. Because he knew that it would be something that I loved, because he planned an outing for both of us based on my interests, and because it was a total surprise.

    Material gifts are fine, and honestly camera accessories would be on my wish list too. BUT, nothing can ever be as special as giving a memory.

    Good luck to you!

    P.S. The fact that you want to do something special makes me feel quite sure that you will find your romantic, imaginative side.
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  • Profile picture of the author TimPhelan
    Give her some great, quality loving. That doesn't cost a thing and is worth a lot.

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    Originally Posted by doylesoft View Post

    I don't have any money. I have a J.O.B. a home, heat, and lights so I really can't complain but money is very tight right now and I did NOTHING to prepare for the holidays.

    My wife has taken care of EVERYTHING and all that is left is to make sure she has a nice Christmas. I was informed by someone in the family that she has prepared a very nice gift for me. I'm just sick about the whole thing.

    Am I screwed?

    She likes her digital SLR and I am going to try to get her an accessory for it.

    What else can I do? This happens to me every year. No wonder the Fourth of July is my favorite holiday.

    Can you help a poor Joe who sucks at romance and lacks imagination?

    Thanks in advance!
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  • Profile picture of the author garyv
    You sound like my long lost twin. When me and my wife were dating, (I was working at TacoBell at the time). I waited so long to buy her a gift, that I ended up having to get her a CD player from a Truck Stop, because it was the only place open on Christmas eve after midnight. I then wrapped it in taco wrappers from TacoBell. I got lucky, my wife (girlfriend at the time) thought I was being creative.
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  • Profile picture of the author lharding
    Hey, buy her a handbag! She'll be shocked that you actually went into a shop and actually picked one. You can never go wrong with a handbag. If you can stretch to a designer one, then even better!
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    • Profile picture of the author Michael Motley
      Originally Posted by lharding View Post

      Hey, buy her a handbag! She'll be shocked that you actually went into a shop and actually picked one. You can never go wrong with a handbag. If you can stretch to a designer one, then even better!
      I dunno about this one. Trying to pick a gift for a female based on fashion is probably not a good idea. Yeah you can't go wrong with a handbag...if its the right one. If its not, you'll spend a lot of money on something that will go to the top of the closet and probably get regifted next year to your mom.

      Many times a great gift isn't necessarily something that fits under a tree. Is there some project she has been wanting to get done but hasnt had the time...living room needing painted or something like that? Probably can't go wrong with a spa day
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      • Profile picture of the author LynnM
        Make out a set of IOUs on nice cards - promising things like a massage; a day of relaxation where you do the chores; a romantic walk on the beach; time out from the kids; making her breakfast for a month; a night of passion...etc, etc. Things that don't cost money but make her feel valued.
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  • Profile picture of the author Chris Worner
    Give her 8 screaming full body orgasms, trust me

    She wont forget that
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  • Profile picture of the author tryinhere
    Is it your presence or your presents your wife would enjoy more ?

    Buy a good wine some fresh fruit cheese and cracker biscuits, some scented candles and just grab some us time, you pour the wine, let your wife do the talking and she will probably remember that for years,

    I think that covers the presence and romance in one as well.

    enjoy your Christmas
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  • Profile picture of the author DoubleYourWay
    Buy her a super powerful flashlight she can carry in her bag. It is useful and fun. My girl has a led lenser and she loves it.
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  • Profile picture of the author artwebster
    This year, for the first time, I was unable to feed my wife when she visited. She was very generous and fed the both of us and left me with enough food to get me through to Christmas.
    She has bought me a nice little present but is quite unconcerned about the fact that this year neither she nor the children or grandchildren will receive more than a text message from me for Christmas.
    In the new year I may well find myself not only blind but homeless but it doesn't matter. We have a relationship that goes beyond material things.
    Don't fret about returning a gift or even exchanging a gift. A gift is exactly what it claims to be - GIVEN. No gift implies the expectation of reciprocation - that is no gift at all but I am sure that your wife would appreciate a little unexpected help around the house. maybe an extra word of praise now and again but most of all I am sure she would not want to feel that having made her own gift to you has made you feel somehow indebted. Of all the people around you, she probably knows you the best - give her credit for that.
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  • Profile picture of the author John M Kane
    How about what NOT to get?

    Vaccums(cleaners)
    Tools(house repair type)or any other powered appliances that would eliminate the need for your company
    Naire for Womens Backs
    Lifetime memberships at Louie's Drive Through Lip-suction
    $5 Walmart Gift Card
    Mustache/nose/ear hair trimmer
    New Toilet seat
    Bathrobes by Golda Meir
    Anything that inflates,needs lubrication or heating up before using from the Single Persons store.
    Gift Card from Omar the Tent Maker
    Cheese logs,fruit cakes,chewing tabacky
    Industrial Mouth washes,tooth pastes,high test deodorants
    ANY clothes, unless you like to do returns
    here's more NOT TO buys What NOT to Buy Your Girlfriend for Christmas | Cool Material
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  • Profile picture of the author I.M.Retired
    Give her a nice book of cashable tickets, (drawn, designed and printed by your self, of course) for ....um, er, well.....you know!!! Let her cash them when she wants - if you're up to it, that is!
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    • Profile picture of the author Nick Barton
      If she is keen on photography, find one of her best shots and frame it. You can make a photo frame very easily and it shows that you are thinking of her. That counts more than anything money can buy.

      Carve her an ornament, anything that shows you have put in time and thought will score you brownie points.
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