Any Tips On Keeping It Fresh With Your Mate???

quickies

unplanned 'sessions'

semi-public 'sessions'

toys

take her for a walk in the park and unexpectedly cave man her in an isolated spot

Just wondering, is your wife in on this strategy? Could be risky if she isn't.

I have been married 30 years. The only advice I can give to you after all these years is to just get fresh with her and always have a big tip to back it up.

I think that your idea for periodic abstinence is a pretty good start - everyone knows that great sex starts in the mind and being around each other knowing that nothing will follow from it really does wonders now and again to rekindle the friendship.

But - during this time, hire someone for a few hours twice a week for a few weeks to clean the house. One of the major reasons women seem so bored with the love life is that they are just plain tired. Many work out of the house, raising kids takes energy - then so does cooking and cleaning. The more that can be done for her on your "vacation" the more she'll have time to regenerate and primp a bit.

Then end your "vacation" with a night out of hot, passionate, furious dancing. There's nothing like moving together on a dance floor to bring out the feral instincts.

Of course you can go dancing any time, but after a week of rest and platonic togetherness, dancing is the best way to kindle an uncontrolled and passionate explosion.

So, the drive is all sexually oriented is it?

Damn! I knew I was doing something wrong!

All these years of sharing my life, my failures, my successes, her life, her failures, her successes - all this 'relating' when all I had to do really was to try to withhold services for a few days and be satisfied with the odd sexual encounter every now and again.

Sod that for a game of Ludo!

I'd much rather get it wrong and bonk our brains out whenever the fancy takes one of us.

This is all great advice.


Now let me give you one NOT to do. A couple of years ago, I got the idea that it might be fun to cover the bed in a sheet of plastic, and then cover each other in baby oil. It sounded good to begin with. And it was good to begin with. But now imagine the end scene, where both of us are nearly suffocating, and struggling fiercely to unwrap this sheet of plastic that has managed to stick to our bodies. It would have made a great video.... for America's Funniest Porns.

HeySal makes a good point. If you want to keep the bedroom fun, then you have to start with her head before moving to her body. Most of the time, the buildup is as much fun as the act.

leave her notes. In her purse, underwear drawer, maybe in her car. Could be anything from just a simple 'thinking of you' to 'wanna get nekid?' (note: nekid, not naked, sounds more scandalous ). Flowers at work usually win big points too or a flower/teddy bear kind of thing (ithe more it will make her female friends at work go 'awwwww' and be jealous, you win). Along the same line, juicy text messages can get the interest piqued.

A favorite of mine is bubble baths. Not many women will turn down a steaming hot scented bubble bath. Hell even I wont turn one down! There are major points to be scored if you have dinner prepared one night, followed by a steaming, candle lit bubble bath drawn for your other half when they come home and then take over the loofah/hair shampoo duties and finish with a good lotioning.

Follow this up with a full body massage (paying extra attention to hands/calves/feet and you're good to go.