Finding it really difficult to work!

I was sort of in the same position as you were when I started my eBay business. The only thing you can do is make yourself Not available. Go to the Library, a cafe with free wifi, outside a hotel room with free wifi, even McDonalds offers free internet in some places now. Just as if you were to go to a 9-5 job, you wouldn't be able to run home and watch the kid while she takes a 20 minute shower.

It is all just fun and games until income is seen, then its a job. When I was first starting off I was in school full time to finish up my degree, and running my eBay business (now I work full time, and run my eBay business full time) I made little to no money because I didnt have good contacts. Because of this, my girlfriend was more inclined to not take me seriously, or take my time seriously so asking me to do simple chores like run her and her child to the store to get some bread didn't seem so bad.

The truth is, you aren't the bread winner, her parents are. You also probably can't afford an office, nor is one necessary for you. Understand that even with your efforts to be successful in IM, 99% completely fail. Also, you are in a poor situation that I once remember, how do you invest in what your doing if you have nothing to invest?

Sit down and explain to her everything you are doing, in full detail, even if she doesn't understand it. Also explain why you don't have an income at the moment, and your attempts to create one. This will hopefully educate her why you need your own space for a certain amount of time a day.

Im dating a chick with a kid, and our age is probably similar. Logically it doesn't make sense why you date someone with a kid.

1. this was your choice. The only one to blame is you.
2. You're not the breadwinner if you have no income coming in.
3. If you came this far, this woman thinks you're going to help raise this kid.
4. Getting hooked up with a single mom while you're in college is beyond stupid.


My grandfather gave me the greatest piece of wisdom when it comes to women that you should always think about when planning a big change like this thats centered around a woman:
"No matter how pretty, smart, funny, mysterious, sexy she is, somewhere there is a guy that's tired of putting up with her sh*t"

Now you're that guy.

Never base your life around a female unless you are married to her, and even then, be your own man.

Now either man up and lay down the law as the man of the house she wants you to be, or pack your stuff and go back to uni where you should have stayed.

You'll have to look very honestly at everything, and don't bs your self or
anyone else. The situation is complicated and compounded because your
emotions/feelings for her are involved. Keep that in mind.

I would suggest you look at the cold hard facts about it.

You'll be expected to fulfill responsibilities as either a father figure or
certainly something along that line. In some ways it won't matter how
you feel about it. I know it does matter. But others will be looking at you
and perhaps thinking differently. So there will be increasing attitudes and
pressures placed upon you along those lines.

That is something you will either have to accept, or not. I doubt your
situation will become less complicated.

The very best thing to do, in my opinion, is to make a decision about what you
want and do not want. I understand we all do things without fully thinking out
the possibilities. However, you were aware of the child going into it. So now
reality is setting in.

If you honestly feel you don't want a relationship, with that much responsibility,
then you'll need to do something about it.

I understand you don't want to move back home, and you'll feel like you're
starting over. There are worse things that can happen. When you really think
about it, you are not the same person and in that respect will not be starting
over. But I do understand your point and feeling.

Sometimes situations necessitate doing something that feels like starting over.
I wouldn't make that particular decision, moving home, with the deciding factor
being the feeling of starting over. Make it logically and from the perspective of
being the best alternative in "an overall plan" you have formulated.

Make a plan, figure out the best way to implement it, then work to put it into
action one step at a time.

I won't tell you what to do. You created your situation, and you need to be
the one to decide what to do.

I would suggest avoiding that kind of thinking. That implies you have no control. In
some respects you do not because you are dependent on her parents for room, board,
food, everything.

Probably one of the most important things to do would be to communicate in a
mature and intelligent manner with as little emotional component as possible. Be clear
and honest about it.

If you decide to stay there, then you should probably assert your self about things
you feel are important. But realize you're not in the strongest negotiating position
only because others have more leverage in the present state of affairs.

Or, you can decide it's not for you and need to leave.

Also consider the realities of achieving a full-time income through IM. Consider the
amount of time it may require. You would be foolish, in my opinion, to refuse to do
that.

So... look at everything in an objective manner, make your decisions, implement
them decisively. Sounds a lot like what business people do and it is.

Good luck to you.

First thing first, you need to communicate with her! No relationship will ever work unless you both site down and be open to each other, most of all you need to tell her how your feeling .Trust me in the long run you both will look back and see how much you both have grown and how it has helped you both! You're in a time were I believe that your energy is not balance. (Feeling confused and anxious)
Remember every relationship is a beautiful and the only way a relationship last is if you are growing together on the same path. No relationship is perfect out there in the world unless you work to words it. Right now you are in a time of your life were you are moving forward but I feel that you can't see this for yourself as your energy is un balance. So take a step back and do this, write out a weekly time table and then stick to it, tell your miss's that your working and wreath that will be working from home or the office tell her up straight that you can't help her until working time is over! If she needs someone to watch that baby tell her to send the 2 year to a nursery to the child is interacting with other children even if that is part time and will also give your girlfriend time to spend time to self. And that leaves you with peace
If you're not yet making any money then I think it not a good idea in renting out an office as this will just put you in more Det. If you want a change in your work area I surges that you convert one of the rooms into an office go and this will help you move even more forward into your life and bring a new and high vibration in your energy.

I don't think the situation is that complicated, I understand she annoys you with her silly demands, but I think you should tell her that you need to talk to her, don't do it in the house just set a date and leave the child with her parents go out and try to explain to her how you feel. Be honest with her and tell her everything she does that bother you and be clear too. Also explain to her your work and how it is hard to do and how you need to focus on it to get some cash, tell her that you need her support, just be straight forward and still nice at the same time. And if promises to give you what you want then wait for a month or two see what she will do, if she improves I guess it will be good for you If you really have feelings for her, but if she doesn't then talk to her again and tell her that she is not giving you what you need, and that would be her last chance, but this time give her only 2 weeks and in the mean time make a back up plan of where you will live if you broke up with her, if it works then like I said before it is good for you, but if it didn't then you have your way out. I know that many can disagree with what I am saying but I always think you should give people more than one chance specially if you care about them, plus she seems not that mature and it also must be hard on her too to raise a child.
I hope this could help and good luck with either decision you are going to take