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Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7, 2008. She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond, her son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby.

She is survived by her daughters Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy; grandchildren, Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette, Tania, Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny, Javier, Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren, Brendan, Joseph, Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna, Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr., Andrea, Keith, Saeed, Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci, Isabella, Samantha and Emily. I apologize if I missed anyone.

Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing.

Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself. As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again.

There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.
  • Profile picture of the author bendiggs
    Holy cow that woman must have been one heck of a fine example of a human being to get such love and accolades in death. I ca not even begin to imagine the kind of life she must have had to have her own children write an obituary like that.
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    • Profile picture of the author JWB
      I think in a way. that every person's mom has a little Dolores in them....
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    • Profile picture of the author hugofortin
      Originally Posted by bendiggs View Post

      Holy cow that woman must have been one heck of a fine example of a human being to get such love and accolades in death. I ca not even begin to imagine the kind of life she must have had to have her own children write an obituary like that.
      Hi,

      Lol. verry funny espacecadet.

      Yes, very sad that people think to write such awful things about their mom.

      I hope that you don't have a mom like Dolores and your mother doesn't have children like the one as Dolores . lol

      Have a nice day or evening.

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  • Profile picture of the author Thomas
    Yikes... I thought that might have been one of those silly things that gets e-mailed about but was just made-up on a whim but even Snopes says it's true.

    Apparently, the newspaper took the unusual step of checking the woman's death certificate to make sure it wasn't a hoax before publishing it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Thomas Wilkinson
    How sad. I hope all those listed can heal and
    find some peace.

    T.W.
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  • Profile picture of the author Patrician
    First of all she had 9 children. I am sure she was stressed and probably should have been neutered when she realized she didn't like it.

    Second people have to earn respect. Just getting pregnant and taking responsibility doesn't make you a saint above reproach or anything.

    Having a cruel mother is one of the worst things for a child because children look at their parents like they are God. They are totally dependent on them.

    If your parent, the one who is supposed to love you more than anyone else, is hateful, then you go through life assuming everyone will hate you and there is something very wrong with you. Then you project that and people do think that as a result.

    Not to mention the worst part that if you had a parent like this and you don't realize it, you will hurt your own children the same way - role models you know...

    Maybe this was even her problem.

    If it was one ungrateful brat then they are possibly a malcontent, or had a personality clash, but when the entire family feels the same way it is time to get a clue.

    Glad for the majority having mother's that were capable of being loving. You were blessed.

    ...and I am glad these kids got a chance to say what they really felt. That's the least they can have now.

    Unfortunately they say the mourning is actually worse for people that had unresolved issues than it is for someone who had a loving, appropriate relationship with happy memories.
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  • Profile picture of the author Suthan M
    Wait, now this is for real? There is an actual obituary that went out like this.. Yikes !
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    • Profile picture of the author HeySal
      Apparently it's real, Suthan. People who think that their children will honor them as parents when they are adults after being abused by them as children just have no sense of reality.

      My mother was a saint. We could barely fit the people into the funeral parlor when she died. She was friendly, intelligent, and just one hell of a good time to know as well as a devoted and loving wife and mother. She died 23 years ago and I still think about her at least once every single day, and it always makes me smile - and then I feel extremely fortunate.
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  • Profile picture of the author Thomas Wilkinson
    True Story; Forty years ago when my Father died, at his request,
    my Mother buried him with a carton of cigarettes and a fifth of Smirnoffs
    vodka. Months later she called me all upset that she had forgotten to
    fill his zippo lighter and put it in his inside pocket. I told her it was OK
    because where he was going finding a light wasn't going to present
    much of a problem. Moral, not all families are Ozzie and Harriet.

    T.W.
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