I. Hate. Potty. Training.

by ShayB
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OMG! This is kid #4. You would think I would have this cr*p down by now, but noooooooooooooooooooooooo.....

Potty training has NOTHING to do with parental skill. It is totally up to kids as to when, where and how they will pee, poop, or otherwise release bodily fluids.

I would rather eat a bug than potty train a kid. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH!!!

He is pretty much trained, but he keeps having accidents. Not because he doesn't get the whole potty concept, but because he is so ^%$#^&*^%^ stubborn.

I need a drink.

Okay, I don't drink.....but this might make me start.

Thanks for letting me vent. I might keep my sanity now.
  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    When you enter a battle of wills with a toddler - you're going to lose. It's one of nature's laws.

    He has accidents because he's a kid and because he doesn't want to interrupt the fascinating play he's in to hit the pot. How much attention does he get (including negative) when he "messes up"?

    If you are certain there is no physical reason for the accidents, make him deal with it himself. I did that with one of mine years ago (it was advice from a woman who had "been there, done that").

    No fuss from mom after an accident, just the comment that you know he's uncomfortable because he forgot to use the potty like a big boy - then send him to his room to change his own clothes and clean his own mess. No attention (praise or lecture) after he cleans up - as it was a natural consequence of his own action.

    I was ready to try anything - and blew me away when the third accident my stubborn son had after I started making him responsible (and ignored him after he did it) was the last one he ever had. The first time I made him handle it the "I can't get these pants off", tears and self pity were hard to ignore. He was told to change whenever he wanted to - but he had to stay in his room until it was done. (The first time, as I recall, took over an hour of crying for help, playing in his room (in his messy pants) and finally giving up and doing what had to be done.)

    It's worth a shot. This is one of those things you DON"T miss when it's over.

    Simple fact is that we don't see kids wearing diapers start kindergarten - he WILL eventually do what he needs to do.

    EDIT: It's often the youngest that is most stubborn - hve always wondered why that is.

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    • Profile picture of the author ShayB
      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      EDIT: It's often the youngest that is most stubborn - hve always wondered why that is.

      kay
      It's the youngest so God lets me know I don't want any more.....LOL

      I am counting the days until the kids are out of the house....

      I know he will get it eventually.....I just am having one of those days, KWIM? :rolleyes:
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      • Profile picture of the author KimW
        Originally Posted by Shay60654 View Post

        It's the youngest so God lets me know I don't want any more.....LOL

        I am counting the days until the kids are out of the house....
        My youngest is 20 and just moved back in. Let me warn you, they never eally move out!
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        Originally Posted by Wild Boom View Post

        Thank god for abortion,,



        oops forgot yo yankees dont allow for that.


        I saw an documentary about Hitler last month, he actually was as-sexual because of his
        strict terms around crap when he was a kid.

        I wouldnt make it such a big disaster, unless you want kids who never want to have sex
        when they are adults.
        Lovely.

        Yeah, I'll try not to permanently warp him, okay? Happy?
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      Originally Posted by espacecadet View Post

      Oh, but it's so much fun making them! (Thank God for birth control!)
      LOL

      Yeah, no more for us! Snip, snip!

      I am done in the babymaking department.....
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  • Profile picture of the author thatgirlJ
    Shay,

    I have a 14 month old little guy...we're not to that stage yet, but I'm worried! My father said I was trained at 18 months - I hope my toddler is as easy as I was
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      Originally Posted by Jenn Dize View Post

      Shay,

      I have a 14 month old little guy...we're not to that stage yet, but I'm worried! My father said I was trained at 18 months - I hope my toddler is as easy as I was
      My youngest daughter (Kid #3) trained in a weekend. No problem.

      I was really applauding my superior parenting skills on that one....

      Boy, karma really gets ya in the butt, huh? Gotta keep yourself humble....

      Good luck!
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    Im 4 months pregnant with baby girl #1..... boy do I have alot to look forward to
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      My youngest is 20 and just moved back in. Let me warn you, they never eally move out!
      He is potty-trained, though, isn't he?

      All the experts seem to agree that boys are harder to potty train - and do it later - than girls. Mother Nature giving females our first clue?:p

      If anyone tells you a kid was trained at 18 months - what they are telling you is that the parents were trained to recognize the "signals" and rush the kid to the potty chair. Hindsight is a wonderful thing....
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      • Profile picture of the author ShayB
        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        He is potty-trained, though, isn't he?

        All the experts seem to agree that boys are harder to potty train - and do it later - than girls. Mother Nature giving females our first clue?:p

        If anyone tells you a kid was trained at 18 months - what they are telling you is that the parents were trained to recognize the "signals" and rush the kid to the potty chair. Hindsight is a wonderful thing....
        Yeah. When I worked in daycare (years ago), we had parents who would swear a kid was potty trained. Nope. The parents were trained, not little Johhny!

        But try to explain that to the parents.....
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        • Profile picture of the author ShayB
          Today was much better. No accidents. He was fine.

          Mommy was having a better day, too. That had a lot to do with it.
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        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        He is potty-trained, though, isn't he?

        All the experts seem to agree that boys are harder to potty train - and do it later - than girls. Mother Nature giving females our first clue?:p

        If anyone tells you a kid was trained at 18 months - what they are telling you is that the parents were trained to recognize the "signals" and rush the kid to the potty chair. Hindsight is a wonderful thing....
        I don't know Kay, all I ever had was girls. I got a mother, 4 sisters (2 that I actually claim),an ex wife, a wife, 3 daughters, a step daughter a granddaughter and another granddaughter on the way. ( for truth in advertising, I also had 2 brothers, one deceased from cancer last year,and a stepson)
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      Originally Posted by TashylaB View Post

      Im 4 months pregnant with baby girl #1..... boy do I have alot to look forward to
      Ooooooooohhhhh, yes!
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      Originally Posted by TashylaB View Post

      Im 4 months pregnant with baby girl #1..... boy do I have alot to look forward to
      You'll love it! Being a mom is the best Sure there are hard times, but it's so worth it.
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        Originally Posted by Jenn Dize View Post

        You'll love it! Being a mom is the best Sure there are hard times, but it's so worth it.
        This is true. There are headaches, but it is so worth it!
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        Originally Posted by Jenn Dize View Post

        You'll love it! Being a mom is the best Sure there are hard times, but it's so worth it.

        Yes it really is the best - for both mums and dads don't forget - you'll get there with the training - try not to stress out

        When my friend has had a bad day she puts all the clocks forward an hour to get the kids to bed early !!! Try it on the bad days!
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        • Profile picture of the author ShayB
          Originally Posted by jacstone193 View Post

          When my friend has had a bad day she puts all the clocks forward an hour to get the kids to bed early !!! Try it on the bad days!
          OMG! Bwahahahahahahahahaha! I am going to have to try that.
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    My aunts first were twin boys. She was just getting them to use the potty on their own. He was at our house and didn't put the lid up right and it came smacking down on his little pee-pee. LOL - he screamed like no tomorrow and cried and sniffled for the better part of an hour. Can't say I blamed him, it was sooooo swollen and bruised! It took her a whole half year longer to get him trained than the other one. She said he hated wet pants but would wet them or would actually hide and potty somewhere else to not have to go back to the big white monster that bites. She'd find little wet spots in closets, etc. What a headache. LOL.
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    • Profile picture of the author ShayB
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      My aunts first were twin boys. She was just getting them to use the potty on their own. He was at our house and didn't put the lid up right and it came smacking down on his little pee-pee. LOL - he screamed like no tomorrow and cried and sniffled for the better part of an hour. Can't say I blamed him, it was sooooo swollen and bruised! It took her a whole half year longer to get him trained than the other one. She said he hated wet pants but would wet them or would actually hide and potty somewhere else to not have to go back to the big white monster that bites. She'd find little wet spots in closets, etc. What a headache. LOL.
      Ouch!

      That happened with a friend's son. He didn't go near the potty for a while, either.
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      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      My aunts first were twin boys. She was just getting them to use the potty on their own. He was at our house and didn't put the lid up right and it came smacking down on his little pee-pee. LOL - he screamed like no tomorrow and cried and sniffled for the better part of an hour. Can't say I blamed him, it was sooooo swollen and bruised! It took her a whole half year longer to get him trained than the other one. She said he hated wet pants but would wet them or would actually hide and potty somewhere else to not have to go back to the big white monster that bites. She'd find little wet spots in closets, etc. What a headache. LOL.
      My second son just pulled off the diaper and would pee on the floor!
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  • Profile picture of the author ecoverartist
    I don't have any kids, but I have a friend who swears that if you toss some cheerios in the toilet and tell the little guy to aim for them, potty training is a piece of cake.
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      Originally Posted by ecoverartist View Post

      I don't have any kids, but I have a friend who swears that if you toss some cheerios in the toilet and tell the little guy to aim for them, potty training is a piece of cake.

      Not to be too icky....but #1 isn't the issue, if you know what I mean. :rolleyes:

      He will pee in the potty all day long....but #2....well.....
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    • Profile picture of the author ShayB
      Originally Posted by OMC View Post

      wish me luck shay, i'm on #1 myself, and he's only 4 weeks old!
      Good luck! May the Force be with you!
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    LOL. Well, I am not a father as of yet but I can fathom how arduous it must be to try to train your child when he or she is still unable to follow simple commands, lessons, and whatnot. I'm sure that he will eventually follow the routine of going to the toilet whenever he needs to release bodily fluids, so I would not get too perturbed if I were you.
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    If my memory serves me right. There is a product out there called toilet target for toddlers. It's been awhile. Not sure. You get rewards for #1 and bonus points for #2. I'm laughing as I conger up this narrative.
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  • Profile picture of the author Frank Ayres
    I have a 3 year old and apart from the odd accidents he is fine with Wee, but the trouble we are having getting him not to do poo's in his pants.

    It is very frustrating, i spend all my time asking him if he wants to go to the toilet and yet he still has accidents.
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