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What does it mean to you to allow another person to fully love you?

by andrew_writes
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"What does it mean to you to allow another person to fully love you? "

Do you think this means to give your all to that person or to only show your best or possibly some mixture of the two?
  • Profile picture of the author Lawrh
    Your subject line suggests a master granting a favor. Arrogance at that level never involves love, just obedience.

    Instead ask "What does it mean to allow yourself to fully love another person?"
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    • Profile picture of the author andrew_writes
      Originally Posted by Lawrh View Post

      Your subject line suggests a master granting a favor. Arrogance at that level never involves love, just obedience.

      Instead ask "What does it mean to allow yourself to fully love another person?"
      That is one outlook.

      Another would be that a person is insecure and does not know how to let go enough for any one person to be able to love them fully.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Originally Posted by andrew_writes View Post

    "What does it mean to you to allow another person to fully love you? "

    Do you think this means to give your all to that person or to only show your best or possibly some mixture of the two?

    If you only show your best, there is no way for them to know who you are - they are then loving an idea of you rather than you.

    If you have to give all of you - you are not loved, you are possessed.

    To allow someone to love you fully, be their companion and walk beside them on the road - if the road narrows sometimes you should take the lead, sometimes follow. Be a friend, be happy for them when they achieve, be sad with them when they grieve. Let them confide in you what they do not want the world to know and trust them with your confidences. Remember that differences of opinion are not betrayal and be open to trying to understand their perspective and compromise when possible, agree to dis-agree when necessary, but do not withhold your warmth and friendship because of a difference.

    But above all respect them for their feelings for you because you are worthy.

    It's really all that simple.
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    • Profile picture of the author andrew_writes
      Many things in life are simple and children see this easily but adults, many times, do not. If only to see with the eyes of a child...
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      • Profile picture of the author Gemini9
        ... and to love and accept love as a child - unconditionally. I believe that is basis of true love.

        Then the rest of it (giving, showing your best, etc) naturally follows suit.
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