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Brandon Sheley

14 years ago

so sad, so young
RIP Corey

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Kurt

14 years ago

I didn't know him, but sad that he felt this was the only way out. I hope he can find the peace he's looking for...

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Caleb Spilchen 14 years ago

Originally Posted by Brandon Sheley

so sad, so young
RIP Corey

I know.

Originally Posted by Kurt

I didn't know him, but sad that he felt this was the only way out. I hope he can find the peace he's looking for...

I just can't believe this was his way out..
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- TimPhelan 14 years ago
  
  Very sad. It's a tough age for many people. They don't realize things can get better.
  
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  Caleb Spilchen 14 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by TimPhelan
  
  Very sad. It's a tough age for many people. They don't realize things can get better.
  
  I wish he would have known. I checked vB.org and he helped people up to his final hour.
  
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HeySal

14 years ago

Sometimes it's hard to recognize the signs.....and that's in person. It's almost impossible to tell on cyberspace.

All we can do sometimes is remind everyone out there -- Suicide is forever and most of the problems that seem insurmountable today are the ones that you look back on later and find that going through them and conquering them made you a better and happier person.

Don't give up. Don't give in. Get your butt in here and talk to us.......we will listen and we do care, no matter how cold and cynical we might seem sometimes. We will be here. That's what Warriors are.

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ConcordeWarrior

14 years ago

Originally Posted by HeySal

Sometimes it's hard to recognize the signs.....and that's in person. It's almost impossible to tell on cyberspace.

All we can do sometimes is remind everyone out there -- Suicide is forever and most of the problems that seem insurmountable today are the ones that you look back on later and find that going through them and conquering them made you a better and happier person.

Don't give up. Don't give in. Get your butt in here and talk to us.......we will listen and we do care, no matter how cold and cynical we might seem sometimes. We will be here. That's what Warriors are.

Some wise words here.

RIP ChopSuey. You were much too young to die.

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Banned 14 years ago

Originally Posted by HeySal

Sometimes it's hard to recognize the signs.....and that's in person. It's almost impossible to tell on cyberspace.

All we can do sometimes is remind everyone out there -- Suicide is forever and most of the problems that seem insurmountable today are the ones that you look back on later and find that going through them and conquering them made you a better and happier person.

Don't give up. Don't give in. Get your butt in here and talk to us.......we will listen and we do care, no matter how cold and cynical we might seem sometimes. We will be here. That's what Warriors are.

So true, It's very sad to see someone resort to suicide and it' hits close when the person is a member of WF.

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Alan Petersen 14 years ago

Very sad. I checked his posts here and he seemed very helpful. Too bad he couldn't get the help he needed.

How horrible for his family and friends to be dealing with something so tragic.
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Patrician

14 years ago

Horrible tragedy. I'm speechless.

Rest In PEACE, Poor Baby Corey.

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Laura B

14 years ago

It's a kick in the gut whenever I hear of a young person doing this. So tragic.

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Jacqueline Smith

14 years ago

What tragic news! That poor young man feeling this was the answer for him. I didn't know him, but I have a son his age, and cried when I read this post.

May he rest in peace. My thoughts will be with his family and friends.

Thanks for bringing this to our attention Caleb.

PLEASE.....if anyone is feeling this way, reach out to someone, anyone. PM me, I'll help you through that moment and help you find a way to start over.......it can be done.

ONE MORE PLEASE.....hug your child tight today....even if they're a teenager and possibly aren't interested.....find a way to sneak one in!

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Caleb Spilchen

14 years ago

Corey and I had our problems, and I know he had problems on many other forums. I wish he would have found a forum, or somewhere where people would have shown him he cared. I looked through one forum, and he spent his last hours helping people fix vBulletin issues, I don't get how it went from this to this.

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jazbo

14 years ago

What a waste of a young life.

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Caleb Spilchen

14 years ago

I remember a little while back, him saying hi, and me asking him about the nulled site that he ran.. and why he was doing it. Then he ignored me and went away. I wish we would have talked, maybe I could have been the one to change him.

He was great at vBulletin, I wish.. I wish he would have seen that we valued him.

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Kay King

14 years ago

Caleb -

Don't take on guilt for this - I've seen that happen in my own family with suicide of a friend of my sons. But you can't solve the emotional problems of someone else - and you can't take on the guilt either.

This was a young man (17) who was helpful to many but also apparently had emotional or personality traits that caused him to be banned several places online.

You don't know the family situation or other pressures he was under. If someone doesn't reach out for help - you can't help them. Don't convince yourself that you could have changed this outcome - you couldn't.

I don't agree with Sal that this is the place for someone that troubled to come. Strangers giving advice aren't of much use and writing out the angst for someone so troubled isn't always cathartic but may reinforce the problem. One person posting with a lack of empathy could tip the balance and forums aren't the place to bring heavy emotional baggage.

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Caleb Spilchen

14 years ago

Originally Posted by Kay King

Caleb -

Don't take on guilt for this - I've seen that happen in my own family with suicide of a friend of my sons. But you can't solve the emotional problems of someone else - and you can't take on the guilt either.

This was a young man (17) who was helpful to many but also apparently had emotional or personality traits that caused him to be banned several places online.

You don't know the family situation or other pressures he was under. If someone doesn't reach out for help - you can't help them. Don't convince yourself that you could have changed this outcome - you couldn't.

I don't agree with Sal that this is the place for someone that troubled to come. Strangers giving advice aren't of much use and writing out the angst for someone so troubled isn't always cathartic but may reinforce the problem. One person posting with a lack of empathy could tip the balance and forums aren't the place to bring heavy emotional baggage.

kay

I understand it wasn't just me, I just wish I could have reached out and said something to change his life,a nd help him.

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Karen Blundell

14 years ago

Originally Posted by Kay King

Strangers giving advice aren't of much use and writing out the angst for someone so troubled isn't always cathartic but may reinforce the problem. One person posting with a lack of empathy could tip the balance and forums aren't the place to bring heavy emotional baggage.

kay

I have to reluctantly agree with Kay, only because not everyone cares, not everyone wants to care, and not everyone has your best interests at heart.
I can only imagine what Corey's family is going through right now. My heart goes out to them.

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Caleb Spilchen

14 years ago

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Caleb Spilchen

14 years ago

@Alan

He was like that on vB.org as well, in his last minutes, he helped a couple people troubleshoot vB problems.

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HeySal

14 years ago

Kay - Karen....no of course someone is not going to post about feeling maybe they are suicidal -

I've been pm'd before(although not from this forum) and talked to the person on the phone for awhile. Sometimes it's easier for someone to talk to someone they only know from online - more anonymous that way.

It would most likely not be taken as a joke by any of the warriors to have a person on the forum pm them and tell them they are having desperate feelings. And it doesn't take a degree in psych to listen - or just to let them know that people care, and that someone they love will have their lives altered in terrible ways forever if they die like that. Sometimes just some communication at the right time will save someone. Other times even if someone is reaching out you'd never know it. But if someone reaches - we should not be afraid to extend a hand to them. We might not make a difference at all - we might make the difference of a life. You just never know. The human mind is a very bizarre place.

There were two suicides that I knew fairly well at U of M - both around finals time. Both I talked to the day they died - in person, face to face. I could have never told that there was anything wrong. I didn't see one damned clue. I didn't hear one thing unusual out of their mouths or see a glint of anything not right in their eyes. I wonder if the Internet had been around and they had been able to chat with someone a bit familiar yet far enough removed for some anonymity if it would have saved them.

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Epic Stephen

14 years ago

I didn't knew him, but this is Sad. RIP Corey

. At least i hope you will find your answers to all your problems up there...

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Caleb Spilchen

14 years ago

@HeySal

He never expressed what was going on that day. 2 minutes before he was troubleshooting people's vBulletin Problems then wham he was gone.

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HeySal 14 years ago

Originally Posted by Caleb Spilchen

@HeySal

He never expressed what was going on that day. 2 minutes before he was troubleshooting people's vBulletin Problems then wham he was gone.

Spooky, isn't it. My friends and I sat around for hours drinking coffee and trying to think of ANY hints that Brian (suicide at U of M) had given. Not one of us could think of even one.

Makes ya wonder if sometimes suicide is just a spontaneous action that wouldn't have happened if the person was stopped at that very moment.

Like I said - the human mind is really bizarre. There's just never any way to know what will trigger it to break.
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Caiden

14 years ago

Very very sad!

People with those kinds of issues become very adapt at hiding the pain that they are going through. It's very common for family and friends to be none the wiser until it's too late.

RIP Corey

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Alan Petersen 14 years ago

His MySpace/Tweets are heart-breaking. Especially his final message:

Corey Akerelrea (CoreyAkerelrea) on Twitter

A week before committing suicide he hinted about it on Twitter:

Put me between a bullet and a target. Won't be long until i put myself away.

This is going to change how I see comments on Twitter, forums, etc. There are no such things as innocent comments. Better to error on the side of caution.
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jorgemarget

14 years ago

Corey and I had our problems, and I know he had problems on many other forums. I wish he would have found a forum, or somewhere where people would have shown him he cared. I looked through one forum, and he spent his last hours helping people fix vBulletin issues, I don't get how it went from this to this.

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