Is Your Family Against You & I.M. - Well Great, Here's Why!?

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Comon, lets be honest here.....I bet you know exactly what I am talking about! right?

Your friends snigger at you, your family tells you right to your face to get a job, they say you are wasting your time. Some days, you almost hear them talking about you behind your back, even when they are not around!.

WELL I SAY GOOD!

I found it tough in the early days to take action. When you come to places like this procrastination is a big killer. In fact, it is safe to say that procrastination is probably even killing big IM careers before they even start.

Anyway....i say that this is a good thing, because I went through this many years ago. I felt worthless, and it seemed that every time I went to visit my family it just really got me down, and I felt worthless.

But I used it as a two edged sword against my family. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I loved the fact they did not support me and my love for IM. You know the feeling dont you? yes I bet!!!!

The more they said to get a real job, the more determined I got, and use to go running off to my computer, set up ads, drove traffic, built my list. I was so flustered with what my old man said to me one day I stayed up for 48 hours straight. LOL. yes! I was pretty pissed that day!! LOL. I soon realized that it was not out of frustration, I was using the built up anger to TAKE ACTION on all my projects I had going.

Then I found I had the small successes and they soon turned into bigger successes. I did not tell my family, and still I used what they kept saying against them. It was not about the money, it was about showing them up and teaching them that I could become good at this whole online business stuff. It only drove me harder, further into the stratosphere!!!!

It sure makes it all the sweeter now when they come to my house and see what I have done, and built, without their support. And the victory is so much sweeter. I pretty much cut all the people out of my life that did not see my visions, and just kept working like a dog until the point of small successes turning into bigger ones.

Anyway I thought this would help those in this situation. I wish someone would have told me this when I was stuck in this grey area and seeing some small results but not the big ones. This is a dangerous level in IM, and you can taste it. But you have to keep driving forward.

So if your family is against you. Good!!! its gunna make you take big action and BIG BIG actions....mean BIG BIG results. I say whatever they say to you, get angry, and use it as a driver to become even more successful than everyone in your entire family put together.

Your BIG success is just around the corner. Good luck!!
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  • Profile picture of the author entrepreneurjay
    Good story, and your right they will be the ones working at some job that they cannot stand while you will be the one raking in the dough on autopilot. And they will be the same ones asking you to teach them how to do this after they tried to downplay your dreams and make you feel worthless. Never listen to family members or anyone else for that matter follow your heart, and your gut instincts and make it work regardless of what it takes to succeed. Just do it!

    I love when people laugh at what they do not understand. It is that much sweeter to me when I can tell them I told you so. That is payback enough for me, or sweet revenge as I call it.
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  • Profile picture of the author jointaldc
    Belief in oneself is what matters at the end of the day, because that's what allows you to take action. So I never let someones words dictate what I did, though, I do agree that it drove me
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  • Profile picture of the author LetsGoViral
    Your family and friends will only be against IM if you aren't making money. As soon as you start bringing cash to the table, everyone starts encouraging you and cheering for you. That's how life works, in fact, it is good that people are skeptical. Too many MLM and "get rich quick schemes", I would find it unsettling if my family believed everything with no basis whatsoever.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sheryl Polomka
    Celente - thanks for this post I really needed to read this today. My husband, My Mum - yes pretty much all my friend and family think that I'm an idiot and just wasting my time. My husband and I have been going through a rough patch lately and a big cause of it is because he wants me to go and get a 'real' job.

    I have actually been trying to get a real job but that isn't all that easy these days either. When you haven't worked for 13 years they don't want to know about you!

    Anyway, thanks for the post - I have been putting in more effort recently and seeing the rewards of that effort. I will keep going and I WILL SUCCEED!

    I'll show them!
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    • Profile picture of the author celente
      Originally Posted by Sheryl Polomka View Post

      Celente - thanks for this post I really needed to read this today. My husband, My Mum - yes pretty much all my friend and family think that I'm an idiot and just wasting my time. My husband and I have been going through a rough patch lately and a big cause of it is because he wants me to go and get a 'real' job.

      I have actually been trying to get a real job but that isn't all that easy these days either. When you haven't worked for 13 years they don't want to know about you!

      Anyway, thanks for the post - I have been putting in more effort recently and seeing the rewards of that effort. I will keep going and I WILL SUCCEED!

      I'll show them!
      Hey sheryl,

      Thanks for your story.

      WOW! my partner and I were in the same boat. SO I hope this helped. Things were tense, but when I started showing clickbank checks to her, and other affiliate profits she sort of started to scratch here head LOL. My first launch was awesome and brought in insane profits....so much so,,, that I started annoying her and asking her to quit her job. She kept looking at me differently and we bonded even closer.

      Anyway, jokes aside I love this place, and there is so much support for you in here. It is like one big family you can come and get a FREE group hugs 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Do not fear, keep your chin up lass, and realize success is only a little while away.

      Good luck and god bless.
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  • Profile picture of the author Supernatural_fan
    yeah this is good advice; i had a part of my family telling me all the time to quit spending hours online to make money because this is too much of a demanding work; hurts my health and prevents me from socializing; but why would they nag me so much about it, just to make friends with irritating co-workers? i mean, c'mon! or the health issue, i wonder if it's healthier to sit at a desk in an office or to break a leg doing god knows what; i know how it is not to have support from people you love, yet my luck was that at least a part of the family shared my enthusiasm. I think that as long as you have a computer and an internet connection, you can do whatever you want; let them mumble all they want; it's your life, not theirs.
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    • Profile picture of the author Ross Kenny
      It does help motivate you
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    • Profile picture of the author Man Ray
      Originally Posted by Supernatural_fan View Post

      yeah this is good advice; i had a part of my family telling me all the time to quit spending hours online to make money because this is too much of a demanding work; hurts my health and prevents me from socializing; but why would they nag me so much about it, just to make friends with irritating co-workers? i mean, c'mon! or the health issue, i wonder if it's healthier to sit at a desk in an office or to break a leg doing god knows what; i know how it is not to have support from people you love, yet my luck was that at least a part of the family shared my enthusiasm. I think that as long as you have a computer and an internet connection, you can do whatever you want; let them mumble all they want; it's your life, not theirs.
      Well, I can relate much to the fact of having family members telling you to quit whatever you are doing online. My family has been very stagnant to the idea of a corporate-style job that requires you to go to the office five days a week, but hey! There are a lot of opportunities online!

      Well, I can't blame them. Their line of work is mainly office-related. My dad's an accountant, my mom is an economist and such works includes numbers and tons of paper works. Unlike them, I decided to choose something out of the box. My passion's not into paper works but what you call the IT world.

      I have been able to mix writing and marketing with IT just by using the internet. I started about two years ago by posting my greatly opinionated blogs, not knowing that there are indeed people who find time to read it. I got a lot of followers and I started to concentrate more on a certain topic such as how to make an identity online. Luckily, I was able to hit marks.

      My point is, we can do better by doing our own things even if it means going against the flow. Well, I'm not as popular as Mark Zuckerburg, but I know that in time I can somehow prove my family wrong.

      I'm proud to say that I go to my office not just five days a week but even for seven days. I don't have a demanding boss and muckraking office co-workers to please. I have my time, and the boss is me. I can start to connect to people with the same passion in just a click. I'm not a sluggish dog who just waits in front of my computer; I also make use of my brain cells and become productive.

      I have the whole WWW as my office and I'm on top of it.
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  • Profile picture of the author tuanng
    They're only telling you to get a job because they are worry and care about you. It's when they see you failing (shown by your obvious lack of income and countless hours spent on the computer) and just ignore you, thats when you should worry. So I think 'revenge' is pretty harsh term to use when they genuinely cared.

    Now that you are successful in what you do, they are working 9-5 job, and you're just sitting there laughing at them instead of helping them 'get a job' like yours, who's really the douche here? They tried to help you now you're putting them down....
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  • Profile picture of the author Rus Sells
    Wouldn't the sweetest taste be the day that one of your friends or family members who mocked you humbles themselves and asks you for a real job? HAHA

    I am going through the same thing myself right now. Having owned a pretty successful insurance restoration company I had some unfortunate things happen to me physically which prevented me from continuing in my business.

    I turned to internet marketing, its paying all my bills! I even still making payment on a very nice truck from the old business and my x partner knows I am making the payments with the money I earn online and he still tells me to get a real job! Go figure! Idiot! I am protecting his credit and he tells me to get a job!

    Anyways, great post! A great contribution!
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    • Profile picture of the author celente
      Originally Posted by Rus Sells View Post

      Wouldn't the sweetest taste be the day that one of your friends or family members who mocked you humbles themselves and asks you for a real job? HAHA

      I am going through the same thing myself right now. Having owned a pretty successful insurance restoration company I had some unfortunate things happen to me physically which prevented me from continuing in my business.

      I turned to internet marketing, its paying all my bills! I even still making payment on a very nice truck from the old business and my x partner knows I am making the payments with the money I earn online and he still tells me to get a real job! Go figure! Idiot! I am protecting his credit and he tells me to get a job!

      Anyways, great post! A great contribution!
      Wow I am seeing a few of these stories! I wish you all the luck and success with your business RUS. Heres cheers!!!

      IMPORTANT : It is going to get tougher when the economy crashes / falls again!!!!. If you do not believe this will happen, just wait. I have studied economics enough to know what is about to happen.

      But at the same time, I know and understand there has never been a better time for online home business. It is a trend I have been seeing for a while now. If you know how to capitalize on this, and do it honestly, and help people you will do well.
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      • Profile picture of the author mbmehmet
        Yep, your dead right, it's sad how folk treat other folk cause they don't get it. It's like the quote "If somebody tells you that you can't do something, it's only because they can't do it themselves".

        Sad fact of the matter is that we are in a society where self worth is required in keeping peoples little lifes normal. People don't like it when you can literally do something that most others can't do. Tell them your a doctor and it will fit within there believe systems, as in what you can do, they can do...of course, with years of studying, hardwork, countless univercity fee's etc.

        Tell them you make money online and they snigger, laugh, brush you to the side. Of course, this is not true of all people but unfortuantely a trait of the ignorant. I by no means mean to upset anyone, it's just a sad fact.

        I have only recently started to earn more than the average wage, but it came at a price.
        • Wife.....gone
        • Family....gone
        • Home....gone
        • Job....gone
        • Good food.......gone
        Self worth???? Totally intact.....we will see who has the last laugh ;-)
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        • Profile picture of the author Rus Sells
          *amn! Good food gone! I dunno know if I could ever sacrifice good food!

          Originally Posted by mbmehmet View Post

          Yep, your dead right, it's sad how folk treat other folk cause they don't get it. It's like the quote "If somebody tells you that you can't do something, it's only because they can't do it themselves".

          Sad fact of the matter is that we are in a society where self worth is required in keeping peoples little lifes normal. People don't like it when you can literally do something that most others can't do. Tell them your a doctor and it will fit within there believe systems, as in what you can do, they can do...of course, with years of studying, hardwork, countless univercity fee's etc.

          Tell them you make money online and they snigger, laugh, brush you to the side. Of course, this is not true of all people but unfortuantely a trait of the ignorant. I by no means mean to upset anyone, it's just a sad fact.

          I have only recently started to earn more than the average wage, but it came at a price.
          • Wife.....gone
          • Family....gone
          • Home....gone
          • Job....gone
          • Good food.......gone
          Self worth???? Totally intact.....we will see who has the last laugh ;-)
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          • Profile picture of the author mbmehmet
            Originally Posted by Rus Sells View Post

            *amn! Good food gone! I dunno know if I could ever sacrifice good food!
            Lol. Well a selection of pot noodles, indian takeaways and countless doner kebabs aint all bad.....
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            • Profile picture of the author RonHamernik
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              • Profile picture of the author mbmehmet
                Originally Posted by RonHamernik View Post

                I really encourage everyone to turn towards their family, not away from it. There is so much nonsense in IM! The talkers are making so many claims. The listeners have so many hopes.

                In reality, it's very difficult to make money online. And it's only getting tougher as the corporations figure out IM more and more each day. That's why, statistically, the vast majority will fail at IM. Sure, some will make some money, but not enough to come close to those expectations and those hopes.

                And that shattered positivity and those high hopes that came crashing down will come at a tremendous cost . . . . . all of that money spent . . . . . . and all of that time spent that you can never get back.

                So, before you spend another moment chasing that IM pie in the sky, ask yourself.....what is your business model? . . . . . . what skills do you have? . . . . . . . . what are your management capabilities?

                Because most of the people selling picks and shovels are full of it. In the end, listen to yourself. If you have a business model, some skills and/or some project management acumen, then perhaps you have a decent shot.

                But in all of this, realize that the odds are against you. You're being led astray by cons. So turn TOWARDS your family when they look down on you.

                If you really think its a case of naysaying, then do this......1) give yourself 3 weeks to research the business model you're going to pursue. Go crazy, go all-out to research it! then 2) give yourself 12 weeks to implement your plan. If you have procrastinated, or failed miserably, reconsider this field.

                If you make it, but lose everyone, is it really worth it? If you don't make it, but you alienate your loved ones, is it worth it?

                I would walk away from IM in a second if it came between my loved ones and I.

                Wishing you the best in this IM adventure!
                So I am not seen as someone who only wishes bad things on people I feel I must respond to your view.

                In a perfect world, in all seriousness, I would love those who I love to be around with me on this fantastic journey, sadly this is not the case in most part for me.

                You can't control how people react to any given situation, you can only have patience with those that do not understand. The question is, are they willing or able to do the same?

                I am not saying go out there and get rid of those that are close around you...that's not the problem. The problem is doing what you need to do to get what you want and to be successful in what you do. I was unfortunate enough to have to make those decisions, but in reality who really made them? Was it the people that refused to have anything to do with due to the fact I was "sitting on my ass at home" or was it the fact that I had a dream and I wanted to do anything to get there.

                As for reconsidering the field, let the person in question be the judge of that. Sadly, some are not as fortunate as you to have those that are that caring and understanding.

                I don't mean to be rude, but I find your post in some respect alienating a point of view in favor of your own believe systems.
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                • Profile picture of the author mbmehmet
                  P.s: Again, maybe I have took you wrong, it's just the reply in quotes to a portion of my post leads me to think otherwise.
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              • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
                Originally Posted by RonHamernik View Post

                If you make it, but lose everyone, is it really worth it?
                In the year since my wife left, it has become very clear that she has been deliberately sabotaging my business efforts for over a decade.

                She has actually said outright - on a forum she doesn't know I read - that this is what she wanted all along... to be a single mom raising her children alone, just like her mother did, because she always knew we'd never see eye to eye on raising the kids.

                Which makes it pretty clear that she's also been sabotaging our marriage and my efforts to direct our children's upbringing.

                So if I had stayed, would it have been worth it? If I had given up my business to live in a miserable marriage where I wasn't welcome, watching my children brought up without regard or respect to my wishes... would I be better off?
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        • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
          Originally Posted by mbmehmet View Post

          I have only recently started to earn more than the average wage, but it came at a price.
          • Wife.....gone
          • Family....gone
          • Home....gone
          • Job....gone
          • Good food.......gone
          You too, huh?

          I was laid off in April of last year, evicted in June, wife took the kids and left in September.

          A little over a year later, I can pay my bills, and I don't go hungry. That's about the best I can do... but it's enough. And it's getting better, month by month.
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          "The Golden Town is the Golden Town no longer. They have sold their pillars for brass and their temples for money, they have made coins out of their golden doors. It is become a dark town full of trouble, there is no ease in its streets, beauty has left it and the old songs are gone." - Lord Dunsany, The Messengers
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          • Profile picture of the author mbmehmet
            Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post

            You too, huh?

            I was laid off in April of last year, evicted in June, wife took the kids and left in September.

            A little over a year later, I can pay my bills, and I don't go hungry. That's about the best I can do... but it's enough. And it's getting better, month by month.
            Yep, and just like you things continue to grow. :-) what can you do eh?
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          • Profile picture of the author celente
            Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post

            You too, huh?

            I was laid off in April of last year, evicted in June, wife took the kids and left in September.

            A little over a year later, I can pay my bills, and I don't go hungry. That's about the best I can do... but it's enough. And it's getting better, month by month.
            gotta keep on keeping on.

            I am sure you will get there. If you can feel it in your bones, you belive in yourself, and visualize yourself already being there..... watch how fast success comes.

            when I was younger with no money, I put a picture of hawaii on my mirror. So every time I looked i saw it, and said to myself I cant wait to get there and I am going there for a vacation no matter what. I was not sure how I would get the money, but then I soon landed a job with my mates dad. SCORE!!!

            I am not sure it was the secret stuff but it was law of attraction playing out, and fine tuned to the ultimate. I just left it to the universe and six months later I was on maui sipping cocktails with two of my closest friend. Awesome stuff.

            Believe and you can achieve my good friend. Heres cheers to your coming big successes.
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          • Profile picture of the author danicat
            Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post

            You too, huh?

            I was laid off in April of last year, evicted in June, wife took the kids and left in September.

            A little over a year later, I can pay my bills, and I don't go hungry. That's about the best I can do... but it's enough. And it's getting better, month by month.
            Laid off July before last just after giving birth...husband left me and baby day before returning from Iraq, on the babys first birthday. Im doing this because i cant find a real job, so same boat, opposite side! Bills, baby and 2 lawyers to hire and you know they dont come cheap.
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        • Profile picture of the author celente
          Originally Posted by mbmehmet View Post

          Yep, your dead right, it's sad how folk treat other folk cause they don't get it. It's like the quote "If somebody tells you that you can't do something, it's only because they can't do it themselves".

          Sad fact of the matter is that we are in a society where self worth is required in keeping peoples little lifes normal. People don't like it when you can literally do something that most others can't do. Tell them your a doctor and it will fit within there believe systems, as in what you can do, they can do...of course, with years of studying, hardwork, countless univercity fee's etc.

          Tell them you make money online and they snigger, laugh, brush you to the side. Of course, this is not true of all people but unfortuantely a trait of the ignorant. I by no means mean to upset anyone, it's just a sad fact.

          I have only recently started to earn more than the average wage, but it came at a price.
          • Wife.....gone
          • Family....gone
          • Home....gone
          • Job....gone
          • Good food.......gone
          Self worth???? Totally intact.....we will see who has the last laugh ;-)

          Thats the spirit! Dont get angry get even! That is what I say. I think the one person in here misunderstood me when I said get angry....

          What I was talking about is channeling your hurt and frustration, and show people be like

          "Oh yeah! you think I cant do this, and I am a failure.....well watch me fly!!"

          That is sort of what i did, and it helped drive me.
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          • Profile picture of the author sal64
            I guess I am lucky that my wife is also ambitious. As long as the cash flow is there, she really doesn't care what I do.

            One of the biggest challenges we face in this game is when our partners are not on the same page as us. I mean sh1t, it takes a fair bit for one to deprogram years of brainwashing about going to school and getting job etc...

            Then when we have the courage to do so, we have to deprogram our partner. We can control out thoughts but not theirs.

            Don't get me wrong, it hasn't always been smooth sailing. If you come from a family which has run a business, then it's probably going to be easier for you.

            Finally, if you are at the stage where you are not making enough money, and this is causing you stress at home, then for God's sake, swallow your pride and get yourself a job asap... in fairness to your partner, you have a responsibility to them also, and you actions are compromising their life also.

            There comes a time when you have to face reality if you're not making money.
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            • Profile picture of the author N4PGW
              Originally Posted by sal64 View Post

              I guess I am lucky that my wife is also ambitious. As long as the cash flow is there, she really doesn't care what I do.

              One of the biggest challenges we face in this game is when our partners are not on the same page as us. I mean sh1t, it takes a fair bit for one to deprogram years of brainwashing about going to school and getting job etc...

              Then when we have the courage to do so, we have to deprogram our partner. We can control out thoughts but not theirs.

              Don't get me wrong, it hasn't always been smooth sailing. If you come from a family which has run a business, then it's probably going to be easier for you.

              Finally, if you are at the stage where you are not making enough money, and this is causing you stress at home, then for God's sake, swallow your pride and get yourself a job asap... in fairness to your partner, you have a responsibility to them also, and you actions are compromising their life also.

              There comes a time when you have to face reality if you're not making money.
              My situation is similar but different. I have a job. If I could get a better job, it would never be enough. I am in my mid 20's (If you turn the digits around.)

              My business is essential for me to provide for my family as I feel I should and to the level I desire. To give up on my business is to give up on my family. It would be an oxymoron for me to give up one for the other.
              I need this business to succeed and I will succeed in it. If my success is realized without my family, God forbid, then it will be for other reasons, not because I sacrificed them to get it.

              One of the biggest challenges we face in this game is when our partners are not on the same page as us. I mean sh1t, it takes a fair bit for one to deprogram years of brainwashing about going to school and getting job etc...
              Bingo!


              P.S. Just for clarification: I don't feel judged or criticised. CD and I have different situations, but somewhat within the theme of this discussion.

              Sorry if I am so negative as I try to be positive, reassuring and encouraging, but I am undergoing some strong opposition that cannot be described well in words.

              It is easy for me to walk away from external criticism. I do that every day. What is hard is to live with it from the one who is most special in your life, especially when it becomes a constant, on-going barrage. The question of sacrifice is this, "Who is making the sacrifice?"
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              • Profile picture of the author sal64
                An interesting little anecdote, which is off topic, but relates to the discussion...

                I recently decided to go on a possession detox. In other words,I took inventory of all the crap I had bought over the years... gadgets etc. Threw most of them away.

                I am at a stage in life when I simply want more quality time, so rather then to fall into the trap of making more and spending more. As long as I have a home, good food and wine... the freedom to travel and my family wants for nothing.. I'm happy.

                So I am now transitioning to less consumption so that I don't have keep working harder or increase my income accordingly. Long story short, I sold off my prized BMW 323i. Quite simply, I hardly did 2000 miles per year since working from home.

                In it's place, I am driving my mother-in-law's old Camry. And I gotta tell you that I get looked down on when driving.

                The point of this story is that sadly, what we drive and what work we do defines us in society's eyes as being either successful or failures based on society's standards. Which to me is total crap and I really don't care. If it's good enough for Buffet to still live in the same house, it's good enough for little ol' me to drive a bomb.

                But I honestly believe that these preconceived standards are the main cause of the angst that has been written about in this thread. Let's face it, who didn't feel guilty at first when they started to work from home? I did.

                Ironically, if we all went out and purchased a bricks and mortar business, we'd be lauded for being entrepreneurial and hardworking.. because it's tangible to our peers.

                However, because IM is obscure and unheard of for 98% of the population, we cop more flak than we deserve.

                Nuff said.. kick ass.. make me proud, Warriors!

                PS: Easier said than done.. but refuse to live life on other people's terms!!!!
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                • Profile picture of the author Ryan Johnson
                  This is my first post on the Warrior Forum, and I'd like to say thanks for sharing your story. I'm just starting out, and the hecklers sitting in the bleachers are everywhere. It's as if you're trying to scam them out of cash before you even tell them about your site.
                  I voluntarily left a decent job to raise our son, and anytime someone asks my wife what I'm up to, she can't say it without smirking and rolling her eyes. Like you, I use this as motivation to get learning more (way too much info out there), and keep building. I haven't gotten a paycheck from a 9-5 job in over a year, so being able to see the money starting to come in is awesome, even if it isn't much yet.
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                  • Profile picture of the author N4PGW
                    Originally Posted by Ryan Johnson View Post

                    This is my first post on the Warrior Forum, and I'd like to say thanks for sharing your story. I'm just starting out, and the hecklers sitting in the bleachers are everywhere. It's as if you're trying to scam them out of cash before you even tell them about your site.
                    I voluntarily left a decent job to raise our son, and anytime someone asks my wife what I'm up to, she can't say it without smirking and rolling her eyes. Like you, I use this as motivation to get learning more (way too much info out there), and keep building. I haven't gotten a paycheck from a 9-5 job in over a year, so being able to see the money starting to come in is awesome, even if it isn't much yet.
                    Information overload is a trap built into the IM niche. When you get any free report or purchase any product, you will likely get on a list where they will send you another offer for another freebie or 'gotta-have' product. DON"T DO IT! Find a path and stick to it.

                    My warning and advice to you is to pick one path, or one product to follow and unsubscribe from every list -- including the one for the product if it offers affiliate links rather than help keeping you on track with the system you chose.

                    if you have a question, ask the support desk for the product if there is one, or ask here or both. Don't follow any links to new or free things for any reason until you have made the system of your choice work for you.

                    You have a dream. Make it your vision and go for it! Don't let anyone or anything stand in your way. You are on the right road and I know you will make it. You will make it sooner if you lock in on it early and don't let yourself get sidetracked.

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        • Profile picture of the author cypherslock
          Originally Posted by mbmehmet View Post

          Yep, your dead right, it's sad how folk treat other folk cause they don't get it. It's like the quote "If somebody tells you that you can't do something, it's only because they can't do it themselves".

          Sad fact of the matter is that we are in a society where self worth is required in keeping peoples little lifes normal. People don't like it when you can literally do something that most others can't do. Tell them your a doctor and it will fit within there believe systems, as in what you can do, they can do...of course, with years of studying, hardwork, countless univercity fee's etc.

          Tell them you make money online and they snigger, laugh, brush you to the side. Of course, this is not true of all people but unfortuantely a trait of the ignorant. I by no means mean to upset anyone, it's just a sad fact.

          I have only recently started to earn more than the average wage, but it came at a price.
          • Wife.....gone
          • Family....gone
          • Home....gone
          • Job....gone
          • Good food.......gone
          Self worth???? Totally intact.....we will see who has the last laugh ;-)
          Damn man. FAmily GONE? Wow you're strong. You can always get another wife, but your family...well not so much. I've seen a few of those stories about wife/husband leaving and my response is always the same: They're SELFISH and can't see a much bigger picture that you are trying to paint for yourself but for THEM AS WELL.

          And they're scared. Don't understand. Doesn't fit in with what they've been brainwashed to believe.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rus Sells
    If you make it, but lose everyone, is it really worth it? If you don't make it, but you alienate your loved ones, is it worth it?
    What does that "REALLY" say about the people you lost? From what I have experienced and from others have shared it seems that its the family who's doing the alienating no the other way around.

    And what does it say about those people, to me is says we don't believe in you, you can't do it, your not smart enough to make it happen and your chasing a dream.

    I get rid of those people in my life even if it were my mother.
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    • Profile picture of the author mbmehmet
      Originally Posted by Rus Sells View Post

      What does that "REALLY" say about the people you lost? From what I have experienced and from others have shared it seems that its the family who's doing the alienating no the other way around.

      And what does it say about those people, to me is says we don't believe in you, you can't do it, your not smart enough to make it happen and you chasing a dream.

      I get rid of those people in my life even if it were my mother.
      Exactly. That's exactly what I mean..
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      Originally Posted by Rus Sells View Post

      What does that "REALLY" say about the people you lost?
      That's very true. If someone cared about you they'd stick around and support you no matter what you did (unless of course it was illegal or something, and sometimes even then there are grey areas..)
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  • Profile picture of the author TheGrooby
    My friends and family all believe in me and support me in my efforts. They think what I do is the bees-knees and the way of the future. In fact, my own dad works with me on sites writing content. I love that everyone around me embraces it and thinks it's awesome.
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  • Profile picture of the author Daryl Lim
    I totally experience that too, and it absolutely perks me up whenever someone doubts me and the IM industry
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  • Profile picture of the author petelta
    Good stuff celente. I too was badgered by my dad to get a "real job" pretty much everytime I told them what I was doing...my mother always acted supportive, but I caught her speaking to my grandmother about how worried she was I would never get out of this "dream".

    I too used this fire to drive myself to success. Everytime they would make me upset with their opinions on my career choice..I used that to get myself to work. It really does help you get motivated too.

    Once the successes started coming, I kept it to myself too. I let them know I was doing fine, but I didn't wanted to blow my horn to early.

    I ended up realizing that I wasn't trying to prove that I could do it for them...I was proving that I could do it for myself.

    You will never make it to a great position in life if you don't overcome the doubters. Everyone who has accomplished something did it with those going against them trying to bring them down. Sometimes it ends up being those closest to you.

    Good story though. You have to learn how to turn the forces against you into your ally. Using the fire to prove to everyone that you can do it is a great way to accomplish this.
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    • Profile picture of the author celente
      Originally Posted by petelta View Post

      Good stuff celente. I too was badgered by my dad to get a "real job" pretty much everytime I told them what I was doing...my mother always acted supportive, but I caught her speaking to my grandmother about how worried she was I would never get out of this "dream".

      That is nothing, back in 2006 I overheard a phonecall from my mom to my dad. I was nearly in tears about what they were saying. About me being a such and such, and a such and such. Judging and talking behind me. I guess now I realise they do love me and wanted the best for me.

      But I think from my point of view that just made me get back to my business building and striving to make things work. Horrible stuff to hear at the time, especially since I had lost my job too.
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  • Profile picture of the author cypherslock
    No way....I mean that's just Machiavellian. Holy..... How you can sabotage the dream of someone you supposedly love til death is beyond me.
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    • Profile picture of the author celente
      Originally Posted by cypherslock View Post

      No way....I mean that's just Machiavellian. Holy..... How you can sabotage the dream of someone you supposedly love til death is beyond me.
      Yes and how many true stories have you heard about someone quitting their job and becoming an internet millionaire in a week.

      NONE Because it doesn't happen.

      People and partners do not understand. Most are insanely passionate about their dreams, and do not let anything get in their road. But you hear of many low points before you hear the success stories. There are many right here above this post.

      Like i said i had to cut out many people in my life, and hang out with marketers that had the same passion. When i did that. It was funny to see how success came to me, and my other marketing friend.

      It was hard to let go of the people i did....but I now know and realize that without doing that things couldn't move forward. And I guess you have to work out what you want in life. To be happy.....YES! So that is why I did what i did.

      Just my 2 cents.
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      • Profile picture of the author mbmehmet
        It's amazing what folk can do once the bridges have been burned down so to speak...
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    • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
      Originally Posted by cypherslock View Post

      How you can sabotage the dream of someone you supposedly love til death is beyond me.
      I think there's a very large group of people out there who think their job in a marriage is to direct and control the other person for their own comfort.

      I also think that you don't really know what sort of person someone is until they hit their late twenties, so I'm done with high school and college girls in the long term. One night stands, sure. Relationships, no freakin' way. Reserved for 26 and up.

      Not to mention this whole monogamy thing is stupid, and I simply refuse to sign up to it even temporarily in the future.
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        • Profile picture of the author CDarklock
          Originally Posted by RonHamernik View Post

          I intended to address those warriors who are chasing that dream without considering the attainability and the possible price.
          However, it's not clear that this is what you are doing.

          It's true that some people will actively try to drive a wedge between you and your family, but in general, these people are few and far between. More often than not, your family is responding to nothing more than your own desire to do something outside of their experience.

          To an extent, this is normal. Your wife and parents and friends, if they care about you, should be concerned that you are chasing a dream instead of doing what they're doing - using the system, getting a job, building a typical career. Because most of the people who step outside that fence will fail, and fail repeatedly.

          And once you have some success, they should begin to turn into your cheering section. That's what people are reporting here, in many cases: you start a business, everyone tells you that you're crazy, and then you show them a check. They look at it, pump their fist, then smack you on the back and say "great job!"

          Or not. Some people are extremely skeptical. They'll look at you and say "well, this is only one check, and it's not big enough to replace a job, and how do you know you'll keep getting them?"

          Which, again, is normal. That's a realist. It will be some time before it verges into pessimism, and even then, it's just temporary.

          But there's a point where it becomes toxic. It's years before you reach that point, but it's a point where you realise that it doesn't matter what you do or how much money you get - nothing you accomplish is ever going to be good enough. Someone in your family is so petty and childish about this, that you are simply always going to get a bunch of negativity from them.

          And if that negativity is too much to stand, you have to walk away.

          There are far too many people in this world who are needlessly restricted by their desires to make other people in their lives happy. Some people fundamentally are not compatible with your happiness, and you have to choose whether they get to be happy... or you do.

          If you're contemplating trading your own happiness for someone else's, you need to take a long hard look at why you're doing it.
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          • Profile picture of the author celente
            Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post

            However, it's not clear that this is what you are doing.

            If you're contemplating trading your own happiness for someone else's, you need to take a long hard look at why you're doing it.
            WOW so powerful, that statement there! and so true, i gotta tell you.

            Because at the end of the day, no matter who is for you and against you, you have to be happy.

            As I am getting older, I think quality of life is better than quantity, and that to me means at the end of the day when you retire an go to bed, can you really say you were doing what you feel you were meant to be doing. Your calling in other words... emersing yourself in what you love and your passions.

            Some people can say yes. I can now too. But by good god, there are a heck of alot of people out there that will say no to this, if you found out the truth. Most people are miserable working in a job they hate, and feel they are stuck. Well that is not quality of life and the true meaning of having a happy life.
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          • Profile picture of the author sal64
            Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post

            However, it's not clear that this is what you are doing.

            It's true that some people will actively try to drive a wedge between you and your family, but in general, these people are few and far between. More often than not, your family is responding to nothing more than your own desire to do something outside of their experience.

            To an extent, this is normal. Your wife and parents and friends, if they care about you, should be concerned that you are chasing a dream instead of doing what they're doing - using the system, getting a job, building a typical career. Because most of the people who step outside that fence will fail, and fail repeatedly.

            And once you have some success, they should begin to turn into your cheering section. That's what people are reporting here, in many cases: you start a business, everyone tells you that you're crazy, and then you show them a check. They look at it, pump their fist, then smack you on the back and say "great job!"

            Or not. Some people are extremely skeptical. They'll look at you and say "well, this is only one check, and it's not big enough to replace a job, and how do you know you'll keep getting them?"

            Which, again, is normal. That's a realist. It will be some time before it verges into pessimism, and even then, it's just temporary.

            But there's a point where it becomes toxic. It's years before you reach that point, but it's a point where you realise that it doesn't matter what you do or how much money you get - nothing you accomplish is ever going to be good enough. Someone in your family is so petty and childish about this, that you are simply always going to get a bunch of negativity from them.

            And if that negativity is too much to stand, you have to walk away.

            There are far too many people in this world who are needlessly restricted by their desires to make other people in their lives happy. Some people fundamentally are not compatible with your happiness, and you have to choose whether they get to be happy... or you do.

            If you're contemplating trading your own happiness for someone else's, you need to take a long hard look at why you're doing it.
            Nicely put Caliban. There are 2 sides to the issue here.

            I recall 25 years ago that I went out and purchased a carpet cleaning franchise. Everyone told me that it was too risky etc. Then when they saw the money, they wanted in.

            If someone loves you then once they see the money coming in, then they should be happy for you. If they are not, then they are the ones with issues.

            I am blessed that my wife and my in laws don't interfere as long as they know that their little girl and grand kids are being looked after. Although my kids aren't to sure how to tell the others at school when asked what I do for a living. My son tells them that I make money on the internet when everyone sleeps... which might explain the strange looks when I collect him from school.

            But not everyone has that good fortune in life.

            If someone is on your case about working from home, and you get a job to appease them... then they are still on your case.. then you are with the wrong person and the call has to be made. Otherwise that person will either bleed you dry or leave you anyway.

            Sadly, when it comes to family and friends, 99% of the time, the old saying that I'll believe it when I see it... is magnified three-fold, if not more. You are dealing with people who have their own ingrained belief systems and prejudices... A toxic combo IMO.

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            • Profile picture of the author Gorilla
              Originally Posted by sal64 View Post

              I am blessed that my wife and my in laws don't interfere as long as they know that their little girl and grand kids are being looked after.
              Bingo.

              This is often the case at the end of the day.

              Where there is no cash or where there is no fruit, fear and anxiety tend to dictate the feelings of others as to what we are doing online.

              If we as business people....especially IM people....only talk and never produce, this understandably will cause friction among even those who care about us.

              Take care of business, and you will get all the support you will ever need.

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      • Profile picture of the author Chris Worner
        Originally Posted by CDarklock View Post

        I think there's a very large group of people out there who think their job in a marriage is to direct and control the other person for their own comfort.

        I also think that you don't really know what sort of person someone is until they hit their late twenties, so I'm done with high school and college girls in the long term. One night stands, sure. Relationships, no freakin' way. Reserved for 26 and up.

        Not to mention this whole monogamy thing is stupid, and I simply refuse to sign up to it even temporarily in the future.
        You sir, are a true playboy!

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  • Profile picture of the author JasonParker
    When I was getting started, I wish I never told my family about it. lol...

    They weren't supportive at all and got on my nerves whenever I talked to them.

    Then suddenly they're supportive when you're successful, even kind of inspired sometimes. I inspired my mom to start a non-profit organization. She was just like... you know, I never thought that you could just go out and MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN.
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  • Profile picture of the author jaiant
    having your loved ones against you when you are following your dreams is tough, i know my family dosen't get it either but you cant hold that against them ive heard negative things said about me and my i.m. dream and it bothered me at first but i had to remember the whole reason im doing this is to improve my families life and mine. for great things there has to be great sacrifices and pride tends to stand in the way a lot of the time, just remember why you started your journey and your vision of how it will be when you get there.


    A common list of the failures of Abraham Lincoln (along with a few successes) is:
    • 1831 - Lost his job
    • 1832 - Defeated in run for Illinois State Legislature
    • 1833 - Failed in business
    • 1834 - Elected to Illinois State Legislature (success)
    • 1835 - Sweetheart died
    • 1836 - Had nervous breakdown
    • 1838 - Defeated in run for Illinois House Speaker
    • 1843 - Defeated in run for nomination for U.S. Congress
    • 1846 - Elected to Congress (success)
    • 1848 - Lost re-nomination
    • 1849 - Rejected for land officer position
    • 1854 - Defeated in run for U.S. Senate
    • 1856 - Defeated in run for nomination for Vice President
    • 1858 - Again defeated in run for U.S. Senate
    • 1860 - Elected President (success)

    Never Give Up
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  • Profile picture of the author Gorilla
    Originally Posted by celente View Post

    Is Your Family Against You & I.M. - Well Great, Here's Why!?
    Been there, done that.

    The answer why is easy: you are not making any money.

    You may talk all day about how you are doing this or that online, and how you are going to make a fortune some day.

    But that is all talk and they know it....as do we.

    Make the cash and there is no argument. When you are financially at a point where family or friends know what's up...all criticism either disappears or is totally irrelevant.

    It is all about the PROOF to match the big words we may have been talking all along.

    My advice is that people keep their dreams and grand plans to themselves, or only share them with those that will love them unconditionally and support them....and give them a caring kick in the pants when needed.

    My other advice is that people not hold it against the critics too much. Most don't know any better and have no grand dreams themselves.

    Cash silences all.

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  • Profile picture of the author TyBrown
    Just make sure to forgive them and not hold a grudge. My parents came to me a few years ago to apologize for thinking I was nuts to be out on my own instead of getting a job once they saw me having some nice success.

    It was nice recognition.
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  • Profile picture of the author justen_mllr
    I know exactly what your saying. My dad doesn't believe its at all possible to make any money online. He keeps telling me I'll never be able to fully support myself online, but I just kinda laugh at him on the inside. Because I know how big an opportunity it is to make money online.

    And one you have to do if you have people against you is to keep focused and keep your goals and write them down and simply take action and don't waste any time web surfing or reading more internet marketing material.

    Yes you heard me right, stop reading internet marketing stuff. Why? because you already know enough to start making money. So focus on that and take action. Success is all in the action.
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  • Profile picture of the author pethanks
    No they are not against what I'm am doing. They are very supportive to me. Thank you anyway for posting.
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  • Profile picture of the author dagaul101
    Strangely I agree, nothin motivates someone when they know their success might make someone else upset
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    • Profile picture of the author celente
      Originally Posted by dagaul101 View Post

      Strangely I agree, nothin motivates someone when they know their success might make someone else upset
      yes, it is such a shame isnt it. Should not have to be like that.

      But when you mess with someone determined, you better look out. I am glad that I did not quit, I nearly did a few times, it was a long hard road. But when you finally get to the income and fulfill your goals your realise the journey was worth it.

      The good, the bad and the in between.

      Sometimes when I look at all this, it amazes me the makeup of the human soul and how determined and focused we can become at one thing.
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  • Profile picture of the author CrhisD
    Originally Posted by celente View Post

    I pretty much cut all the people out of my life that did not see my visions, and just kept working like a dog until the point of small successes turning into bigger ones.
    That's the secret right there. Just find the right system and work like a dog, it's almost guaranteed to succeed.
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  • Profile picture of the author sarahberra
    Yes this still happens to me. I work on my websites on the side, but I've also been working as a freelance writer for the past few years. They always treat me as though it's not a real job even though I am paying the bills and keeping a roof over our head. My work has become even more vital because my husband lost his job about a year ago. The family is scratching their heads and wondering how we have survived. I guess they still don't believe that I work online. It is very frustrating. I guess people hear the word "online" and they automatically think it's a scam.
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  • Profile picture of the author celente
    My friend in sydney called this week and said he is giving up. I was like WHAO, cause he was doing ok, but his wife was nagging him that he was just a pipe dreaming.

    Another bites the dust.....as they say. But you can tell he is not really happy working a 9-5 job and is kind of depressed.

    Oh well, I think I saw a video in here a few months ago, saying if you want to succeed at this more than you want to breathe then you will succeed. Destiny is in your hands I guess....and its your life. Make u think but ey?
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  • Profile picture of the author cypherslock
    Never give up your dreams for another person. If he was doing alright, then he should be expanding, doing more. If it was working why stop because of nagging? You can always get another wife/gf. But the chance to do what you love...to live your life by YOUR terms...that is priceless. If the person in question sees that money is being made and still nags, then it is they with the problem.
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