So, I just thought that....

by HeySal
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Well, it's Christmas and I'm loaded to the gills of having participated in a socially required amount of seasonal festivities.

I didn't do much for the season.........frankly I was very not "at the party" this season -- and I can't believe the pressure our society puts on us to "celebrate" as dictated. Sorry. I need to opt out of this season.

I look around and watch people do their shopping - sometimes spending themselves in to debt and stressing in major ways to afford a season that is supposed to be about cheer and goodwill - of course, for most there are also religious aspects to the season. It's a Christian holiday. That doesn't stop atheists or people with other beliefs from enjoying the festivities..........and if people are enjoying the festivities...well, that's what it IS all about isn't it? Joy to the world and such.

What happens, though, when when the damned holiday rolls around and ya really just aren't "in that space" to be social and merry? Basically ya still feel obligated to attend parties and family get-togethers (as tragically askew as they can be, we still feel seasonal requirement) whether or not the thought at the time to do so is about as pleasant as an appointment with your dentist.

If I should be so bold as to admit it, I dropped out this year almost completely. I did attend breakfast Christmas morning with the niece, nephew and sister for a few hours. That was Christmas this year for me - kit and kabootle. I don't have Christmas spirit at all this year. Some years I don't. And I resent being manipulated into being forced to celebrate a holiday if I don't damned well want to.
Corporatized attitudes. Corporate was never my thing - at any level. We'll enjoy it, dammit, and it will be good for us. Belch.

I had a wonderful Thanksgiving - spent it with my niece. She didn't feel like attending the family feasts. We spoke to each other on the phone briefly that morning and 20 minutes later we were headed for a crystal dig in the Copperopolis area. We snacked on cheese and Crackers far away from everyone, just us and the dog.

It was about the best thanksgiving either of us ever remember having. Well, best for her -- I've always been prone to wandering off for a lost day or two when the mood and means strike me.
I "get" responsibilities - in fact I'm editing a chunk of text tonight - Yes, on Christmas. Deadlines are deadlines. I just don't get how people let holidays get to be something that's more pain in the ass rather than joyful occasion. Gotta teach those kids to EXPECT to have money spent on them certain times of the year. They'd suffer drugable levels of depression if we didn't. Of course you could always grab a couple of toboggans and some family and/or friends and build a bonfire on a hill and spend the afternoon drinking eggnog or cocoa and slidding down hills instead. At least they'd remember the damned day. It's highly unlikely you're going to give them anything that they'll remember more than a few seasons down the line. That's a pretty juxtaposed mess.

Enjoy your holiday. Enjoy it some way that makes it really special for YOU. If that's in normal traditional Christmas mode or not - make it special.
  • Profile picture of the author AEC
    Hey Sal,

    Well said... I like to see people that do the right thing instead of what everyone else thinks they should do.
    And the more I try to live like that the better I feel about life. There ain't no law that says you gota do like everyone else at Christmas or any other holiday.
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  • Profile picture of the author Audrey Harvey
    Sal, you expressed exactly how I feel about this holiday season. I don't like Christmas. I feel like a bit of a party pooper, "bah, humbug" type of person, but I just can't get excited about the pretence and the obligation and the expectation.

    Mind you, I love New Year. I love the feeling of starting afresh, and anticipation of what's to come.
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  • Profile picture of the author seasoned
    Well, I have always had a problem. My father, who is likely as I am in this regard, has asked me MANY times what I want for Christmas. I couldn't tell him. Who knows? MAYBE if I asked him for a ferrari I might get it. But I don't care for a ferrari. I end up just saying "I don't know....". So people don't KNOW what to get me, and I don't KNOW what to get them.

    HECK, a couple days ago a neighbor brought me cookies! I don't even know what to do there. He and I have a kind of business relationship. I let him use the space in my garage for free. He seems to be a nice guy, and actually gets my mail, watches the house, etc... He even calls if something seems amiss! NOT because I asked him to but because he figures it is the least he can do. Sometimes neighbors can be pests(though NOT here! 8-) ), but SOMETIMES they surprise you.

    So I kind of dropped out also. I'm usually no good at parties, and end up regretting having gone.

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  • Profile picture of the author mark587905
    Why celebrate Thanksgiving and not Christmas? For me Christmas is all about family. It does not have to be about the fat cats.
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  • Profile picture of the author Andie
    Sal,
    I hope you find a bit of reassurance in the fact I think my teen's favorite gift I gave him was a Slinky.
    who'da thunk it?

    I'm sorry for the folks who count their happiness by how many $s are under the bows.

    Thanks for your post - love your style all the time, and glad you had a good day!

    merry christmas,
    Andie
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  • Profile picture of the author sibster
    i tend to drop out, christmas is just not mything, was speaking to a friend earlier and had the usual convo, I asked him if he had a good christmas, to wich he replied, yeah i done alright i got a ipad and i got this and i got that etc etc. I thought the whole point was to spend family time and not get as many gifts as possible lol.
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  • Profile picture of the author greatdanetraining
    Great insights on the true meaning of Christmas here. Falsified happiness is hard to take. Family time is all good and well but doesn't every family have that one person they feel obligated to invite but really don't want to?
    And the expectations that are associated with Christmas are ridiculous. At the risk of sounding like a negative person (which I'm not) expectations lead to disappointment.
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  • Profile picture of the author Linda Hepworth
    I hear ya. Sometimes I have gone to parties and regretted it because I didn't feel like I fit in, yet I had nothing else to do. To celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas there has to be some meaning in it for you, or you will be miserable. I spent Christmas with friends and family and going to a church service about Jesus birth which has a lot of meaning for me. But everyone has to figure their meaning of the holiday for themselves. I didn't have much that I wanted either. Its not about things for me. I was just greatful to have friends and family to spend the day with. This year only a few members of my family were in town so we invited 2 couples over who didn't have the money to fly out and spend Christmas with their families. We made it a potluck event where everyone brought something and had a blast eating and laughing ! So, if you struggle with the meaning of Christmas next year could be to provide a place for someone you know to go to, so they don't have to be alone this time of year.

    Happy New Year Everyone !
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