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Unread 19th July 2011, 02:48 PM   #1
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Default My Daughter Doesn't Need To Have a Boyfriend Until She's At Least 18!

That recent marriage of the 51 year-old actor and the 16 year old girl - with her parents permission got me thinking.

Well not really.

My wife and I have already decided that our 13 year old daughter will not have a "love" interest until she's a legal adult.


- Boys can confuse a young lady who's certainly going to college.

- When boys and girls spend time alone certain things will happen.

- I was a young man once and I know the drill so I'm not going to buy the nice guy routine.

- I know it may be hard on her but - too bad, she's going to have to live with it and get over it.

- She is and will be driven everywhere she goes until 18, and communications with the parents of her BFFs will be ongoing and coordinated.


She wanted to go to the Harry Potter movie alone with her BFFs and my wife and I burst out laughing.

It was like a scene out of the Cosby show that we saw last week.

She's only 13 now but I guess it would be OK in a couple of years as long as one of the parents drops them off and picks them up.

I also know teenagers can be full of all sorts of tricks.

Good luck with your kids - I'm going to need it also.

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God I hope for you that this was just a fun rant with no seriousness to it. Well, more actually I hope for HER that you are just being funny.

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God I hope for you that this was just a fun rant with no seriousness to it. Well, more actually I hope for HER that you are just being funny.
I'm not sure what restrictions we'll set on our son (now a toddler) when he becomes a teen. I hitchhiked alone across Argentina when I was 15. I wouldn't let him do that.

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God I hope for you that this was just a fun rant with no seriousness to it. Well, more actually I hope for HER that you are just being funny.
It's gong to be a bummer for her and I hope she doesn't turn out gay or a wild woman, but we feel it's best to proceed this way.

We're going to talk to the other parents and see if we can get a partnership on this matter.

If none of her BFFs can have a boyfriend it makes it easier for all of them.

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In my country girls dont have Bf ...
i am 18yr old boy and i dont have and never had GirlFriend ...
Having relationship before marriage is considered very very bad in Our Country ..

Is is Good or Bad ......?

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She may not NEED a boyfriend, but she probably will have one anyway, regardless of what you do.
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been strict is good but you need to have some limits.Give your girl enough freedom because if you lock her up she will sneak out.You can stop her from been in love unless she is caged in the house all day.

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Good luck with that
Seriously, good luck with that.
One of the heaviest burdens I carried raising my girls was remembering what I was like at their age
We let them sorta date while teens, but I always had a talk with the boys first.
I'd tell them I remembered what I was like at their age and if they touched my little girl very bad things would happen to them.
Then I'd smile and say "Always remember. I've been to prison and I don't mind going back".
Don't really know how well that worked, but it sure was fun to watch them pee themselves a little

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I recommend the advice Michael Duncan Clarke's character on 2 1/2 Men gave Ryan Stiles' character concerning having a daughter: Bulk up.

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Ever heard of the word rebellion?

You're asking for trouble if you are genuinely serious.
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My wife and I have already decided that our 13 year old daughter will not have a "love" interest until she's of legal adult.
You are missing something that's important. Know your child, raise a child you can trust who is not afraid to come to you with any problems or questions.

Be involved in her life - be vigilant about what she does online and who her friends are and who is the "love of her life this week". You know you can't exert such relentless control - if you do, she'll get very good at hiding what she does and who she does it with.

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Tsk tsk tsk, TL.

Here's a hint for you: she's going to do it anyway. I don't understand strict parents. You're supposed to support your children. Shouldn't your daughter learn from her parents instead of the world? She will date anyway. She will have a boyfriend anyway. She just might *gasp* have sex anyway.

You're leading down a dangerous road by being super-strict and not letting her date. Why would you do such a thing? Don't you love your daughter??
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She'll probably feel left out when all of her friends are "dating" etc.

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^ Yes he does, and therefore he doesn't want some little oik within 100 yards her.

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PS: Good luck TL, think you may need it.
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Well, she's already been told so she will be prepared.

When she was 5 or 6...

I remember, a little boy was trying to kiss her at a party at a restaurant and I wanted to throw him against the wall.

I'm only kidding about wanting to throw him against the wall.

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TL, if you have any hopes of your plans working, you had better relocate to a remote private island and start home schooling!

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nice thought but If u put lot of restriction on her.she will frustrated and may be she will not respect you that's why don't give her unnecessary restrictions.she should not be think that you have snatched her freedom.

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Imho... you are going to create far more problems than the ones you are avoiding.
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It's gong to be a bummer for her and I hope she doesn't turn out gay or a wild woman, but we feel it's best to proceed this way.

We're going to talk to the other parents and see if we can get a partnership on this matter.

If none of her BFFs can have a boyfriend it makes it easier for all of them.

All The Best!!

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TL, my parents tried rules like that. For my sister and I the rule was no boyfriend until your 16, then we had to have my dad's specific permission for the guy and they had to have a "talk"... In theory.

My sister's first boyfriend was at 15. She just kept him a complete secret. I actually waited until I was 19, but he happened to be 7 years older than me at the time... oh, and I flirted around with some guys from 13 on (nothing bad, basically just cuddling), and my first kiss was with a guy I didn't care about (just because I was feeling rebellious), and once I was 18 and at college I started partying (even though I was a "good" girl and went to a private christian school that had VERY strict lifestyle code). Did I mention that I managed to hide everything from my parents, mostly without even trying that hard.

Long story short, My main reason for doing so was because I was sick of playing the good girl and decided to just try everything since I wasn't allowed to try anything before.

I obviously straitened out later, without much (if any) damage done, but my dad is still upset about it years later. The only reason he knows anything is that I admitted some of it to him later. He still doesn't know most of it.

Seriously, rather than put limits like that on your daughter, I encourage (and even beg) you to instead encourage openness with her.
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TL, my parents tried rules like that. For my sister and I the rule was no boyfriend until your 16, then we had to have my dad's specific permission for the guy and they had to have a "talk"... In theory.

My sister's first boyfriend was at 15. She just kept him a complete secret. I actually waited until I was 19, but he happened to be 7 years older than me at the time... oh, and I flirted around with some guys from 13 on (nothing bad, basically just cuddling), and my first kiss was with a guy I didn't care about (just because I was feeling rebellious), and once I was 18 and at college I started partying (even though I was a "good" girl and went to a private christian school that had VERY strict lifestyle code). Did I mention that I managed to hide everything from my parents, mostly without even trying that hard.

Long story short, My main reason for doing so was because I was sick of playing the good girl and decided to just try everything since I wasn't allowed to try anything before.

I obviously straitened out later, without much (if any) damage done, but my dad is still upset about it years later. The only reason he knows anything is that I admitted some of it to him later. He still doesn't know most of it.

Seriously, rather than put limits like that on your daughter, I encourage (and even beg) you to instead encourage openness with her.
Thanks for your thoughts.

I'm also going to consul her against falling for older dudes when she is of age.

I hope she doesn't turn gay or into a girl gone wild to her detriment.

Thanks again!


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Long story short, My main reason for doing so was because I was sick of playing the good girl and decided to just try everything since I wasn't allowed to try anything before.

I obviously straitened out later, without much (if any) damage done, but my dad is still upset about it years later. The only reason he knows anything is that I admitted some of it to him later. He still doesn't know most of it.

Seriously, rather than put limits like that on your daughter, I encourage (and even beg) you to instead encourage openness with her.
I've seen what you're describing, girls (and guys) with strict parents just find ways to do everything in secret. Also, I've seen the phenomenon of girls raised in strict societies just going wild in Canada where there's opportunity. I agree that open communication is likely to have better results. Kids who learn self-control rather than always rule-by-authority will probably be better off (and not pissed off at their parent).

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I've seen what you're describing, girls (and guys) with strict parents just find ways to do everything in secret. Also, I've seen the phenomenon of girls raised in strict societies just going wild in Canada where there's opportunity. I agree that open communication is likely to have better results. Kids who learn self-control rather than always rule-by-authority will probably be better off (and not pissed off at their parent).
I've never understood why some parents are beyond ridiculously strict. My mother raised us pretty relaxed, not even close to remotely strict... parties at the house when she was away-check, dumb teenager stuff-check, would buy beer for us later in high school and at the lakehouse - check, sneaking her Porsche out and getting caught at 3 am -check lol, girlfriends sleep over or boyfriends for sis - no problem, check. And we turned out fine, same for others I know with non-strict parents.

The people I know who were raised in pretty religious households or very strict parents... went batsh!t crazy come college.
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Thanks for your thoughts.

I'm also going to consul her against falling for older dudes when she is of age.
I would like to point out that in order to council her against something, you have to be at a point where she actually respects what you think because she sees reason in it (not just because you're her dad). This could easily be lost if she feels oppressed under rules. I love my dad, but I don't agree with him on a lot of things. If he doesn't show me legitimate reasons behind things, I just agree to disagree and don't flaunt that I may not follow it. Be prepared for this.

On a side note, older doesn't necessarily mean bad. My husband is actually 5 years older than me. Actually, I thought the guy was only 2-3 years older when we started dating (met during the summer at my job). It's more about dating within your maturity level. I found guys my age (and even most that were slightly older) to be way too immature for me.
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TL think about it, being gay isn't so bad.
Can't get pregnant, don't have to worry about teenage boys.
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It's gong to be a bummer for her and I hope she doesn't turn out gay or a wild woman, but we feel it's best to proceed this way.

We're going to talk to the other parents and see if we can get a partnership on this matter.

If none of her BFFs can have a boyfriend it makes it easier for all of them.

All The Best!!

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Your daughter is THIRTEEN. and she hasn't let you know? Dream on about the partnership! Are ALL her friends the SAME age and do all parents agree on the same age?
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TL, if you have any hopes of your plans working, you had better relocate to a remote private island and start home schooling!
Do yu KNOW of a worthwhile island that could be used like that?
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TL think about it, being gay isn't so bad.
Can't get pregnant, don't have to worry about teenage boys.
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TLTheLiberator - I believe that it is good to apply a certain control on the children until they reach an age when they can understand by themselves the consequences of their behaviour.

It is all well communicating and play best friends with them, but when it comes to business we are not really their mates, we are the authority. We can never hold the compairason with new boyfriend Joe anyway.
We are a different planet.

In the light of that, we might as well take the opportunity to provide a good example and hope that it will be followed at least marginally.
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I really really hope you aren't serious. Smothering a teen to death will case you more grief than anything else. Protective, good parenting, watchful, yes. Smothering, over controlling, NO. Don't be surprised if she runs away.

I shouldn't say this but it's true so why not. I'm reading a true crime story called "Love Hurts" this reminded me of the book. The parents were very controlling, super religious and forced this good sweet religious girl to break up with her boyfriend at 16. I'm not gonna say what happened but you can look it up it's not pretty.

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I really really hope you aren't serious. Smothering a teen to death will case you more grief than anything else. Protective, good parenting, watchful, yes. Smothering, over controlling, NO. Don't be surprised if she runs away.

I shouldn't say this but it's true so why not. I'm reading a true crime story called "Love Hurts" this reminded me of the book. The parents were very controlling, super religious and forced this good sweet religious girl to break up with her boyfriend at 16. I'm not gonna say what happened but you can look it up it's not pretty.
Thanks for your thoughtful words.

I know it can be a thin line between smothering and good solid parenting.

I will try to walk that line.

Thanks Again!!

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Unread 19th July 2011, 07:33 PM   #37
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Just pointing this out.. Normal girls/boys at age 16 don't usually go for 55 year olds.

Or maybe I'm just unusual?

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TL...

Actually ValerieSONORA makes some sense...even tho she doesn't like football and boxing, Hey, we all have our quirks.

There is a balance to be reached...that takes talent.

Raised a daughter and now a son. I have a 'bucket list' to do when he reaches sixteen or is a half inch taller than me. ( whichever comes first) I write everything down and when he is that size (whichever comes first) I'm gonna knock his d^&* in the dirt.

A balance...you see.:p

The daughter was harder to raise tho...I must admit.

Maybe I'm just more experienced the second time around.

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I have all boys with my oldest being 13. I don't forbid him to have a girlfriend, but he is pretty good. While many of his friends go from one girlfriend to another, he has only had one girlfriend which lasted quite a while and was very innocent.

I am reasonably open with my boys and they know they can talk to me about anything at any time.

Although I only have boys I come from a family of 2 girls. My Mum didn't allow us to have boyfriends and as a result it was all done in secrecy. My sister got pregnant when she was 18 (which is probably old for teenagers in todays standard but was young back then). I believe if she had been allowed to have a boyfriend and be more open then perhaps she wouldn't have rebelled and gotten pregnant at that age. Although she has the most beautiful daughter who is 25 now so it all worked out well and she married the guy and they are still together 25 years later.

My point is, like many above, that if you are too strict then it could all blow up in your face if she rebels.

I would rather have my sons bring their girlfriends home and know what they are doing than have them doing things in secrecy and possibly getting themselves into danger.

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You are smothering.

You don't think you are and you don't see it but you are.

Good solid parenting is teaching your children values and the difference between right and wrong.

You might as well throw a chastity belt on her and send her off to a nunnery until she is 18.

Let kids be kids, you don't understand them and you're not supposed to.

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You might as well throw a chastity belt on her and send her off to a nunnery until she is 18.
Now THERE is an idea! BTW at 13, she could have a kid, and she MIGHT have ALREADY had sex!
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15 - 18 is the perfect age for a girl to learn what she needs to know when she walks out that door. So what happens when she knows absolutely nothing because daddy was so possessive that nobody could get near her? You like dumb chicks? Keep her too sheltered and that's what you produce. You either want her to learn the facts in high school where the parents know each other and it can all be handled -- or you can let her walk out into the world like a lamb to the slaughter..........or worse yet, run off to get married to get away from a tyrant. That's what people do with tyrants, they duck and cover until they can run. Make it miserable enough for her because of your own problems dealing with a human growing up and she'll do you a favor and never look back when she leaves the house. Confinement is not protection -- it is prison.

If you actually go to neighbors to get support for this insecurity - you also are not going to want to know what people are saying about you behind your back...and what your daughter hears about her dad.

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You're just asking for trouble, IMO. If not in form of rebellion before she's of legal age, then in the form of a daughter who won't know how to deal with men or her emotions concerning men, sex, and all that goes with the territory when she's finally out from under your heavy hand. You'll be asking her to make adult decisions with no experience to base them on ... that's like throwing her to the wolves.

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The 16 year old in that other thread was a budding pop star. She got millions of dollars worth of publicity by marrying the guy. And I really doubt she is 16.

If you let her (your daughter) have a boyfriend her age, she won't fall for a 50 year old. It's a win-win situation for both of you.

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Now THERE is an idea! BTW at 13, she could have a kid, and she MIGHT have ALREADY had sex!
You might've just killed the guy, Steve!

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My daughter is 11 1/2, and she's apparently the only one in her Scouts group who hasn't yet had a boyfriend. You may be too late!

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Authority can be better won by reason than by the rod. Spare the reason, spoil the child's life.
Just to clarify, I didn't mean auhority in that sense, but in the sense that we parents show them what is good and what is wrong from day one and we feed them, clothes them, care about their emotional development.

We are therefore in a position of authority, whatever shape parents decide to give to this authority.

Although we are a great deal responsible for our children, bottomline is that we do not own them, nor they own us.
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Dear, TL...

I'm not sure if you're trolling, or if you're actually serious. Nevertheless, I had a father just like you, except it was all about religion. He didn't allow me to do stuff for religious reasons. Same thing, pretty much.

How it turned out? Well, I had lost my virginity/gotten drunk/high/whatever plus much, much more by the age of 15. Ever heard of the word rebel?

You're making a huge mistake IMO. Being as strict as you're planning to be — you're only ruining their lives and your relationship to your daughters.

I can undoubtedly tell you beforehand that your daughters most probably will hate you once they turn 18. I know it sound harsh, I'm sorry, but being as strict as you're planning to be is just wrong. Plain wrong.

Good luck with your kids. You're gonna need it!

P.S: it doesn't surprise me if the other parents think you're crazy.
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Dear, TL...

I'm not sure if you're trolling, or if you're actually serious. Nevertheless, I had a father just like you, except it was all about religion. He didn't allow me to do stuff for religious reasons. Same thing, pretty much.

How it turned out? Well, I had lost my virginity/gotten drunk/high/whatever plus much, much more by the age of 15. Ever heard of the word rebel?

You're making a huge mistake IMO. Being as strict as you're planning to be — you're only ruining their lives and your relationship to your daughters.

I can undoubtedly tell you beforehand that your daughters most probably will hate you once they turn 18. I know it sound harsh, I'm sorry, but being as strict as you're planning to be is just wrong. Plain wrong.

Good luck with your kids. You're gonna need it!

P.S: it doesn't surprise me if the other parents think you're crazy.
I hear ya!

I saw a guy on TV once and he said growing up, he really used to hate his father because his father wouldn't allow him to hang out at night.

His father said that there was nothing but trouble out there for a teenage boy - at night.

Since most of the people he grew up with are now derelicts, jailbirds or dead, he's no longer angry at his dad and now understands why his father did what he did.

I hope my daughter will come to the same conclusion - if she hates me growing up.

All The Best!!

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It's gong to be a bummer for her and I hope she doesn't turn out gay or a wild woman, but we feel it's best to proceed this way.

We're going to talk to the other parents and see if we can get a partnership on this matter.

If none of her BFFs can have a boyfriend it makes it easier for all of them.


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This literally made me laugh out loud.

You are really going to try to talk her girlfriend's parents into not letting their daughters have a boyfriend until they are 18?

One thing I have witnessed with parents... they do not like to be told how they should raise their kids.

I don't picture these conversations going well. Or, the parents might say yes to your face but have no intention of making their daughters stick to that.

Oh, and you're also taking the chance of her friends ostracizing her because of this request. If any of the other parents actually do agree to such a ridiculous request, their daughters will blame you and your daughter for their new restrictions.




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