My Daughter Doesn't Need To Have a Boyfriend Until She's At Least 18!

Profile picture of the author TLTheLiberator by TLTheLiberator Posted: 07/19/2011
That recent marriage of the 51 year-old actor and the 16 year old girl - with her parents permission got me thinking.

Well not really.

My wife and I have already decided that our 13 year old daughter will not have a "love" interest until she's a legal adult.


- Boys can confuse a young lady who's certainly going to college.

- When boys and girls spend time alone certain things will happen.

- I was a young man once and I know the drill so I'm not going to buy the nice guy routine.

- I know it may be hard on her but - too bad, she's going to have to live with it and get over it.

- She is and will be driven everywhere she goes until 18, and communications with the parents of her BFFs will be ongoing and coordinated.


She wanted to go to the Harry Potter movie alone with her BFFs and my wife and I burst out laughing.

It was like a scene out of the Cosby show that we saw last week.

She's only 13 now but I guess it would be OK in a couple of years as long as one of the parents drops them off and picks them up.

I also know teenagers can be full of all sorts of tricks.

Good luck with your kids - I'm going to need it also.

All The Best!

TL

  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    HeySal
    God I hope for you that this was just a fun rant with no seriousness to it. Well, more actually I hope for HER that you are just being funny.
  • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
    thunderbird
    Originally Posted by HeySal View Post
    God I hope for you that this was just a fun rant with no seriousness to it. Well, more actually I hope for HER that you are just being funny.
    I'm not sure what restrictions we'll set on our son (now a toddler) when he becomes a teen. I hitchhiked alone across Argentina when I was 15. I wouldn't let him do that.
  • Profile picture of the author TLTheLiberator
    TLTheLiberator
    Originally Posted by HeySal View Post
    God I hope for you that this was just a fun rant with no seriousness to it. Well, more actually I hope for HER that you are just being funny.
    It's gong to be a bummer for her and I hope she doesn't turn out gay or a wild woman, but we feel it's best to proceed this way.

    We're going to talk to the other parents and see if we can get a partnership on this matter.

    If none of her BFFs can have a boyfriend it makes it easier for all of them.

    All The Best!!

    TL
  • Profile picture of the author princeofirf
    princeofirf
    In my country girls dont have Bf ...
    i am 18yr old boy and i dont have and never had GirlFriend ...
    Having relationship before marriage is considered very very bad in Our Country ..

    Is is Good or Bad ......?
  • Profile picture of the author Thomas
    Thomas
    Originally Posted by TLTheLiberator View Post
    My Daughter Doesn't Need To Have a Boyfriend Until She's At Least 18!
    She may not NEED a boyfriend, but she probably will have one anyway, regardless of what you do.
  • Profile picture of the author brenda ashford
    brenda ashford
    been strict is good but you need to have some limits.Give your girl enough freedom because if you lock her up she will sneak out.You can stop her from been in love unless she is caged in the house all day.
  • Profile picture of the author ThomM
    ThomM
    Good luck with that
    Seriously, good luck with that.
    One of the heaviest burdens I carried raising my girls was remembering what I was like at their age
    We let them sorta date while teens, but I always had a talk with the boys first.
    I'd tell them I remembered what I was like at their age and if they touched my little girl very bad things would happen to them.
    Then I'd smile and say "Always remember. I've been to prison and I don't mind going back".
    Don't really know how well that worked, but it sure was fun to watch them pee themselves a little
  • Profile picture of the author Kurt
    Kurt
    I recommend the advice Michael Duncan Clarke's character on 2 1/2 Men gave Ryan Stiles' character concerning having a daughter: Bulk up.
  • Profile picture of the author mediasurgeons
    mediasurgeons
    Ever heard of the word rebellion?

    You're asking for trouble if you are genuinely serious.
  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    Kay King
    My wife and I have already decided that our 13 year old daughter will not have a "love" interest until she's of legal adult.
    You are missing something that's important. Know your child, raise a child you can trust who is not afraid to come to you with any problems or questions.

    Be involved in her life - be vigilant about what she does online and who her friends are and who is the "love of her life this week". You know you can't exert such relentless control - if you do, she'll get very good at hiding what she does and who she does it with.

    I'm so glad I had sons!
  • Profile picture of the author scubasteve-cr
    scubasteve-cr
    Tsk tsk tsk, TL.

    Here's a hint for you: she's going to do it anyway. I don't understand strict parents. You're supposed to support your children. Shouldn't your daughter learn from her parents instead of the world? She will date anyway. She will have a boyfriend anyway. She just might *gasp* have sex anyway.

    You're leading down a dangerous road by being super-strict and not letting her date. Why would you do such a thing? Don't you love your daughter??
  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    Jonathan 2.0
    She'll probably feel left out when all of her friends are "dating" etc.
  • Profile picture of the author jimbo13
    jimbo13
    ^ Yes he does, and therefore he doesn't want some little oik within 100 yards her.

    Dan

    PS: Good luck TL, think you may need it.
  • Profile picture of the author TLTheLiberator
    TLTheLiberator
    Well, she's already been told so she will be prepared.

    When she was 5 or 6...

    I remember, a little boy was trying to kiss her at a party at a restaurant and I wanted to throw him against the wall.

    I'm only kidding about wanting to throw him against the wall.

    TL
  • Profile picture of the author ThomM
    ThomM
    I'm so glad I had sons!
    Sure rub it in
    I truly believed that having girls was Gods way of getting even with me for my teen years
  • Profile picture of the author waterotter
    waterotter
    TL, if you have any hopes of your plans working, you had better relocate to a remote private island and start home schooling!
  • Profile picture of the author dennyrichs
    dennyrichs
    nice thought but If u put lot of restriction on her.she will frustrated and may be she will not respect you that's why don't give her unnecessary restrictions.she should not be think that you have snatched her freedom.
  • Profile picture of the author ak1lz
    ak1lz
    Imho... you are going to create far more problems than the ones you are avoiding.
  • Profile picture of the author QuickSurf
    QuickSurf
    The only point of having a daughter is so you can do this one day

    warning: language, NSF

  • Profile picture of the author Bekah Howard
    Bekah Howard
    Originally Posted by TLTheLiberator View Post
    It's gong to be a bummer for her and I hope she doesn't turn out gay or a wild woman, but we feel it's best to proceed this way.

    We're going to talk to the other parents and see if we can get a partnership on this matter.

    If none of her BFFs can have a boyfriend it makes it easier for all of them.

    All The Best!!

    TL
    TL, my parents tried rules like that. For my sister and I the rule was no boyfriend until your 16, then we had to have my dad's specific permission for the guy and they had to have a "talk"... In theory.

    My sister's first boyfriend was at 15. She just kept him a complete secret. I actually waited until I was 19, but he happened to be 7 years older than me at the time... oh, and I flirted around with some guys from 13 on (nothing bad, basically just cuddling), and my first kiss was with a guy I didn't care about (just because I was feeling rebellious), and once I was 18 and at college I started partying (even though I was a "good" girl and went to a private christian school that had VERY strict lifestyle code). Did I mention that I managed to hide everything from my parents, mostly without even trying that hard.

    Long story short, My main reason for doing so was because I was sick of playing the good girl and decided to just try everything since I wasn't allowed to try anything before.

    I obviously straitened out later, without much (if any) damage done, but my dad is still upset about it years later. The only reason he knows anything is that I admitted some of it to him later. He still doesn't know most of it.

    Seriously, rather than put limits like that on your daughter, I encourage (and even beg) you to instead encourage openness with her.

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