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13 years ago

If she's already able to write good content - more than you require - why not roll with that and post her services in the Warriors for Hire section, where she can outsource to others for $$$?

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StrategicCheetah 13 years ago

Not a bad suggestion.

I'm actually kind of trying to think of a business model I could get her off and running with to see what she can produce. A project to really sink her teeth into!

Another thing which occurred to me was training her up on buying low selling high with mobile phones on ebay or something similar... I've made some money like that in the past, and it can be really engrossing and satisfying when you start to see profits.
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E. Brian Rose

13 years ago

Don't mix your girlfriend into your business. Help her start her own. A wife would be one thing, but girlfriends come and go... and sometimes they want to take what they think is rightfully theirs.

I know, I know... your relationship is different. It's gonna last forever and all that jazz. Ya, we've all been there. Some of us more than others.

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HeySal

13 years ago

My GF has ALOT of time on her hands - What job should I give her next?? ;-)

WTF?

I don't believe I just read this. Maybe a good next job for her would be to find a boyfriend who doesn't think of her as a helpless little girl and treats her like a sexy, desirable feline instead. If she's 18 or older, she's of age to figure out her own way to make money. If she needs a man she needs to find one. If she needs a daddy or a career director, she's all set.

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Daniel Evans

13 years ago

Originally Posted by HeySal

WTF?

I don't believe I just read this. Maybe a good next job for her would be to find a boyfriend who doesn't think of her as a helpless little girl and treats her like a sexy, desirable feline instead. If she's 18 or older, she's of age to figure out her own way to make money. If she needs a man she needs to find one. If she needs a daddy or a career director, she's all set.

Agree with this.

Passed off as quite disrespectul in the sense you're the man with the plan who dishes out the bread to the minions - even if that weren't the intention.

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Greg guitar

13 years ago

Originally Posted by webcore

Agree with this.

Passed off as quite disrespectul in the sense you're the man with the plan who dishes out the bread to the minions - even if that weren't the intention.

By "passed off", I'm guessing you mean that's the impression you got based on insufficient data-nothing more than clumsy phrasing. Nothing he said implied to me that he doesn't respect the woman he calls "bright and capable", and gives props to as a writer. I highlighted intention because as you admit, his is unclear, making it far more appropriate to ask than accuse, as the post you're agreeing with does insultingly.

I think some feminists and pro-feminist men are at times just a tad overly touchy in taking offense because people don't phrase things perfectly. I have no doubt there are women who would jump all over a man who would suggest, as Sal did, that girlfriends in general should be treated as "sexy, desirable felines", arguably far more sexist than the wording in the op.

Is it sexist to present yourself as the "man with the plan" if that is exactly what you are? If the shoe was on the other foot, would you find it disrespectful that the "woman with the plan" asserted her leadership in the area of her expertise? He isn't saying she needs a man to tell her what to do-just that he's giving her jobs to do online. Maybe that's because he's the expert, rather than because he's the man (or the daddy who is less than one).

Maybe he did offend his girlfriend, and maybe not-that's her business, not ours. But judging by the fact that she is apparently still willing to try different jobs he "gives her" (or "suggests to her" to be more pc), my guess is she is much less offended than Sal, who finds it offensive enough to imply that he is less than a man.

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Daniel Evans

13 years ago

Greg, I appreciate your reply, but my suggestion is as clear as it's written. The title seemed a tad offensive even if it weren't the intention. "Clumsy phrasing" if you will.

I can't comment further and disect to the depth of detail you clearly wish to take it since I don't have a lot of time on my hands.

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Greg guitar

13 years ago

Originally Posted by webcore

Greg, I appreciate your reply, but my suggestion is as clear as it's written. The title seemed a tad offensive even if it weren't the intention. "Clumsy phrasing" if you will.

I can't comment further and disect to the depth of detail you clearly wish to take it since I don't have a lot of time on my hands.

Haha-neither do I, come to think of it.

Thanks for the wake-up.

Obviously your post was way less inflammatory than Sal's, but your agreement with hers surprised me, as it was quite insulting and over the top imo. But it's time for me to pipe down and let the op defend himself if he likes.

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Greg guitar

13 years ago

Originally Posted by HeySal

WTF?

I don't believe I just read this. Maybe a good next job for her would be to find a boyfriend who doesn't think of her as a helpless little girl and treats her like a sexy, desirable feline instead. If she's 18 or older, she's of age to figure out her own way to make money. If she needs a man she needs to find one. If she needs a daddy or a career director, she's all set.

I often enjoy and agree with your posts, so I hope you won't be too mad if I take strong exception to this one. I consider myself pro-feminist, and have an inkling as to why you might be offended, but I think you went overboard in your extreme reaction to his unfortunate, but ambiguous phrasing, especially in the thread title.

Although he phrased the title poorly, it seems to me you're making wild assumptions about his relationship from very limited information provided in the post. From the content, it sounds more likely to me that they've agreed to a mentor-student relationship in the area of his expertise, which could just as well be reversed if he were the one between jobs, and she was the online entrepreneur, than it is that he thinks of her as a helpless little girl.

Being 18 or older (I don't think we even know that, do we?) doesn't necessarily mean that one must figure out their own way to make money, with no help or guidance from others-a glance at the WSO section makes it clear many people want to be told exactly what to do.

Isn't it possible she asked him to help her find a way to make money online, or perhaps voiced frustration at being bored and broke, to which he replied by offering her tasks to do? We don't know what conversations took place. It seems unlikely they have a master/slave relationship, at least from his words.

Also, did I correctly gather that you called his manhood into question, simply because his phrasing about "giving her jobs to do" offended you? If so, I think that's way out of line-one of the harshest insults for many men.

Maybe you were just in a bad mood, but I can assure you that telling a man that his girlfriend "needs to find [a man]", is at least as offensive to him as a man treating his girlfriend like a helpless little girl is to you, and as I said, you really don't know that's what he's doing, unless you have prior knowledge of the relationship that isn't in the thread.

It also seems pretty presumptuous that you're holding out the ideal that a woman you don't know should be treated by her boyfriend as a "sexy, desirable feline", a description she might easily find uncomfortable and ill fitting, if not downright insulting. Some women might be delighted that the boyfriend sees them that way, but we don't know from the op how she would react. It's certainly none of our business to judge the way they view each other in regard to sex appeal.

Just my two cents.

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HeySal

13 years ago

Originally Posted by Greg guitar

I often enjoy and agree with your posts, so I hope you won't be too mad if I take strong exception to this one. I consider myself pro-feminist, and have an inkling as to why you might be offended, but I think you went overboard in your extreme reaction to his unfortunate, but ambiguous phrasing, especially in the thread title.

Although he phrased the title poorly, it seems to me you're making wild assumptions about his relationship from very limited information provided in the post. From the content, it sounds more likely to me that they've agreed to a mentor-student relationship in the area of his expertise, which could just as well be reversed if he were the one between jobs, and she was the online entrepreneur, than it is that he thinks of her as a helpless little girl.

Being 18 or older (I don't think we even know that, do we?) doesn't necessarily mean that one must figure out their own way to make money, with no help or guidance from others-a glance at the WSO section makes it clear many people want to be told exactly what to do.

Isn't it possible she asked him to help her find a way to make money online, or perhaps voiced frustration at being bored and broke, to which he replied by offering her tasks to do? We don't know what conversations took place. It seems unlikely they have a master/slave relationship, at least from his words.

Also, did I correctly gather that you called his manhood into question, simply because his phrasing about "giving her jobs to do" offended you? If so, I think that's way out of line-one of the harshest insults for many men.

Maybe you were just in a bad mood, but I can assure you that telling a man that his girlfriend "needs to find [a man]", is at least as offensive to him as a man treating his girlfriend like a helpless little girl is to you, and as I said, you really don't know that's what he's doing, unless you have prior knowledge of the relationship that isn't in the thread.

It also seems pretty presumptuous that you're holding out the ideal that a woman you don't know should be treated by her boyfriend as a "sexy, desirable feline", a description she might easily find uncomfortable and ill fitting, if not downright insulting. Some women might be delighted that the boyfriend sees them that way, but we don't know from the op how she would react. It's certainly none of our business to judge the way they view each other in regard to sex appeal.

Just my two cents.

I couldn't care less if you are set back at my angst.
The way people phrase things reveals quite a bit about what they are thinking - even when they don't want it to. I am quite sure he didn't mean it to sound like that - I am also quite sure that my take on his attitude is pretty on target.

This guy thinks this woman is less than himself. Period. There is a vivid undertone of dominance, authority and condescension. I wouldn't think you'd need a background in psycholinguistics to see it.

The remark about treating her sexy was to get the point across that this is an adult female, not a kid he's babysitting or raising.

If she has asked for things to do to "keep her occupied" then it would be much to her benefit for him to suggest she find a hobby instead of humoring her with little busy work. If she asked him to teach her how to make money online - why the condescending attitude?

It's not always the lines that tell the story - it's often written in between them.

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StrategicCheetah

13 years ago

Originally Posted by HeySal

I couldn't care less if you are set back at my angst.
The way people phrase things reveals quite a bit about what they are thinking - even when they don't want it to. I am quite sure he didn't mean it to sound like that - I am also quite sure that my take on his attitude is pretty on target.

This guy thinks this woman is less than himself. Period. There is a vivid undertone of dominance, authority and condescension. I wouldn't think you'd need a background in psycholinguistics to see it.

The remark about treating her sexy was to get the point across that this is an adult female, not a kid he's babysitting or raising.

If she has asked for things to do to "keep her occupied" then it would be much to her benefit for him to suggest she find a hobby instead of humoring her with little busy work. If she asked him to teach her how to make money online - why the condescending attitude?

It's not always the lines that tell the story - it's often written in between them.

More baseless garbage.

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bravo75 13 years ago

Maybe she is. In which case, she has low self esteem and believes she needs "to be put in her place". These people exist.

Originally Posted by HeySal

This guy thinks this woman is less than himself.

It's not always the lines that tell the story - it's often written in between them.
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Greg guitar 13 years ago

Originally Posted by HeySal

This guy thinks this woman is less than himself. Period.
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He didn't say that. His post was about helping her in his area of expertise. She is apparently less of an expert in IM, which you take to mean, less of a human being. That is a complete figment of your overactive imagination.

I misjudged you previously. It seems you're determined to stand by your projections and assumptions. I prefer to give people a chance to explain their intentions, rather than infer much more than was said, and then insult them based on it, insisting that they really meant what I assumed, and found offensive. I guess that's because I prefer not to be a drama queen. To each their own.
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Roaddog

13 years ago

Originally Posted by HeySal

WTF?

I don't believe I just read this. Maybe a good next job for her would be to find a boyfriend who doesn't think of her as a helpless little girl and treats her like a sexy, desirable feline instead. If she's 18 or older, she's of age to figure out her own way to make money. If she needs a man she needs to find one. If she needs a daddy or a career director, she's all set.

If you had read it...

I already knew before I even opened this thread, what your reaction would be Sal...

:p

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jennex05 13 years ago

If it's a part time job you are currently looking for, why not let her open her own blog and manage it other than writing for you.You can also consider affiliate marketing.It's another good job.
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StrategicCheetah

13 years ago

Originally Posted by HeySal

WTF?

I don't believe I just read this. Maybe a good next job for her would be to find a boyfriend who doesn't think of her as a helpless little girl and treats her like a sexy, desirable feline instead. If she's 18 or older, she's of age to figure out her own way to make money. If she needs a man she needs to find one. If she needs a daddy or a career director, she's all set.

WOW :-)

I'm trying to help my GF, who I love, out of a rut and show her a way she can make some money and build confidence. In our neck of the woods, there is absolutely nothing out there job wise for her...she didn't go to uni and worked retail for a long time, which caused her to get STRESSED. So her options are very limited and she is B O R E D... Hence why I am racking my brains to try and suggest something that she will enjoy that will make her some money....

ANYHOOO... Hysterical hormonal rants aside, thanks to the Warriors out there that have made nice suggestions instead of trying to cause an argument.

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Roaddog

13 years ago

Originally Posted by HeySal

WTF?

I don't believe I just read this. Maybe a good next job for her would be to find a boyfriend who doesn't think of her as a helpless little girl and treats her like a sexy, desirable feline instead. If she's 18 or older, she's of age to figure out her own way to make money. If she needs a man she needs to find one. If she needs a daddy or a career director, she's all set.

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Sabrina178

13 years ago

teach her affiliate marketing

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Tim Davis 13 years ago

If she can write good content have her start publishing on Amazon's create space for physical books or on the kindle she can really sink her time in on that and it's as close to set it and forget it as you can come for recurring income separate from yours of course I'll side up with E.B.R. on this one too!!
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frosteam

13 years ago

Its not good giving your girlfriend a job. Its disappointing to hear. Just let her do what she think would be great for her.

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philipf

13 years ago

just give her some options like everyone said, and let her choose.
just don't take her in your own business.
let her decide on what she wants, that way if it didn't work out, it's not entirely your fault.

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MIRENGE

13 years ago

you said she writes good content for you let her start her own site and do what she likes.

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bravo75

13 years ago

A rather provocative thread title. I kind of liked it. The responses were even better. Sexy feline? What if she weighs 270 pounds and has a face like a 50 shilling pot? You might as well get her writing articles then.

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StrategicCheetah

13 years ago

Originally Posted by bravo75

A rather provocative thread title. I kind of liked it. The responses were even better. Sexy feline? What if she weighs 270 pounds and has a face like a 50 shilling pot? You might as well get her writing articles then.

The fact that there was a ";-)" in the title suggests that the wording was meant to be slightly tongue in cheek...

I enjoyed laughing at HeySals posts nonetheless I have to say, as did my lovely girlfriend before I sent her back to the kitchen to make my dinner ;-)

(KIDDING HeySal don't start getting yourself worked up again, at your age its really not good for you!!!

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bravo75

13 years ago

Yep, Heysal seems to be getting her undies in more of a twist than would be considered healthy. This is the same person that believes humans will reach the 5th dimension as energy entities once their physical "hosts" cease to exist and doesn't omit the notion that ancient structures were built by higher intelligences than ourselves. In other words, with all due respect, ma'm, since when do one cell organisms have the ability to alter your so typically balanced nature?

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The fact that there was a ";-)" in the title suggests that the wording was meant to be slightly tongue in cheek...

I enjoyed laughing at HeySals posts nonetheless I have to say, as did my lovely girlfriend before I sent her back to the kitchen to make my dinner ;-)

(KIDDING HeySal don't start getting yourself worked up again, at your age its really not good for you!!!

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moneyten

13 years ago

Originally Posted by PositiveVibe

The fact that there was a ";-)" in the title suggests that the wording was meant to be slightly tongue in cheek...

I enjoyed laughing at HeySals posts nonetheless I have to say, as did my lovely girlfriend before I sent her back to the kitchen to make my dinner ;-)

(KIDDING HeySal don't start getting yourself worked up again, at your age its really not good for you!!!

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LOL, just classic!

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gaffg

13 years ago

are cooking and cleaning options? if not then seo

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My GF has ALOT of time on her hands - What job should I give her next?? ;-)

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