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Hello everyone,


...just wanted to tell this newbie's side of the story. I am 46 years old and just learned what SEO was about 1 month ago. I have had a computer since 1997 so I am not a complete novice, but I think I have learned more about internet marketing in the last month than I had known previously. I discovered this forum and joined immediately...what a fantastic resource!

I was drawn to the WSO part of the forum and spent probably my first week there. I got out without losing my shirt and buying everything that can make me rich. I admit I invested at least $80 in my education, however. I promised myself that I will only by more WSO's or anything else with money I EARN as a result of my IM or other related endeavors.

This is probably the third forum that I have joined, although I have lurked in my share. I know some have difficulty bringing themselves to post or even join (I know), but you just have to make up your mind and do it. I think there a lot of people who will burst out of their shell if they just make that first step.

A couple of years ago I read an article about Social Anxiety Disorder. I'm not going to debate anything about it, but it fit me to a T. When I was a kid I HATED to be the center of attention. Giving book reports or being called on in class terrified me. Approaching girls....the fear of rejection....being laughed at.... I'd rather pick a fight with the toughest kid in school.

I don't know why, but in my early 30's I forced myself into situations that previously practically paralyzed me. You know what, little by little, it WORKED. I'm still as far from being the life of the party as I can be, but I'm better.

I had not planned on writing these last 3 paragraphs today, but I hope it helps at least one person.


Hope to get to know some of you,
Frank
  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Hi Frank - welcome to the Warriors.

    Some people here probably doubt this, but I'm actually fairly introverted myself -- writing is so much easier than conversing face to face......and especially with strangers. It's not hard for me to do things like public speaking or customer service but that's work related. It's personal one on one that I'm uncomfortable with.

    Hopefully you'll find it easier to get to know people here because posting is different from face to face over coffee. Once you know people it's not so bad.
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  • Profile picture of the author TopKat22
    Welcome Frank.

    Thank you for the input. I'm sure it will help others who think that if they are introverts, they can't do this.

    I personally, am an extrovert and have absolutely no problem in social settings and never have.

    However, in the course of my life, you would not believe how many famous people (even award winning actors) I've met who you would think would be extroverts because they are always in the limelight who indeed are introverts and feel uncomfortable.

    I post that as even more encouragment to introverts to just push through and make themselves do what they want to do. It can be done.

    Good luck in your IM future and keep it up.
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  • Profile picture of the author jacobben
    Hello friends...!

    My name is Jacob Ben, I just joined this forum and new here. I am excited to join this forum and just want to say hello to all of you and i hope to enjoy my stay here. thanks
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    • Profile picture of the author frankhill
      Hi Jacob!

      Hopefully we will both learn a lot, and make some friends!

      Frank
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      • Profile picture of the author frankhill
        Originally Posted by Rick B View Post


        Yesterday he gave me about a half-hour update on the latest in the search for life elsewhere in the Galaxy!

        So when I see him I take the time to tell him that it's ok to like girls and when people pat him on the back or hug him it's usually just to show that they like him. I also drag him away from the computer and game system to associate with other people as much as possible.
        Rick

        You sound like a cool uncle!

        Frank
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  • Profile picture of the author Rick B
    I have a nephew who has always been very uncomfortable in social situations. He didn't speak at all until he was 3 1/2 years old. Then he wouldn't speak to strangers for a couple years after that. He's made amazing progress and now at age 15 he's just a bit shy in most situations. He still gets upset when he gets out of his comfort zone though. He doesn't like to talk about girls although it's obvious that he's interested. He doesn't like strangers to touch him. A pat on the head or a shaking of the hand still upsets him.

    He's extemely intelligent though. He has repaired several of his friends broken video game systems. He removed the speakers from and old boom box, made a frame for them and wired them into a homemade set of headphones that look like they were made in a factory! Yesterday he gave me about a half-hour update on the latest in the search for life elsewhere in the Galaxy!

    It upsets me that lots of people have remarked to me that he will probably never be able to have a normal life! I just don't see that! I think that people underestimate him. So when I see him I take the time to tell him that it's ok to like girls and when people pat him on the back or hug him it's usually just to show that they like him. I also drag him away from the computer and game system to associate with other people as much as possible.

    I've got faith that he'll continue to improve to the point where he can have a reasonably normal life. It may come a decade or so later than with most but he'll get there.
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  • Profile picture of the author Afflit
    Quick Tips: Make friend on the forums...
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  • Profile picture of the author MarkFraser
    Hello community. I'm Mark Fraser brand new member of this great forum
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  • Profile picture of the author frankhill
    Afflit, Mark & maimtainie

    Thanks and good luck on the forum!

    Frank
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