Support a warrior father who wants the best for his daughter

I can't speak for Ireland here, but in the US, women have ALL the rights here! THEY can secretly bring the likelihood of a kid to near zero, or shoot the odds up. THEY can find out about the kid and keep the WHOLE thing secret, THEY can secretly abort, or have the kid.
Heck, the father could drive her to the office, and she could tell him it was for a checkup, even though it was just to abort the child. The doctors are FORBIDDEN to discuss it!
EVEN if they divorce without cause, they can get a lot of money for them, and more for the kids. They will almost certainly get the kids, if they wish, and can GREATLY restrict ALL of the father's rights. The father may never even know that the child is even his.

That said, I DO know a woman that apparently had the reverse happen. Her EX has a lot of legal backing and is relatively rich and can spend all year in the courts. SHE is near minimum wage and, because she remarried, isn't entitled to some things she otherwise would be. She wants her son, but can't have him.

I guess Ireland is the same then?

Steve

I hate to see people use kids as tool to hurt one another.

it´s the same steve, except it´s a no fault divorce, so no matter what either party did it´does not matter

Afflit, it´s a pain alright and not really fair on the kids, but what can you do, thanks for the words, both of you, much appreciated

Kay,

That is certainly true! My mother and father SEEMED amicable, but I heard different from each of them.

If a parent is willing to, for NO reason, deny a child the ability to see BOTH his or her parents, that should be a hefty strike against them concerning guardianship. It is one thing if the HAVE to take a job, or the schools are better, etc... And quite another if they have to get their hair done, don't want to spoil the kid, or out of spite.

Steve

There are a lot of reasons that women have gotten most of the rights when children are involved but sometimes that leaves a kid with less than a perfect mother, as well as some fathers that are nothing short of saints, in a bad situation.

It's really heartbreaking to see a kid that loves a parent torn from them for any reason. In the long run, it can backfire badly though because sooner or later that kid will be old enough to have their own say about whether they see someone or not - and if they were kept from someone they love because mommy or daddy was being a selfish jackass, that mommy or daddy might just lose that kid forever. Not a good way to play ball if you want a kid around in your elderly years.

thanks guys i really appreciate all your support, ít´s a tough situation and a tough process to go thru, but i do believe that what does not break us can only make us stronger. I am taking the advice of kay and dumping the anger, and Hey Sal you are right too.

thanks again and please do continue to support me, if you can or no anyone who might want to support my little campaign to raise some funds, well i would really appreciate it

I have the utmost respect for men who want to be a part of their children's lives. Unfortanately my kids' fathers are not remotely interested.

Just don't give up.

Di

Thanks Di

I am a father who will never give up, it´s a tough situation and you want to do the right thing, but it´s just so difficult, please do let others know and help me with the encouragement

No one wins except the lawyers. Family wealth that should be supporting the family flies out the door at crazy speeds.

Kay really has the best advice. You can't control you ex but you can control you and your responses and hopefully get her to mirror civilized behavior.

Hopefully the law will change to give equal custody, as right now they are heavily weighted towards the mother's side

Good luck to you with this my friend. Its an age old dillema... but that doesnt mean it doesnt hurt like you are the first person it ever happened to.

I would say that do all you can do, study the law and know your rights... and if all else fails remember that the mother may have her more of the time, but she gives more "thought" to the one who she doesnt get to see as much, and you have even more of a chance to make an impression and impact because you are the one she looks "forward" to.

I know this may not mean much at a time like this but it really is more about the qaulity of your time than the time itself, even though you want to be there for every little thing... when the important things come you will. You will be the turning points, the epiphanies, the inspiration and the hero... Mom? Shes just always there nagging and making me do homework...Dad? He is the one who inspires me to my highest heights.

You got this either way.... Be sure you use your finances wisely, because they are your strength and back bone that enable you to be a rock for the long haul, and dont let the chaos throw you off your financial game... keep it balanced.

Dont let any attorneys rip you off... you can probably learn the laws about your situation and do fine yourself.... You can see your daughter without an attorney if it comes down to it, but you cant see her without money.

Thats my two cents.

Ps. My brother Michael Bucker on this forum got custody of his children as a single father, so ; Yes, it is possible. He has raised them himself for 6 years.