Brother & Baby Sister?

Thomas, when I was studying medicine in the UK many years ago, I saw a 12 year girl with a daughter. As expected, the father just fade into the background and didn't care less. At least with this boy, he tries to live up to his responsibility.

OMG followed by another OMG

Gosh Daddy sure is young.

Is it a shame? Perhaps not.

Sure, the kid's gonna have to 'grow up' a whole lot faster, might miss out on some of the hanging out with his buddies on the playground, but look at it this way, at least he's not going to be like Tony Randal and play dad to a newborn when he's 90 years old and can hardly wipe his own mouth.

And being so close in age, they might be better friends with each other than most fathers and sons.

At least he's not father to 14! (As far as we know.)

By the way, how the devil did he become a father? Was this a case of child rape by an older female or what? Lord, I hope mama isn't his school teacher!

There's another thread here about this (13-year-old is a dad) and there's a link to an article that explains a lot about this. (no, wasn't his teacher. Whew!)

Here's the link (hope you don't mind me putting it over here, ryanman.)

Dad at 13 | Boy Alfie Patten, 13, becomes father of baby girl Maisie with girlfriend Chantelle Steadman, 15 | The Sun |News

There's an interview with him on the Sun's website where he's asked how he'll cope financially.

His answer?

"What does 'financially' mean?"

EWwwwwwwwwwwwww that's just soooooooooo disgusting!!!! He looks like a 7 year old!!!!! He may be a grandpa in his 20's. He needs to go to HeySal's sterilization clinic.

I guess this little guy's momma didn't use sunscreen.

In the states there are a lot of instances of 11 year old pregnant girls. It's absolute morbidity but most of them are from homes with parents who are welfare staters. Had kids for money and didn't care - then the kids only saw having kids as a way to solve problems. Drop a baby, get out of hunger and the streets free. Nobody has introduced the idea of getting an education and job idea to them.

If there's anything we can do about it we sure need to.

You know Sal, in school kids learn all about Sex ed. You learn how to prevent pregnancies, but nobody teaches them why!!! There should be a class on what it's like raising babies. Nobody teaches the kids that there will be countless nights where you are up all night with a screaming baby puking on you. Or how if you want to go somewhere, you can't because you're stuck with a baby. Or how fast they grow and how expensive clothes are. How expensive diapers and other baby necessities are. Or how if you need to go somewhere you have to first have arrangements with a babysitter. You can't just go as you please, it's a process of plan making. And all the days sitting at doctors offices all day. It's more than a full time job. You can't clock out and have peace. It's 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Maybe instead of just teaching how to prevent pregnancies, teach WHY you need to prevent pregnancies until you are ready emotionally and financially.

Okay,
I try to stay the hell outta these topics cause I get a little defensive, but I have to put in my 2 cents. See my mom was 15 with me, I was just turned 17 with my eldest. Age doesn't determine how good a parent anyone will be. Age is just a number. Physically, 16 is the "perfect" age for a female to have a child. This was common not so long ago.

And schools do have classes that teach you how to parent and about sleepless nights and everything like that. And in my class of 20 of us, there were 5 of us who already had a child or children. You can educate all you want, shit happens in life and I say kudo's to both the parents and the new grandparents for stepping up to the plate and dealing with that which they caused.

And I leave it at that for I have heard it all, been offended by the small thinking of people and dealt with the BS of people who go WTF to teens with kids, not realizing the impact that rude WTF can have on a persons outlook or emotional wellbeing.

Age is just a number, some 13 year old parents will always be better parents that those that are 40 and vice versa, judging someone on the basis of their age is just BS.

Sylvia some 16 year old mothers are better than some 30 year old mothers. Age has nothing to do with it. But theres a huge difference mentally in say a 13 year old boy and a 16 year old girl. We all know girls mature faster. My great grand mother got married at 13 to a 21 year old, had 11 kids and stayed married till the day they died. But things were different then than they are now. They lived on a farm, didn't finish highschool and worked from dawn to night every day. That scenario doesn't work in this day and age and we all know it unless you are Amish. When I had sex ed in 8th grade they just told us how babies were made and how to prevent pregnancy. NOBODY told us WHY. I seriously did not know newborns needed to eat and have their diaper changed every 2-3 hours. Nobody told me and I had no experience with newborns myself. It's fair to say there are other kids out there that have no idea what they are getting into. But if you are mentally ready for the challenge, go ahead.