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Is love just some trick of nature maybe a product of evolutionary brain chemistry designed to make people think they have some extra special bond simply to help ensure successful procreation -- or is it really something truly from beyond, maybe our connection to a God or to eternity or to something else spiritual.

After all the divorce rates seem to indicate love is fickle!
Love of Children or spouse? Oh , this again a built in mechanism for survival, is it?
  • Profile picture of the author anita75
    I don't think so
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  • Profile picture of the author Anna7
    Hmm... wow, tough question..

    Anyway, I think that love is real if you think it is. I guess kinda like religion or Santa Claus. As for the part regarding brain chemistry, well I suppose that helps too with the selection process. But what I think that most people fall in love with the idea of being in-love with someone, or just the idea of being in-love itself, that people tend to get blind-sighted about some things in the relationship.Things that may concern our actual feelings for our supposed partners. And sometimes, the concept of 'love' that many people have becomes distorted. After all, romantic love is not the only kind of love there is. While I have to agree that 'love' could be a mechanism for survival especially since "Men are by nature social beings", as stated by Aristotle.

    But what I think that what makes love seem fickle though is that in some people, it comes and goes. But I think that that does not mean that it is not real. Love is also an emotion, like happiness, sadness and anger. And if you feel sad one day and happy the next, can you say that you were not really sad after all? I think that love is like that. Even if a person falls out of love, it may not mean that the love you felt was not real

    Anyway, I personally am still hopeful that love really does exist. After all, even though there are many people who get divorced and whose relationships fall-out, there are also many others that work and really do last a lifetime, even with some animals.. Well, that's what I think.. Sorry for the long post
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  • Profile picture of the author zelgly2
    Divorce is on the raise because people are not understanding each other. ego also plays a major role in it. In the past we didn't have this problem because we did not have money and all lives happily. Now we have money. love towards children and person who is depressed is eternal. you cannot say it as survival. there are mothers who love a child ( not her biological child) . at some point of time everyone will reliase that there is some external force beyond human.
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  • Profile picture of the author AllenBrayan
    If you were thinking about someone while reading this, you're definitely in Love
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  • Profile picture of the author lonnylot
    Love isn't false, but it also is not the only thing you need. I love my Macbook, but I wouldn't like being married to it.

    With any relation you need an be able to communicate and be able to understand why other people think something different. When people say 'pick your battles' it isn't supposed to mean that you're supposed to shut of most of the time b/c it's not a battle you care about. It is supposed to mean that you should shut up because most of the time it doesn't matter. When you're not able to do this is when you will have problems.
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  • Love could be a chemical response to endorphines released in the brain reacting to stimuli triggered from various sources and senses...

    Love is also leaving early, whether your boss likes it or not, to see your daughter's dance recital.
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    • Profile picture of the author highhopes
      animals show a healthy protective quality bringing up their young....maybe not so healthy with their partners, ( swans excluded maybe)
      If we came out of the swamp and evolved into conscious beings, we can surely see the same attributes as animals? OK, some people have may have more of a devotion than basic animal survival programming.

      Very strong are the desires to meet the opposite sex and multiply particularly when one is younger. The older generations tend to find someone out of loneliness most of the time, then the mock devotion sets in all over again, don't you think?
      Oh, I`m not saying you don`t have a form of loving devotion, but i am thinking this is something burnt into the human psyche and society as a whole from within the parameters of evolution or where ever it came from!
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    • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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      Originally Posted by MoneyMagnetMagnate View Post

      Love could be a chemical response to endorphines released in the brain reacting to stimuli triggered from various sources and senses...

      Love is also leaving early, whether your boss likes it or not, to see your daughter's dance recital.
      Couldn't have worded it better myself.
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      • Profile picture of the author Brian John
        from an animal behavior course i took many yrs ago in college, i recall being taught that the feeling of being "in love" is another evolutionary behavior/trait, brought about by the release of specific neurochemicals, that helps confer a reproductive advantage. it corresponds on average to the approx length of time it takes for a baby to wean, or at least for that infant to become just old enough that the mother can be more proactive in terms of moving locations, offering protection, finding food, etc. prior to this period the infant is very fragile, much too fragile for the mother to be leaving it for any real length of time for example, as it would often die during this period. hence the period at its strongest lasts from the act of copulation to somewhere between 8 months to 1.5 yrs or so. of course those aren't hard numbers but you get the idea.

        basically, the feeling of being "in love" developed out of a need to have a period of closeness between two individuals that lasted approx as long as the female strongly needed the male's protection and food gathering capabilities to give their baby a fair chance at survival. those individuals who didn't experience this feeling of strongly wanting to be close to each other following procreation had less of their progeny surviving and hence less of their genes being successfully passed on to future generations.
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        • Profile picture of the author highhopes
          Originally Posted by Brian John View Post

          from an animal behavior course i took many yrs ago in college, i recall being taught that the feeling of being "in love" is another evolutionary behavior/trait, brought about by the release of specific neurochemicals, that helps confer a reproductive advantage. it corresponds on average to the approx length of time it takes for a baby to wean, or at least for that infant to become just old enough that the mother can be more proactive in terms of moving locations, offering protection, finding food, etc. prior to this period the infant is very fragile, much too fragile for the mother to be leaving it for any real length of time for example, as it would often die during this period. hence the period at its strongest lasts from the act of copulation to somewhere between 8 months to 1.5 yrs or so. of course those aren't hard numbers but you get the idea.

          basically, the feeling of being "in love" developed out of a need to have a period of closeness between two individuals that lasted approx as long as the female strongly needed the male's protection and food gathering capabilities to give their baby a fair chance at survival. those individuals who didn't experience this feeling of strongly wanting to be close to each other following procreation had less of their progeny surviving and hence less of their genes being successfully passed on to future generations.
          Very good! it`s about time we all woke up. take on the mantle of the fittest survive. Reverting to a mechanical robotic sense of belonging is ok, I can live with that!
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          • Profile picture of the author Brian John
            Originally Posted by highhopes View Post

            Very good! it`s about time we all woke up. take on the mantle of the fittest survive. Reverting to a mechanical robotic sense of belonging is ok, I can live with that!
            i was only speaking to biologically how the sensation of being "in love" came into existence. obviously as we attempt to develop into a higher-order, more caring species we don't have to stringently abide by the premise of "survival of the fittest", our actions and intentions can be more altruistic and humanitarian in terms of the survival of all individuals. furthermore, the feeling of being "in love" as i was referring to is very different than the love of something, which was mentioned by a few others.
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  • Profile picture of the author RadiantFire
    love has to be balanced with will to survive here...you have to will to love..balance is the key...avoid rollercoasters in life, keep expectations low....as far as sensation of being in love came into existence...think of new babies and their mothers....think of deep bond...something deep that keeps us together
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  • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
    love is false if you dont believe
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  • Profile picture of the author gentryliving
    Originally Posted by highhopes View Post

    Is love just some trick of nature maybe a product of evolutionary brain chemistry designed to make people think they have some extra special bond simply to help ensure successful procreation -- or is it really something truly from beyond, maybe our connection to a God or to eternity or to something else spiritual.

    After all the divorce rates seem to indicate love is fickle!
    Love of Children or spouse? Oh , this again a built in mechanism for survival, is it?
    No,, it's not! There's nothing false with love. It's depend on the person.
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  • Profile picture of the author John Durham
    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

    People fail to love, but love doesnt fail.
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    • Profile picture of the author highhopes
      Originally Posted by John Durham View Post

      Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

      People fail to love, but love doesnt fail.
      This looks like a verse from the bible! well the majority of the world don`t seem to show these attributes.....divorce is the proof!
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      • Profile picture of the author Mickinzie
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        Originally Posted by John Durham
        Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

        People fail to love, but love doesnt fail.
        This looks like a verse from the bible!
        (heeheheehehehe, but don't be too negative as your I.D is highhopes)
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  • Profile picture of the author katepeter
    Divorce comes in life because people can't understand each other ..!! there ego are also the main and the important problem which intersect each other . Money is every thing for some people in relation so when they have less money they misunderstand each other ...!!
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  • Profile picture of the author peterjohns
    yes some time it is false when people breaks there lover heart
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  • Profile picture of the author Mickinzie
    I think no one in this world can neglect love, it has a vital importance in our lives, but.....its also a reality that many people just be-fool others by using the name of LOVE, ....its also a natural feeligns for some one, i think from GOD, love have mystery, you feel good emotions for someone without any reason.....
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    • Profile picture of the author TG12
      Originally Posted by AllenBrayan View Post

      If you were thinking about someone while reading this, you're definitely in Love
      What about if you were thinking of yourself hehe!

      On a serious note QFT!
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    • Profile picture of the author highhopes
      Originally Posted by pakistanshows View Post

      Love is not just a game dude.. Love is a feeling to express our feelings on our beloved.. The universe are build on Love rule.. Think About it...
      My viewpoint is the universe is built on the DEATH Rule....
      Each of us are lucky to be here, billions of little seeds competed with you to reach the ovum....you survived, and developed into a person the other countless millions died.
      Result? life =1 point, Death = Millions of points.
      Same is true for every living thing.
      Billions of stars are born and then die...that`s your universe in all it`s splendor.

      IT`S A GAME TO SOMETHING DUDE!

      If that is love based, the bigger picture of everything casts a dark shadow, because life and existence is designed to DIE!
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  • Profile picture of the author travlinguy
    A lack of love, of self love especially, is the cause of all humanity's problems. It took me a while to understand but LOVE is everything. There's nothing else.
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  • Profile picture of the author sloanjim
    Here you go sing this a few times. If you have kids you know the answer!

    Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love. There's nothing you can do that can't be done. Nothing you can sing that can't be sung. Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game It's easy. There's nothing you can make that can't be made. No one you can save that can't be saved. Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time - It's easy. All you need is love, all you need is love, All you need is love, love, love is all you need. Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love. All you need is love, all you need is love, All you need is love, love, love is all you need. There's nothing you can know that isn't known. Nothing you can see that isn't shown. Nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be. It's easy. All you need is love, all you need is love, All you need is love, love, love is all you need. All you need is love (all together now) All you need is love (everybody) All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
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    • Profile picture of the author highhopes
      Originally Posted by sloanjim View Post

      Here you go sing this a few times. If you have kids you know the answer!
      The man who held the gun did`nt like that song though!
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  • Profile picture of the author Skatewear
    I don't think so.Love is a strong filling and it will help you to reach your destination.
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  • Profile picture of the author webdesigner2979
    Can't say for others...I did fall in love once! It is a nice feeling. It is one of those times when everything looks good. The best part is you start loving ur own self and start taking care of ur self
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