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Neighbors From Hell

by taskemann
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I got new neighbors for around 3 months ago and I CAN'T handle them! It's like I'm Flanders and they are the Simpsons and the Griffins together. But they're 10 times worse.

They shouts all day long. The kids yell on their parents, the parents yell on their kids and the parents yell on each others all the time. It's like they're almost deaf all of them! But it doesn't stop there. They do also have two dogs which they don't have in leashes. The dogs bark all the time, crap on my property and they doesn't care if the dogs are chasing old ladies down the street.

Their kids does also throw stones on my windows in the evenings. It's a wonder that the windows hasn't shattered. And they have also moved their trampoline to my lawn right outside the kitchen window.

In the weekends, they play loud music all night long and their latest invention was to get three big horses which they tied to MY trees in MY driveway and they have crapped down my driveway completely... Do I have to say more?:rolleyes:

I've talked about it with them, but it doesn't look like they care. I only get a "Yes, I'll fix it later" or "Yeah, I'll do something about it" as response.


Have you been in the same situation? And what did you do?

I'm desperate! I think I will go nuts soon if they doesn't change behavior and I can't get any work done because I get disturbed all the time...

I can't live with a zoo / nightclub / mental hospital next to my house!


I wish I lived in Texas. There I could at least use deadly force to stop them.
  • Profile picture of the author LinkContractor
    I think you see in your neighbors your flaws.

    Change yourself on the inside and the neighbors will simply vanish from your reality!

    Sounds like Law of Attraction, no? :-)

    Compassion, my friend, compassion!
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    • Profile picture of the author taskemann
      So what you basically are saying is that I just should deal with it and that it's my fault?

      Originally Posted by LinkContractor View Post

      I think you see in your neighbors your flaws.

      Change yourself on the inside and the neighbors will simply vanish from your reality!

      Sounds like Law of Attraction, no? :-)

      Compassion, my friend, compassion!
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  • Profile picture of the author MoneyMagnetMagnate
    And here I though Norway was a place where everybody dealt with things amicably...:rolleyes:

    It may be time to go out of character, and just ask them nicely (once) to shut the hell up, and have some consideration.

    I realized sometimes people are just stupidly oblivious to other people around them, and are honestly not aware of it, until someone tells them - like bad breath, or BO...

    I used to have a neighbor like this - She (yes she), had apparently been born on a loading dock, for every other word that came out of her mouth was profane, and at the top of her lungs - she could make a sailor blush - there is such a thing as decorum, and she actually had a 3 year old she seemed to care less about. I finally had to just tell her in a jokingly sarcastic way to act more civil in public, or I would have her declared a public nuisance...she got the hint.

    And if that doesn't work - play a lot of really dark heavy metal...realy LOUD :rolleyes:
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      Dogs that are not tied don't usually bark all the time. Seems if the dogs were chasing old ladies - the law would be involved.

      We have "nuisance" laws here and noise ordinances that can be enforced. But you might also consider playing music inside to drown out the outside noises.

      The problem with neighbors like that is once they get on your nerves, you start watching for the next problem...and the next. Ignore them as much as possible or recruit other neighbors who might also be bothered.
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      • Profile picture of the author MoneyMagnetMagnate
        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        Dogs that are not tied don't usually bark all the time. Seems if the dogs were chasing old ladies - the law would be involved.

        We have "nuisance" laws here and noise ordinances that can be enforced. But you might also consider playing music inside to drown out the outside noises.

        The problem with neighbors like that is once they get on your nerves, you start watching for the next problem...and the next. Ignore them as much as possible or recruit other neighbors who might also be bothered.
        You reminded me Kay - about 10 years ago, I had some new neighbors, pretty nice - until they got a dog, and left him locked in the garage, or house, and HOWLED ALL DAY. It was a townhouse, so we were attached by a wall. I'm a dog lover, so I tried all sorts of nice ways to 'train' the dog to shut up - none of them worked - so I explained to the neighbor the steps I had taken, and that they were not working, and what steps he thought he could take to resolve this problem...

        That was the end of the "nice neighbors"...I might as well have told that guy his kid was ugly He was a total pain in the butt after that, so I was forced to use "alternative measures".
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      • Profile picture of the author taskemann
        They bark while they're chasing people. And they're chasing people ALL the time. Even cars.

        I've talked with one other neighbor about it, but he is so tolerant.

        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        Dogs that are not tied don't usually bark all the time. Seems if the dogs were chasing old ladies - the law would be involved.

        We have "nuisance" laws here and noise ordinances that can be enforced. But you might also consider playing music inside to drown out the outside noises.

        The problem with neighbors like that is once they get on your nerves, you start watching for the next problem...and the next. Ignore them as much as possible or recruit other neighbors who might also be bothered.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
    If polite discussion doesn't work, it's time for the authorities. And, no, it isn't your fault and you shouldn't just deal with it. You have as much right to comfortable living as your neighbors.

    I don't know much about Norwegian law, but you might considering getting out your handy video camera and recording the various acts so you have proof for the 5-0.
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  • Profile picture of the author MoneyMagnetMagnate
    You could try a "bark away" or something similar to train them not to bark, without the owner even knowing...but it doesn't work on every dog - it depends on the breed, like Shelties...they just bark, it's hard to get them to shut up :p
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    • Profile picture of the author taskemann
      Do you mean this?:



      Originally Posted by MoneyMagnetMagnate View Post

      You could try a "bark away" or something similar to train them not to bark, without the owner even knowing...but it doesn't work on every dog - it depends on the breed, like Shelties...they just bark, it's hard to get them to shut up :p
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    wish my neighbour gave me his horses

    he had two winners last saturday, but he did give me the nod
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Scoop the dog poop and throw it back in their yard. Untie the horses any time they are tied on your property. Pick up any of their belongings in your yard and throw them in the trash - they are litter if they are in your yard.

    Build a 10 foot fence and line it with acoustic material to keep the sound down. Buy an air horn and when they start getting severely loud - just start blowing your air horn.

    Wanna get real nasty? Get a fan and some sulfur. Burn the sulfur in front of the fan and send the fumes directly toward their house. If they are just renting they might get tired of the smell and leave.
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      ROFLMAO! Hahahaha!

      The best advice he's been given yet!

      I can't even compete with that, but I do know who I want to be my roomie if the need should ever arise.

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    • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      Untie the horses any time they are tied on your property.

      Sal, you probably don't know, but I love you. However, it's not the horses' fault.
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      • Profile picture of the author salegurus
        Originally Posted by taskemann View Post


        I wish I lived in Texas. There I could at least use deadly force to stop them.
        I always thought the Scandinavian people to be more considerate (Unless they are not)? Goes to show that you get assholes everywhere.

        Even here in Texas it's not that simple

        Can't you call in the authorities?

        Originally Posted by LinkContractor View Post

        I think you see in your neighbors your flaws.

        Change yourself on the inside and the neighbors will simply vanish from your reality!

        Sounds like Law of Attraction, no? :-)

        Compassion, my friend, compassion!
        Complete and utter .... !

        Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

        Sal, you probably don't know, but I love you. However, it's not the horses' fault.
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        • Profile picture of the author Kay King
          it's not the horses' fault.
          I wish someone would tie horses on my property - I'd steal them. I love horses.

          The last two dogs that were problems in the neighborhood were great dogs - with very bad and abusive owners. They both disappeared in the middle of the night (the dogs - not the owners).
          The dogs are doing fine in their new homes:p My neighbor, John, and I are accomplished dog rustlers.
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          • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
            Scoop the dog poop and throw it back in their yard. Untie the horses any time they are tied on your property. Pick up any of their belongings in your yard and throw them in the trash - they are litter if they are in your yard.

            Build a 10 foot fence and line it with acoustic material to keep the sound down. Buy an air horn and when they start getting severely loud - just start blowing your air horn.

            Wanna get real nasty? Get a fan and some sulfur. Burn the sulfur in front of the fan and send the fumes directly toward their house. If they are just renting they might get tired of the smell and leave.
            Odd's on if you do that, they may see it as a challenge and get worse?

            Best to tape anything they do, which is near your property, and contact the police. So they will only know that one of the neighbors made these complaints; they may guess that it is you, but they won't be sure.

            Double grazing windows dramitically decrease outside noises, but it isn't cheap. Also keeps the heat in!

            My solution would be to warn them once that you're going to start calling the police if they don't stop the crap. Then, if they do, call them. The police would prevent me from going ballistic on them. If they get arrested and/or fined a few times they'll change.
            You can try that; we have some neighbors, thank fully down the road, that occasionally have a party, that usually lasts all night, with the music turned way up in their back yard.

            The poor neighbors next to them have contacted the police, but after they leave, the music goes up again.

            So, test the waters, and take your time with this, to see if things improve or get worse!

            And the Sulfur idea may bounce back on you, but to keep it legal you can grow a vegetable patch near their fence and spray it with Sulphate spray, that does wonders for the plants, and also stinks to high heaven for weeks or a good month or two. Legally you could justify this, and hopefully they will leave or sell up!

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        • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
          Originally Posted by salegurus View Post


          Complete and utter .... !

          Nope. Setting the horses free to run, get hit by a car, or whatever is not the answer. Call the Humane Society or the Norwegian equivalent? Sure. Blindly cutting them loose? Nope.

          Don't get me wrong, I'm not some PETA-loving, patchouli-smelling hippie. However, I don't condone the mistreatment of animals. I also don't think Sal really meant to cut them loose, either.
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        • Profile picture of the author taskemann
          Originally Posted by salegurus View Post

          I always thought the Scandinavian people to be more considerate (Unless they are not)? Goes to show that you get assholes everywhere.

          Even here in Texas it's not that simple
          So I'm a asshole? :p

          I thought is was that simple because I saw on TV once where a old guy in Texas shot and killed two teenagers who tried to break in to his house. And before he shot them, he had allready scared them away and they tried to run. And when he said in the police interrogation that he was defending himself and his property, they released him and dropped the charges against him.

          Maybe it was on Most Shocking or something. I don't remember.
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          • Profile picture of the author salegurus
            Originally Posted by taskemann View Post

            So I'm a asshole? :p

            I thought is was that simple because I saw on TV once where a old guy in Texas shot and killed two teenagers who tried to break in to his house. And before he shot them, he had allready scared them away and they tried to run. And when he said in the police interrogation that he was defending himself and his property, they released him and dropped the charges against him.

            Maybe it was on Most Shocking or something. I don't remember.
            I was not saying you were an Ass, rather your inconsiderate neighbor was.

            In Texas we have the Stand Your Ground Law:

            A stand-your-ground law states that a person may use force in self-defense when there is reasonable belief of a threat, without an obligation to retreat first. In some cases, a person may use deadly force in public areas without a duty to retreat. Under these legal concepts, a person is justified in using deadly force in certain situations and the "stand your ground" law would be a defense or immunity to criminal charges and civil suit. The difference between immunity and a defense is that an immunity bars suit, charges, detention and arrest. A defense, such as an affirmative defense, permits a plaintiff or the state to seek civil damages or a criminal conviction but may offer mitigating circumstances that justifies the accused's conduct.

            Source Wikipedia.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    My solution would be to warn them once that you're going to start calling the police if they don't stop the crap. Then, if they do, call them. The police would prevent me from going ballistic on them. If they get arrested and/or fined a few times they'll change.
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  • Profile picture of the author MoneyMagnetMagnate
    Or...you could just start a 'rumor' they have a meth lab...that ought to clear things out pretty quick :rolleyes:

    *Geesh - not THAT kind of "Bark Away" you guys and your Norwegian Wood (isn't it good?)


    OR...you could get your OWN attack dog!
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Of course I don't want to see horses get hurt. From what I've seen of Norway (it may be different now) unless the guy lives by a major highway, they won't. It would also be highly likely after the people get the horses back (and if) that they will be more careful with them. From the sounds of the people, I'm not so sure those animals are in the best of care anyway.
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    • Profile picture of the author MoneyMagnetMagnate
      I'm a guessin' you boys ain't from around these parts...

      Where I come from "Carpe' Equinus" is a Hangin' offense :p
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    Noisy neighbors? Try Liquid Ass, lol!

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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Kanigan
    If their animals are on your property, you MUST have legal recourse about that.

    Check the zoning laws of your area and find out if horses are even permitted.

    Definitely document their actions, keep event logs (records-dates, times, actions). This is your ammunition.

    Ask your municipality about "quiet enjoyment", which is a basic right you must have over there.

    And enforcement against nuisance offenses. In the cities I've lived in, you can't make loud noise after a certain time of night...not picking up after your pet is wrong...and if the shouting gets real bad you can always call the police to report a domestic disturbance. Could be one twirly-lit visit smartens them up...or they get a track record after awhile.

    If they damage your windows, you should be able to file a civil suit and certainly report it as a non-emergency to the police.

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    • Profile picture of the author ThomM
      Put up a for sale sign for the horses and trampoline.
      Take the dog crap and put it on their front porch.
      Get the air horn and when they start with the noise stand in your yard facing their house and let it rip.
      I can't tell you what to do about the kids because of child abuse laws
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      • Profile picture of the author dagnyjbarber
        Originally Posted by ThomM View Post

        Put up a for sale sign for the horses and trampoline.
        Take the dog crap and put it on their front porch.
        Get the air horn and when they start with the noise stand in your yard facing their house and let it rip.
        I can't tell you what to do about the kids because of child abuse laws


        This is good one
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  • Profile picture of the author Lori Kelly
    Sorry Jimmy. It is a pain living next to neighbors like that.

    I couldn't top Sal's suggestions if I tried.

    Move to Texas.
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  • Profile picture of the author computermesh
    If you've talked to them several times and nothing has been done. Start calling the police about them. If you repeatedly call ever day or every couple days and keep filing reports eventually the police will get pissed off and help handle the situation. Also if you want to be really devious. Go get a restraining order against the entire family. It will make them really difficult to do anything near you or your property without violating it and getting in trouble. Also, make sure you post no trespassing signs.
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    • Profile picture of the author DGFletcher
      Don't know what the laws are in Norway, but reporting anybody to the CPS (child protective services) in America will usually get them in massive amounts of trouble, whether it's necessarily 'true' or 'not'. They'll find something.

      I've been keeping that under my hat in case I ever get really annoying people who have kids near me.
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  • Profile picture of the author Fernando Veloso
    Option A: Be polite. Try your best to bring them to reason.
    Option B: Call the cops, talk to a lawyer.
    Option C: Well... you know where this is going: you need to step up your game.
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  • Profile picture of the author Levintry
    Lame neighbors are one of the worst things in life. I feel your pain. I lived in the country once and love it besides being so far from emergency services. I would just be really blunt and honest and tell them their activities are truly annoying and making it difficult for you to enjoy your home. Best of luck getting this sorted.
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  • Profile picture of the author SEO Rapid Fix
    In Thailand dogs bark and chase people all the time not on leads just a normal part of life. Get to know the dogs make some friends. Sounds like you need to liven up a bit, when kids throw stones at your window, throw one back it's all fun and games they just want to be friends.
    Go join the parties, horses are great at parties, when ever I'm out clubbing or anything I always hope to see a horse you have this great thing going and you are ruining it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
      Originally Posted by SEO Rapid Fix View Post

      horses are great at parties, when ever I'm out clubbing or anything I always hope to see a horse

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        Here...maybe this will make you feel better...

        Or...maybe not :rolleyes:

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        • Profile picture of the author Kay King
          I know we're joking a bit - and I know bad neighbors are real pain...but...

          You don't mess with anything that could harm animals or children. The parents, however, are fair game.
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