Family issue- Need Advice

It seems pretty obvious to me that the 3 year old shouldn't be around her grandfather. Their mother can either accept it or not. As a parent, your top priority must be the safety of your child. Too damn bad if the grandmother can't accept that.

This is neither medical nor legal advice as I'm not a doctor, nor lawyer.

This needs to be reported. A crime has been committed, if your version of events is correct.

This kind of situation is tricky, so safeguards need to be in place before any phone call is made to authorities. These girls need professionals who can interpret and deal with the issues at hand and the possible fallout, once this is reported. They need to feel safe and they need to be protected at all costs.

These girls have probably been conditioned to "keep this a secret" along with a "threat" of sorts from the beginning of the abuse.

I'm betting the child, who now has a child of her own is the one who is now seeking the help - that's natural, just like a bear with cubs - they will do what they need to do to protect their young.

These girls need to reassert their control/authority and take back the power the so-called step-dad has taken from them. The sooner, the better.

This kind of abuse continues as the victims have been traumatized and their abuser knows how to exert his power over them.

The abuser has more than likely abused others. He will continue to do so until he is stopped - permanently.

This is a cry for help, one that cannot be ignored.

Best of luck to you, your friend and her children.

Yup I agree. Think of the child first. No need to put her in that situation. Either the grandmother agrees or disagrees the 3 year old should be kept out of harm's way.

I would strongly suggest your friend join a support group for victims of child molestation. She (and her sister) have many issues to work through and having the right support will give them the strength they need to tackle this nightmare.

I hope they do find the strength to come forward. Unfortuantely, they are probably not the only victims of this pedophile.

You're a good friend for helping them out.

Good luck.

Thanks for the advice Warriors!

I'm thinking that if you don't do anything, you are failing any other children that he gets to.

Ideaz117,

Its a sticky situation because the wife of the man cannot come out of this without being hurt... but the MAN needs to be confronted and brought to justice for harming children.

It appears to be a choice

A: Hurt your mothers feelings
B: Let another little grow up being taken advantage of as the cycle goes on.

I wouldnt care for number one, but I couldnt LIVE WITH number two.

My two cents.

Hope this helps,
John

This is such a shocking story... can't believe.Don' t let the child near that man.

You could be quite surprised by the outcome on this.

Many years ago I was in a relationship with a girl who left home because she was being abused by her step father. It transpires that the mother was aware of it but she chose to turn a blind eye, knowing what he was doing doing, because she had convinced herself she would face the future on her own without him.

Sounds incredible I know but this is true.

The thing is, If the youngest child is abused & the mother (one of the past abused) doesn't say anything about the abusers history (now) to the authorities, she could be putting herself in jail If something bad happens to that baby.

The younger mother is willingly putting her own daughter in danger, even If she doesn't understand that. Courts don't care If a person understands the law, they'll remove that baby from the home ASAP If they think there's a reason to do so.

i think you have been cleared your problem ..!!