5 pairs of clean underwear, 4 Twinkies and a Christmas stocking

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I had a childhood memory this morning and just had to laugh at myself.

When I was just a little thing, my mom wouldn't let me do something I wanted to do and I got mad. I honestly can't remember what that thing was (obviously it wasn't that important in the scheme of things, lol!), so I told her that if she wouldn't let me do it, I was going to run away.

She shocked me and hurt my feelings by telling me that she really didn't want me to run away, but she would respect my feelings and let me go.


I was so mad and hurt and clearly not thinking straight that I went and got my older sister's red lunch box and packed it with 5 pairs of clean underwear, 4 Twinkies and my Christmas stocking. I went to the front door and my mom followed me there. I looked at her and she looked at me. Nothing...

So I asked her, "Aren't you going to stop me?"

She replied, "No, I'm not. I really don't want you to go, but I love you so much that I can't stop you."

I burst out in tears and cried, "See! I knew it! You don't love me and don't even care about me! Moms that love their kids don't let them run away!"

Mom held open the door and told me to go ahead and leave if I felt I must and while I was gone, to think about why things were so terrible at home. If after I thought about it and realized I really did have it bad here, then go search for a new family, but if I decided I was mistaken and was wrong, to please come back home.

I was heartbroken and bawling my eyes out, but being the stubborn little thing that I was, I left and started walking down the street, red lunch box in hand. I went to the woods at the end of our street, found the Cuckoo nest my sister and her friends had made out of leaves nestled between three fallen branches forming a triangle and sat down. I opened my lunch box and started eating the Twinkies as I settled myself down.

I watched ants crawling on the branches, listened to the birds chirping overhead, listened to the leaves rustling in the breeze and to the creek gently flowing along a short distance away, all the while eating Twinkies and becoming calmer.

When the Twinkies were gone, I realized I had no more food. I thought about the apple orchard at the other end of the woods but remembered the older kids say that an old farmer shot at them the last time they went there to pick apples.

So I decided that I should go back home or I would starve to death. When I got back, my mom said," I see you're back. What made you decide to come back home?"

I told her that I was out of Twinkies! Haha!


So much for my mom's child psychology or the way to a kid's heart is through the stomach?



Terra
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    Awe. : ) Little Terra running away from home.
    ...

    I did something similar:

    Packed a lunch box and started walking out the door ... However before I could get down the path my Dad came out and picked me up in a playful kind of way and we went back inside.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    I was a teen before I ever threatened to run away. My mom just told me to make real sure I wanted to go because I wouldn't be coming back again if I did, and if I did come back, she'd throw me in the Juvie. I knew she was serious. She did explain that it wasn't because she didn't love me. It was because if I loved her and dad so little that I'd act as a traitor and make them that sick with worry, she didn't want me around.

    It came to the same thing when it was about teen-age pregnancy. The first time one of the girls in high school got pregnant, she told me she wasn't raising anyone else's kids, so if I got pregnant, plan to go live on welfare because I wasn't living in her house with a baby. She said I could come visit, but she wasn't the babysitter.

    Made sense to me. Mom didn't let anyone step on her. I'm glad she was like that.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      I was a teen before I ever threatened to run away. My mom just told me to make real sure I wanted to go because I wouldn't be coming back again if I did, and if I did come back, she'd throw me in the Juvie. I knew she was serious. She did explain that it wasn't because she didn't love me. It was because if I loved her and dad so little that I'd act as a traitor and make them that sick with worry, she didn't want me around.

      It came to the same thing when it was about teen-age pregnancy. The first time one of the girls in high school got pregnant, she told me she wasn't raising anyone else's kids, so if I got pregnant, plan to go live on welfare because I wasn't living in her house with a baby. She said I could come visit, but she wasn't the babysitter.

      Made sense to me. Mom didn't let anyone step on her. I'm glad she was like that.
      Just goes to show how different parenting styles for different children work. If my mom had put it that way to me, I'm sure my little spirit would have been crushed and I would have grown up with low self esteem, lol!

      You have always been more tough than me and I luv ya for it. That toughness has helped me out in a situation or two.

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      • Profile picture of the author HeySal
        Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

        Just goes to show how different parenting styles for different children work. If my mom had put it that way to me, I'm sure my little spirit would have been crushed and I would have grown up with low self esteem, lol!

        You have always been more tough than me and I luv ya for it. That toughness has helped me out in a situation or two.

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        Well, Terra - My Grandmother was a cossack and raised my mom. It was tough or die in that household. You know my dad - and know what an upstanding and brave man he is - and a vet of WWII.....yet when us women got to fighting - he went down to the basement and hid in his office or his shop.
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        • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
          Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

          Well, Terra - My Grandmother was a cossack and raised my mom. It was tough or die in that household. You know my dad - and know what an upstanding and brave man he is - and a vet of WWII.....yet when us women got to fighting - he went down to the basement and hid in his office or his shop.
          HaHa! Not only is he very brave, he is very smart too!

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  • Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

    I told her that I was out of Twinkies! Haha!

    So much for my mom's child psychology or the way to a kid's heart is through the stomach?

    Terra
    So funny. Got me laughing.

    Your mom being so calm reminded me of Richard Pryor's bit about his girlfriend deciding to leave him. He was all crazy and she was cool as a cucumber.

    (Clean version)

    "The madder you get, the calmer the woman gets.

    Richard: GET OUT!

    Girlfriend: I'm leaving.

    Richard: I DONT WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN!

    Girlfriend: Don't worry, you won't."
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by KingOfContentMarketing View Post

      So funny. Got me laughing.

      Your mom being so calm reminded me of Richard Pryor's bit about his girlfriend deciding to leave him. He was all crazy and she was cool as a cucumber.

      (Clean version)

      "The madder you get, the calmer the woman gets.

      Richard: GET OUT!

      Girlfriend: I'm leaving.

      Richard: I DONT WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN!

      Girlfriend: Don't worry, you won't."


      Mom was always awesome that way. She had such a kind and gentle spirit and such zest for life. She loved to have fun too.

      But when she did get angry, which wasn't very often, boy the looks she shot you could sure get you back in line. And if you dared defy those looks, a whooping was in order.

      Not the physical kind, but she had such a way with words in telling stories with very clear morals that made you feel an inch tall, that you sometimes wished you would have gotten a whooping, lol!

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  • Profile picture of the author garyv
    I do remember running away once - I went as far as I could. I went all the way around the block and ended up back at the house - I wasn't allowed to cross the street at the time.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by garyv View Post

      I do remember running away once - I went as far as I could. I went all the way around the block and ended up back at the house - I wasn't allowed to cross the street at the time.
      Haha! That's so cute, Gary!


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  • Profile picture of the author twister85
    I ran away too when my mom refused to feed me with her hands. It was night and I was scared like hell. Finally accepted the self eating Idea.

    Thanks for lighting up the memories Terra.
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  • Profile picture of the author laurencewins
    I didn't run away but I remember several times my little sister did. She packed her little suitcase with a few things and walked down to the end of the street....eventually she came back again as she didn't know where to go and hadn't walked that far on her own before.

    I do remember when I first went to school. My first day was really great fun. However, when I found out I had to keep going back every day, I wasn't having that. I really kicked up a huge ruckus.
    I don't remember how my parents coped with that either but it must have worked because I went back every day for 13 years.
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  • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
    Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

    I had a childhood memory this morning and just had to laugh at myself.

    When I was just a little thing, my mom wouldn't let me do something I wanted to do and I got mad. I honestly can't remember what that thing was (obviously it wasn't that important in the scheme of things, lol!), so I told her that if she wouldn't let me do it, I was going to run away.

    She shocked me and hurt my feelings by telling me that she really didn't want me to run away, but she would respect my feelings and let me go.


    I was so mad and hurt and clearly not thinking straight that I went and got my older sister's red lunch box and packed it with 5 pairs of clean underwear, 4 Twinkies and my Christmas stocking. I went to the front door and my mom followed me there. I looked at her and she looked at me. Nothing...

    So I asked her, "Aren't you going to stop me?"

    She replied, "No, I'm not. I really don't want you to go, but I love you so much that I can't stop you."

    I burst out in tears and cried, "See! I knew it! You don't love me and don't even care about me! Moms that love their kids don't let them run away!"

    Mom held open the door and told me to go ahead and leave if I felt I must and while I was gone, to think about why things were so terrible at home. If after I thought about it and realized I really did have it bad here, then go search for a new family, but if I decided I was mistaken and was wrong, to please come back home.

    I was heartbroken and bawling my eyes out, but being the stubborn little thing that I was, I left and started walking down the street, red lunch box in hand. I went to the woods at the end of our street, found the Cuckoo nest my sister and her friends had made out of leaves nestled between three fallen branches forming a triangle and sat down. I opened my lunch box and started eating the Twinkies as I settled myself down.

    I watched ants crawling on the branches, listened to the birds chirping overhead, listened to the leaves rustling in the breeze and to the creek gently flowing along a short distance away, all the while eating Twinkies and becoming calmer.

    When the Twinkies were gone, I realized I had no more food. I thought about the apple orchard at the other end of the woods but remembered the older kids say that an old farmer shot at them the last time they went there to pick apples.

    So I decided that I should go back home or I would starve to death. When I got back, my mom said," I see you're back. What made you decide to come back home?"

    I told her that I was out of Twinkies! Haha!


    So much for my mom's child psychology or the way to a kid's heart is through the stomach?



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    I laughed out loud the whole time I was reading this. Your Mother sounds like a very bright person. You kind of made my day.
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    Cute story. Thanks for bringing up some now funny memories.

    My brother ran away when he was about 11 or 12. He packed a little suitcase and
    started walking. He almost made it to a little town about 20 miles south of us before
    he was picked up by the state patrol.

    When I was about 10, my friends' parents came over because they were frantically
    looking all over the neighborhood for him. About an hour later they called back
    because they found him in their camper where he had "run away" to.

    I once got mad at Mom and made the front screen door slam and then went downstairs
    to my bedroom. She thought I left and looked for me for about an hour. I was not trying
    trick her, just slapped the door open on my way downstairs.

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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    I just remembered something. I was 4 and we were at my grandmother's in Florida for the first time since they bought their winter home down there. My aunt was there and she yelled at me for something. So I took off. Wasn't meaning to run away - just a walk to let things cool down around there. The walk got interesting though. I saw a turtle, snakes, walked by a canal, through a woods, sat by the lake and watched the sand crabs. Found my first jackknife under the dock. I was gone for hours and had the best time.

    When I got home everyone was just frantic. They had been looking for me and were scared crapless that because I was only 4, if I was out by myself I had done something stupid. Quicksand, pick up a coral snake, whatever. I couldn't believe they were upset. We ended up having a pow-wow with everyone telling me how bad I had made them feel. My aunt felt like crap because she thought I had died and it was her fault. It was one major brew-haha.

    Anyway, it turned out good. I showed them my jackknife and dad said I could keep it, but couldn't use it until he showed me how to use it safely. I had to promise to tell someone before I ever left the yard again. Dad made me go to the lake with him where there were several spots of quicksand and made me show him where all the quicksand was. I was able to tell. We talked about the turtles and snakes, etc. and I was able to tell him which turtles were snappers and told him I had no plans in ever trying to pick up a snake anyhow.

    It ended up being my first acquired freedom. I was allowed to be out on my own as long as someone knew I was out of the yard and which way I intended to go.

    Wow. I haven't thought about that in years.
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      I never ran away as a kid. But I kept finding notes from my parents suggesting it. Brochures about other states, just lying about. I got a letter from the Publisher's Clearinghouse...telling me I won a one way trip to Australia. I found out later it was from my parents.

      I asked my Dad once why they had me. He said "Spare parts".


      Honestly, I wouldn't have run away. I was too chunky. OK, maybe waddled away. But nobody would carry me, so I decided to wait until I was older. When I could hire someone to carry me.

      (those are jokes)


      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      Anyway, it turned out good. I showed them my jackknife and dad said I could keep it, but couldn't use it until he showed me how to use it safely. I had to promise to tell someone before I ever left the yard again. Dad made me go to the lake with him where there were several spots of quicksand and made me show him where all the quicksand was. I was able to tell. We talked about the turtles and snakes, etc. and I was able to tell him which turtles were snappers and told him I had no plans in ever trying to pick up a snake anyhow.
      Sal; I think you would have been a very interesting kid. Your Dad sounds like a very good man.
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      • Profile picture of the author HeySal
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        I never ran away as a kid. But I kept finding notes from my parents suggesting it. Brochures about other states, just lying about. I got a letter from the Publisher's Clearinghouse...telling me I won a one way trip to Australia. I found out later it was from my parents.

        I asked my Dad once why they had me. He said "Spare parts".


        Honestly, I wouldn't have run away. I was too chunky. OK, maybe waddled away. But nobody would carry me, so I decided to wait until I was older. When I could hire someone to carry me.

        (those are jokes)




        Sal; I think you would have been a very interesting kid. Your Dad sounds like a very good man.
        My dad is awesome. He's 89 and is failing - having problems with his back after tennis. :rolleyes: He taught me enough to keep me alive in the wilderness.......that's why they never tried your parents "brochures" trick. I could find my way home no matter where they dropped me off. I was like a good dog that way.

        Anyway - I got stranded in the Ochoco mountains in Feb 1998. (My ex ...who was not exed yet) called my dad to tell him that I'd been missing for 2 days after going to the Mt's in winter. When I got out of there a few days later and to a hotel, my ex came down and he was going off that "your dad didn't even CARE - all he said is to have you call when you got back." I laughed and told my ex "Oh he cared alright. He cared enough to make sure I'd be able to get back from just that kind of thing." Then I got to bitch at my ex for an hour because he was the one that had taken my chains out of my rig without telling me that I was going to the Mt's in winter with no chains.

        Then I called my dad. We had a good talk and a few laughs. He had never been worried about me surfacing okay. One of the things he told me was he didn't bother to talk to the ex very long -- but he seemed he'd be an easy one for me to lose when I was ready. Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha,

        My father is an intelligent, successful, capable, condescending, self-righteous plutocrat and I love him to death.
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        • Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

          My father is an intelligent, successful, capable, condescending, self-righteous plutocrat and I love him to death.
          If you ever get a chance, listen to the audio version of "I Suck at Girls" by Justin Halpern. He's the guy that started the S*** My Dad Says Twitter feed.

          It's a really funny book, and is as much about his dad as his failure with women.

          His dad is acerbic and a PITA, but also a brilliant doctor. Worth a listen. I got it free from the library.
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        • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
          Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

          My dad is awesome...

          My father is an intelligent, successful, capable, condescending, self-righteous plutocrat and I love him to death.
          I have to agree your Dad is awesome!

          I'll never forget when I met him. You introduced us, he looked at me and all within just a fraction of a millisecond, (I could see it in his eyes), he sized me up, smiled and held out his hand for me to shake saying it was nice to meet me. As he said that, his eyes developed a twinkle, he let go of my hand, turned and walked away, and that was that.

          He made me feel accepted, approved and important all at once in just that fraction of time, lol!

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          • Profile picture of the author HeySal
            Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

            I have to agree your Dad is awesome!

            I'll never forget when I met him. You introduced us, he looked at me and all within just a fraction of a millisecond, (I could see it in his eyes), he sized me up, smiled and held out his hand for me to shake saying it was nice to meet me. As he said that, his eyes developed a twinkle, he let go of my hand, turned and walked away, and that was that.

            He made me feel accepted, approved and important all at once in just that fraction of time, lol!

            Terra
            LMAO. I used to hang with some pretty wild characters. He was thrilled to meet you. I mentioned you not long ago to him when we discussed me possibly coming home for a week or two soon - and he didn't remember you by name, but when I said "yeah, you remember her - the short chick with the Betty Boop jacket" he remembered instantly. He highly approves of you. If he only knew...................
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            • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
              Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

              LMAO. I used to hang with some pretty wild characters. He was thrilled to meet you. I mentioned you not long ago to him when we discussed me possibly coming home for a week or two soon - and he didn't remember you by name, but when I said "yeah, you remember her - the short chick with the Betty Boop jacket" he remembered instantly.
              Haha! I'm apparently not as memorable as Betty Boop. :p


              Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

              He highly approves of you. If he only knew...................


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              • Profile picture of the author HeySal
                Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

                Haha! I'm apparently not as memorable as Betty Boop. :p






                Terra
                LOL. Don't take it hard. It's not easy to compete with immortality.
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                • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
                  Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

                  LOL. Don't take it hard. It's not easy to compete with immortality.
                  Huh? I'm not immortal? Whaaah! LMAO!

                  OMGosh! I apologize, I answered that this morning when I was pressed for time and it didn't really sink in until now. You might be coming home? If you come home girl, you better call me!

                  It's cold enough now to where we can sit in front of the fireplace with some Asti and catch up! Hope you can squeeze in some time to come over.

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    Hold on! Not looking like I can make it. I just want to. Of course, I'd call you right off the plane......however, nobody is getting me on one of those damned things - I'm driving or staying home. I'll be back next summer though - I wouldn't miss dad's 90th for anything. If I have to put everything in storage and find a new place to live to get back west........well, done it before, will do it again.

    I think we've turned this into the Terra and Sal yacking about crap that we should really pick up the phone for thread.

    LOL - sorry.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      Hold on! Not looking like I can make it. I just want to. Of course, I'd call you right off the plane......however, nobody is getting me on one of those damned things - I'm driving or staying home. I'll be back next summer though - I wouldn't miss dad's 90th for anything. If I have to put everything in storage and find a new place to live to get back west........well, done it before, will do it again.

      I think we've turned this into the Terra and Sal yacking about crap that we should really pick up the phone for thread.

      LOL - sorry.
      Haha! Let's fix it.

      Sal ran away from home years ago, but will be returning home next summer.

      Ummm, the 5 pair of clean underwear are cool to pack, but you can skip the Twinkies and Christmas stocking.

      Okay, moving right along...

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      Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

      Since somebody mentioned wine, this might be cool:
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      Thanks but.................no, no, no, no, no. Terra and I are Wolverines. There is only ONE wine. Asti Spumante.



      well............a bottle of Dom now and again never hurt anyone's feelings.

      If you watched University of Michigan games (or went to them) up until the mid 80's around the last quarter, you'd see a whole wave of bottles being passed up to the back of the stadium. Those were Asti bottles. We'd build a pyramid with them during the last quarter. Bet they'd get arrested for that today.
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      • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
        Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

        Thanks but.................no, no, no, no, no. Terra and I are Wolverines. There is only ONE wine. Asti Spumante.



        well............a bottle of Dom now and again never hurt anyone's feelings.

        If you watched University of Michigan games (or went to them) up until the mid 80's around the last quarter, you'd see a whole wave of bottles being passed up to the back of the stadium. Those were Asti bottles. We'd build a pyramid with them during the last quarter. Bet they'd get arrested for that today.
        Always a Wolverine reason with you two. lol
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    Well, of course. Can you think of a better one?

    After all - if it weren't for wolverines, we might have been forced to be ......buckeyes.

    *sneaks out of thread before Dan reads it*
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