Mentally Strong People: The 13 Things They Don't Do.

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I debated on whether to put this in the Mind Warrior forum or here. I think that I would identify, and be more comfortable with the people here. So here goes...

This may be one of my highest recommended articles to date. Let me encourage you to check it out.

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

A couple of the "things":

1. They Don't Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

12. They Don't Feel the World Owes Them Anything

I'd be interested in your feedback.

Happy Holidays.

Joe Mobley
  • Profile picture of the author David Braybrooke
    Mostly agree but it still feels a bit like a list of 'life rules', etc. You may indeed be mentally strong if you naturally do everything on the (don't do) list but you still may not be successful and happy in your life. An ultimate life transcends the 'success habits' of strong people etc, IMO. Life is complex, human nature can be unpredictable, our instincts play a stronger role than many admit to. There is a dance between strengths and weaknesses, yin and yang, light and dark. A 'one-size-fits-all' type of morals and ethics, especially when it applies to human behaviour, is a bit of a lost cause. Interesting read still. Thanks.
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  • Profile picture of the author Patrician
    Thank you Joe -

    The article really 'rang a bell' for me for a couple of reasons. I am very strong-willed or 'tenacious' and I know all of the points made are so true and I honestly feel that most of the time I have those attributes. On the other hand there is definitely another side and I have been known to have a 'pity party' when one or two specific things are in play - so right now I really need a kick in the head to climb out.

    Still on another hand I feel that some of the pronouncements are slightly cavalier - when a person is hurting if their pain can just be acknowledged - if they can have some validation that yes, it is/was tough, then it is easier for them to just accept it - and they are able to move on. However very often, people will jump right on it to say, 'get over it' - which is also right -- if it was prefaced with just a speck of empathy -

    PLUS I have 7 500-word articles to write in the next 10 days which is no big deal except I have what is called 'writers block' but which is really just 'idea block' - once I get an idea I can go on and on (like I am doing here lol). So it really helps me to read some things that are interesting - specifically like this site you have just turned me on to (as I have always liked psychology) - and that will give me the other kick in the head I need right now.

    So again thank you for sharing.

    Happy holidays.

    Pat
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    • Originally Posted by Patrician View Post

      Still on another hand I feel that some of the pronouncements are slightly cavalier - when a person is hurting if their pain can just be acknowledged - if they can have some validation that yes, it is/was tough, then it is easier for them to just accept it - and they are able to move on. However very often, people will jump right on it to say, 'get over it' - which is also right -- if it was prefaced with just a speck of empathy -
      Excellent point, Pat. No matter how mentally strong you are, there will be times in life when you need someone to acknowledge your pain, whether it's physical or mental. It can be a family member or a very close friend; it doesn't matter, but the truly strong realize that they can't do everything alone. With those people in their corner, they can get over the current obstacle and move forward.
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  • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
    These kinds of things go into a good foundation for a person to build from.
    Some may have it innately or from advanced parents or others who helped
    raise them. Some may have to get these ideas from books or mentors, and there
    are many people who could benefit from better thinking.

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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      I don't know who came up with the list. It's a good list but I don't agree that mentally healthy people "don't to this or do that".

      I think they do throw a pity party once in a while - wonder "why me?" - and all sorts of other "don'ts" on the list....

      ....butthey quickly adjust and get over it, pull it together and go on. THAT's what makes them strong.
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        I don't think you can call yourself mentally strong until you can do those 13 things and say no to a chocolate truffle.
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          Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

          ....butthey quickly adjust and get over it, pull it together and go on. THAT's what makes them strong.
          Originally Posted by Frank Donovan View Post

          I don't think you can call yourself mentally strong until you can do those 13 things and say no to a chocolate truffle.
          What if I eat the chocolate truffle, but quickly get over it, and eat another one?
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          • Profile picture of the author Kay King
            What if I eat the chocolate truffle, but quickly get over it, and eat another one?
            I see that as a perfect example of logical thinking.
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      • Profile picture of the author Karen Blundell
        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        I don't know who came up with the list. It's a good list but I don't agree that mentally healthy people "don't to this or do that".

        I think they do throw a pity party once in a while - wonder "why me?" - and all sorts of other "don'ts" on the list....

        ....butthey quickly adjust and get over it, pull it together and go on. THAT's what makes them strong.

        I have to agree with Kay - when it comes to how people handle situations it's not a black and white thing - I think it's a strong person who can readily admit he or she has weaknesses and is willing to grow.

        We are human - a strong person does not have to be perfect, imho.
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    I think I need to work on #13...
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    Great list. Thanks for posting Joe.

    Something that keeps coming up (and rightly so) is ... Taking responsibility for your life, experiences, and outcomes. For me that's an important part of the "puzzle."
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      Thank you Jonathan. This was one of the main ideas I gathered from the list.

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      Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0 View Post

      Great list. Thanks for posting Joe.

      Something that keeps coming up (and rightly so) is ... Taking responsibility for your life, experiences, and outcomes. For me that's an important part of the "puzzle."
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  • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
    We can almost always choose our reaction to a situation.

    Tact and empathy do go a long way. I once worked with a very
    successful mortgage sales person who was very, very direct and blunt.
    It probably took him a while to get good at noticing peoples reactions
    to his bluntness and handling it well. When I worked with him he was
    in his late 40's and had learned how to read people's reactions and explain
    his initial statements/thinking in a very tactful way.

    Dan

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