What can I do to live on my own?

Get a job, or one job and a part-time job to make enough money. Then start to learn to work online. Don't even think you can nail a living income right away--there's a fair-sized learning curve that you should take your time to get through while you aren't worrying how to get your next meal.

What can you do?

Pink, here are my thoughts for you based on what I've learned about you from two posts. You're 22, live at home, have no education and just got over being sick -- and when you said 'sick' I took it to mean gravely ill. My thoughts - and they're just mine -- are that you're jumping the gun.

Get your GED, get into college or a vocational program, and slow down. You're chomping at the bit to start your life. Speaking from experience, this is where long-lasting mistakes are made. Your early 20's are a time to find yourself, to figure out what you want to do with your life. Don't rush into life by making decisions that shackle you to a future you don't want.

OH, there are LOTS of opportunities in New York city. MOST are NOT ones that YOU can take advantage of! Good news? You probably WON'T want to get a car. BAD news? ******EXPENSIVE*****!!!!!! I don't know why you would want to MOVE there. I wonder what state you are in. I had a job in Jersey City new jersey. I could literally WALK to new york. The streets were a MESS. They had one, that I believe was 12 lanes. It went through a place called the holland tunnel. If you are in new jersey, going to new york, you can consider that a taste of what new york city is like. Do yourself a favor! RESEARCH! Go to the area! Look at the apartments, wages, and parking accommodations. And if you REALLY want to go to new york, the STATE, you could go to a place like ARMONK! It is nicer, and probably cheaper.

As for your education? The first level of decent starting jobs used to require High school or better. NOW, they want bachelors or better. I would say get a GED!!!!
They are checking more and more, so if you have skeletons, or lie about something like jail or education, they ARE likely to find out. Still, your options WILL be limited. At least you may set off fewer red flags.

I REALLY think you should look someplace else besides New York City.

Steve

There are as many opportunities as you can create for yourself.

Self-employment isn't something you go pick up from a store shelf. You have to dream up the opportunity, and then hammer and forge it into a viable income.

It takes a LOT of hours, a lot of dedication, and a willingness to learn, and enough humility to learn from your inevitable mistakes.

You said you're living at home and have all sorts of free time. How wisely are you using it? Right now is when you should be learning all you can, creating a plan, and executing it.

If you're not taking advantage of your free time now, moving out probably won't help because it only gets harder on your own.

I would advise you to get a job, save some money, and use your free time to learn about entrepreneurship. We don't have your answers, you do, even though you may not realize it right now.

Why don't you train to become a smokejumper? They're the folks that sky dive out of planes to help fight forest fires. This would fulfil three of your likes: traveling, helping people and adventure/thrill seeking.

Try to volunteer at a sky diving company in exchange for some free lessons, etc. You may also be able to volunteer at a local firefighting unit. Both will give you some related experience. It may take a couple of years to get the experience and training, but you'll have a career you'll enjoy with some pretty good pay, while providing a desperately needed service to man, animal and property.

You have 16 years to live before you reach my age. That comment just depressed me. Being 22 is enough of a reason to be happy. Some people don't even get there.

Bear in mind, Dan and Dennis speak from a great deal of real life experience, not what one perceives the future to be at 22. At 22 I was doing things that scare me now, my view of where I'd be now was that I'd probably be dead or in prison. Either way just 10 years ago my thoughts of where I'd be now are well off.

Sometimes you have to learn to appreciate where you are today, what you have today and learn to enjoy today. Learn to enjoy right now.

Great, that's splendid, you sound positive already. I can see after that why you'd be in a rush but I can assure you will look back in years to come and wonder what the rush was.

Actually you can learn just about anything at school or college. They even do a degree in Mylie Cyrus over here. Trust me, you can learn anything. Including music.

What did the senior rep of Sony say about you music and how did he come to hear it? You're obviously taking some action, well done.

Imagine how happy you could be if you could learn to appreciate where you are now. Appreciate the fact you're alive and well.

And we're trying to help you. I don't think you've had time to waste your life yet. I also think the "Issues of where your futures going" are normal for most people of your age and I don't think there are any issues outside of the ones you have made up in your mind.

Put it this way, you're 22, bright, constantly improving, you've found yourself, you're adventurous, you like challenges and if you like things to be different you can embrace change - Many can't. You're good with music, helping people, giving advice, you're a philosopher, a reader of body language, psychology and you understand women which with all the worldy experience he has, Dan hasn't mastered that yet.

You can also learn something new, which is one reason you could go to college or something.

My point is, you don't have much faith in yourself but you have way more skill than a lot of people and you're only 22.

The key here is to not feel sorry for yourself and be happy where you are. Once upon a time I was in a bad place, a long time ago. I didn't have anywhere to live at the time. Eventually a friend took me in and while I was in the shower, and I had nothing but the clothes I was wearing (not in the shower of course), I realised I was happy and at that point I vowed I'd be happy no matter what my situation was because whatever the situation is, it is. You have to deal with it and it's a lot easier if you can appreciate whatever good bit there is about it.

You were very ill, now you're not. If nothing else, focus on the fact you're grateful to be better and infinitely more happy today than when you were bed ridden. That's better than making up issues about a future that doesn't exist yet.

Carry that thought with you for the rest of your life because life will always be better than being in that bed again.

I know where you're coming from. If things came as easily as you implied, EVERYONE would be doing it! I mean you can look at corn growing and think WHAT A LIFE! I'll do THAT! But if you realize the startup costs for land, the maintenance costs, harvesting, replanting, etc.... It doesn't seem so great. Information and software IS easier today, but STILL, there is advertising, competition, acceptance, support, etc....

STILL, people that have been poor and backed into a corner HAVE achieved and become rich.

WOW, THAT attitude will get you a nice part time job! (SARC). As I understand it, the GED is just a test like the SAT. https://ged.com/ If you know enough, you may not have to study AT ALL! I was certainly NOT suggesting that you gothrough regular school again.

OK.

WOW! From good times to life styles of the rich and famous!

For those that don't know....

Good times is a tv series about a family in the chicago projects that is barely scraping by:
The theme song is very telling about the overall tone.


Lifestyles of the rich and famous is a pretentious braging platform that shows wasteful opulence.


It COULD happen, but it is unlikely.

Steve

Why would you let strangers on a forum take away hope? You're giving others way too much power over your emotions and thought processes if that's true.

Life is what you make it. Choose your dreams and chase them down. You're lucky to have that opportunity. If you were born in North Korea, to cite one example, you wouldn't have that opportunity. You wouldn't even get to choose how to wear your hair, all the men have to have the same haircut. From what we read, life there is like an open prison. One misstep and you can be shot.

So much about life depends on the attitude we choose. Focus on the good, look for the good, and you'll have a very good chance of finding the good and living a happy life. If you focus on the bad you'll have a very good chance of finding the bad and leading an unhappy life. What you consistently focus on expands. As you choose your thoughts, you choose your life.

One word of caution here: to do really well in sales you have to be exceptionally good at selling - which hardly anyone is.

However, learning how to sell even adequately is a very important skill for any kind of business you may want to start.