Help - Feeling caged!

All I will say is that unless you pick something that you ABSOLUTELY LOVE to do then at some point in time you will likely feel caged again.

Step back, go for a walk and dream. Focussing is simple and here is the way millionaires deal with it.

1. work out what they want to achieve in life.
2. work out a plan how to get it, and what the price will be in time, impact on family life, financial etc
3. Decide if you are willing to pay that price.

If you are not prepared to pay the price, then re-evaluate what you are planning.

Seems to me like you have not actually planned what you want to do. I always compartmentalise things as in if I have a task that I know is going to take 100 hours, then I allocate a few hours a week to that task, no more, no less. 4 hours, 25 weeks, and it is done and achieved. Now if I had looked for two and a half weeks clear, I would NEVER have brought that project to market.

you must treat your projects as customers, allocate time to them, measure the results and above all else PLAN

You are probably feeling trapped because you don't have a clear step by step escape plan in place, and are not following it (as it doesn't exist).

Dreaming is great, but unless you get it down on paper and start following the plan, you will get worse and worse with this feeling.

I have always worked arround being overwhelmed by time allocation.

I also have customers that I do SEO / Web Design etc for. My mornings are dedicated to them (my JOB). My afternoons are dedicated to my own projects / software developments / affiliate websites (my BUSINESS).

Hopefully at one point I will be in a position where I do not have to do my JOB anymore and can just spend my time on my BUSINESS.

I am also stuck with a JOB. It has to for now until my BUSINESS is where I want it to be and by allocating my time this way I can "keep it together" to some degree...

you gotta work at whatever it is you are doing in life... think about it the most menial task in the world requires work. For example, porn. How much each day we have to spend searching for our best porn videos... going through all the Ad website.... then spending all the money on internet, not to mention the time wasted. But we do it anyways, cuz the reward is worth it lol. Seeing that sweet asian girl (insert your fav porn fantasy here) and watching it for a long time surely negates any hard work we put into it. So point being, the harder you work, the better off you will be.

It sounds to me like you just don't want to work period. You will never see success if you don't work hard at it.

People don't become millionaires at the snap of a finger. In fact, if you talk to them and ask them how they all started they would surely tell you that they worked 60+ hour weeks and had absolutely no life.

Successful people are successful because they go above and beyond the average. They don't just start a business one day, and two months down the road buy a ferrari.

Moral of the story: No matter what niche or business you choose, you will always have to WORK..in the beginning at least.

You do have a problem and this is how I see it.
You need to let go of your fear.
It seems you haven't outsourced because of a fear. (Or some other underlying emotion) that is preventing you from moving forward. You need to outsource to get out of the cage. That way you can focus on the activities you enjoy. If you don't have the funds in place right now, you need to create a game plan that will outline when you can begin to outsource.

Make a list of the activites you enjoy, and the ones you don't.
Apparently, you don't like cold calling but enjoy meeting with clients.
You can hire a cold caller. Give yourself permission to do so.
The first few may not work out, but you will find someone that will.
Have them cold call for you. At least 25% of your time should be focused on marketing and lead generating activities. I don't care if you have all the clients you want right now. It is better to have a waiting list, then an empty pipeline.

If you can only afford $25 a week for cold calling, then find someone that will cold call for you for that amount. They may do it for an hour, or maybe you can find someone that can do it for 5 hours.
Then begin re-allocating some of your sales dollars to hiring to perform the services you don't want to do. Understand no one will be more motivated to see your company succed than you.
Not every outsourcer you hire will be a good fit for you and your company.
That's ok. You will make some bad decisions. That's ok. The important thing is to have your good decisions out weigh your bad ones.

But, none of this will matter until to decide to take action and do something about your current situation.

15 years ago I decided I was not going to be driven by money, it was normal for me to go to work at 7am, and get back at 3am the next day, only to be back up at 7 and back to work again. I had no family life.

I stopped, I needed balance, I sold up, I moved on. I am happy content and have enough to pay the bills, (and then some)

you love the brain storming, the interaction with the clients, but you dont want to do the coding/design/technical work

You sound exactly like me. Outsource it, yes you may only make $200 instead of $600 per deal , £2500 instead of £4000 , but by outsourcing you can make 5 times (or much more) this amount as you can have 5 + outsourcers all doing the work for 5+ clients at the same time, whereas if its all done by you, you can only do one thing at a time, AND you still have to do the interaction with the clients part.