See, I’ve posted things that help a lot of people get into telemarketing, and many of them have been able to develop some very successful businesses from it. It is awesome to see and an awesome feeling to know that through my experience I have contributed in some way, to quite a few peoples success around here by sharing my experience.
This isn’t about what I have done in my career though. This isn’t about how many sales I’ve made, or how much money I’ve made. This is a post for those of you who are struggling. We all have struggles, we all have made mistakes, and we all want to better ourselves!
When I started out I made 8 dollars per hour as a telemarketer with both a wife and daughter to support… I lived in an apartment so bad that there were HOLES in the walls. In fact several, because for our first few years starting out, we were poor! Lol Shocker, I know.
Often even 30 days behind on rent and had to move from place to place a lot, sometimes even having utilities shut off and things of that nature.… JUST LIKE MANY OF YOU!
Don’t get me wrong, I was really good on the phone, but even being the best telemarketer… it still just wasn’t enough to make it. It wasn’t till later when I put those skills to work for ME in businesses of my own.
It took me a lot of trial and error to learn to succeed, because when I was a young father and husband, from a single mother, and I didn’t really have any reference point for how to succeed.
Telemarketing seemed like a way to learn some better skills than working in a factory…but I promise you, it didn’t pay much for a few years, so in short, my journey hasn’t ALL been big and glamorous, as you may gather from the stories of success I tell that came along later.
Why am I sharing this?
Because I feel a need to… Yeah I have seen some pretty amazing things on my journey, I wont even mention figures at this point as I have posted those all about this forum, but it hasn’t been all that some of you have probably perceived of when you hear only the stories of the successes, there were plenty of failures to go along with that, and start overs... which I don’t tend to focus on, but maybe I should share more on that stuff.
Again, I wish I can tell you how my life was an easy ride and I went to sales stardom overnight, and some of you may perceive that from hearing about all these more successful endeavors, but it wasn’t like that.
Okay, so Im pretty! I have that going for me...doesn’t mean anything. Lol (Pretty bald that is).
Believe it or not, sometimes I still have tough months if I don’t work my tail off… they arent a rough as the old days by far, and they are rough in a different way, but I still have them from time to time, and its okay if you are in those positions sometimes, you CAN work from that place, and you can still achieve.
Maybe you have had a rough go of it, and you cant even stand to HEAR me tell these stories because things arent going for you the way you hear me say they have went for me…believe me, where you are… I can relate to that.
I’ve been from a comfortable job earning a decent living married and upwardly mobile, to being in a cold apartment wondering how I’m going to pay for my next meal more than once, then climbed back up again and built a business of my own and had great years…only to fall yet again… It happens.
Looking back, it was all a learning experience that I am grateful for, but during the hard times it was scary.
No matter what kind of business you’re going into for yourself, you will experience times that are really scary. Fear is an interesting thing though, and it keeps many people from pursuing your dreams.
I hope to help you break some of that by knowing that I have been scared a lot too in my time. I feel like a Lion today, but it grew into that feeling from being a scared little lamb. If I was always srtrong, then I wouldnt be able to help people who are afraid, because I wouldnt understand them. So I am thankful for that.
I haven’t always been an angel either for those of you who think “Oh I am not goody two shoes, I cant succeed like these preppy people…”…Lol. If you only knew…
After my first couple of telemarketing jobs, I got a lucky break and entered the music industry for 7 years, got caught up in a lifestyle, started partying hard, and was even arrested with a drug possession charge. Actually, I got 2 charges from the same instance. Luckily I didn’t go to prison!
The path I was headed, was me digging 6 feet under and I was preparing a tombstone for myself. I wasn’t responsible at all, I wasn’t heading in the direction that I wanted. Getting busted, saved my life in some senses, even though it lost me my music career.
Back then home life wasn’t all pretty either, we weren’t the brady bunch I will tell you that… I was just real determined and dedicated to success, that doesn’t mean the whole world was perfect, maybe yours isnt either, and its okay, you can still work and move forward from there.
A few nights after I got busted… I just completely broke down. I came to the realization of what my life was amounting to. Again, Looking back, I could have died and not been able to provide for my daughter, and things started finally turning around for me.
I want you to know this.
I have been walked on, beaten, arrested, called names, and I have had to start over numerous times in life in order to be able to move forward. I have been divorced, more than once (didn’t learn my lesson the first time lol).
I have had many trials as a parent as a result of those years of undignified living, and it has been tough.
Somehow though I have been able to overcome all of that and have been able to see some brilliant successes that I never even dreamed possible, and I want you to know that wherever you are coming from, you can too!
Yeah I know, not everything I do even today makes everyone happy.
Just know that you can’t make EVERYONE happy, and some are going to be unhappy and hate you no matter what. Some are going to despise you because of your hard times, and others will despise you if you had a silver spoon and never had a hard time in your life…All I can do is try your best.
The beauty of life is that the mistakes you make, and the failures you’ve had, you can always learn from them and better yourself.
Each and every single one of you aspiring entrepreneurs, and even those of you who have been around the block already, you all have so much power to overcome struggles. You will have struggles, I promise you that, but all of you have the ability to overcome them if you are dedicated enough.
Going from being arrested, to proudly supporting my entire family, even TWO families now, with what I have been able to achieve out of all that, is a wonderful experience. What if I would have given up? Where would I be? What stories would I have to tell? Who could I inspire? Only people who dont need it?
We’re approaching Christmas, and I just want to give you all the gift of hope. You CAN accomplish your dreams. You may even be able to do it without telemarketing.
You can put your best foot forward and prepare to crush all the road blocks that are placed in front of you. You can learn from all the struggles you have, and conquer them. When you think you’re hitting rock bottom you either keep digging or you climb out. Either way, you have the power to succeed even if it takes a couple rounds of failure, kicking your ass!
Don’t let where you are now determine where you are going, don’t let your circumstances determine who you are, because who you are can change them.
No life hasn’t been a bed of roses always… but it has also been an amazing journey, and there is more to come.
Just keep pressing toward the prize, and take it from this projects kid… The person you become along the way is damn worth it!
I swear on the Bible!
John Durham - Telemarketing Warrior