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I have read a great deal about the importance of finding a good mentor. My questions center around the process for finding said mentor. Would a good place to start be to read through various threads in the Warrior Forum and find someone I would like to approach? Before I contact anyone, do I need to understand what it is I am going to be doing? (product creation of some sort, affiliate marketing, Amazon, etc.)

Are a Coach and a Mentor two different things? Does a person seeking success need both or is one better in certain situations?

Thanks in advance for any and all suggestions.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    Plesase use the forum search to find threads here about mentors and coaching - there have been many discussions on those topics.


    read through various threads in the Warrior Forum and find someone I would like to approach

    No - that could get you banned for unsolicited PM's.


    That said, if you read posts here in categories of interest to you - you will notice the posts of some members stand 'out' as knowledgeable or having experience the area. You can then look for other posts or list signups or ads here by those same members.


    Of course, you need to learn enough to decide what method of business you plan to do online - before you look for people to learn from.
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  • Profile picture of the author palmtreelife
    Before I contact anyone, do I need to understand what it is I am going to be doing? (product creation of some sort, affiliate marketing, Amazon, etc.)
    That seems pretty important? How is a coach going to help you if you don't know what to ask the coach? Find a specific area you're interested in learning about and then seek out an expert in that field.

    Are a Coach and a Mentor two different things? Does a person seeking success need both or is one better in certain situations?
    In my opinion, a coach is someone you know and they know you. You have regular meet ups or check-ins and usually this is a paid or exchange service. A mentor can be anyone you look up to. I have many many mentors. I have some for personal growth and development. I have others for real estate investing, others for affiliate marketing, etc. You don't need permission or need to pay anything to have good mentors.

    Finding a coach takes a little more effort and there isn't a defined process. It can be trickier to find a good coach when money is involved. Mentors can be found easily on social media.

    As Kay mentioned, use the search option to find previous threads on these topics. If you follow along in this forum for a while, you'll quickly learn who knows their stuff in a particular niche, but be careful on approaching them as you could get banned.
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  • Profile picture of the author jmosticc22
    I think it would be wise to have some direction of what you want to do before you start looking for a mentor. I also think you should try to learn what you want to do before you seek a mentor, this way you have some base of knowledge your potential mentor can start.
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  • Profile picture of the author wickedstock1
    I think Mentor is the best option for you.
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  • Profile picture of the author maroof malik
    i think a mentor is best when you are about to choose your career if you are not concentrated and and indiscipline
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Kanigan
    One hint: mentors love it when you do what they recommend. They'll know you did the thing because you come back with questions...and the only way you could know to ask those questions is you did the thing.

    That is the "battery" that powers the relationship. Don't do it and the battery will die. Do it and energy will keep getting fed into the battery.

    The worst thing you can be is an "askhole"...the kind of person who keeps asking questions, then shies away and does nothing...only to return a few weeks later with another set of questions.

    There's no age barrier on this, either. I recently had to disconnect from an older guy on FB who kept asking me questions, then doing nothing with the answer, and six weeks later coming back and asking similar questions again. I could tell he had done nothing in between. This had gone on for six or eight months, and I'd stayed in touch because he's member of a group we belong to. Overall talking with him was a waste of time for us both because he never did anything.

    On the other hand, over Christmas I edited a book precisely about the way to attract mentors, and make the most out of working with them. It was written by a young guy who has done a ton with mentors...and he found out the "secret" early: that for the mentor it's a pleasure to watch the mentee doing the thing and learning from the struggle.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    The worst thing you can be is an "askhole"...the kind of person who keeps asking questions, then shies away and does nothing...only to return a few weeks later with another set of questions.

    There's no age barrier on this, either. I recently had to disconnect from an older guy on FB who kept asking me questions, then doing nothing with the answer, and six weeks later coming back and asking similar questions again. I could tell he had done nothing in between. This had gone on for six or eight months, and I'd stayed in touch because he's member of a group we belong to. Overall talking with him was a waste of time for us both because he never did anything.

    Amazing how often that happens. If you ask for - or pay for - 'advice' you need to be ready to take that advice and do something with it.


    There is nothing more frustrating for a mentor OR a coach than trying to help someone who needs a babysitter rather than a teacher.
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  • Profile picture of the author hcraige
    Good question. I would say that it depends

    First of all it depends on your ability to take action and your level of commitment. The best students I've worked with, have already tried on their own and are doing the best on what they have. Now why is this important? It is because, no matter you have the best instruction, action is what produces results and especially in the beginning it's more important you are doing than having the best advice

    With that said, it does matter who you learn from. Your goals need to be a factor that decides who to pick because believe it or not if someone doesn't have a result you're looking for (say with affiliate marketing) you won't...and good teaching won't fix that. The experience would count

    Another factor is how much money you have to invest. If you do have 2000 and it won't worry you losing it, which is reasonable fee for example, sure go ahead.

    Most people however it may not be the best use of those funds because they either can't afford it (when factoring other personal and professional expenses - not just having the money) or can get the result they're looking for cheaply.

    Case in point: if you're lazy, don't take action or expect a couple grand to solve the problem it won't work. You have to do some self-analysis on that first to ensure you will be committed.

    A coach and a mentor aren't different because with the exception of sports (or any physical activity) they work with you physically one-on one.

    Hope that helps.
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  • Profile picture of the author DURABLEOILCOM
    You need to know what type of business you are interested in then work finding training, books, YouTube videos, websites on how to start that business.
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  • Profile picture of the author naviown
    I don't think you need a mentor or coach right away. Why not to learn what you interested in yourself. There are plenty of free resources like youtube, all types of forums, WF and even google.

    First of all decide what interest you the most, what business type would be good for you, what experience you have. Try to build a business on your own.

    Finding a solid and trusted mentor is not easy, almost everybody wants your money and actually doesnt care about you. I think best would be for you to start a business on your own, get more and more experience and later if you decide to hire a mentor, it will be easier to spot a good and trusted mentor.
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  • Profile picture of the author superowid
    Try to find a mentor or a coach just close to you in real life who knows about IM and talk to him/her to get you focus on what you really want and you will get by doing online marketing. There should be some people already doing this in your area, and you can approach them to find one to get nice conversation. Hope it helps!
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  • Profile picture of the author Roxana Guy
    This is really interesting what everyone is saying. I didn't come to Warrior Forum for mentoring, but I never really thought about it anyway. I once had a lady who found me through Facebook who wanted to "mentor" me. But I didn't ask for her help. She wanted to groom me per say for coaching (which was not what I wanted to do. I'm a blogger/writer who didn't have a clue at the time what it meant to make a buck online). She wanted me to sell some cosmetic line for extra income (Rodan + Fields, I think). I ended up telling her not to contact me anymore because I didn't need a mentor nor was I interested.

    So I'll ask since I'm a newbie here, and hopefully I'll be further educated so I don't sound dumb in the future. Is it really necessary to have a mentor? Does mentoring really improve your sales quality? Genuinely I ask because I have no clue.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kirshana Sykes
    A coach is someone that gives you advise more often then not, a mentor can really guide you through with application.

    How do you seek a coach/mentor that is right for you?
    You must be clear on your niche you are in. Find powerhouses who have the results you are looking for and that you resonate with. Seek them out. If they aren't into mentoring or coaching; find out how they learned to be successful and purchase that training. Dive in, ask questions, take massive action, make mistakes and learn from them.

    Marketing online is a journey in which skillsets must be obtained to be successful. The path is different for everyone but find someone who has what you want and tap into their source of learning and model...You've got this!!!
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  • Profile picture of the author eMentor Connect
    Mentoring is a long-term process based on mutual trust and respect whereas Coaching, on the other hand, is for a short period of time. Mentoring is more focused on creating an informal association between the mentor and mentee, whereas coaching follows a more structured and formal approach.

    Both are having different significances, mentoring is related to your career development whereas coaching is just related to the knowledge. A coach can share the knowledge with you but a mentor will help you in implementing that knowledge practically.
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  • Profile picture of the author Yvon Boulianne
    A coach is someone that doesn`t know how to do what you want to do but can help you discover how you already have the resources to do it, motivation, etc... and a coach ask for money
    A mentor has experience in the field you need mentoring, they are the one that did it and will give your their experience and their resources to help you. they usually don`t ask for money...

    and as you should guess, Mentors are much much more difficult to find..
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