The first thing I looked into was awebber because it's recommend so often on this forum. I was completely horrified to find out you don't control the DB. Sorry, but if it's my business I want complete control of the DB. I have no intentions of spamming, I will following all laws, and have double opt-in, etc. I absolutely hate email marketing in my inbox (which is why I have 2 email addresses) but I'm guessing it does work for some people. I HATE HTML email, but again I'm guessing AB testing has proven HTML more effective?
Any suggestions on self hosting? I'd probably set up a VPS with a clean IP and then CNAME it to my domain.