I did not see this one coming... IM is rewarding for sure... but I am getting LONELY!!

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When I finished my graduation, I was offered a job through campus recruitment. I declined the offer and got involved into IM full time. Now I am making 4-5 times as much as the job would have paid me.

Wow... what a wonderful road to be in... the road less traveled by... a journey started with courage, confidence and positive thinking.

Now I have a home office, luxuriously finished. I outsource all the work which do not require me. I hardly go to the bank anymore, everything is online. I can keep doing this and SURELY within a few years I can be a rich man. I can work 2 hours per day and have a lot of passive income from the niche websites and blogs that I have nurtured.

This situation may be the DREAM for many who are stuck 9-5 under a yelling boss with no job security.

But as they say... THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER THAN THE OTHER SIDE.

Now, I am here where I thought I wanted to be. BUT...
  • I work alone in my office.
  • I hardly go out.
  • I am a member of 2 social clubs but no one is in my age group.
  • By applying the 80/20 rule, I have come to a 2 hour work day (if not a 4 hour work week!). But that leaves me several idle hours per day with BOREDOM!

Is this what I wanted? :confused:

I know I need some realignment of thoughts and mindset here. HELP! Advice!
#coming #lonely #rewarding
  • Profile picture of the author lharding
    So, use your spare time to help others, that way you'll get out and about and/or some contact with others. Why not teach others that are at that graduation stage to do just what you're doing. There are plenty of things you could be doing with that spare time that doesn't necessarily relate to earning more, you need to take care of your social interaction as well as the money.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sam Smith
    I'm fresh out of uni and ALREADY facing these same issues.

    A lot of my friends are away in various places, and so is my girlfriend, and I'm left twiddling my thumbs.
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  • Profile picture of the author greenovni
    Sounds like you're young enough to be able to work until you achieve financial independence which will give you the time to follow your dreams.

    I too find this lonely as hell BUT I think that my future financial independence is a little bit more important right now.

    If you are making enough right now, why not join some groups of like minded individuals, start a new hobby where other people are involved or volunteer some time to worthy causes that involve other people.

    Worst comes to worst, hire someone to work at your office... @ least you'll have some company.
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    • Profile picture of the author Webtigerz
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      Yeah...I am pretty sure I could come up with some ideas to make good use of my time...Extended fishing trips sound good...hmmm
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  • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
    What in God's name is your problem man?

    You got hobbies?

    You got interests?

    The other 6 or 8 or whatever hours that you're not working...do them.

    I have my own recording studio in my home. I've finished 2 CDs of original
    music since October and am now half way done with a third.

    I go to church on Sunday, choir on Thursday, out with my daughter and
    wife a ton, play video games, go shopping for new toys for myself, go out
    to eat, take rides around the state.

    I mean for crying out loud, if you can't find something to do outside of
    your 2 hour work day, it has nothing to do with whether you're working
    in an office or working at home.

    You need to get out there and find a life.

    And if you have ANY interests at all, that should be no problem to do.
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    • Profile picture of the author pavondunbar
      Mr. Wagenheim's right.

      My girlfriend and I have developed this obsession with playing Tennis all of a sudden. We play everyday...and she beats me everyday...LOL...

      I got back to playing video games.

      I'm learning to speak Spanish so I can target a new demographic for my business.

      I go with my lady to her acting classes now.

      We're going to the movies tomorrow night...after Tennis....LOL...

      The point is: Spend those hours doing something...

      Anything...

      The world is your oyster. Take advantage of the free time you have because time is the ONLY thing you cannot get back once it's gone.

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      • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
        You're supposed to be a creative thinker, and you can't come up with ideas for your own social life?

        I hesitate to give my best advice, since this is a PG-rated forum. Second best... Get a life!


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        • Profile picture of the author Creative Thinker
          Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

          You're supposed to be a creative thinker, and you can't come up with ideas for your own social life?

          I hesitate to give my best advice, since this is a PG-rated forum. Second best... Get a life!


          Paul
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          • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
            I get what you are trying to mean
            [chuckle] Good. It's not like you live in some backwoods area, with no room for it...

            I can send you a copy of my book on creativity, if you need ideas.


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            • Profile picture of the author Johnathan
              Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

              [chuckle] Good. It's not like you live in some backwoods area, with no room for it...

              I can send you a copy of my book on creativity, if you need ideas.


              Paul
              Actually, I think I understand what he is talking about. It is hard (initially) to 'get a life' when you are used to being so focused on your business/nuturing it/etc.

              The same way you need a big shift in mentality from "having a job" to "being your own boss", you need to make an effort to going from an "introvert" to "getting out".

              Having a job does have its perks if you want to call it that -- in that you are told who you get to socialize with. It is "easy" because you meet the same people every day, and it is comfortable.

              But if you want to 'get a life', or more specifically meet people your own age group (assuming you are in your 20's) -- get a part time job (pizza guy, whatever), get an office job, etc, etc.

              But the same way you worked on your 'business', now you just need to work on your personal life

              Best of both worlds is doing both at the same time.
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    • Profile picture of the author MeTellYou
      Great point. I watch movies, talk to friends, go out to eat. Recently I started taking swimming classes. Love it. Looking to get scuba certified soon.

      Then, I will just need a waterproof laptop

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      Originally Posted by Steven Wagenheim View Post

      What in God's name is your problem man?

      You got hobbies?

      You got interests?

      The other 6 or 8 or whatever hours that you're not working...do them.

      I have my own recording studio in my home. I've finished 2 CDs of original
      music since October and am now half way done with a third.

      I go to church on Sunday, choir on Thursday, out with my daughter and
      wife a ton, play video games, go shopping for new toys for myself, go out
      to eat, take rides around the state.

      I mean for crying out loud, if you can't find something to do outside of
      your 2 hour work day, it has nothing to do with whether you're working
      in an office or working at home.

      You need to get out there and find a life.

      And if you have ANY interests at all, that should be no problem to do.
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    • Profile picture of the author Nahar
      Originally Posted by Steven Wagenheim View Post

      I mean for crying out loud, if you can't find something to do outside of your 2 hour work day, it has nothing to do with whether you're working in an office or working at home.

      You need to get out there and find a life.

      And if you have ANY interests at all, that should be no problem to do.
      And if you don't have any interests - find some. Looks like money is not an issue anymore - this makes it easier since some hobbies are costly. I love photography. I absolutely enjoy hiking and taking pictures. If I had more time (like you:rolleyes I would probably have the awesomest photo blog and perhaps give some free photography lessons, etc.

      Also - in my church we often sing: "Because I have been given much I too must give." It makes sense. Share your blessings with others so that they can become as fortunate as you are. You might one day realize that you will have reasons to thank them for giving your life more meaning.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ken Leatherman
    Creative Thinker,

    I also work alone in my home office and sometimes miss the social interaction, of working around other people. But frankly I wouldn't change position with anyone.

    Since you seem to have your time so well organized and so few hours you have to work; it's time to reach out to others. It seems now would be the time to find somewhere you can volunteer your talents with various other organizations.

    Just think about it there are hundreds and hundreds of places who can use volunteers to make things better for other people. How about at the local schools, your college, by mentoring or tutoring undergrads.

    Many of the warriors here are deeply involved in giving back to their offline community. People such as John Taylor, Big Mike, Kevin Riley, Andy Henry and many others I can't think off of the top of my head.

    You can make of your day what you want to make of it. Don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself, you sound like you have the perfect situation to help others. It's not all about the money and the things it can buy.

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  • Profile picture of the author ASM Marketing
    There is many things you can do. Boredom is only caused by non-action in my opinion.

    Join a sports club
    Join a gym
    Join a networking group for business people that are of your age
    Go on dates
    Travel the world (if you can sustain your business solely online)
    Go to seminars
    Hold seminars
    Go to trade shows
    Join a society
    Go shopping
    Take up a social hobby
    Do volunteer work

    There is a much larger list than I can suggest of the top of my head, but just get out there and do it In my eyes, boredom is just not being pro-active. Congrats on your business, you sound like you're in a position that many people would love to be in. Enjoy it.

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  • Profile picture of the author rhelaine
    for work and hobbies i would need 36h days everyday...for just hobbies i would still need 28h every day....

    As my wife says..if you are not doing anything tell me...i will give you something to do.
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  • Profile picture of the author sf_Imtiaz
    Originally Posted by greenovni View Post

    Worst comes to worst, hire someone to work at your office... @ least you'll have some company.
    I used to work at this place couple of years ago and my boss (who was the owner of that company) would sit with me and one of my colleagues and tell us stories about his life for hours, he had a lot to talk about, how his wife ran off with some guy who was his friend, how his business partner tried to screw him and how he got so wealthy after starting off with nothing but just contacts (he is quite a rich guy). Sometimes me and this other guy used to think that he's hired us just for having some company.

    Anyways...

    Originally Posted by Creative Thinker View Post

    Now, I am here where I thought I wanted to be. BUT...
    • I work alone in my office.
    • I hardly go out.
    • I am a member of 2 social clubs but no one is in my age group.
    • By applying the 80/20 rule, I have come to a 2 hour work day (if not a 4 hour work week!). But that leaves me several idle hours per day with BOREDOM!

    Is this what I wanted? :confused:

    I know I need some realignment of thoughts and mindset here. HELP! Advice!
    Well, may be its just a phase, i hope so but if it isn't just a phase, there's a chance that your are not enjoying what you do... you need to dig deeper and find something that you would enjoy doing ... something that has a natural appeal to you, something that will make you enjoy your own company, but it takes time and a lot of exploring to find something that you can never get bored of meanwhile you can take on a challenge start a new project something different than what you are doing, with bigger goals, you can always aim higher .... and why don't you have friends that you can hang out with?
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  • Profile picture of the author sf_Imtiaz
    or hey you can always spend time with me teaching me how to do what you do
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  • Profile picture of the author shirland
    The advice from all the threads are excellent, just get up and do something. Your schedule is set so you can do many different things. Just Do It.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dan C. Rinnert
    Originally Posted by Creative Thinker View Post

    • I work alone in my office.
    No distractions.

    • I hardly go out.
    Who's fault is that? It's apparently not a lack of free time.

    • I am a member of 2 social clubs but no one is in my age group.
    I have no idea where people my age even "hang out."

    • By applying the 80/20 rule, I have come to a 2 hour work day (if not a 4 hour work week!). But that leaves me several idle hours per day with BOREDOM!
    Wow. Tough life. Why don't you come over here and do my job gratis? I can find many ways to kill my newly-found free time.
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  • Profile picture of the author Andy Hart
    If you read what you have actually wrote you have answered your own question:

    You are earning 4-5x what a graduate would earn and only working 2 hours a day!

    Why not setup a system to teach others what you are doing? You could get rid of some of your "free time" and also earn a lot more money.

    If not physically meeting people is a big problem then setup an offline class type setup and teach people that way, you would earn more money that way and meet people.

    If moneys not an issue then do it for FREE, I'm pretty sure you would quickly gain a huge new network of friends that way.

    Cherish where your at right now, I would.

    Thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author Daniel Scott
    Why not take some time out and travel? You've got the cash and the time... go through Europe or something... you meet so many amazing people and see so much amazing stuff.

    Failing that... just get out of the house more... go places... and talk to people. Bars aren't my scene... but concerts, plays, musicals are all great.

    Some people join sporting teams... again, not my scene

    Go to the gym... that's a great social place. Hang out at the mall more. Just walk the streets.

    I tend to strike up conversations with pretty girls... but I'll talk to anyone.

    You'd be amazed where you can find some great friends... and once you have them... it's really easy to get MORE good friends.

    -Dan

    P.S. I second the idea of volunteering... beter still, work with a local charity to put together something "big" like a fund-raiser... you'll meet a lot of people, have a lot of fun and do a lot of good.

    P.P.S. All of the above is hard-won advice from personal experience... take it or leave it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jeff Noel
      For the last 20 years I was in the car business then quit this year in Jan to go full time in IM. I was spending 10-15 hours everyday working on my business. By mid Feb I became depressed (I have never been depressed in my life). I boiled it down to people withdrawl. I went from haggling, motivating and spending time with people everyday to nothing.

      Follow the suggestion above and you will just love life like never before.
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  • Profile picture of the author dsmpublishing
    Find something that you enjoy doing with your spare time. When i realised i had so much spare time i took up horseriding for example. Find something you like that fits in with the kind of people in your age range and enjoy yourself.

    Kind regards


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    • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
      Michael,
      Two words.... Mastermind Group
      I had two completely different words in mind for him.


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      • Profile picture of the author Jeremy Kelsall
        lol - Be careful!

        Boredom in this business can get pretty expensive - REALLY FAST!

        I got "bored" 2 months ago...

        Now I have a 4-wheeler, a dirt bike, a go kart, trampoline, pool, new hot tub, and just got back from a 2 week camping trip...

        Shit, i'm still bored
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        • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
          Originally Posted by Jeremy Kelsall View Post

          lol - Be careful!

          Boredom in this business can get pretty expensive - REALLY FAST!

          I got "bored" 2 months ago...

          Now I have a 4-wheeler, a dirt bike, a go kart, trampoline, pool, new hot tub, and just got back from a 2 week camping trip...

          Shit, i'm still bored

          Jeremy, you need to get a life.

          Better yet, get 2 of them.
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          • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
            Originally Posted by Dana_W View Post

            So that was my long winded way of saying - go get a part time job that you enjoy.
            Dana, that was going to be my suggestion...

            Florida has such a high concentration of seniors that some comics call it "God's waiting room" and I've met several who hold down part time jobs despite having enough money. These folks do it because it gets them out of the house on a regular basis.

            CreativeThinker, get used to the idea that if you go somehwere in the middle of the day, you may be the youngest person there by a few decades. Everyone else is at work...
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            • Profile picture of the author Dana_W
              Originally Posted by JohnMcCabe View Post

              Dana, that was going to be my suggestion...

              Florida has such a high concentration of seniors that some comics call it "God's waiting room" and I've met several who hold down part time jobs despite having enough money. These folks do it because it gets them out of the house on a regular basis.

              CreativeThinker, get used to the idea that if you go somehwere in the middle of the day, you may be the youngest person there by a few decades. Everyone else is at work...
              Amen to that. I don't see myself ever completely retiring. I enjoy working. Working is what energizes and motivates me.
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      • Profile picture of the author MichaelHiles
        Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

        Michael,I had two completely different words in mind for him.


        Paul

        lol... I was going to tell him/her to get married and have a baby. Suddenly, they won't be so bored.
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        • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
          Michael,
          lol... I was going to tell him/her to get married and have a baby. Suddenly, they won't be so bored.
          My suggestion would have happened somewhere in that process.

          I got bored a few years ago, and ended up with a classic Mercedes (which I love), a motorcycle, an RV, and too many ... errm... distractions.

          Zen meditation helped. A little.


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          • Profile picture of the author Richard Tunnah
            Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

            Michael,My suggestion would have happened somewhere in that process.

            I got bored a few years ago, and ended up with a classic Mercedes (which I love), a motorcycle, an RV, and too many ... errm... distractions.

            Zen meditation helped. A little.


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            Paul,
            I love the late 70's early 80's mercs! Can I ask what you bought?
            Sorry this was kinda off topic!

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        • Profile picture of the author hbixler03
          My advice would be what ever you do, get out of the house! A change of scenery always helps me when I feel lonely or bored.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dana_W
    I'm in the same boat. I was a newspaper reporter for many years, loved how social it was and also how exciting it was. I loved being part of a team and knowing that my efforts were needed.

    I now make good money working from home - and I am really getting bored and unmotivated, and VERY isolated.

    I'll tell you my solution. Doesn't necessarily work for everyone, but it's what I've decided to do. I only work a few hours a day. This is not a full time business; it's a side job which provides a great income stream.

    I can easily work a full time or part time job outside of the home AND do this, frankly. Newspaper journalism is dying, (breaks my heart, but living in denial won't help) - so I am starting school part time next month at a local community college. Debating between being a paramedic or nursing. Either way - I'd never give up internet marketing, social media marketing, and writing press releases and blog copy for people, because I fervently believe in MULTIPLE streams of income and because I enjoy doing it PART TIME - but I'm ready to go work with humans again a few days of the week.
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    • Profile picture of the author raylm123
      Originally Posted by Dana_W View Post

      I'm in the same boat. I was a newspaper reporter for many years, loved how social it was and also how exciting it was. I loved being part of a team and knowing that my efforts were needed.

      I now make good money working from home - and I am really getting bored and unmotivated, and VERY isolated.

      I'll tell you my solution. Doesn't necessarily work for everyone, but it's what I've decided to do. I only work a few hours a day. This is not a full time business; it's a side job which provides a great income stream.

      I can easily work a full time or part time job outside of the home AND do this, frankly. Newspaper journalism is dying, (breaks my heart, but living in denial won't help) - so I am starting school part time next month at a local community college. Debating between being a paramedic or nursing. Either way - I'd never give up internet marketing, social media marketing, and writing press releases and blog copy for people, because I fervently believe in MULTIPLE streams of income and because I enjoy doing it PART TIME - but I'm ready to go work with humans again a few days of the week.
      Actually, getting a part-time job may not be such a bad idea. It may remind you why working for yourself, at home, making 4-5 times what you could make working for someone else, is a blessing. Take a stroll on someone else's "green grass" and you may find that your own is more emerald than Ireland!
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  • Profile picture of the author Dana_W
    So that was my long winded way of saying - go get a part time job that you enjoy.
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  • Profile picture of the author worlok
    Go cruisin in the nice car that you can presumably afford and pick up chicks....
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  • Profile picture of the author JeffLam
    So...what was the first place you got into this IM thing initially?

    So you can just swim in wads of money and notes..?

    Remember why you started first:

    Security for your..loved ones? (spend more time with them then!)
    So you can get your favourite boy toys? (go enjoy yourself then!)
    So you can help others? (DONATE!)
    So you can concentrate on other things besides typical work? (then go learn something!)

    Well, you can always like write a book about the whole process or start giving presentations and all that to kill time and socialise.

    Makes me wonder when I can feel that way too.

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  • Profile picture of the author marmo
    do you have a significant other ? That can help i would think. Myself I could care less that I work 18 hours a day , I very rarely ever get burned out... maybe once a month a pick a day that I just lay around like a slug other then that im usually working till I pass out.... but I realize I can live my life long dream of traveling the world once I get myself to where I want to be and not have to work again.

    So I guess it boils down to what you want. Do what you feel your trinity of self demands ( Mind , heart and soul ) when you listen to all 3 of those things ( trinity of self ) you cannot go wrong my friend.
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    that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were
    noble and children respected their elders.

    Respect your elders.

    Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund,
    maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one
    might run out.

    Don't mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will
    look 85.

    Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who
    supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
    fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the
    ugly parts and recycling it for more than
    it's worth.

    But trust me on the sunscreen...
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  • Profile picture of the author FlashDriveDT
    Why don't you get to know some people socially over the internet with same interests and then meet up? Just check out the meetup website. And with a good income, certain distances shouldn't be a problem. Alternatively, get a couple of pets so you don't feel lonely at home.
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  • Profile picture of the author parker3773
    Are you kidding me?

    I'm jealous...so you are making enough money in IM? I'm trying but have barely made anything. How do you do it?
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    • Profile picture of the author halfpoint
      Originally Posted by parker3773 View Post

      Are you kidding me?

      I'm jealous...so you are making enough money in IM? I'm trying but have barely made anything. How do you do it?
      Try the site in your sig. Apparently you can get some advice there.
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  • Profile picture of the author Neil S
    Go out and enjoy yourself.

    Take a foreign language class, ballroom dancing, inter mural sports, yoga, local club, gym, learn an instrument, there are hundreds of things to do.

    Do something with all that new found freedom.
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  • Profile picture of the author aneel90
    Originally Posted by Creative Thinker View Post

    When I finished my graduation, I was offered a job through campus recruitment. I declined the offer and got involved into IM full time. Now I am making 4-5 times as much as the job would have paid me.

    Wow... what a wonderful road to be in... the road less traveled by... a journey started with courage, confidence and positive thinking.

    Now I have a home office, luxuriously finished. I outsource all the work which do not require me. I hardly go to the bank anymore, everything is online. I can keep doing this and SURELY within a few years I can be a rich man. I can work 2 hours per day and have a lot of passive income from the niche websites and blogs that I have nurtured.

    This situation may be the DREAM for many who are stuck 9-5 under a yelling boss with no job security.

    But as they say... THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER THAN THE OTHER SIDE.

    Now, I am here where I thought I wanted to be. BUT...
    • I work alone in my office.
    • I hardly go out.
    • I am a member of 2 social clubs but no one is in my age group.
    • By applying the 80/20 rule, I have come to a 2 hour work day (if not a 4 hour work week!). But that leaves me several idle hours per day with BOREDOM!

    Is this what I wanted? :confused:

    I know I need some realignment of thoughts and mindset here. HELP! Advice!
    sounds like you made it in IM... that's great, anyways I was just curious how long have you been into IM
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  • Profile picture of the author Shane Hale
    Yeah man I think you have solved your problem. Giving back some of your knowledge of success and helping others can help you with boredom. I have met so many cool people by talking to them on this forum and helping out.

    I am still working a fulltime job and can't wait to get in a position like yours to help other people out. That is my passion!! Maybe not yours this is what I would do If I was in your situation. Your grass is very green now plant some flowers and you will see something very beautiful take affect.

    I don't mean go out and help everyone learn IM which I would OPT in =) But, go out and help mankind give back! I read this article someone posted it on my corporate slave post it was long, I think it is a awesome read and very deep.

    Acres of Diamonds
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  • Three words: meetup dot com.

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  • Profile picture of the author Chris Monty
    It's a double-edged sword to be sure. I get engrossed in my own IM ventures and spend WAY too long in front of the computer. I have resorted to setting a timer. Every couple of hours, I force myself to get up, walk around, call a friend, chat with people, etc.

    I'm also a musician so I direct my church group once a week, which is very therapeutic.
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  • Profile picture of the author TLCarroll
    Take a class in a hobby you enjoy or teach a class.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Moffatt
    Get a few hookers on Craigslist, 2 midgets, a pony, and fill a shopping cart full of your favorite beverages from the local liquor store.

    I doubt you'll be bored.
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    • Profile picture of the author Russell Turner
      I like the cut of this Moffat fellows jib!
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      • Profile picture of the author gianne2705
        Let me first say congratulations for very successful career in marketing.It proves that money or career is not just the way of making a person happy.It's important that you enjoy.Spend your time with the things you want to do.
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      • Profile picture of the author Sissy76
        It's sooo easy to get stuck in a rut.
        Why don't you read a book, go to an art gallery, or even go down to the pub for a drink with some mates. Go and watch a band or a movie. Start taking daily walks.
        Do some charity work, give back to your community. Volunteers are so desperately needed for all sorts of things in charities, community groups, non-government organisations.
        Helping those less fortunate is a VERY rewarding experience.
        With your skills, you'd be able to make a difference in other people's lives in ways you wouldn't believe.
        Get out of the house and start talking to people.
        The world needs people like you to demonstrate how achievable your dreams can be.

        Be sure to report back and let us all know how it goes.

        Cheers,
        Sissy
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    • Profile picture of the author Vikuna2009+
      Originally Posted by Jason Moffatt View Post

      Get a few hookers on Craigslist, 2 midgets, a pony, and fill a shopping cart full of your favorite beverages from the local liquor store.

      I doubt you'll be bored.


      Gosh, I thought I was the adventurious (spellcheck any one, WHO do you DO that?). Add that to pickin' up a chick in a mobile home park... No, I'm not trying to be sarcastic, just semi-funny, lol.

      BTW, I know many GREAT women that lives in mobile home parks (part of selling real estate) so I'm not trying to put anyone down.

      The OP needs to get a life, be it on booze and loose women (but preferable something more serious and honest). Years ago when boredoom hit me, I went traveling with no plans what so ever. The only requirement was not to spend more then x amount of money per day and live as frugal as possible.

      Not that I could not afford it, it just became a game. Sought out a VERY remote island in Greece, rented the cheapest room I could find, went to the harbor every afternoon when the ferry arrived and started chit-chatting with arrivals.

      Gosh, did I have fun! Just do it, you will not regret! Hell, you could even advertise a "class" in your specialty and have students come from all over the world to attend your class and become your friend!

      Go, go, go!!!

      P.s. Do not forget to send me a complimentary ticket for my suggestions , I have MORE ideas, lol.
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    • Profile picture of the author Josh Anderson
      Originally Posted by Jason Moffatt View Post

      Get a few hookers on Craigslist, 2 midgets, a pony, and fill a shopping cart full of your favorite beverages from the local liquor store.

      I doubt you'll be bored.
      I met my wife at Church... we now have 3 kids and a fourth due to arrive in September...

      When I was young I used to get bored... then I realized that boredom was an insult to one's creativity.

      Earlier in life I used to go the inebriation route...

      I find family and kids to be a little more rewarding and boredom is never an issue :-)

      Even when filling my life with parties, girlfriends, and drugs and dozens of "friends" around all the time I found myself mostly lonely missing something even though I had lots of company and plenty of wild adventures to keep me entertained.

      It was when I left that behind... went to the mountain tops to pray for direction... and felt the loneliest in my life...

      That I finally was led down the path that found me a life filled with happiness, purpose, strong relationships, true friends, true love, and confidence.

      Boredom is not only an insult to creativity... the alternatives to it, if not chosen wisely, can lead you to something worse...

      Regret.

      Here are some ideas:

      Volunteer locally offering a helping hand at various events or organizations that make a difference in people's lives.

      Get involved in local business organizations donating time to help others succeed.

      If you are religious... or wish to be... seek out and find a church to be involved with.

      Volunteer helping kids or troubled youth etc.

      You'd be amazed at the people you meet, relationships you build, and opportunities that open up.
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    • Profile picture of the author FlashDriveDT
      Originally Posted by Jason Moffatt View Post

      Get a few hookers on Craigslist, 2 midgets, a pony, and fill a shopping cart full of your favorite beverages from the local liquor store.

      I doubt you'll be bored.
      LOL! Funniest advice yet.
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    • Profile picture of the author Sid Kaplan
      Originally Posted by Jason Moffatt View Post

      Get a few hookers on Craigslist, 2 midgets, a pony, and fill a shopping cart full of your favorite beverages from the local liquor store.

      I doubt you'll be bored.
      Hell, I'll buy the movie when it is ready!
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  • Profile picture of the author Jermaine Tabor
    It's what happen when you do this by *yourself* for long periods of time.
    An internet connection becomes your best friend. You lose what offline
    social skills you had.

    You become a social free money making *machine*. You *may* not be
    even able to deal with people for long periods of time who are not on your
    intelligence level.

    (They're talking under your intelligence level naturally and you may not
    enjoy talking under your intelligence level just for the sake of 'socializing'.)

    You had a strong determination to reach your level of IM success and by
    yourself, you graduated but are left with the side effects from which you
    feel regularly.

    Quite possible you need a significant other who share your level of
    determination in the business world.

    Going to some business seminars can be a great way to meet business
    minded friends around your age. *If* you want it to be, it can be very
    profitable for you also.

    You learned to be unsocial over time and you will have to relearn to be
    social again.

    You wil be great! Remember it will take *some* practice and consistency.
    You will find a rewarding *balance* for your life!

    If you ever *need* to chat just shoot me a pm.
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    • Profile picture of the author melanied
      You might try co-working. I don't know if there is one near where you live, but if there is, it's a pretty cool concept. It's a shared office environment, where everyone is consultants, freelancers, etc. You don't have set hours, you don't work for someone - but you still get to have that feeling of "going into the office" and having colleagues, water cooler chat, going out to lunch with people, etc.

      All of the benefits of a job and none of the drawbacks.

      You'd be surprised how many "work from home" people feel lonely when they ONLY work from home!
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    • Profile picture of the author Joshua.E1
      hahaha, thats what a Internet marketer will feel after a while. So that is why I have made Internet marketers friends, they share with us what they do and i share with them too.

      Besides that, I actively involved in sports like running and swimming, to keep me occupied too.
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    • Profile picture of the author actionplanbiz
      Bust a Tim Ferris and Go to Thailand and take naps underneth Palm Trees between Thai Boxing Lessons.

      When you said "4 Hour Work Week" i am thinking you read Tim Ferris's Book.

      He Suggests that you Find something that Brings Excitement. this will definetly elimate your boring hours.

      also its not your IM career that Makes you Feel this way (bored shhtless). Its what you decided to do with your time. if you only work 2 hours a day as an Internet Marketer than i suggest to get a hobbie going.

      Try to get some of these in
      • Growth by reading topics you love to learn more about
      • Sports/Hobbies that compliments your strengths
      • Family or social time with those you enjoy to be around.
      I Hope this Helps
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  • Profile picture of the author gacott
    My recommendation to anybody with these kinds of issues (I understand them well) find other people close to you to do projects with. You still get the time you need to do your own stuff, but having to get out for meetings, plan things out and work on a project with somebody else can really help keep you fresh, and sociable.
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  • Profile picture of the author newBum76
    Those of us who work 9-5 all complain about our jobs sure, but a lot of times these jobs are more than just a source of income and do fill a lot of social needs, so what you're saying makes absolute sense. If you're only working 4 hours a week, why not get a "normal" job to fill that void? Might be a nice change, even if just part-time or temporary.
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  • Profile picture of the author homebasedmom
    You should go out sometime, you have money try clubbing, watch a movie with old friends like the friends you have way back when you were at school. Or go to school again, take up another course for your extra time in that way you may be able to find new friends.
    Go out with your family, take them out to dinner, shopping, movies, swimming, vacation.
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  • Profile picture of the author Scott Ames
    Here are some ideas for ya.. this is what I might do


    1. Write a book
    2. Read books
    3. Research my family tree
    4. Travel to all the places in the world my ancestors have been
    5. Learn a language
    6. Paint, draw, sculpt, music do something creative
    7. Get involved in Tennis or a sport
    8. Do consulting to help others reach your position
    9. Get involved in politics
    10. Get involved in social causes, (missing children, hunger, old people ,Vets, whoever needs attention)
    11. Become and adventurer ala Sir Richard Branson
    12. Plan a new home
    13. Sit on the beach and tan
    14. Body build or exercise
    15. Sneak over to poor people's homes and drop off some groceries
    16. Mentor a child

    Too many successful and wealthy people go bananas and start using drugs etc. because they reach the summit and wonder "is this all there is?"

    I think this song sums it up better than anything:

    The Climb
    Songwriters: Alexander, J; Mabe, J;

    I can almost see it
    That dream I am dreaming
    But there's a voice inside my head saying
    "You'll never reach it"

    Every step I'm taking
    Every move I make feels
    Lost with no direction
    My faith is shaking

    But I gotta keep trying
    Gotta keep my head held high

    There's always gonna be another mountain
    I'm always gonna wanna make it move
    Always gonna be a uphill battle
    Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose

    Ain't about how fast I get there
    Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
    It's the climb

    The struggles I'm facing
    The chances I'm taking
    Sometimes might knock me down
    But no, I'm not breaking

    I may not know it
    But these are the moments that
    I'm gonna remember most, yeah
    Just gotta keep going

    And I, I got to be strong
    Just keep pushing on

    'Cause there's always gonna be another mountain
    I'm always gonna wanna make it move
    Always gonna be a uphill battle
    Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose

    Ain't about how fast I get there
    Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
    It's the climb, yeah!

    There's always gonna be another mountain
    I'm always gonna wanna make it move
    Always gonna be an uphill battle
    Somebody's gonna have to lose

    Ain't about how fast I get there
    Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
    It's the climb, yeah!

    Keep on moving, keep climbing
    Keep the faith, baby
    It's all about, it's all about the climb
    Keep the faith, keep your faith, whoa


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  • Profile picture of the author Yogini
    What were the things you thought of doing when you felt trapped by a job. Those are probably the diversions and forms of self-development you can pursue now. Also meetup is a good suggestion as there are so many diverse groups there. Try to think about where people your age hang out. When you aren't in school or at a job the social life takes some brainstorming.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kevin Marshall
    Originally Posted by Creative Thinker View Post

    When I finished my graduation, I was offered a job through campus recruitment. I declined the offer and got involved into IM full time. Now I am making 4-5 times as much as the job would have paid me.

    Wow... what a wonderful road to be in... the road less traveled by... a journey started with courage, confidence and positive thinking.

    Now I have a home office, luxuriously finished. I outsource all the work which do not require me. I hardly go to the bank anymore, everything is online. I can keep doing this and SURELY within a few years I can be a rich man. I can work 2 hours per day and have a lot of passive income from the niche websites and blogs that I have nurtured.

    This situation may be the DREAM for many who are stuck 9-5 under a yelling boss with no job security.

    But as they say... THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER THAN THE OTHER SIDE.

    Now, I am here where I thought I wanted to be. BUT...
    • I work alone in my office.
    • I hardly go out.
    • I am a member of 2 social clubs but no one is in my age group.
    • By applying the 80/20 rule, I have come to a 2 hour work day (if not a 4 hour work week!). But that leaves me several idle hours per day with BOREDOM!

    Is this what I wanted? :confused:

    I know I need some realignment of thoughts and mindset here. HELP! Advice!
    Well man you can help me. I could use an extra hand with some of my article writing!
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  • Profile picture of the author Sylvia Meier
    I wish I had too many hours in my day, with 5 kids and a business I'm lucky if I can go to the bathroom by myself LOL...but here's my suggestions...

    Get out of the house, you're never going to meet anyone hiding in it
    Mentor a child
    Do the big brothers thing
    Volunteer anywhere
    Teach others to do what you did
    Enjoy nature
    Take up a hobby if you don't have one
    Make a part time business doing something you enjoy, like to paint...sell your art etc
    Become a tourist in your own town, very few people ever see the sights right in the city they live.
    Help out at a school, or anywhere that can use an extra hand

    The possibilities are really limitless, just go out and do something.
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    • Profile picture of the author Nightengale
      This has a lot to do with why I really want a laptop even though my desktop does just fine.

      I'm not a very physically active person and am pretty content with my books, my computer and my cats. I worked from home for three years in a "regular" job and didn't go out for days on end. (Too much trouble to get ready to go out.)

      Even though I spend the vast majority of my time alone and am content with it, I still got cabin fever and really needed to be able to socialize. Now, I'm back in the office, but my day is sooo regimented and I hate that it's so inflexible. For me, being able to take my laptop to a Starbucks or Panera Bread or meet up with people I met through church, the Chamber of Commerce and MeetUp.com would be fantastic. And that's why I've decided to buy a laptop.

      I'm not where you are, but hope to be relatively soon. Go back to what you dreamed about when you went to school and/or before you were really even aware of IM. What did you want to do but couldn't because money held you back? What big dreams did you dream? Pursue those.

      Good luck!

      Sincerely,
      Michelle

      P.S. What exactly are you doing in IM anyway? I'm curious too.
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  • Profile picture of the author tofumonkey
    hmmm, just learn to give back to the community.

    take part in more activities.
    join toastmasters and learn public speaking.
    learn to surf, learn to do whichever...

    just do something! haha...
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  • Profile picture of the author Diver's
    get into some sports or hobby-outdoor,outback, outlast, apply to become as participant in 'reality show' - eco race or survivor type of business. trump apprentice maybe

    indulge in cultural heritage, travel to macau or melaka, help your communities in voluntary works..

    teach your brother or sisters how to start their own business, help your fathers company grow...
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  • Profile picture of the author Charlie Houston
    Get a boat, learn to fly, travel, get a family, climb Kilimanjaro, go to Argentina...learn to Tengo, learn photography, go skydiving, Wow, to have your problem!
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  • Profile picture of the author Dana Forsythe
    Here is something to think about..

    I rent an office space from a local business that I actually used to work with. I dont need an office but Id rather go to an office and have social interaction than sit at home all day by myself. Find someone you know that has an office with space and see if they'll rent to you. that way youre getting out for work and you're with people you know.
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  • Profile picture of the author SullyUI
    I don't work at home, so I am always around people. I go to Panera or another coffee shop that has wifi. I have always been able to work better when there's people around, but not too many people. It gives me a focus, and I don't feel alone either. Occasionally, I see someone I know at Panera, which is an added bonus.

    In the meantime I chat on WF and Twitter, so I rarely feel "alone." I felt more alone in college when I was sitting in my room studying all day!
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  • Profile picture of the author netstarmobile
    What a great answer from Jason Moffatt. If you can't laugh at someone asking a dumb question, who can you laugh at?
    Creative Thinker, come on, if you're smart enough to make the amount of money you say in the amount of time you say, you can certainly find a way to entertain yourself.
    The right thing to do, obviously, would be to help others, whether by sharing your knowledge to help newbies or to volunteer your time and money for those that are less fortunate. I once read, we always know the right thing to do, sometimes we just need help deciding to do it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Floyd Fisher
    Get out more.

    Set aside 4 hours each day, and go somewhere. Goto the mall, goto the gym, hell goto the produce aisle of the grocery store and pick up chicks (or guys depending on your preference)....just do something non productive!
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  • Profile picture of the author GeorgR.
    wow.

    2 hour work/day...and enough money.

    You sure have a LOT of problems
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  • Profile picture of the author Creative Thinker
    I have been reading all the replies and hitting the thanks button a lot. From all the suggestions, helping others seems to have the majority votes. And helping by teaching IM would be more interesting for me than anything else.

    So I am going to my college this week and try to arrange a seminar where I will be teaching my juniors IM for free. As an alumni I should have been doing this already!

    And out of this I would probably get more friends, and perhaps a significant other as well
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    • Profile picture of the author Emmanuel Betinis
      Originally Posted by Creative Thinker View Post

      I have been reading all the replies and hitting the thanks button a lot. From all the suggestions, helping others seems to have the majority votes. And helping by teaching IM would be more interesting for me than anything else.

      So I am going to my college this week and try to arrange a seminar where I will be teaching my juniors IM for free. As an alumni I should have been doing this already!

      And out of this I would probably get more friends, and perhaps a significant other as well
      Have you considered setting up a camcorder on a tripod in the back
      of the room to record your seminars? If you haven't yet, you should.
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    • Profile picture of the author Gene O
      Originally Posted by Creative Thinker View Post


      So I am going to my college this week and try to arrange a seminar where I will be teaching my juniors IM for free. As an alumni I should have been doing this already!

      And out of this I would probably get more friends, and perhaps a significant other as well
      Yup, I was going to suggest to start giving back as well.

      Also, pretend you had a normal job and worked 10 hour days. What would you want to do when you weren't working? Do that!

      Personally, I'd be traveling as much as I could and creating more ways for my business to make even more money.
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  • Profile picture of the author Randy Bheites
    Like the lady said: meetup.com

    Amazing place to find like-minded folks who enjoy what you enjoy, no matter what it is you enjoy. I've made many friends through meetups over the last few years. Between Meetup.com and Yahoo Groups activities, I go out a few times a week socially with all kinds of really cool people.

    I've even reconnected with old friends and acquaintances through meetups, really cool in a bigger city when people move around and you think you've pretty much lost touch.
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  • Profile picture of the author Bakai
    Or you could just post your profile on a dating site like adult friend finder and say you want to be a sugar daddy. Girls in the recession are looking to be taken care of like never before (except maybe in the great depression)

    Or post on CL that the party's at your place, free kegger, lots of drugs, (I stopped doing that however)
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  • Profile picture of the author xohaibx
    There are a lot of ways to waste time but the extra hours you have are a sheer goldmine if you look at them. You need to get your mind running, see if you can set up some online business, even if small, it will grow with time. Just don't waste your time. Be as productive as possible. Find work that you love. Start reading books of your interest to spark some ideas. I could just go on and on and on. But the point is, do something about it, before you regret it later on.
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  • Profile picture of the author Emily Meeks
    It must be said: "Do you want cheese with that whine?"

    In all seriousness, as everybody else said - there's PLENTY of things you can do. What do you like? Go to a movie. Go drive around. Spend $50 on a chinese food dinner for one. Go to a club, bookstore, cafe, park or wherever else you like to hang out. Somebody was afraid to say this, but we're all adults here - find a shag-buddy if you need one.

    Why are you doing IM in the first place? Why do you want to make money? Just to pay bills, nothing else? If that's so then IM's not for you. Think about it for a second - ever take a second to think WHY somebody wants to make money? To sit around, cry on the Warrior Forum that they're making too much money? What do you want us to do, pat your back and say it's ok we share your pain?

    You get one life. It could end tomorrow.

    Are you going to spend that time procrastinating, putting off your dreams? Isn't that why you wanted to make money - to do the things you WANT to do? For me, that's sure as hell what it is. I'm an author. I'm an artist. That's all I want to do - but guess what? Neither field really brings in a lot of cash, now does it? Because I also want time to pursue theatre, learn martial arts, learn multiple languages, travel the world, spend $1000 in one day without losing a bit of sleep, spend $1000 on my boyfriend in one day without losing a bit of sleep, and basically doing whatever the F**K I want - whether it be up and deciding to go to Europe, or simply staying at home with friends, pizza and beer. I'm also getting married next year - and I'm working on making enough money so we don't have to make compromises.

    You have that luxury, apparently. I don't. You're flaunting it in front of me and acting like a spoiled child.

    Quite frankly, this post pissed me off.

    If your creative thinking absolutely cannot be budged to do anything that you enjoy, get off the WF and go get a REAL JOB.

    We all make our own choices, and quite frankly, you are CHOOSING to be "lonely".
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    • Profile picture of the author luckystepho
      This is something I have always wondered... I'd love to be able to quit my job and work at IM full time, but I also enjoy the social interaction and chit chat at work, and have found if I have time off work to work on IM I tend to get lonely...

      I am quite shy and don't make friends easily, so this post is really useful in giving me ideas of what to do about it- of course, I just need to get to the point where I can actually give up my job first!
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  • Profile picture of the author Igor Kheifets
    Why not find a hobby? or do more work?
    Maybe you can do some coaching? launch a new product?

    There are plenty of possibilities to fill your time. In fact, when you
    have alot of free time in solitude it can only lead to great ideas or insanity. You
    get to choose.

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  • Profile picture of the author cowy
    Hi Creative Thinker,
    This may be funny, but I'm in a REALLY Similiar with your situation.
    I'm a college fresh graduate, just finished my paper this year and being in IM since I was in college (from 2007 and) now I'm earning 4-5 times as a college fresh graduate job in my country.

    Well, I also feels lonely as you do. I outsource most of my jobs and now I'm just managing admin stuff and business development, so I can earn more. Well, I live in not-so-wealthy country so the 4-5 times earning as the fresh graduate in my country doesn't pay off an US family bill. I have my home office upgraded and I think for my age, money is a problem anymore because my lifestyle is not also luxurios. My friends starts to getting day job, being busy with their jobs, so I cannot hang out with them like usual. My partner also being busy in day job. In short, I have money but I also being lonely (really reallllyyyy Loneeellyyyyyy) and sometimes it leads to depression.

    I'm 22 and I assume you are around my ages too. I'm not expert but here is some solution which works for me:

    - We still in LEARNING age. So, learn and study whatever you want. I do apprenticeship in a company just for learn how day job works without getting salary at all! I do take some courses that interested me-we can afford it and it's effective to get new experience.

    - Go Out as many times as possibles! I still go to bank, because I don't get wiretransfer and still getting cheque. So, getting a cheque is just like getting a salary, and going to bank with happy smile. When the bank visit is done, it's time for Me time. I eat in a fancy restaurant, do a window shopping for my wish list, driving my car wherever I want and many more.

    - Don't miss to go out with Family/Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Friends whenever they available.
    We IM usually too lazy to go out because we have comfort zone in our home. But Hey, there are sooo much happiness when we go out with the one we love than hanging out with our lovely computer Take out for vacation also a great idea.

    - Do something in your passion. In my case, I love business. So I plan to open a shop or restaurant in my area. Now I'm designing it and plan to launch it as soon I have the investment

    - Do you know what brings people happiness based on Psychology research?
    It's not money,
    It's not fame
    It's leisure
    There are sooo much things can be done in our leisure time which bring happiness. And we IM have it

    Hope that helps

    Originally Posted by Creative Thinker View Post

    When I finished my graduation, I was offered a job through campus recruitment. I declined the offer and got involved into IM full time. Now I am making 4-5 times as much as the job would have paid me.
    • I work alone in my office.
    • I hardly go out.
    • I am a member of 2 social clubs but no one is in my age group.
    • By applying the 80/20 rule, I have come to a 2 hour work day (if not a 4 hour work week!). But that leaves me several idle hours per day with BOREDOM!

    Is this what I wanted? :confused:

    I know I need some realignment of thoughts and mindset here. HELP! Advice!
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  • Profile picture of the author John Atkins
    @ the OP

    I think that you should spend more time with your friends or gf etc...

    I too have a lot of free time. But, I never feel lonely because I'm very active. I play football amongst other sports, I go swimming a lot & I hangout with my friends every day.

    It doesn't have to be lonely, you can just hang out in your free time or participate in some kind of sport.

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    • Profile picture of the author Creative Thinker
      Originally Posted by Daniel Flower View Post

      It's a funny one alright - and I'm in a similar position to you - 21, just graduated from uni and currently doing IM full time. BUT I truly believe we're one of the privileged few to have discovered internet marketing....

      Think about this - you (and I) can ALWAYS find ways to fill your spare time, but your friends (and my friends) will NEVER be able to replace the time they've lost working full time in a job.

      Dan
      No matter what, I always know deep inside that this I where I really wanted to be. But now I have discovered that I need not pay the price called loneliness to gain it. I can choose not to be lonely by taking some pro-active action.

      I guess the above sentences are just an affirmation to myself.
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  • Profile picture of the author vual
    should this thread be in "THE BBQ PITT", And i wonder how you would feel if you did take up that job.
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  • Profile picture of the author HappyCommando
    If you are truly looking for something meaningful and rewarding, what do you think about mentoring? By taking someone under your experienced, successful wing to teach them, show them, and guide them to achievement, you can initiate a "pay it forward" cycle where the mentee eventually becomes the mentor of another...etc.

    You can work out any financial agreements based on results, if you want, like every other "I'll coach you" guy. Or you could be different, and work out other commitments from your mentees to continue to serve others and continue the cycle.

    Seems to me that you are in a powerful position to make a significant difference bigger than yourself (and the norm).

    Being a Soldier, if I were in your shoes, I would look at how I can help our wounded warriors and their families grow a new career.

    Congratulations and may your success continue!
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  • Profile picture of the author Rezbi
    Originally Posted by Creative Thinker View Post

    When I finished my graduation, I was offered a job through campus recruitment. I declined the offer and got involved into IM full time. Now I am making 4-5 times as much as the job would have paid me.

    Wow... what a wonderful road to be in... the road less traveled by... a journey started with courage, confidence and positive thinking.

    Now I have a home office, luxuriously finished. I outsource all the work which do not require me. I hardly go to the bank anymore, everything is online. I can keep doing this and SURELY within a few years I can be a rich man. I can work 2 hours per day and have a lot of passive income from the niche websites and blogs that I have nurtured.

    This situation may be the DREAM for many who are stuck 9-5 under a yelling boss with no job security.

    But as they say... THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER THAN THE OTHER SIDE.

    Now, I am here where I thought I wanted to be. BUT...
    • I work alone in my office.
    • I hardly go out.
    • I am a member of 2 social clubs but no one is in my age group.
    • By applying the 80/20 rule, I have come to a 2 hour work day (if not a 4 hour work week!). But that leaves me several idle hours per day with BOREDOM!

    Is this what I wanted? :confused:

    I know I need some realignment of thoughts and mindset here. HELP! Advice!
    I have to agree with you.

    I'm the kind of guy who can get a lot more done by bouncing ideas off others -- something a little difficult if you're working on your own.
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  • Profile picture of the author embrown
    I'm jealous! Well, not jealous, but all these college grads are out here making full time money. I'm going to be there by the end of this year, I've promised myself.

    Anyway, I'm already setting myself up for full time IMing. I'm a member of the national guard, so I still have a job - but part time.

    When I do finally go full time, I'm prepared to go back to school for something I love and always wanted to learn. If you are already making good money and have started making a good life for yourself, the pressure of choosing a 'profitable' major is reduced to zero. I know it has been for me. You can pick and choose your classes purely for self-improvement and personal enlightenment. You'll learn something new and keep busy.

    Also try Meetup.com or search craig's list for a group that meets up that shares your interests. You can make groups from these sites. Especially on Meetup, there's a bunch of people just waiting around for someone to lead the group.
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  • Profile picture of the author Richard Tunnah
    Originally Posted by Creative Thinker View Post

    When I finished my graduation, I was offered a job through campus recruitment. I declined the offer and got involved into IM full time. Now I am making 4-5 times as much as the job would have paid me.

    Wow... what a wonderful road to be in... the road less traveled by... a journey started with courage, confidence and positive thinking.

    Now I have a home office, luxuriously finished. I outsource all the work which do not require me. I hardly go to the bank anymore, everything is online. I can keep doing this and SURELY within a few years I can be a rich man. I can work 2 hours per day and have a lot of passive income from the niche websites and blogs that I have nurtured.

    This situation may be the DREAM for many who are stuck 9-5 under a yelling boss with no job security.

    But as they say... THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER THAN THE OTHER SIDE.

    Now, I am here where I thought I wanted to be. BUT...
    • I work alone in my office.
    • I hardly go out.
    • I am a member of 2 social clubs but no one is in my age group.
    • By applying the 80/20 rule, I have come to a 2 hour work day (if not a 4 hour work week!). But that leaves me several idle hours per day with BOREDOM!

    Is this what I wanted? :confused:

    I know I need some realignment of thoughts and mindset here. HELP! Advice!
    Here's what I do. I have a routine now that I go out for a walk mid afternoon, maybe some shopping and stop in one of the pubs for lunch. I sometimes meet someone for lunch but mostly I've just got to know people from going in regularly and I'll tell you it's great for business - easy networking as lots of business types are in at lunchtime.
    I decided recently to sell my house and travel. Yes it's a poor time to sell and I'll take a big hit but life is short!

    Rich
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  • Profile picture of the author aidanjb1
    Have you thought about renting some office space? I know its not a requirement with online businesses but it can increase productivity and you get to meet some people.

    I guess the situation youre in is one many aspire to get to...try to find new challenges...
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  • Profile picture of the author elle56
    If you don't have any hobbies now, find one! Your problem is not really a problem. I have a full-time job, do IM part-time, have kids and sometimes, I still get bored with what I do. So I take short trips, go out with friends and family... those sort of things.
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    • Profile picture of the author CaseWhitney
      Hey Creative Thinker,

      I've been in a similar position as you and have only a few things to pass on that haven't already been mentioned in this thread already.

      It is wonderful that you've gotten the financial/career part of your life set. The loneliness you feel doesn't come from your financial success in IM.

      It comes from a lack of fulfillment in the other parts of life that haven't gotten as much attention yet. Aside from financial, other parts of life include family and friends, romance, spiritual/religous/community, health, fun and adventure. I'm betting that you're probably not doing as hot in those other areas.

      When you were a little kid what dreams did you have?
      Have you come up with your own "bucket list" yet?
      Are you doing something new and adventurous that involves being outside and other people?
      What kinds of things are just a tiny bit outside your comfort zone? Meet them head on and watch what happens. Tim Ferris had a good exercise, the eye contact one. and the asking random girls or boys for their number to push you out of your social comfort zone.

      Something else Tim wrote about in 4HWW is the idea that stress isn't bad. You've removed the negative stress of finances but you have yet to replace them with the postitive stresses (eustress) of new life challenges to take on.

      If you haven't read his book, the parts on comfort challenges and the chapter on Filling the void would resonate with where you are right now. If you do half as well in the other parts of life as you have with IM, you're gonna have one hell of an amazing life! Cherish every minute, idiot move and random success that comes your way.

      My best,
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  • Profile picture of the author Troy_Phillips
    I sometimes have to wonder if this op won't be the next wso offer . Sounds like a perfect pitch for a mentor program. I am so bored . I already know the ropes in Im so well I only work 4 hours a week. My only entertainment is pulling all this money out of my butt twice a day .

    I could be wrong and if I am I apologize and offer a suggestion . It has something to do with a Harley , g-string , and dollar bills

    Now get in the pit and love someone
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  • Profile picture of the author lh1234
    How I'd love to have this problem..there aren't enough hours in the day to do all I want/need to do. But I do get what you're saying about how lonely it can be working solo and not having workmates around you to chat with etc.

    to get some balance in your life, you could do some volunteer work, which can be extrememly fulfilling - that will get you out and about relating/socialising with others, and start trying out new hobbies that take your fancy - join hobby groups and try them out for a certain period of time to see if its something you enjoy.

    I'm envious of you that you only need to work 2 hours a day.

    I know..write an ebook on the systems you implement to be able to only work 2 hours a day and share it with those of us who need 10 more hours in a day. that'll keep you busy and help out a few of your fellow warriors
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    • Profile picture of the author RMC
      Man that post steams my vegetables.

      It comes off pretty arrogant. (and were you really finding friends at the bank prior to your online deposit arrangement? why mention that?)

      But hell I'll bite and pretend it's real.

      Here's what I did.

      I bought the stuff I had always wanted for Christmas but nobody could afford. I did as little as possible for two years, and drank a lot of beer.

      I played a lot of golf, and made videos of the alligators around the water hazzards to warn my subscribers of the dangers of working online. (...and at the country clubs you can hang with all the rich executives and laugh about the Bourgeoisie..thus providing entertainment and company)

      And then recently I've been to Vegas so much that I have my own limo driver. I danced my face off in the clubs there, and I stayed up until late wasn't late anymore.

      I got season tickets to my favorite baseball team and go to games every week.

      I got a business degree...played a lot of guitar. Went to all the bars and clubs within a 50 mile radius and met new and interesting people.

      And all the new and fun stories just made it even easier to meet new and fun people.

      But that's just me.

      I could never be lonely with or without money. The money just fuels my eccentricities.

      My professional opinion is to watch "the Hangover" then call me up and fly me out to Vegas...I'll have my limo driver pick us up at McCarren and we'll do a re-enactment.
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      • Profile picture of the author Marc Jager
        Boy are you some piece of work!I don't know whether to laugh or cry!Many people would love to have your 'problem'!Study, travel - hell come to Australia, I'll show you some amaaazing rain forests and you can teach me how you set up your IM business'You freak
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  • Profile picture of the author Alex Sol
    Hey, Creative Thinker!

    I kind of understand you, I was rocking the same boat a while ago...
    Then I remembered that the whole point of me jumping into IM was to have more time and money for my hobbies, or things I wanted to experiment but never could with a 9 to 5...

    It all changed... I bought a new car and modified it to my liking, I got a motorcycle license and a motorcycle, I went bunjee jumping, I traveled to many other countries, I met lots of cool people... and I have many more plans for all that free time

    I mean, sitting at home in your underwear is awesome - until it starts driving you crazy

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  • Profile picture of the author javanz07
    Hey,

    I know the feeling man. But dun worry, all is not lost.

    See all those hours you have as another type of currency you own (in addition to all that dollars you are accumulating). But the difference is in how you are going to spend it.

    I suggest you spend it by giving it away in ways that add value to others. And I am not just talking about volunteering or community service.

    I am also referring to using your time in a social manner... get out there and socialise. Socialise in a way that when people interact with you, they feel that time spent with you was time well spent. Trust me, I know what and how you feel.

    You reach a point in your IM career where you actually enjoy and look forward to spending time working on your enterprises and marketing. And when you do meet other people, you find that you can't really relate with them (because entrepreneurs are a rare breed). And when you talk with them, at the back of your mind some new marketing idea or tactic is germinating at the same time.

    You need to find and appreciate the beauty that other people have to offer (yes, even the irritating ones). Approach knowing other people from a place of love... in that there is always something to love about a fellow human being. We just need to find it. And the way to find it is to talk (and more importantly, listen) to them with no pre-conceived judgements or stereotypes whatsoever. Everyone we meet is a potential lesson and an opportunity for self-improvement.

    We entrepreneurs may be in a different world but that should not stop us from going into others' worlds.... or even bring them into our world...
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  • Profile picture of the author gareth
    What ever you do - do not sit on your ass at 3:45 AM reading warrior forum threads like I am at present.
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  • Profile picture of the author infohog
    Too bad you don't live in Michigan. I just posted this question:

    Is there a good way to find local online business partners?
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  • Profile picture of the author gjedda63
    Boredom??? What ? dont you have interests ? hobbies ? If I were in your shoes I would have been either playing with my kids,fishing,hunting,metal detecting,walking,boating,skiing,skating,diving,ga rdening and hundreds of other things.
    Bored ? Shame on you.
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  • Profile picture of the author HomeBizNizz
    Money can't buy true friends...
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  • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
    If you have so much spare time and lots of money:

    Go to the beach!
    Go to seaworld!
    Go the the Bahamas!
    Go to Hawaii!
    Do the hula
    Kickboxing
    Target practice
    Hip hop dancing
    Volunteer for the needy
    Learn to surf
    Learn poi-firedancing
    Rollerblade
    Start your own social group in your area
    Go to church or another spiritual place
    Act in a play
    Go to La Escuela Del Sol
    Go on a date
    Get a parrot
    Go on a safari
    Get a tortoise
    Organize your food alphabetically
    Learn to salsa dance
    Play bingo
    Go hiking
    Rock climb
    Write prison inmates
    Plant a garden
    Train a puppy
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  • Profile picture of the author John Durham
    If I was in your position I would go get an american deluxe telecaster and spend the next 6 months learning how to do this:
    Then start a band, and go play 3 times a day in little clubs on broadway in Nashville for free since you don't need the money, just for fun. Give all your tips to the waitresses, and they will love you.


    You'll have more of a social life than most people can handle before you know it. You wont need to pay for any hookers BTW (lol) or booze for that matter (if you like that sort of thing).

    That's what I "personally" would do in your position.



    Disclaimer: Midgets and pony's not included...er..."necessarily"...



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  • Profile picture of the author Snappinn
    This is one thing i did not expect to hear "i make enough money to work from home and enjoy life to the fullest but I'm bored" that is what you are basically saying, I have an idea. take me one as your apprentice and when i will be able to make enough money to quit my day job i will be able to entertain you
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  • Profile picture of the author FlightGuy
    You know what's interesting...

    Get a few hookers on Craigslist, 2 midgets, a pony, and fill a shopping cart full of your favorite beverages from the local liquor store.

    I doubt you'll be bored.
    I bet Jason did exactly that a time or two.


    Creative Thinker,
    Have you ever been flying? I've been a pilot for quite some time and it never bores me. There's never a day I go up and think, "eh... this is a little boring."

    Think about it. If you learn to fly, you could take Paul up on his suggestion... and trust me, it's easy to get some ... *ehem* ... "friends" ... when you're a pilot and can fly all over for dinner, lunch, etc. I live in South Florida so I'll literally go eat in the keys one afternoon, over in Naples for dinner, and still make it home in time to watch a movie before "bed."

    And it's not as expensive as most people think. With books, a decent headset, and all your lessons... it's just around $6,000 - $7,000. And that can be spread out over time, according to your budget. Very doable, and very fun.

    Kindly,
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    • Profile picture of the author Scott Ames
      I second this. Its really a kick to pilot an aircraft.


      Originally Posted by FlightGuy View Post

      You know what's interesting...

      Have you ever been flying? I've been a pilot for quite some time and it never bores me. There's never a day I go up and think, "eh... this is a little boring."

      Think about it. If you learn to fly, you could take Paul up on his suggestion... and trust me, it's easy to get some ... *ehem* ... "friends" ... when you're a pilot and can fly all over for dinner, lunch, etc. I live in South Florida so I'll literally go eat in the keys one afternoon, over in Naples for dinner, and still make it home in time to watch a movie before "bed."

      And it's not as expensive as most people think. With books, a decent headset, and all your lessons... it's just around $6,000 - $7,000. And that can be spread out over time, according to your budget. Very doable, and very fun.

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  • 2x7=14
    14 hours of work
    7x24=168
    168 hours in a week

    168-14=154
    154 hours of free time in a week

    what you do in that time is the same as what you do when you plan your work

    make a plan for your offline life

    talk to people, there are people everywhere
    get out of your house and go to:

    - library
    - clubs
    - malls
    - beach
    - courses
    - events
    - etc...

    fill your time with activity, plan a schedule for it too
    there is a life out there

    p.s. - a words of a workaholic - so don't listen to me
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  • Profile picture of the author aroberts
    Yeah! help me!What are you guys doing to have time to sit back and relax like that?
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  • Profile picture of the author Cre8today
    Hi there,
    You could try another form of online marketing where there is a lot of time for catching up and masterminding with other members in social situations and on overseas holidays. That is what I do. I crave the human interaction so find it all the more rewarding. Especially considering I was use to working in an office with 2000 people before I gave it all in to work from home!
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  • Profile picture of the author pretter
    The big question is .. have you reached your full potential. Meaning ... have you made all the money you need to make, built all the products you need to build, etc...

    I can't imagine getting board. However as for the social part, I feel you and how I overcame this was to join clubs and do a lot of travelling too because going out was no longer my thing anymore, but travelling makes a whole lot of difference. But truthfully, apart from that, I don't see myself having free time ever like that. I'm always up to one thing or the other


    Originally Posted by Creative Thinker View Post

    When I finished my graduation, I was offered a job through campus recruitment. I declined the offer and got involved into IM full time. Now I am making 4-5 times as much as the job would have paid me.

    Wow... what a wonderful road to be in... the road less traveled by... a journey started with courage, confidence and positive thinking.

    Now I have a home office, luxuriously finished. I outsource all the work which do not require me. I hardly go to the bank anymore, everything is online. I can keep doing this and SURELY within a few years I can be a rich man. I can work 2 hours per day and have a lot of passive income from the niche websites and blogs that I have nurtured.

    This situation may be the DREAM for many who are stuck 9-5 under a yelling boss with no job security.

    But as they say... THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER THAN THE OTHER SIDE.

    Now, I am here where I thought I wanted to be. BUT...
    • I work alone in my office.
    • I hardly go out.
    • I am a member of 2 social clubs but no one is in my age group.
    • By applying the 80/20 rule, I have come to a 2 hour work day (if not a 4 hour work week!). But that leaves me several idle hours per day with BOREDOM!

    Is this what I wanted? :confused:

    I know I need some realignment of thoughts and mindset here. HELP! Advice!
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  • Profile picture of the author Biggy Fat
    Man, with the cash you're making I'd be on a roller coaster vacation all over the U.S. But yeah, ASM Marketing gave you some good ideas.
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    • Profile picture of the author valerieSONORA
      Originally Posted by startmakingmore View Post

      So many letter writers have based their arguments on how this land is made up of immigrants. Ernie Lujan for one, suggests we should tear down the Statue of Liberty because the people now in question aren't being treated the same as those who passed through Ellis Island and other ports of entry. Maybe we should turn to our history books and point out to people like Mr. Lujan why today's American is not willing to accept this new kind of immigrant any longer. Back in 1900 when there was a rush from all areas of Europe to come to the United States, people had to get off a ship and stand in a long line in New York and be documented. Some would even get down on their hands and knees and kiss the ground. They made a pledge to uphold the laws and support their new country in good and bad times. They made learning English a primary rule in their new American households and some even changed their names to blend in with their new home. They had waved good bye to their birth place to give their children a new life and did everything in their power to help their children assimilate into one culture. Nothing was handed to them.. No free lunches, no welfare, no labor laws to protect them. All they had were the skills and craftsmanship they had brought with them to trade for a future of prosperity. Most of their children came of age when World War II broke out. My father fought along side men whose parents had come straight over from Germany, Italy, France, and Japan. None of these 1st generation Americans ever gave any thought about what country their parents had come from. They were Americans fighting Hitler, Mussolini and the Emperor of Japan. They were defending the United States of America as one people. When we liberated France, no one in those villages was looking for the French-American or the German-American or the Irish-American. The people of France saw only Americans. And we carried one flag that represented one country. Not one of those immigrant sons would have thought about picking up another country's flag and waving it to represent who they were. It would have been a disgrace to their parents who had sacrificed so much to be here. These immigrants truly knew what it meant to be an American. They stirred the melting pot into one red, white and blue bowl. And here we are in 2009 with a new kind of immigrant who wants the same rights and privileges, only they want to achieve it by playing with a different set of rules, one that includes the entitlement card and a guarantee of being faithful to their mother country. I'm sorry, that's not what being an American is all about. I believe that the immigrants who landed on Ellis Island in the early 1900's deserve better than that for all the toil, hard work and sacrifice in raising future generations to create a land that has become a beacon for those legally searching for a better life. I think they would be appalled that they are being used as an example by those waving foreign country flags. And for that suggestion about taking down the Statue of Liberty, it happens to mean a lot to the citizens who are voting on the immigration bill. I wouldn't start talking about dismantling the United States just yet. (signed) Rosemary LaBonte
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    • Profile picture of the author Troy_Phillips
      Originally Posted by startmakingmore View Post

      So many letter writers have based their arguments on how this land is made up of immigrants. Ernie Lujan for one, suggests we should tear down the Statue of Liberty because the people now in question aren't being treated the same as those who passed through Ellis Island and other ports of entry. Maybe we should turn to our history books and point out to people like Mr. Lujan why today's American is not willing to accept this new kind of immigrant any longer. Back in 1900 when there was a rush from all areas of Europe to come to the United States, people had to get off a ship and stand in a long line in New York and be documented. Some would even get down on their hands and knees and kiss the ground. They made a pledge to uphold the laws and support their new country in good and bad times. They made learning English a primary rule in their new American households and some even changed their names to blend in with their new home. They had waved good bye to their birth place to give their children a new life and did everything in their power to help their children assimilate into one culture. Nothing was handed to them.. No free lunches, no welfare, no labor laws to protect them. All they had were the skills and craftsmanship they had brought with them to trade for a future of prosperity. Most of their children came of age when World War II broke out. My father fought along side men whose parents had come straight over from Germany, Italy, France, and Japan. None of these 1st generation Americans ever gave any thought about what country their parents had come from. They were Americans fighting Hitler, Mussolini and the Emperor of Japan. They were defending the United States of America as one people. When we liberated France, no one in those villages was looking for the French-American or the German-American or the Irish-American. The people of France saw only Americans. And we carried one flag that represented one country. Not one of those immigrant sons would have thought about picking up another country's flag and waving it to represent who they were. It would have been a disgrace to their parents who had sacrificed so much to be here. These immigrants truly knew what it meant to be an American. They stirred the melting pot into one red, white and blue bowl. And here we are in 2009 with a new kind of immigrant who wants the same rights and privileges, only they want to achieve it by playing with a different set of rules, one that includes the entitlement card and a guarantee of being faithful to their mother country. I'm sorry, that's not what being an American is all about. I believe that the immigrants who landed on Ellis Island in the early 1900's deserve better than that for all the toil, hard work and sacrifice in raising future generations to create a land that has become a beacon for those legally searching for a better life. I think they would be appalled that they are being used as an example by those waving foreign country flags. And for that suggestion about taking down the Statue of Liberty, it happens to mean a lot to the citizens who are voting on the immigration bill. I wouldn't start talking about dismantling the United States just yet. (signed) Rosemary LaBonte
      While this is a somewhat interesting article ... it has nothing to do with the topic at hand .

      I first wondered what you were smoking but now admittedly find myself wondering if I missed something here .
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      • Profile picture of the author John Durham
        Originally Posted by Troy_Phillips View Post

        While this is a somewhat interesting article ... it has nothing to do with the topic at hand .

        I first wondered what you were smoking but now admittedly find myself wondering if I missed something here .
        I think it's dangerously high grade whatever it is! Or maybe they somehow got into a deep meditation and transmogrified onto another thread like a shaman or something.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jon Steel
    I don't get it. If you can work 2 hours a day, why don't you go out? That actually makes no sense. You need to go out. As harsh as this may sound, the problem isn't your business - the problem is you...

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  • Profile picture of the author BJ Min
    Thank you so for this post and this entire thread...

    it's good to know i'm not the only one who goes through this...
    i've been doing IM full time for about 6 months now...and my core reason was to get the heck out of my full time job which i achieved...and that was great...

    but after i got out of my full time job and found myself working at home only, i really started to get lonely and bored and lack motivation at times...

    i love IM...but there are certain parts about it that doesn't make it the end all for everything...such as the social aspect...

    that's the main thing for me...

    ...so lately i've been taking my laptop and going to the library on a consistent basis...i feel like one of the workers in the library now since i work there every day...lol...some of the library staff even look at me strange because i'm always there from the morning and doing stuff on my laptop...

    but yeah...i've read some great suggestions here and i'm going to look into them such as:
    - get a part time job (that requires you to socialize and interact with lots of people)
    - join more groups at meetup.com (i have went to a couple and i have met couple of cool friends so far)
    - enjoy hobbies (of past & find new hobbies)
    - etc

    thanks
    BJ

    ps...would love more ideas here...thanks
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  • That is sad indeed! What you need is to just get out a little more, social groups or not. Go bowling, make some friends, or pick up a new hobby.

    I mean for God sakes do something, anything!

    I hate to see people in this situation. My heart really goes out to you. Best of luck to you.
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    • Profile picture of the author JakeDaly
      Start growing weed. If you like weed, that is. If not, just start training to be an MMA fighter and reap the rewards of being wealthy, being in shape, having confidence and the endless trails of vagina that would most likely follow all of those three.

      I wouldn't know, though.. I'm out of shape and just starting out in IM. I do like weed though and no, I don't have an endless trail of women at my nape.
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      • Profile picture of the author John Durham
        Originally Posted by JakeDaly View Post

        Start growing weed. If you like weed, that is. If not, just start training to be an MMA fighter and reap the rewards of being wealthy, being in shape, having confidence and the endless trails of vagina that would most likely follow all of those three.

        I wouldn't know, though.. I'm out of shape and just starting out in IM. I do like weed though and no, I don't have an endless trail of women at my nape.
        That's hilarious! Your candor is refreshing.
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  • Profile picture of the author countonuspr
    Congratulations on reaching this level with your online business! That is awesome and something you should be proud of!

    You may try working more out of the house like at coffee shops or something. Write a book on this topic and start doing radio shows and speak at seminars. Since you are living this kind of life you could make a killing speaking at seminars around the world. That would get you out there and meeting people in Internet Marketing.

    It will really help you enjoy things more!
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  • Profile picture of the author summerm
    seems like your biggest issue is the loneliness. after all, the boredom can easily be solved by just picking up more projects, write a book, whatever; you're obviously the kind of person to pursue activities and master them, hence your IM success. in all honesty, i think you should stick to the money making. since you're on a roll and seem to have a knack for it, push it for all you got, spend more hours, set a goal to be able to retire in two years. then you'll have solved the money issue for the rest of your life. after all, conditions change, and your current success could turn around-- hit it while the iron is hot!

    now as for the lack of human interaction issue. i'm an introvert myself and have always and continue to have a tough time finding friends. i'm still baffled as to how you are supposed to have friends outside of the school setting, even though it's been years since my college. i'm sort of like an alien on this earth and rarely can find people i get and who get me. but my advice below is something that i've tried recently. can't say the level of success i've had with it just yet, but it's promising.

    what i suggest is that you force yourself to join some kind of group that meets once a week, something where the same people mingle and chat for at least an hour one or two times a week. make a commitment to yourself that you will stick it out for 2 months. at the 2 month anniversary, think about the group and identify some people who might be potential friend material. then initiate activities to get to know them better-- such as inviting them over for a party. don't give up, keep taking the initiative yoursefl; most people have a good group of friends already and aren't motivated to actively search for more, unless they have a very social temperament.

    good luck
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  • Profile picture of the author seriousmny
    I am looking for a mentor. Since you got time on your hands, teach folks like me how to be like you. I know what I would do with my spare time. I would help folks out and secretly pay folks bills and work at the local food bank as well as donate. There are so many things you can do with your free time. I prefer to take a few days for myself but the rest of the time I would give to my community.
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  • Profile picture of the author Creative Thinker
    Many people in this asked me to be a mentor. I do not say no, but you are missing the whole point. I do have a lot of people in my IM list, and mentoring someone online is the last thing I want to do.

    Having friends is not the issue. Not able to meet them in person on a regular basis is the issue.

    I used to give a lot of importance to my looks and dressing. I recently noticed that the number of new shirts that I bought in the last year was extremely low. In other words, I have no reason to get dressed up in my best costume.

    And to make things a bit more clear to some of the people who have typed in wonderful thoughts to help me....

    I am not in US. In my country there are no flying lessons nor any hobbies interesting enough. The culture of part time jobs is almost non-existent.

    Two of the best take aways are:

    1. Help people in my town to get success in IM. College juniors specifically.
    2. Get married and have a child or two and raise it the way I would like myself to have been raised.

    22 is a bit early to get married, but I think I will get around that issue soon .
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  • Profile picture of the author taitany
    Hmm, ...you've got nothing to worry about... "Be grateful for what you have, and focus on the good stuff..."

    You seem not to be in a relationship (try to). Nothing compares to having a good woman around you. With one, you can never be lonely. She'll be there for you at all times- for every successful man, there's a woman...for every miserable man, there is no woman. Think about it!

    Lastly, try join a social group around your neighbourhood. It'll help, too.

    Wishing you the best!

    taitani
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  • Profile picture of the author bobmcalister
    thinking this is all bs myself...you have a life you choose.
    give it all away ...start a free medical clinic in your area...start over
    if that income is so large that you dont NEED anything, then give the rest away and start something important.
    I really think this has to be a scam for attention wanting everyone to ask what you do . If you are so good at that , then teach everyone here how to do what you do . Not interested in that ? hmm

    so much for my opinion. thinking that the term ' good money ' is not defined around here. and lots of bs behind that.

    anyway , I have things to do since I am not independently wealthy yet
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    • Profile picture of the author aneel90
      dude i duno about bored.. but you've started one hell of a thread!
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  • Profile picture of the author Platinum Matt
    I had the same feeling MULTIPLE times over the last 10 years....

    Get a job alongside what you do, THEN you'll realize the grass isn't greener.

    I don't have an easy answer for you.
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  • Profile picture of the author SRLee
    I seriously believe a coach would do me good, and since you have the free time, would you be so willing to grace me with your coaching?
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  • Profile picture of the author BJ Min
    i think creative is meaning the last thing he wants to do is work more...
    im is work...i think looking for things outside of work what he was looking for...
    i can relate...i mean mentoring or teaching IM is great...but in the end, that
    is just more work...there needs to be balance too...

    so i think creative thinker and other imers should look into joining a club or
    meeting people on meetup.com or something like that...or maybe a part time
    job just for socializing...
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  • Profile picture of the author RoyR
    Hey there Creative Thinker, I can surely relate. I came to San Diego to take care of my ailing parents, so IM was one of very few choices to generate income. And Like you, it's financially rewarding but being isolated from the world can be a bit of a downer. I try to get out at least twice a month to try to mingle and have LIVE CONVERSATIONS with people. It's nice to talk and mingle, so you may want to give it a try sometime. Jermaine Tabor has a good suggestion that I'm contemplating for this Weds. A Social Business Group Called 6degrees. Got a link to it form one of my MySpace Friends. Looks Cool
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    • Profile picture of the author Creative Thinker
      Originally Posted by RoyR View Post

      Hey there Creative Thinker, I can surely relate. I came to San Diego to take care of my ailing parents, so IM was one of very few choices to generate income. And Like you, it's financially rewarding but being isolated from the world can be a bit of a downer. I try to get out at least twice a month to try to mingle and have LIVE CONVERSATIONS with people. It's nice to talk and mingle, so you may want to give it a try sometime. Jermaine Tabor has a good suggestion that I'm contemplating for this Weds. A Social Business Group Called 6degrees. Got a link to it form one of my MySpace Friends. Looks Cool
      You try to go out at least twice a month. I guess I go out at least once a week!

      Man, you are worse than me
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  • Profile picture of the author Steve Peters Benn
    JMo. Funniest Post. Ever.
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  • Profile picture of the author ByronHabich
    well the nice thing about IM is that you can take it anywhere... Move to Las Vegas (where I live) and jump on the nightclub scene! or move to New Orleans and help rebuild hurricane houses....If you have money you can do whatever you want..so get on it!
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Motley
    Well tell ya what, we can switch.

    Right now, im sitting in a cube farm, there are about 250 people here. 6 months ago there were 600+. The rest have been fired, and in a month or two it will be down to 100 people. There is a guy sitting 3 cubes up from me that has been here about 2 years and since he's been here he has daily been coughing his lungs up on his monitor. It may sound funny but the guy obviously has cancer or tb or something. There is a guy right on the other side of the wall from me that is coughing like he has a cold or something like that.

    Now this is a building where the windows dont open and its about 25 years old. They already know there is staph in the ductwork (as noted by a health department letter that was all but hidden in the break room and now mysteriously gone). So in this place where they dont exchange the air, i get to breath whatever these two disease factories are coughing up and is mixing with the staph in the ductwork.

    but atleast you wont be lonely!

    At the beginning of the month, they advised us that we wont be getting a raise for the second year in a row and they informed us last week that they will no longer be matching our 401k. I'm waiting for them to advise us they will no longer provide insurance
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  • Profile picture of the author GregtheWriter
    Dude, go to dance clubs.

    Dress up like the Internet and tell them what's up.

    People will want to talk to you and wonder what the hell you are all about. New prospects AND new lifestyle.

    Talk about a smart choice, I am a genius!

    but seriously, my advice, go on one hell of a long sojourn across the world. All you need really is a laptop with an internet connection. That's my goal with my internet marketing and multi-level marketing.


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  • Profile picture of the author patricialin
    The funny thing is, I was in your situation about 3 months ago.

    But thankfully, I'm in a slightly better position because my boyfriend is in the same industry and line of work as I am. So, it's not all that lonely.

    However, I do miss the social interactions that I had back in school and sometimes, I also think, would it have been better if I was in a regular office with people to gossip with, lunch with etc.?

    Well, rather than being so silly as to think of that, what we are enjoying - time freedom, financial freedom, is something that will never be possible with a 9 to 5 job. So be thankful about that first.

    Next, explore activities that will enrich you life.

    I took up Japanese language classes and tennis lessons. Just learning and practising those occupy quite some time. I work in a home office too, and I stick to work hours unless, well, flexibiity calls.

    Rather than waiting for peers to come, try looking for new peers to hang out with. You've got to move on and find people who are around your age, who are interested in the same things as you, who are preferably in a flexible job etc. Be proactive to meet new people. Spend more time with family. And give yourself more time.

    You will realise that you are getting even closer to your dream life, once you have moved on from the 'I'm lonely' stage of life.

    All the best!
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  • Profile picture of the author AdamHolland
    I can somewhat relate. Sure, I fill up my idle time with playing video games, writing new info products, playing guitar, playing more video games.. haha

    But I want to go out more too!

    Problem is, everybody else has a freakin' day job! So, sure, it DOES get a little lonely here and there.

    2 of my best friends are:
    -one is my college friend who is an associate professor (ie - has the summer OFF to hang out w/ me almost every afternoon.. haha)
    -the other best friend is 27 like me, but is STILL IN COLLEGE... so he's got some free time here and there too.

    Everyone else that's available to BBQ on a wednesday afternoon is effin OLD! haha

    But, as one of my business mentor's put it:

    The worst day you can have working from home for yourself, is still better than your best day at some job.. ;-)
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