I did not see this one coming... IM is rewarding for sure... but I am getting LONELY!!

So, use your spare time to help others, that way you'll get out and about and/or some contact with others. Why not teach others that are at that graduation stage to do just what you're doing. There are plenty of things you could be doing with that spare time that doesn't necessarily relate to earning more, you need to take care of your social interaction as well as the money.

I'm fresh out of uni and ALREADY facing these same issues.

A lot of my friends are away in various places, and so is my girlfriend, and I'm left twiddling my thumbs.

Sounds like you're young enough to be able to work until you achieve financial independence which will give you the time to follow your dreams.

I too find this lonely as hell BUT I think that my future financial independence is a little bit more important right now.

If you are making enough right now, why not join some groups of like minded individuals, start a new hobby where other people are involved or volunteer some time to worthy causes that involve other people.

Worst comes to worst, hire someone to work at your office... @ least you'll have some company.

What in God's name is your problem man?

You got hobbies?

You got interests?

The other 6 or 8 or whatever hours that you're not working...do them.

I have my own recording studio in my home. I've finished 2 CDs of original
music since October and am now half way done with a third.

I go to church on Sunday, choir on Thursday, out with my daughter and
wife a ton, play video games, go shopping for new toys for myself, go out
to eat, take rides around the state.

I mean for crying out loud, if you can't find something to do outside of
your 2 hour work day, it has nothing to do with whether you're working
in an office or working at home.

You need to get out there and find a life.

And if you have ANY interests at all, that should be no problem to do.

Creative Thinker,

I also work alone in my home office and sometimes miss the social interaction, of working around other people. But frankly I wouldn't change position with anyone.

Since you seem to have your time so well organized and so few hours you have to work; it's time to reach out to others. It seems now would be the time to find somewhere you can volunteer your talents with various other organizations.

Just think about it there are hundreds and hundreds of places who can use volunteers to make things better for other people. How about at the local schools, your college, by mentoring or tutoring undergrads.

Many of the warriors here are deeply involved in giving back to their offline community. People such as John Taylor, Big Mike, Kevin Riley, Andy Henry and many others I can't think off of the top of my head.

You can make of your day what you want to make of it. Don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself, you sound like you have the perfect situation to help others. It's not all about the money and the things it can buy.

Ken
The Old Geezer

There is many things you can do. Boredom is only caused by non-action in my opinion.

Join a sports club
Join a gym
Join a networking group for business people that are of your age
Go on dates
Travel the world (if you can sustain your business solely online)
Go to seminars
Hold seminars
Go to trade shows
Join a society
Go shopping
Take up a social hobby
Do volunteer work

There is a much larger list than I can suggest of the top of my head, but just get out there and do it In my eyes, boredom is just not being pro-active. Congrats on your business, you sound like you're in a position that many people would love to be in. Enjoy it.

Alex

for work and hobbies i would need 36h days everyday...for just hobbies i would still need 28h every day....

As my wife says..if you are not doing anything tell me...i will give you something to do.

I used to work at this place couple of years ago and my boss (who was the owner of that company) would sit with me and one of my colleagues and tell us stories about his life for hours, he had a lot to talk about, how his wife ran off with some guy who was his friend, how his business partner tried to screw him and how he got so wealthy after starting off with nothing but just contacts (he is quite a rich guy). Sometimes me and this other guy used to think that he's hired us just for having some company.

Anyways...

Well, may be its just a phase, i hope so but if it isn't just a phase, there's a chance that your are not enjoying what you do... you need to dig deeper and find something that you would enjoy doing ... something that has a natural appeal to you, something that will make you enjoy your own company, but it takes time and a lot of exploring to find something that you can never get bored of meanwhile you can take on a challenge start a new project something different than what you are doing, with bigger goals, you can always aim higher .... and why don't you have friends that you can hang out with?

or hey you can always spend time with me teaching me how to do what you do

The advice from all the threads are excellent, just get up and do something. Your schedule is set so you can do many different things. Just Do It.

No distractions.

Who's fault is that? It's apparently not a lack of free time.

I have no idea where people my age even "hang out."

Wow. Tough life. Why don't you come over here and do my job gratis? I can find many ways to kill my newly-found free time.

If you read what you have actually wrote you have answered your own question:

You are earning 4-5x what a graduate would earn and only working 2 hours a day!

Why not setup a system to teach others what you are doing? You could get rid of some of your "free time" and also earn a lot more money.

If not physically meeting people is a big problem then setup an offline class type setup and teach people that way, you would earn more money that way and meet people.

If moneys not an issue then do it for FREE, I'm pretty sure you would quickly gain a huge new network of friends that way.

Cherish where your at right now, I would.

Thanks
Andy

Why not take some time out and travel? You've got the cash and the time... go through Europe or something... you meet so many amazing people and see so much amazing stuff.

Failing that... just get out of the house more... go places... and talk to people. Bars aren't my scene... but concerts, plays, musicals are all great.

Some people join sporting teams... again, not my scene

Go to the gym... that's a great social place. Hang out at the mall more. Just walk the streets.

I tend to strike up conversations with pretty girls... but I'll talk to anyone.

You'd be amazed where you can find some great friends... and once you have them... it's really easy to get MORE good friends.

-Dan

P.S. I second the idea of volunteering... beter still, work with a local charity to put together something "big" like a fund-raiser... you'll meet a lot of people, have a lot of fun and do a lot of good.

P.P.S. All of the above is hard-won advice from personal experience... take it or leave it.

Find something that you enjoy doing with your spare time. When i realised i had so much spare time i took up horseriding for example. Find something you like that fits in with the kind of people in your age range and enjoy yourself.

Kind regards


sam
X

Two words.... Mastermind Group

I'm in the same boat. I was a newspaper reporter for many years, loved how social it was and also how exciting it was. I loved being part of a team and knowing that my efforts were needed.

I now make good money working from home - and I am really getting bored and unmotivated, and VERY isolated.

I'll tell you my solution. Doesn't necessarily work for everyone, but it's what I've decided to do. I only work a few hours a day. This is not a full time business; it's a side job which provides a great income stream.

I can easily work a full time or part time job outside of the home AND do this, frankly. Newspaper journalism is dying, (breaks my heart, but living in denial won't help) - so I am starting school part time next month at a local community college. Debating between being a paramedic or nursing. Either way - I'd never give up internet marketing, social media marketing, and writing press releases and blog copy for people, because I fervently believe in MULTIPLE streams of income and because I enjoy doing it PART TIME - but I'm ready to go work with humans again a few days of the week.

So that was my long winded way of saying - go get a part time job that you enjoy.

Go cruisin in the nice car that you can presumably afford and pick up chicks....

So...what was the first place you got into this IM thing initially?

So you can just swim in wads of money and notes..?

Remember why you started first:

Security for your..loved ones? (spend more time with them then!)
So you can get your favourite boy toys? (go enjoy yourself then!)
So you can help others? (DONATE!)
So you can concentrate on other things besides typical work? (then go learn something!)

Well, you can always like write a book about the whole process or start giving presentations and all that to kill time and socialise.

Makes me wonder when I can feel that way too.

Jeff

do you have a significant other ? That can help i would think. Myself I could care less that I work 18 hours a day , I very rarely ever get burned out... maybe once a month a pick a day that I just lay around like a slug other then that im usually working till I pass out.... but I realize I can live my life long dream of traveling the world once I get myself to where I want to be and not have to work again.

So I guess it boils down to what you want. Do what you feel your trinity of self demands ( Mind , heart and soul ) when you listen to all 3 of those things ( trinity of self ) you cannot go wrong my friend.

Listen to this song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI

Here are the lyrics... read them.

Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of '99
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be
it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by
scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
than my own meandering
experience...I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not
understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and
recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really looked....You're not as fat as you
imagine.

Don't worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as
effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing
bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that
never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm
on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you

Sing

Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, don't put up with
people who are reckless with yours.

Floss

Don't waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you're ahead, sometimes
you're behind...the race is long, and in the end, it's only with
yourself.

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you
succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch

Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your
life...the most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they
wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year
olds I know still don't.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you'll miss them when they're gone.

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't, maybe you'll have children,maybe
you won't, maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky
chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary...what ever you do, don't
congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either - your
choices are half chance, so are everybody else's. Enjoy your body,
use it every way you can...don't be afraid of it, or what other people
think of it, it's the greatest instrument you'll ever
own..

Dance...even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.

Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for
good.

Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the
people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go,but for the precious few you
should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and
lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you
knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live
in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will
philander, you too will get old, and when you do you'll fantasize
that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were
noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund,
maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one
might run out.

Don't mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will
look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who
supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the
ugly parts and recycling it for more than
it's worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen...

Why don't you get to know some people socially over the internet with same interests and then meet up? Just check out the meetup website. And with a good income, certain distances shouldn't be a problem. Alternatively, get a couple of pets so you don't feel lonely at home.

Are you kidding me?

I'm jealous...so you are making enough money in IM? I'm trying but have barely made anything. How do you do it?

Go out and enjoy yourself.

Take a foreign language class, ballroom dancing, inter mural sports, yoga, local club, gym, learn an instrument, there are hundreds of things to do.

Do something with all that new found freedom.

sounds like you made it in IM... that's great, anyways I was just curious how long have you been into IM

Yeah man I think you have solved your problem. Giving back some of your knowledge of success and helping others can help you with boredom. I have met so many cool people by talking to them on this forum and helping out.

I am still working a fulltime job and can't wait to get in a position like yours to help other people out. That is my passion!! Maybe not yours this is what I would do If I was in your situation. Your grass is very green now plant some flowers and you will see something very beautiful take affect.

I don't mean go out and help everyone learn IM which I would OPT in =) But, go out and help mankind give back! I read this article someone posted it on my corporate slave post it was long, I think it is a awesome read and very deep.

Acres of Diamonds

Three words: meetup dot com.

It's a double-edged sword to be sure. I get engrossed in my own IM ventures and spend WAY too long in front of the computer. I have resorted to setting a timer. Every couple of hours, I force myself to get up, walk around, call a friend, chat with people, etc.

I'm also a musician so I direct my church group once a week, which is very therapeutic.

Take a class in a hobby you enjoy or teach a class.

Get a few hookers on Craigslist, 2 midgets, a pony, and fill a shopping cart full of your favorite beverages from the local liquor store.

I doubt you'll be bored.

It's what happen when you do this by *yourself* for long periods of time.
An internet connection becomes your best friend. You lose what offline
social skills you had.

You become a social free money making *machine*. You *may* not be
even able to deal with people for long periods of time who are not on your
intelligence level.

(They're talking under your intelligence level naturally and you may not
enjoy talking under your intelligence level just for the sake of 'socializing'.)

You had a strong determination to reach your level of IM success and by
yourself, you graduated but are left with the side effects from which you
feel regularly.

Quite possible you need a significant other who share your level of
determination in the business world.

Going to some business seminars can be a great way to meet business
minded friends around your age. *If* you want it to be, it can be very
profitable for you also.

You learned to be unsocial over time and you will have to relearn to be
social again.

You wil be great! Remember it will take *some* practice and consistency.
You will find a rewarding *balance* for your life!

If you ever *need* to chat just shoot me a pm.

My recommendation to anybody with these kinds of issues (I understand them well) find other people close to you to do projects with. You still get the time you need to do your own stuff, but having to get out for meetings, plan things out and work on a project with somebody else can really help keep you fresh, and sociable.

Those of us who work 9-5 all complain about our jobs sure, but a lot of times these jobs are more than just a source of income and do fill a lot of social needs, so what you're saying makes absolute sense. If you're only working 4 hours a week, why not get a "normal" job to fill that void? Might be a nice change, even if just part-time or temporary.

You should go out sometime, you have money try clubbing, watch a movie with old friends like the friends you have way back when you were at school. Or go to school again, take up another course for your extra time in that way you may be able to find new friends.
Go out with your family, take them out to dinner, shopping, movies, swimming, vacation.

Here are some ideas for ya.. this is what I might do


1. Write a book
2. Read books
3. Research my family tree
4. Travel to all the places in the world my ancestors have been
5. Learn a language
6. Paint, draw, sculpt, music do something creative
7. Get involved in Tennis or a sport
8. Do consulting to help others reach your position
9. Get involved in politics
10. Get involved in social causes, (missing children, hunger, old people ,Vets, whoever needs attention)
11. Become and adventurer ala Sir Richard Branson
12. Plan a new home
13. Sit on the beach and tan
14. Body build or exercise
15. Sneak over to poor people's homes and drop off some groceries
16. Mentor a child

Too many successful and wealthy people go bananas and start using drugs etc. because they reach the summit and wonder "is this all there is?"

I think this song sums it up better than anything:

The Climb
Songwriters: Alexander, J; Mabe, J;

I can almost see it
That dream I am dreaming
But there's a voice inside my head saying
"You'll never reach it"

Every step I'm taking
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking

But I gotta keep trying
Gotta keep my head held high

There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose

Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb

The struggles I'm facing
The chances I'm taking
Sometimes might knock me down
But no, I'm not breaking

I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I'm gonna remember most, yeah
Just gotta keep going

And I, I got to be strong
Just keep pushing on

'Cause there's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose

Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb, yeah!

There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an uphill battle
Somebody's gonna have to lose

Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb, yeah!

Keep on moving, keep climbing
Keep the faith, baby
It's all about, it's all about the climb
Keep the faith, keep your faith, whoa

What were the things you thought of doing when you felt trapped by a job. Those are probably the diversions and forms of self-development you can pursue now. Also meetup is a good suggestion as there are so many diverse groups there. Try to think about where people your age hang out. When you aren't in school or at a job the social life takes some brainstorming.

Well man you can help me. I could use an extra hand with some of my article writing!

I wish I had too many hours in my day, with 5 kids and a business I'm lucky if I can go to the bathroom by myself LOL...but here's my suggestions...

Get out of the house, you're never going to meet anyone hiding in it
Mentor a child
Do the big brothers thing
Volunteer anywhere
Teach others to do what you did
Enjoy nature
Take up a hobby if you don't have one
Make a part time business doing something you enjoy, like to paint...sell your art etc
Become a tourist in your own town, very few people ever see the sights right in the city they live.
Help out at a school, or anywhere that can use an extra hand

The possibilities are really limitless, just go out and do something.

hmmm, just learn to give back to the community.

take part in more activities.
join toastmasters and learn public speaking.
learn to surf, learn to do whichever...

just do something! haha...

get into some sports or hobby-outdoor,outback, outlast, apply to become as participant in 'reality show' - eco race or survivor type of business. trump apprentice maybe

indulge in cultural heritage, travel to macau or melaka, help your communities in voluntary works..

teach your brother or sisters how to start their own business, help your fathers company grow...

Get a boat, learn to fly, travel, get a family, climb Kilimanjaro, go to Argentina...learn to Tengo, learn photography, go skydiving, Wow, to have your problem!

Here is something to think about..

I rent an office space from a local business that I actually used to work with. I dont need an office but Id rather go to an office and have social interaction than sit at home all day by myself. Find someone you know that has an office with space and see if they'll rent to you. that way youre getting out for work and you're with people you know.

I don't work at home, so I am always around people. I go to Panera or another coffee shop that has wifi. I have always been able to work better when there's people around, but not too many people. It gives me a focus, and I don't feel alone either. Occasionally, I see someone I know at Panera, which is an added bonus.

In the meantime I chat on WF and Twitter, so I rarely feel "alone." I felt more alone in college when I was sitting in my room studying all day!

What a great answer from Jason Moffatt. If you can't laugh at someone asking a dumb question, who can you laugh at?
Creative Thinker, come on, if you're smart enough to make the amount of money you say in the amount of time you say, you can certainly find a way to entertain yourself.
The right thing to do, obviously, would be to help others, whether by sharing your knowledge to help newbies or to volunteer your time and money for those that are less fortunate. I once read, we always know the right thing to do, sometimes we just need help deciding to do it.

Get out more.

Set aside 4 hours each day, and go somewhere. Goto the mall, goto the gym, hell goto the produce aisle of the grocery store and pick up chicks (or guys depending on your preference)....just do something non productive!

wow.

2 hour work/day...and enough money.

You sure have a LOT of problems

I have been reading all the replies and hitting the thanks button a lot. From all the suggestions, helping others seems to have the majority votes. And helping by teaching IM would be more interesting for me than anything else.

So I am going to my college this week and try to arrange a seminar where I will be teaching my juniors IM for free. As an alumni I should have been doing this already!

And out of this I would probably get more friends, and perhaps a significant other as well

Like the lady said: meetup.com

Amazing place to find like-minded folks who enjoy what you enjoy, no matter what it is you enjoy. I've made many friends through meetups over the last few years. Between Meetup.com and Yahoo Groups activities, I go out a few times a week socially with all kinds of really cool people.

I've even reconnected with old friends and acquaintances through meetups, really cool in a bigger city when people move around and you think you've pretty much lost touch.

Or you could just post your profile on a dating site like adult friend finder and say you want to be a sugar daddy. Girls in the recession are looking to be taken care of like never before (except maybe in the great depression)

Or post on CL that the party's at your place, free kegger, lots of drugs, (I stopped doing that however)

There are a lot of ways to waste time but the extra hours you have are a sheer goldmine if you look at them. You need to get your mind running, see if you can set up some online business, even if small, it will grow with time. Just don't waste your time. Be as productive as possible. Find work that you love. Start reading books of your interest to spark some ideas. I could just go on and on and on. But the point is, do something about it, before you regret it later on.

It must be said: "Do you want cheese with that whine?"

In all seriousness, as everybody else said - there's PLENTY of things you can do. What do you like? Go to a movie. Go drive around. Spend $50 on a chinese food dinner for one. Go to a club, bookstore, cafe, park or wherever else you like to hang out. Somebody was afraid to say this, but we're all adults here - find a shag-buddy if you need one.

Why are you doing IM in the first place? Why do you want to make money? Just to pay bills, nothing else? If that's so then IM's not for you. Think about it for a second - ever take a second to think WHY somebody wants to make money? To sit around, cry on the Warrior Forum that they're making too much money? What do you want us to do, pat your back and say it's ok we share your pain?

You get one life. It could end tomorrow.

Are you going to spend that time procrastinating, putting off your dreams? Isn't that why you wanted to make money - to do the things you WANT to do? For me, that's sure as hell what it is. I'm an author. I'm an artist. That's all I want to do - but guess what? Neither field really brings in a lot of cash, now does it? Because I also want time to pursue theatre, learn martial arts, learn multiple languages, travel the world, spend $1000 in one day without losing a bit of sleep, spend $1000 on my boyfriend in one day without losing a bit of sleep, and basically doing whatever the F**K I want - whether it be up and deciding to go to Europe, or simply staying at home with friends, pizza and beer. I'm also getting married next year - and I'm working on making enough money so we don't have to make compromises.

You have that luxury, apparently. I don't. You're flaunting it in front of me and acting like a spoiled child.

Quite frankly, this post pissed me off.

If your creative thinking absolutely cannot be budged to do anything that you enjoy, get off the WF and go get a REAL JOB.

We all make our own choices, and quite frankly, you are CHOOSING to be "lonely".

Why not find a hobby? or do more work?
Maybe you can do some coaching? launch a new product?

There are plenty of possibilities to fill your time. In fact, when you
have alot of free time in solitude it can only lead to great ideas or insanity. You
get to choose.

Igor

Hi Creative Thinker,
This may be funny, but I'm in a REALLY Similiar with your situation.
I'm a college fresh graduate, just finished my paper this year and being in IM since I was in college (from 2007 and) now I'm earning 4-5 times as a college fresh graduate job in my country.

Well, I also feels lonely as you do. I outsource most of my jobs and now I'm just managing admin stuff and business development, so I can earn more. Well, I live in not-so-wealthy country so the 4-5 times earning as the fresh graduate in my country doesn't pay off an US family bill. I have my home office upgraded and I think for my age, money is a problem anymore because my lifestyle is not also luxurios. My friends starts to getting day job, being busy with their jobs, so I cannot hang out with them like usual. My partner also being busy in day job. In short, I have money but I also being lonely (really reallllyyyy Loneeellyyyyyy) and sometimes it leads to depression.

I'm 22 and I assume you are around my ages too. I'm not expert but here is some solution which works for me:

- We still in LEARNING age. So, learn and study whatever you want. I do apprenticeship in a company just for learn how day job works without getting salary at all! I do take some courses that interested me-we can afford it and it's effective to get new experience.

- Go Out as many times as possibles! I still go to bank, because I don't get wiretransfer and still getting cheque. So, getting a cheque is just like getting a salary, and going to bank with happy smile. When the bank visit is done, it's time for Me time. I eat in a fancy restaurant, do a window shopping for my wish list, driving my car wherever I want and many more.

- Don't miss to go out with Family/Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Friends whenever they available.
We IM usually too lazy to go out because we have comfort zone in our home. But Hey, there are sooo much happiness when we go out with the one we love than hanging out with our lovely computer Take out for vacation also a great idea.

- Do something in your passion. In my case, I love business. So I plan to open a shop or restaurant in my area. Now I'm designing it and plan to launch it as soon I have the investment

- Do you know what brings people happiness based on Psychology research?
It's not money,
It's not fame
It's leisure
There are sooo much things can be done in our leisure time which bring happiness. And we IM have it

Hope that helps

@ the OP

I think that you should spend more time with your friends or gf etc...

I too have a lot of free time. But, I never feel lonely because I'm very active. I play football amongst other sports, I go swimming a lot & I hangout with my friends every day.

It doesn't have to be lonely, you can just hang out in your free time or participate in some kind of sport.

Regards,
IM Headlines

should this thread be in "THE BBQ PITT", And i wonder how you would feel if you did take up that job.

If you are truly looking for something meaningful and rewarding, what do you think about mentoring? By taking someone under your experienced, successful wing to teach them, show them, and guide them to achievement, you can initiate a "pay it forward" cycle where the mentee eventually becomes the mentor of another...etc.

You can work out any financial agreements based on results, if you want, like every other "I'll coach you" guy. Or you could be different, and work out other commitments from your mentees to continue to serve others and continue the cycle.

Seems to me that you are in a powerful position to make a significant difference bigger than yourself (and the norm).

Being a Soldier, if I were in your shoes, I would look at how I can help our wounded warriors and their families grow a new career.

Congratulations and may your success continue!

I have to agree with you.

I'm the kind of guy who can get a lot more done by bouncing ideas off others -- something a little difficult if you're working on your own.

I'm jealous! Well, not jealous, but all these college grads are out here making full time money. I'm going to be there by the end of this year, I've promised myself.

Anyway, I'm already setting myself up for full time IMing. I'm a member of the national guard, so I still have a job - but part time.

When I do finally go full time, I'm prepared to go back to school for something I love and always wanted to learn. If you are already making good money and have started making a good life for yourself, the pressure of choosing a 'profitable' major is reduced to zero. I know it has been for me. You can pick and choose your classes purely for self-improvement and personal enlightenment. You'll learn something new and keep busy.

Also try Meetup.com or search craig's list for a group that meets up that shares your interests. You can make groups from these sites. Especially on Meetup, there's a bunch of people just waiting around for someone to lead the group.

Here's what I do. I have a routine now that I go out for a walk mid afternoon, maybe some shopping and stop in one of the pubs for lunch. I sometimes meet someone for lunch but mostly I've just got to know people from going in regularly and I'll tell you it's great for business - easy networking as lots of business types are in at lunchtime.
I decided recently to sell my house and travel. Yes it's a poor time to sell and I'll take a big hit but life is short!

Rich

Have you thought about renting some office space? I know its not a requirement with online businesses but it can increase productivity and you get to meet some people.

I guess the situation youre in is one many aspire to get to...try to find new challenges...

If you don't have any hobbies now, find one! Your problem is not really a problem. I have a full-time job, do IM part-time, have kids and sometimes, I still get bored with what I do. So I take short trips, go out with friends and family... those sort of things.

please teach us noobs

I sometimes have to wonder if this op won't be the next wso offer . Sounds like a perfect pitch for a mentor program. I am so bored . I already know the ropes in Im so well I only work 4 hours a week. My only entertainment is pulling all this money out of my butt twice a day .

I could be wrong and if I am I apologize and offer a suggestion . It has something to do with a Harley , g-string , and dollar bills

Now get in the pit and love someone

How I'd love to have this problem..there aren't enough hours in the day to do all I want/need to do. But I do get what you're saying about how lonely it can be working solo and not having workmates around you to chat with etc.

to get some balance in your life, you could do some volunteer work, which can be extrememly fulfilling - that will get you out and about relating/socialising with others, and start trying out new hobbies that take your fancy - join hobby groups and try them out for a certain period of time to see if its something you enjoy.

I'm envious of you that you only need to work 2 hours a day.

I know..write an ebook on the systems you implement to be able to only work 2 hours a day and share it with those of us who need 10 more hours in a day. that'll keep you busy and help out a few of your fellow warriors

Hey, Creative Thinker!

I kind of understand you, I was rocking the same boat a while ago...
Then I remembered that the whole point of me jumping into IM was to have more time and money for my hobbies, or things I wanted to experiment but never could with a 9 to 5...

It all changed... I bought a new car and modified it to my liking, I got a motorcycle license and a motorcycle, I went bunjee jumping, I traveled to many other countries, I met lots of cool people... and I have many more plans for all that free time

I mean, sitting at home in your underwear is awesome - until it starts driving you crazy

Alex

Hey,

I know the feeling man. But dun worry, all is not lost.

See all those hours you have as another type of currency you own (in addition to all that dollars you are accumulating). But the difference is in how you are going to spend it.

I suggest you spend it by giving it away in ways that add value to others. And I am not just talking about volunteering or community service.

I am also referring to using your time in a social manner... get out there and socialise. Socialise in a way that when people interact with you, they feel that time spent with you was time well spent. Trust me, I know what and how you feel.

You reach a point in your IM career where you actually enjoy and look forward to spending time working on your enterprises and marketing. And when you do meet other people, you find that you can't really relate with them (because entrepreneurs are a rare breed). And when you talk with them, at the back of your mind some new marketing idea or tactic is germinating at the same time.

You need to find and appreciate the beauty that other people have to offer (yes, even the irritating ones). Approach knowing other people from a place of love... in that there is always something to love about a fellow human being. We just need to find it. And the way to find it is to talk (and more importantly, listen) to them with no pre-conceived judgements or stereotypes whatsoever. Everyone we meet is a potential lesson and an opportunity for self-improvement.

We entrepreneurs may be in a different world but that should not stop us from going into others' worlds.... or even bring them into our world...

What ever you do - do not sit on your ass at 3:45 AM reading warrior forum threads like I am at present.

Too bad you don't live in Michigan. I just posted this question:

Is there a good way to find local online business partners?

Boredom??? What ? dont you have interests ? hobbies ? If I were in your shoes I would have been either playing with my kids,fishing,hunting,metal detecting,walking,boating,skiing,skating,diving,ga rdening and hundreds of other things.
Bored ? Shame on you.

Money can't buy true friends...

If you have so much spare time and lots of money:

Go to the beach!
Go to seaworld!
Go the the Bahamas!
Go to Hawaii!
Do the hula
Kickboxing
Target practice
Hip hop dancing
Volunteer for the needy
Learn to surf
Learn poi-firedancing
Rollerblade
Start your own social group in your area
Go to church or another spiritual place
Act in a play
Go to La Escuela Del Sol
Go on a date
Get a parrot
Go on a safari
Get a tortoise
Organize your food alphabetically
Learn to salsa dance
Play bingo
Go hiking
Rock climb
Write prison inmates
Plant a garden
Train a puppy

If I was in your position I would go get an american deluxe telecaster and spend the next 6 months learning how to do this:
Then start a band, and go play 3 times a day in little clubs on broadway in Nashville for free since you don't need the money, just for fun. Give all your tips to the waitresses, and they will love you.


You'll have more of a social life than most people can handle before you know it. You wont need to pay for any hookers BTW (lol) or booze for that matter (if you like that sort of thing).

That's what I "personally" would do in your position.



Disclaimer: Midgets and pony's not included...er..."necessarily"...



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This is one thing i did not expect to hear "i make enough money to work from home and enjoy life to the fullest but I'm bored" that is what you are basically saying, I have an idea. take me one as your apprentice and when i will be able to make enough money to quit my day job i will be able to entertain you

You know what's interesting...

I bet Jason did exactly that a time or two.


Creative Thinker,
Have you ever been flying? I've been a pilot for quite some time and it never bores me. There's never a day I go up and think, "eh... this is a little boring."

Think about it. If you learn to fly, you could take Paul up on his suggestion... and trust me, it's easy to get some ... *ehem* ... "friends" ... when you're a pilot and can fly all over for dinner, lunch, etc. I live in South Florida so I'll literally go eat in the keys one afternoon, over in Naples for dinner, and still make it home in time to watch a movie before "bed."

And it's not as expensive as most people think. With books, a decent headset, and all your lessons... it's just around $6,000 - $7,000. And that can be spread out over time, according to your budget. Very doable, and very fun.

Kindly,
John Dennis

2x7=14
14 hours of work
7x24=168
168 hours in a week

168-14=154
154 hours of free time in a week

what you do in that time is the same as what you do when you plan your work

make a plan for your offline life

talk to people, there are people everywhere
get out of your house and go to:

- library
- clubs
- malls
- beach
- courses
- events
- etc...

fill your time with activity, plan a schedule for it too
there is a life out there

p.s. - a words of a workaholic - so don't listen to me

Yeah! help me!What are you guys doing to have time to sit back and relax like that?

Hi there,
You could try another form of online marketing where there is a lot of time for catching up and masterminding with other members in social situations and on overseas holidays. That is what I do. I crave the human interaction so find it all the more rewarding. Especially considering I was use to working in an office with 2000 people before I gave it all in to work from home!
B

The big question is .. have you reached your full potential. Meaning ... have you made all the money you need to make, built all the products you need to build, etc...

I can't imagine getting board. However as for the social part, I feel you and how I overcame this was to join clubs and do a lot of travelling too because going out was no longer my thing anymore, but travelling makes a whole lot of difference. But truthfully, apart from that, I don't see myself having free time ever like that. I'm always up to one thing or the other

Man, with the cash you're making I'd be on a roller coaster vacation all over the U.S. But yeah, ASM Marketing gave you some good ideas.

I don't get it. If you can work 2 hours a day, why don't you go out? That actually makes no sense. You need to go out. As harsh as this may sound, the problem isn't your business - the problem is you...

js

Thank you so for this post and this entire thread...

it's good to know i'm not the only one who goes through this...
i've been doing IM full time for about 6 months now...and my core reason was to get the heck out of my full time job which i achieved...and that was great...

but after i got out of my full time job and found myself working at home only, i really started to get lonely and bored and lack motivation at times...

i love IM...but there are certain parts about it that doesn't make it the end all for everything...such as the social aspect...

that's the main thing for me...

...so lately i've been taking my laptop and going to the library on a consistent basis...i feel like one of the workers in the library now since i work there every day...lol...some of the library staff even look at me strange because i'm always there from the morning and doing stuff on my laptop...

but yeah...i've read some great suggestions here and i'm going to look into them such as:
- get a part time job (that requires you to socialize and interact with lots of people)
- join more groups at meetup.com (i have went to a couple and i have met couple of cool friends so far)
- enjoy hobbies (of past & find new hobbies)
- etc

thanks
BJ

ps...would love more ideas here...thanks

That is sad indeed! What you need is to just get out a little more, social groups or not. Go bowling, make some friends, or pick up a new hobby.

I mean for God sakes do something, anything!

I hate to see people in this situation. My heart really goes out to you. Best of luck to you.

Congratulations on reaching this level with your online business! That is awesome and something you should be proud of!

You may try working more out of the house like at coffee shops or something. Write a book on this topic and start doing radio shows and speak at seminars. Since you are living this kind of life you could make a killing speaking at seminars around the world. That would get you out there and meeting people in Internet Marketing.

It will really help you enjoy things more!

seems like your biggest issue is the loneliness. after all, the boredom can easily be solved by just picking up more projects, write a book, whatever; you're obviously the kind of person to pursue activities and master them, hence your IM success. in all honesty, i think you should stick to the money making. since you're on a roll and seem to have a knack for it, push it for all you got, spend more hours, set a goal to be able to retire in two years. then you'll have solved the money issue for the rest of your life. after all, conditions change, and your current success could turn around-- hit it while the iron is hot!

now as for the lack of human interaction issue. i'm an introvert myself and have always and continue to have a tough time finding friends. i'm still baffled as to how you are supposed to have friends outside of the school setting, even though it's been years since my college. i'm sort of like an alien on this earth and rarely can find people i get and who get me. but my advice below is something that i've tried recently. can't say the level of success i've had with it just yet, but it's promising.

what i suggest is that you force yourself to join some kind of group that meets once a week, something where the same people mingle and chat for at least an hour one or two times a week. make a commitment to yourself that you will stick it out for 2 months. at the 2 month anniversary, think about the group and identify some people who might be potential friend material. then initiate activities to get to know them better-- such as inviting them over for a party. don't give up, keep taking the initiative yoursefl; most people have a good group of friends already and aren't motivated to actively search for more, unless they have a very social temperament.

good luck

I am looking for a mentor. Since you got time on your hands, teach folks like me how to be like you. I know what I would do with my spare time. I would help folks out and secretly pay folks bills and work at the local food bank as well as donate. There are so many things you can do with your free time. I prefer to take a few days for myself but the rest of the time I would give to my community.

Many people in this asked me to be a mentor. I do not say no, but you are missing the whole point. I do have a lot of people in my IM list, and mentoring someone online is the last thing I want to do.

Having friends is not the issue. Not able to meet them in person on a regular basis is the issue.

I used to give a lot of importance to my looks and dressing. I recently noticed that the number of new shirts that I bought in the last year was extremely low. In other words, I have no reason to get dressed up in my best costume.

And to make things a bit more clear to some of the people who have typed in wonderful thoughts to help me....

I am not in US. In my country there are no flying lessons nor any hobbies interesting enough. The culture of part time jobs is almost non-existent.

Two of the best take aways are:

1. Help people in my town to get success in IM. College juniors specifically.
2. Get married and have a child or two and raise it the way I would like myself to have been raised.

22 is a bit early to get married, but I think I will get around that issue soon .

Hmm, ...you've got nothing to worry about... "Be grateful for what you have, and focus on the good stuff..."

You seem not to be in a relationship (try to). Nothing compares to having a good woman around you. With one, you can never be lonely. She'll be there for you at all times- for every successful man, there's a woman...for every miserable man, there is no woman. Think about it!

Lastly, try join a social group around your neighbourhood. It'll help, too.

Wishing you the best!

taitani

thinking this is all bs myself...you have a life you choose.
give it all away ...start a free medical clinic in your area...start over
if that income is so large that you dont NEED anything, then give the rest away and start something important.
I really think this has to be a scam for attention wanting everyone to ask what you do . If you are so good at that , then teach everyone here how to do what you do . Not interested in that ? hmm

so much for my opinion. thinking that the term ' good money ' is not defined around here. and lots of bs behind that.

anyway , I have things to do since I am not independently wealthy yet

I had the same feeling MULTIPLE times over the last 10 years....

Get a job alongside what you do, THEN you'll realize the grass isn't greener.

I don't have an easy answer for you.

I seriously believe a coach would do me good, and since you have the free time, would you be so willing to grace me with your coaching?

i think creative is meaning the last thing he wants to do is work more...
im is work...i think looking for things outside of work what he was looking for...
i can relate...i mean mentoring or teaching IM is great...but in the end, that
is just more work...there needs to be balance too...

so i think creative thinker and other imers should look into joining a club or
meeting people on meetup.com or something like that...or maybe a part time
job just for socializing...

Hey there Creative Thinker, I can surely relate. I came to San Diego to take care of my ailing parents, so IM was one of very few choices to generate income. And Like you, it's financially rewarding but being isolated from the world can be a bit of a downer. I try to get out at least twice a month to try to mingle and have LIVE CONVERSATIONS with people. It's nice to talk and mingle, so you may want to give it a try sometime. Jermaine Tabor has a good suggestion that I'm contemplating for this Weds. A Social Business Group Called 6degrees. Got a link to it form one of my MySpace Friends. Looks Cool

JMo. Funniest Post. Ever.

well the nice thing about IM is that you can take it anywhere... Move to Las Vegas (where I live) and jump on the nightclub scene! or move to New Orleans and help rebuild hurricane houses....If you have money you can do whatever you want..so get on it!

Well tell ya what, we can switch.

Right now, im sitting in a cube farm, there are about 250 people here. 6 months ago there were 600+. The rest have been fired, and in a month or two it will be down to 100 people. There is a guy sitting 3 cubes up from me that has been here about 2 years and since he's been here he has daily been coughing his lungs up on his monitor. It may sound funny but the guy obviously has cancer or tb or something. There is a guy right on the other side of the wall from me that is coughing like he has a cold or something like that.

Now this is a building where the windows dont open and its about 25 years old. They already know there is staph in the ductwork (as noted by a health department letter that was all but hidden in the break room and now mysteriously gone). So in this place where they dont exchange the air, i get to breath whatever these two disease factories are coughing up and is mixing with the staph in the ductwork.

but atleast you wont be lonely!

At the beginning of the month, they advised us that we wont be getting a raise for the second year in a row and they informed us last week that they will no longer be matching our 401k. I'm waiting for them to advise us they will no longer provide insurance

Dude, go to dance clubs.

Dress up like the Internet and tell them what's up.

People will want to talk to you and wonder what the hell you are all about. New prospects AND new lifestyle.

Talk about a smart choice, I am a genius!

but seriously, my advice, go on one hell of a long sojourn across the world. All you need really is a laptop with an internet connection. That's my goal with my internet marketing and multi-level marketing.


To the top,
-Gregory

The funny thing is, I was in your situation about 3 months ago.

But thankfully, I'm in a slightly better position because my boyfriend is in the same industry and line of work as I am. So, it's not all that lonely.

However, I do miss the social interactions that I had back in school and sometimes, I also think, would it have been better if I was in a regular office with people to gossip with, lunch with etc.?

Well, rather than being so silly as to think of that, what we are enjoying - time freedom, financial freedom, is something that will never be possible with a 9 to 5 job. So be thankful about that first.

Next, explore activities that will enrich you life.

I took up Japanese language classes and tennis lessons. Just learning and practising those occupy quite some time. I work in a home office too, and I stick to work hours unless, well, flexibiity calls.

Rather than waiting for peers to come, try looking for new peers to hang out with. You've got to move on and find people who are around your age, who are interested in the same things as you, who are preferably in a flexible job etc. Be proactive to meet new people. Spend more time with family. And give yourself more time.

You will realise that you are getting even closer to your dream life, once you have moved on from the 'I'm lonely' stage of life.

All the best!

I can somewhat relate. Sure, I fill up my idle time with playing video games, writing new info products, playing guitar, playing more video games.. haha

But I want to go out more too!

Problem is, everybody else has a freakin' day job! So, sure, it DOES get a little lonely here and there.

2 of my best friends are:
-one is my college friend who is an associate professor (ie - has the summer OFF to hang out w/ me almost every afternoon.. haha)
-the other best friend is 27 like me, but is STILL IN COLLEGE... so he's got some free time here and there too.

Everyone else that's available to BBQ on a wednesday afternoon is effin OLD! haha

But, as one of my business mentor's put it:

The worst day you can have working from home for yourself, is still better than your best day at some job.. ;-)