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How have you got enogh self-discipline to reach your goals?
I mean, when you have a job, it's much more easier.. but when you work for yourself, especially if you are young and doesn't make any money, how you can force your self to sit a lot of hours on the computer ?
I built a business that makes me $50 a day.. It took a lot of time for me to sucess, because I never had this self discipline.
Even when I had a lot of motivation some day.. I worked 12 hours, and the day after, nothing.
I want to be sucessfull and to build more businesses and I know that I can do it only if I will be a boss for my self, and do it in the long term, and not only for a week and give up.
So, I need your help people
  • Profile picture of the author ChrisNosal
    The hard part is you're not going to get everything perfect the first time.

    Like trying to ride in a bike race before you ever learned how to ride a bike, you can read all the books, learn all the techniques, and expose yourself to everything, but it takes practice and repetition (usually poorly done at first) for your brain to really develop the skill into a masterful art.

    Another good example is playing an instrument - it takes some time and practice before you'll be truly successful at it, but once you spend enough time, and develop the skills, just like racing a bike faster and faster, you get better than everyone around you, and making money becomes easy.

    I spent years failing, but you need to figure out what's going wrong, and make sure you have a good formula to practice, otherwise you're learning the wrong technique, and practicing failure.

    You need to just keep working at it, and keep exposing yourself to as much information as you can from successful people, then if you keep practicing, you eventually become as good as them.

    You can only have success when you're ready for it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Steve B
    Self discipline is a character trait, just like kindness, honesty, and dependability. You have to work at it, practice it, and live it until it becomes a part of who you are.

    Character traits most often take time to develop, but you can become a self disciplined person if you work at it.

    It often takes sacrifice, prioritizing your day/week/month so you do the important things and let the less important things slip away without your attention.

    Self discipline and laziness don't co-exist. Lazy people let things happen to them . . . hard workers usually set their own agenda and work with persistence until their task or goal is accomplished.

    Some people order all the things they want to get accomplished in a set time period. They start at the top of the list and work their way down the list without distraction.

    Most high-earning people have mastered self discipline and don't waste time on things that don't produce results.


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  • Profile picture of the author mark toughill
    You have to self discipline yourself no matter what, if you are to succeed. When I was first starting out, it was hard as I had a full time job which was nothing to do with internet marketing at all. What I did was to try and plan my training around my job and my family life. For me, it was easier to get up in the early hours of the morning before I went to work and put in an hour or two. In the night, I would maybe put in an hour or two as well and just try and stay focussed. Sometimes it was exhausting, but you have to stick with it no matter what. Stick with it and try and fit in the training whenever you can and you will get results. It is tough out there, but believe me, it will get better.
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  • Profile picture of the author salegurus
    Originally Posted by MetallicaFan View Post

    So, I need your help people
    How exactly? Nobody here can force you to work.
    You either have self discipline or you don't...
    Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize half of them are stupider than that.

    ― George Carlin
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    • Profile picture of the author discrat
      Having self discipline can be developed as Steve so aptly pointed out.

      Many people do have this quality as part of their general make up. Others do not.

      I was fortunate to have it as a part of my nature. I have a feeling people like Steve do as well

      The bottom line is it will make the difference in having Success or not having Success in a small business ( or really any endeavor you pursue in life)

      I do not think it is approached enough in out Society.

      Most people try to account for failure by saying "the system they pursued was faulty" or "I ran out of money to get it right " etc..etc..

      When you come down to it, self discipline in many cases was a huge factor in why many people failed

      - Robert Andrew
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  • Profile picture of the author kk075
    As usual, I'm going to go against the grain of what's been said so far and completely disagree. I do not think self-discipline is a learned trait because it comes from the desire to succeed independently. And either you have it or you don't, but nobody can force you to want to do better for yourself. That's why 99% of the world is employed and doing exactly what their boss tells them to do...they just wouldn't get it done on their own otherwise.

    So all I can do is answer the question of how I keep myself disciplined and focused, which may be completely different from how others here do it.

    Every week, I write myself a to-do list before I go to bed on Sunday night. And on this list, I'm going to write down EVERYTHING from posting 3 blogs on my website, finishing work for clients, taking the kids to a movie, cutting the grass, etc. Whatever I can think of that has to be completed in the next 7 days....it goes on my list and becomes my desktop background.

    The first things on that list are items that I didn't finish the week before. I handle these first because either they're becoming a priority or they don't matter anymore, so I make that call on Sunday night. If I really need to complete it, then it stays at the top...otherwise I delete it, ask my assistant to do it or pass it along to my wife/kids. Some of this stuff will be things like, "Call Bob about pool pump not working" so if I won't have time, I get it to someone who can do it....then I cross it off.

    Next comes my bread and butter, the jobs that I do for other clients. I like to look at them on Sunday night so I can plan out my week, and I'll literally bribe myself to work longer hours early in the week to clear this stuff out. If I complete A, B and C by Tuesday night, then I can go spend Wed. morning with friends for breakfast. If not, then I'm staying home and working Wed. morning. I also include my own projects in this category as well (writing eBooks, sending emails, building backlinks, writing blogs, buying domains...whatever).

    The final part of my list is non-work stuff like clean the garage, take the dog to the vet and stuff like that. I write this stuff down because I get so tied up in work sometimes, I forget to take breaks and get away from my computer. So it gets listed with a cutoff day where I'll either complete it by then or delegate it.

    In a nutshell, that's how I stay organized and on point, I treat my list like it's sacred. And if something comes up on Tuesday and I don't get any work done, then I know I'll have to work harder the rest of the week or give up my Saturday to get everything completed. Sometimes I go an entire month without a day off but it's by choice to meet specific goals I'm working towards.

    Again though, I know I'm an oddball and most people aren't going to work 12 hour days, 7 days a week just to keep up with a schedule that doesn't really have to be met in the first place. That's why I say that self-discipline and a drive to succeed is not necessarily a learned behavior...you either have it or you don't. And until you're successful, it's very difficult to invest the long hours with nothing to show for it- but that's the only way to come out on top in the long run.

    I hope that helps.

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    • Profile picture of the author crowsnest7
      It sounds to me like you have some self-discipline, but you're lacking in consistency.

      If you have to "force yourself to sit" at the computer some days, then maybe you don't like the monotony that certain routines can cause.

      Try breaking up your day now and again with time-outs, and find more interesting ways to approach your work.

      I love my work, and when I get bored, I remember what I might be doing if I wasn't doing IM.
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  • Profile picture of the author msuper28
    Search some articles about self-discipline from Victor Pride on Bold and Determinated blog.
    It will give you many tips about discipline, also tips to get things done better if you work from home/freelance.
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    • Profile picture of the author ChrisNosal
      If you have passion, you'll have discipline. If you don't have it, and you want it bad enough, you'll find it.
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  • Profile picture of the author birgit23
    Discipline is not the issue for me, distraction is. I find myself looking at each new product, widget, and silver bullet promising me to help me with my online adventures. I hate to admit to myself just how much time and money I have wasted doing just that and made a conscious decision to hold myself accountable by writing about all of my online adventures and misadventures on my blog which I am in the process of creating. The hope is to focus on one thing, implement, write about is, thus being accountable.
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  • Profile picture of the author Winning34
    I think it comes down to motivation. The problem is that it's irrational. People know the theory of time management and how to make lists and prioritise. They know all that but some people still don't do it while others find it really easy. I do actually believe it's possible to improve on this, though.

    I recently came across an excellent post on reddit about how to become more productive. The basic principle is called "No zero days." - The idea is that every single day, you must take at least some action towards achieving your goals. Never let a day go by where you do nothing. Writing just one line of an article is better than doing nothing at all because it keeps up the momentum. If you have a "zero day", then chances are you will feel like you've given up and then the day after will be even harder.

    Here's the full article. It has helped me a lot and I sometimes refer back to it if I feel I need a boost:

    The gospel of /u/ryans01. Helpful advice for anyone who wants to be more productive : NonZeroDay
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  • By constantly thinking about how not having it is going to be the cause of your failure. By constantly reading one thing a day about it. By accepting the fact that doing things that waste your time is only going to allow you to fail.

    By comparing yourself now to who you want to be and how if what you do every day is aligned with the self projection you have of yourself. Think of it like this, I come across allot of people who say they want to start a business and I ask them what they are doing right now to do that or if they have read any book son the subject.

    They say no EVERY TME and when I finally get it out of them, the tend to talk about TV shows and video games more than they do their aspirations. I know that about 99% of these people will see me in 3 years and see that I have accomplished allot more and they are going to look at themselves and see disappointment.

    My goal everyday is to avoid begin disappointing with myself. I want to know that I worked hard so that at the end of the day when I sit on my couch and crack open that nice craft beer. I'd know that I deserve every drink of it and this nice comfortable couch I can get reward myself with.


    don't disappoint yourself....

    I would have invented Google and Microsoft if I was born earlier.

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  • Profile picture of the author leadfinder
    Hello, everything will be difficult at first. is better instruct and in the end it will be worth it!
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Hi MF,

    Get really, really, really clear on why you're working.

    Your self discipline will grow if you're working to free yourself, and if you're NOT working solely for money.

    If money flees from ya, or you work like a dog for it, you'll feel bound, confined, unhappy and your self discipline will die slowly, or quickly.

    If you're following your passion, and if you're working online to free you and other people, your discipline will grow daily.

    I have been in the same boat as you; frustrated as hell, with life, with the online bit, flagging.

    I publish 1 eBook and one 7,0000 word blog post weekly these days, along with writing for clients, all while I travel the world.

    I am focused on freeing me, and my audience, so I have few issues with discipline.

    Change that driver. You'll be happy that you did!

    Onward and upward my friend.

    Signing off from Bali.

    Ryan Biddulph helps you to be a successful blogger with his courses, manuals and blog at Blogging From Paradise
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  • Profile picture of the author sunoy14
    You'll have to keep practicing self discipline in order to make it a habit. It's a learnable trait. It won't come to you at first though. Especially if you are very young. It seems boring when you are young . Relax and keep practicing.

    You should make a routine, a plan or something. Put those up on a chart and hang it somewhere or download a time table and scheduler app for your phone. This will help you to stay on track. I've noticed that when you don't have a time table or something, your mind gets confused and jumbled up. It makes things harder. This also leads you to going astray from being desciplined

    And if you really are interested in something, self descipline becomes an easy thing

    All the best

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  • Profile picture of the author copywriterco
    I read it somewhere here that most of the successful people if not all, practiced self-discipline. That is right!

    It's like depriving yourself of something you really want because you know at the end of the day, it will affect your personal improvement. So for the betterment of one self, people disciplined themselves not to stay up late at night so that they will wake up early the next morning and have more energy at work, people discipline themselves not to eat excessively and just eat the right and balanced food so that they will be fit and healthy.

    In short, whatever there is in your path that you think hinders you from reaching your goal, avoid them by practicing self-discipline and do what is the exact opposite of your common practice.

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  • Profile picture of the author SandraGenJobs
    First of all, you can't just ''get'' self-discipline, it's not a disease You have to practice and it takes time. For any action to become a habit it takes about 2 weeks repeating it. You have to create a routine and stick with it until it becomes natural.
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