Never Underestimate The Value Of Offering Some Help

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For many many years I struggled online. I flipped and flopped from one opportunity to the next, I panicked, I quit, I started again.
On many occasions I asked people online for personal help advice and or assistance and on nearly every occasion an email wasn't answered or nothing came of it.
I began to grow disheartened and nearly gave up, even though I knew I could make this thing work. Then one day someone actually did reply, not only did they reply but they followed through. They were kind, patient and thoughtful, they took me under their wing and they basically reprogrammed my brain.
I know there are lots of new people asking questions all the time and I know we are all busy people struggling to get on in life.
But five minutes of that persons time made a lifetime change for me.

I will never forget the effort that person put in by reaching out to me and I like to think I have and will continue to repay him.

I guess my point is that internet marketing can be a lonely sometimes desperate existence and maybe just maybe by extending ourselves and reaching out to people we can actually enrich both our own lives and those of others.

Happy marketing everyone

Best wishes

Peter
#offering #underestimate
  • Profile picture of the author Jill Carpenter
    I'm guessing you asked for help the right way. By "right way" I mean you did something right or even actually did something.

    Some people will come on here and you can tell they've made no initial effort on their part to find an answer to something. Those are the people IMO that likely won't do much with what ever help you give them and it can be a waste of time. Of course, at times I will bypass trying to help them and will take the time to reply if I sense it might actually help someone else.
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  • Profile picture of the author GillW2015
    Peter,
    I think you have summed up the journey that most newbies go through and I agree that we should all reach out to people. Show we are human and not just chasing the money.
    I am relatively new to IM and I find myself struggling at times so your post has 'struck a nerve'.
    Thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author BWHadam
    thats true. and one of the secrets to make more is to give others. give before you take. do good and good will come to you.
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    • Profile picture of the author quadagon
      Originally Posted by BWHadam View Post

      do good and good will come to you.
      just ask Martin Luther King and Mahatma Ganndhi
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  • Profile picture of the author Vevek Gahatraj
    In the Business World they say as Givers Gain Mindset. Karma ALWAYS returns back to you. And I found it to be very true not only in my Life but also in the life of the other people. You simply can not escape the Velocity of KARMA.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Kanigan
    It really, truly revolves around the person asking.

    The OP himself says "I panicked, I quit, I started again."

    If you were the person being asked, how many times could you answer before you saw the responders panicking, quitting, and starting again...and said to yourself, "What's the use"?

    Most you take the time to reply to won't even say Thank You. You'll never hear from them again.

    I've seen descriptions of askers getting mad because the expert answered with some links to FAQ answers relevant to their situation...instead of custom writing a response that would take an hour to write. I know because I write in-depth answers like that.

    And most of the time, it's a waste of time.

    The askers rarely know what they want. I had someone PM me yesterday asking about an editorial for their business. It was a one-sentence "Hey I need this" without any details as to niche, audience, product/service, or anything else.

    I took the time to reply.

    I asked questions about those details. By clarifying his situation, I gave value. He now has questions to ask and evaluate with.

    No response. Tumbleweeds.

    Another flake.

    Probably read somewhere advertorials are "working" and half-drunk at 3AM messaged four people.

    Another problem newbies have is they don't know how to evaluate sources of information. They think everything and everyone is of the same value. No. And the sad thing is something said with certainty is "true" to the newbie whether it is so or not.

    So they try to cobble together an approach from multiple sources, each having a different and unknown quality level. "I'll mix a little of this with a little of that," they say to themselves.

    Any wonder they get scared, quit, and restart over and over?

    No commitment.

    No discernment.

    No ability to learn.

    I have answered hundreds of PMs and for the most part it has been nothing but an exercise in frustration and getting tired out. I'd rather just put the expertise in a thread and leave it out there.

    So while for newbies the free help may be nice, for the experts being asked it's mostly a fruitless waste of time and emotional energy.

    You know what really gets my attention?

    Someone who asks specific questions. Demonstrates by those questions that they've been TRYING. Shows they've put effort into figuring it out. Not just "Please serve it up for me on a silver platter."
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  • Profile picture of the author DollarShark
    You should always give value to people without expecting anything for return, but at the same time you should be careful for value leachers, because you don't want to be taken advantage.
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  • Profile picture of the author AmberJB
    They say:
    How to make a million dollars:
    Help someone else make two million dollars.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kathy331
    You know, when I started this journey just over a year ago I was frightened and felt like an idiot on many occasions (still do sometimes).
    A lot of the time I didn't/don't know how to ask a question, removing breadcrumb navigation for example, a simple thing to ask, IF you know the terminology.

    Although I do my own extensive research, without the support and encouragement from other members in the IM community I doubt I would have come as far as I have.

    Now, if someone asks me a question, I always take the time to answer regardless of whether I get a response or not. Also, I'm happy I'm ABLE to answer questions, again thanks to help I've received.

    Thanks for posting this webcash and I'm glad you got the help you did.


    Originally Posted by webcashuk View Post

    For many many years I struggled online. I flipped and flopped from one opportunity to the next, I panicked, I quit, I started again.
    On many occasions I asked people online for personal help advice and or assistance and on nearly every occasion an email wasn't answered or nothing came of it.
    I began to grow disheartened and nearly gave up, even though I knew I could make this thing work. Then one day someone actually did reply, not only did they reply but they followed through. They were kind, patient and thoughtful, they took me under their wing and they basically reprogrammed my brain.
    I know there are lots of new people asking questions all the time and I know we are all busy people struggling to get on in life.
    But five minutes of that persons time made a lifetime change for me.

    I will never forget the effort that person put in by reaching out to me and I like to think I have and will continue to repay him.

    I guess my point is that internet marketing can be a lonely sometimes desperate existence and maybe just maybe by extending ourselves and reaching out to people we can actually enrich both our own lives and those of others.

    Happy marketing everyone

    Best wishes

    Peter
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    • Profile picture of the author discrat
      The Post makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Where is Big Frank when you need him to bring reality back in picture LOL

      I do like to go out of my way to help people.

      But seriously, sometimes I do get tired of the PMs and especially when the same person is PM ing over and over asking "what do I do next " or "I just am overwhelmed what do you suggest" etc.. etc.

      I do try to be patient and help as much as I can but some really do take it too far



      - Robert Andrew
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