What to do when you're lacking motivation and unsure what to do

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Two of my biggest problems in the past(and present ) have been lack of motivation and hesitancy. Now usually, I am highly motivated and plan out my tasks for the day and make sure I stick to them. The problems come when one of two things happen:-

-I'm not seeing the results I want from my efforts
-I am feeling down due to life in general

I'm sure we all go through these two things from time to time. Before, I would tend to give myself a hard time if I wasn't taking action and doing what I was supposed to be doing. Now though, I have a completely new approach. I take all the pressure off myself, sit comfortably and get into learning mode. I spend time reading lots of threads here at the WF. I watch IM videos at Youtube and elsewhere. I sign up for new lists. I DL new ebooks. I go to google and find new sites and tools. What are the results of this? I have new ideas. I have new resources. I have new tools. I have new ways of looking at different areas. Even if my motivation isn't renewed there and then, it will be soon.

Ideally, you will make a plan of action, and stick to it for as many hours a day, every day you can. Whenever you feel you can't maintain this, step back, sit comfortably and go into learning mode for as long as you like. You can take all the pressure off yourself this easily All the information and tools you need to succeed in IM are right in front of you and inside of you.
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  • Profile picture of the author sree94
    When I get in a situation where I don't know what to do, I just sit down, write an article and submit it to an article directory
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    • Profile picture of the author Liam Hamer
      Originally Posted by sree94 View Post

      When I get in a situation where I don't know what to do, I just sit down, write an article and submit it to an article directory
      That's great, but if someone is seriously lacking in motivation at that moment, it may not be that easy for them. For example, I have been building backlinks quite a lot recently, and earlier this week I just didn't want to build any more. Instead, I browsed here and discovered some ways to get my backlinks noticed, and some ways to find even more backlink opportunities
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    • Profile picture of the author Liam Hamer
      Originally Posted by IMIM View Post

      everyday I watch this video

      tonyrobbinstraining interview-with-frank-kern-and-john-reese

      I can't post the link because I don't have enough posts. I am sure you can Google it

      It shakes the cobwebs out of my pants.
      I actually watched that for the first time a few days ago - it's really inspiring to say the least. When Frank talks about his first $2,000 day his face lights up - he says it felt better than his first million dollar day. These guys are at the kind of level I would love to be someday. If we all work at it, who knows?
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  • Profile picture of the author cgallagher93
    Hi Liam,

    I'm not sure if it's still available but a good way to motivate yourself is to really learn more about yourself and your market. To be perfectly honest, Frank Kern's Core Influence DVD was the best thing I've ever watched.

    As weird as it sounds, I felt different when I'd watched it. I felt upbeat, raring to go and have stopped giving myself a hard time.

    Your post was great, I would say that one of the most vital parts of Internet Marketing is to stop giving yourself a hard time, understand that not everything will happen as you want it to happen and to learn how to switch off.

    If your mind is running Internet Marketing 24 hours a day you're soon going to become overrun and frustrated; or what you might know as Information Overload.

    I found a really good article that could help some of you guys combat IO here:

    Learn How Your Brain Works to Prevent Information Overload

    Thanks :-)
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    • Profile picture of the author Liam Hamer
      Originally Posted by cgallagher93 View Post

      Hi Liam,

      I'm not sure if it's still available but a good way to motivate yourself is to really learn more about yourself and your market. To be perfectly honest, Frank Kern's Core Influence DVD was the best thing I've ever watched.

      As weird as it sounds, I felt different when I'd watched it. I felt upbeat, raring to go and have stopped giving myself a hard time.

      Your post was great, I would say that one of the most vital parts of Internet Marketing is to stop giving yourself a hard time, understand that not everything will happen as you want it to happen and to learn how to switch off.

      If your mind is running Internet Marketing 24 hours a day you're soon going to become overrun and frustrated; or what you might know as Information Overload.

      I found a really good article that could help some of you guys combat IO here:

      Learn How Your Brain Works to Prevent Information Overload

      Thanks :-)
      I am slowly learning not to give myself a hard time. I think of it like this - I know there are going to be times when things aren't going so well, or I find it hard to get motivated. But if I am doing what I should be doing something like 95% of the time, then it's not going to be too much of a problem. This week has been a classic example. Monday and Tuesday I worked really hard and completed all the tasks I wanted to. Wednesday, Thursday and today I have done very little in comparison. Despite this - this week has been my most successful week in IM yet. This is because for 95% of the week before, I really stayed on task and did everything I planned to. I'm trying to build up to doing a solid 6 hours every weekday, perhaps even 8. Right now it's probably 20 something hours a week spread all around the days.

      I really haven't explored much of Frank Kern's videos and products yet, but what I have seen I've really liked. I'm definitely going to explore further
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  • Profile picture of the author Adam Carn
    What I find is if I don't do something for a while my motivation goes down. But when I actually start on a project (big or small) my motivation gets viral, one little completed task leads to another completed task and so on until I complete whole of the project. Throughout the process I have the end goal in mind and I usually always achieve that goal.

    Thanks,
    Adam
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    • Profile picture of the author mannex
      At the times when you are motivated, make a list of things to do.

      At the times when you are not motivated, do the things on your list, particularly the mindless ones. Getting started on something simple and mindless is often all it takes to get over the hump of procrastination.
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  • Profile picture of the author Frank Bruno
    Another thing that some of you reading this might want to take into consideration is that everybody has a time of day that they are feeling their optimum performance for thinking and taking action.

    Example- When I work out I never work out in the morning.

    Why?

    My strength and endurance is just not there at this time of day for me biomechanically or biochemically.

    Evening is the most optimum for physcial performence for me where for other people their peek performance is in the morning.

    Ask yourself What is your optimal peek performance time for physicall activity?

    Mentally the optimum peek performance for ideas and organization is when I'm relaxed laying in bed before I go to sleep, when I wake up in the morning, or laying out by the pool.

    Ask yourself What is your optimal peek performance time?

    Some of you may already know and some of you may not know when you are most optimum for certain tasks,etc. in your business ventures.

    It could be morning for some of you. It could be the afternoon, or perhaps its in the evening.

    Always get in tune with your body and work on certain elements whether physical or mental for your peek performance.

    Give a self-analysis and see what time of day your optimum performance levels are for certain tasks.

    Just like you should be working on the top 20% areas of your business that give you 80% of your results.

    You combine all this with a system and you'll fair really well.

    Hope this helps you guys out....

    Frank Bruno
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  • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
    I find it very motivating when I see street people wrapped in blankets, napping on the sidewalk. Definitely don't want to end up like that. It compels me to work on my projects and make money.
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  • Profile picture of the author Cansolve
    There is nothing wrong with lacking motivation sometimes. It only tells us to sometime slow down and enjoy the things around you. Sometimes you need to take a step back and enjoy what you already have. We are so caught up in reaching our goals that we forget that it is not a race but a journey. When I lack motivation, I will step away from what I am doing and either enjoy a good book or listen to some music even do a little meditation. It's all about enjoying the journey.
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    • Profile picture of the author Greg guitar
      Great thread, and probably more relevant to more of us than we'd care to admit. I suspect most of us are working on goals we could have accomplished long ago, if we had better strategies for managing our emotional states, and our learning processes.

      For me, procrastination and lack of motivation are most often the result of being fuzzy about the next step, or the overall process. I hate feeling ignorant or dumb, so I often find something else to do, thereby leaving the ignorance in place.

      Part of the solution is to remind myself of the fact that there are always new things to learn, and therefore, I'll always be a beginner in that area, until I tackle it, and gradually achieve competence/knowledge. So tolerance of being a beginner is one key.

      I have huge resistance to being a beginner, so I'm working on overcoming it by addressing it's roots: messages I got hammered with early in my learning life. I tend to focus on areas where I've already achieved some mastery to shut up my father's voice in my head, telling me how dumb and incompetent I was (from the age of 2).

      Not trying to elicit sympathy or get melodramatic, but for me addressing the root of my avoidance is more central to solving the procrastination problem than any specific tactic. So I've been using the EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), to try to kick my dad out of my mind.

      Having said that, there are strategies and tactics that often help me, besides the theraputic ones.

      Often I find it super helpful to simply describe my project to another person, usually by email. If I do that, I frequently get clarity on where I'm stuck, and it's usually a pleasant surprise, as the solution becomes clearer by merely identifying the problem.

      For example, I've been stuck on a jazz guitar website I've been planning for some time, and when I described the project to someone and tried to tell him why I haven't finished it, I realized it was simply because I'm feeling overwhelmed with the thought of the technical challenges and the need to pour more cash into it.

      The upshot is I feel a lot more energy around it and now I have the following list of what needs to be dealt with to get on with it.

      1) I need to hound my friend that shot our videos (main product so far), to transfer them to dvd, so I can review and decide how to package them.

      2) I have to pick a professional video studio for future, higher quality product creation (not immediately; I can launch and start list building before I can afford this).

      3) I need to either: a] learn enough html to build the site, b] Hire my site builder to do it c] find cheap or free wysiwyg software, and do it with that. (maybe the trial of Dreamweaver).

      4) Learn how to use aweber to create an opt-in form; then find the code to past it into sales page.

      5) Shoot video mini-course as a giveaway, or use a part of what we already have, and figure out how to load them into aweber.

      6) Decide whether to sell what we have as a package, or go with a membership model.

      7) Create a special early-bird, pre-launch offer to get people to sign up, and maybe even pay a small fee to lock in the discount.

      Even that feels like a lot still, but not nearly as overwhelming as when a vague version of it was kicking around in my head, making the whole project feel sort of endless.

      The other simple tactic that has often worked for me, is to take something I've been avoiding, and make an agreement with myself to set a timer for 5 or 10 minutes and work on it in earnest for that long; if I'm still hating it, I can walk away.

      I find it's psychologically easier to face the brief committment, and I break the ice.

      Either I walk away feeling like I got a start on it, making it easier to come back to, or often I get energized and feel like continuing, getting a bigger chunk done, and a big psychological boost.
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