Beware When Choosing A Mentor

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The internet...

There's some amazing things about it. And some that aren't. And that's putting it mildly.

See, it's become a bit of a breeding ground for self-proclaimed business mentors.

You know the ones - they've never actually run a business outside of teaching other people how to run a business.

Mind = Blown.

At best, they're a little bit daft.

At worst, they're scam artists.

Anyway, these "gurus" remind me of a certain character in Game of Thrones.

(By the way, if you haven't seen it yet, you're missing out on one of life's greatest pleasures. Moving on...)

Now, I have to be honest...

I can't actually remember the guy's name. He was way back in season two and didn't have a big role. But he was one of the rulers in a city called "Qarth".

Qarth was seen as one of the wonders of the world. It was beautiful. Exotic. And hot.

But the thing Quarth was most famous for was its wealth; It was one of the richest cities in Westeros (which, if you haven't lost your Game of Thrones virginity yet, is the name of the land where the show is set.)

But get this:

Throughout season two, this particular character fancies a woman called Khaleesi. (And trust me, you can't blame him!)

But Khaleesi wasn't interested. And so he then tried to woo her with gold and the promise of an army at her back. Still didn't work.

The poor ****** was well and truly friend-zoned.

Anyway, Qarth had a mega-secure vault where they kept all the city's gold and other treasures. And it was mentioned throughout season 2.

But here's the kicker.

It turned out at the end of the season (and don't worry, this ain't a major spoiler), that there was actually...

NOTHING in the vault at all.


Qarth had been faking their wealth all along.

But the rest of the world still believed Quarth was minted.

And you know what?

This reminds me of a lot of online "business mentors".

Just like Qarth, they also pretend they're made of money. They pretend they're a powerhouse in the online world. They pretend that, if you hire them as a mentor, your business will change overnight.

Yet here's the thing:

Most of these "gurus" are like Qarth - Built on lies.

So what shouldyou do when choosing a mentor?

Well, look for someone who has already done the things you want to achieve.

And, most importantly, make sure they've actually run a business other than coaching people how to run a business.

Personally, I believe I have the two best mentors in the world - Dan Meredith and Dexter Abraham

Two guys who are:

A) Genuine.

B) Have already achieved the things I want to achieve

C) Have run multiple successful businesses outside of coaching


D) They're geniuses.

There you have it.

Having a mentor is huge. The things I'm learning are mind-blowing and well and truly taking my copywriting business to the next level.

But it has to be a good mentor.

If you pick the wrong one, then the only thing you'll get out of it is a huge whole in your wallet.

Tom Andrews

PS- I'm a big fan of the mastermind format.

Not only do you get access to your mentors, you also get to meet some other amazing people in the group.

Works a treat.

PPS- I'd love to hear your thoughts on mentoring.

Do you have a mentor, yourself?

If yes, what made you choose them and do you think it's been worth the investment?

And if you don't have a mentor, why not?

Personally, I believe you can get to a "very good" level (that's subjective obviously) without a mentor. But if you want to go to "excellent", then I feel having a mentor can speed things up.

What do you think?

#beware #choosing #mentor
  • Profile picture of the author Brent Stangel
    What do you think?
    You've got it all figured out.
    Get Off The Warrior Forum Now & Don't Come Back If You Want To Succeed!
    All The Real Marketers Are Gone. There's Nothing Left But Weak, Sniveling Wanna-Bees!
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  • Profile picture of the author talfighel
    When it comes to making money online, YES there are people who know what they are doing and are teaching others their methods with lots of success.

    There are also people who are earning less then $100 per month and create products that "sell" people how to make $1,000's per month. When you have this, it spells disaster for the person who really wants to succeed. It is kind of like the BLIND LEADING THE BLIND and that's one main reason why many fail.
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    • Profile picture of the author TomAndrews
      Those people drive me insane.

      Especially the ones renting cars, houses, models, and a bookshelf, just so they can pretend they're made of gold.

      Not mentioning any names, of course...

      Let's connect on Facebook because it's always good to meet fellow marketers. Send me a friend request:

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  • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
    I've had several mentors over the years. But I never had to hire any of them.

    I've hired teachers and coaches for specific things, but never a mentor.

    While I'm sure there are exceptions, it seems that the people declaring that someone needs a paid mentor in order to succeed are either selling their mentoring, or buying it and using the declaration to justify their own investment.
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    • Profile picture of the author TomAndrews
      Yeah I agree - you absolutely don't need a mentor.

      I think the two massive benefits of having one, from my own current experience, are more accountability and, the biggest one, I am being advised by two guys who have "been there and done it".

      Has it helped me, personally? 1000%.

      Would I say it's essential, though? No.

      What did you hire coaches for? How were those experiences for you, John?

      Let's connect on Facebook because it's always good to meet fellow marketers. Send me a friend request:

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  • Profile picture of the author amuro
    I will say there are advantages and disadvantages of having a mentor.

    But it also depends on whether you and your mentor are able to agree and work with each other throughout the entire process.

    Because that is what is really important.

    If you don't have a mentor, you have a lot more flexibility but unless you KNOW what you are doing and how to get more leads and money, chances are you might change your mind and decided to get a mentor.

    On the other hand if you have a mentor, you cannot always be thinking out of the box. You have to do EXACTLY what your mentor tells you to get the results.

    Even it means completing certain tasks within a specific timing.
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  • Profile picture of the author riviera
    I'd have to agree with you when it comes to Dan Meredith.

    A top, top bloke who gives away more information than many people charge for.

    I've been a member of Coffee with Dan for nearly two years now and it still amazes me how much value I get from that group.
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  • Profile picture of the author JohnMcCabe
    Originally Posted by TomAndrews View Post

    What did you hire coaches for? How were those experiences for you, John?
    I've been through Stuart Lichtman's Super Achiever coaching program to learn more about Cybernetic Transposition after reading his "How to Get Money for Anything Fast" book. This was when it first came out, and Stuart started coaching outside traditional business circles. A lot of work, and while I don't follow the entire process today, I learned a lot about how the subconscious controls conscious actions, and how to program the subconscious to help achieve goals.

    I went through Alex Mandossian's course on traffic and conversions back when autoresponders were still a novelty. The basic principles are still useful.

    Most of the others have been more specific, technique based programs. I'm a pretty serious DIYer, but if I think something is worthwhile and I'm having trouble getting it, I'll take the next step and hire someone to help me over the hump - much like a golfer that will take private lessons to help cure a slice or learn to read greens.

    The closest thing I've had to a business mentor was back in my MLM days. I discovered John Milton Fogg's "Get Rich Slow" forum, and eventually called JMF a personal friend. If you track down a copy of JMF's "Greatest Networker Platinum Double Book", you'll find my name among the credits. Even though I left the MLM world, I still consider John one of my mentors, even though a single penny never changed hands for "mentoring".

    That's why I have such a problem with the concept of "hiring a mentor".
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  • Profile picture of the author Blistrel
    You are completely right, is hard to find a legitimate mentor, that is not only a mentor but has skin in the game! Thanks for the heads up
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