Are You Paying to Lose or Playing to Gain?

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One pattern plays out regularly in the online world.

Entrepreneurs pay, to lose.

People fear losing money or traffic or time, throw money at a perceived problem - all the while, fearing that they are losing money, traffic or time - and sure enough the fear ensures that the money was poorly spent.

You cannot outspend your fear.

If you believe that money erases fear, you are in for a rude awakening. Believe you me; I know this from experience.

There is another pattern - not seen as frequently - that plays out in the online world.

Entrepreneurs play, to gain.

These folks dive into their business mainly to have fun while solving a pressing problem. Or while empowering people to live their dreams.

Here is the kicker; the work is the reward. The entrepreneur has fun doing what they do, so at the end of the day, any pennies or thousands or tens of thousands they make, is a bonus, or reward, or icing on the cake, or extra. Anything that flows out of work/play is gain; loss does not exist. 5 visitors to your blog. A comment. 4 social shares.

The play to gain crowd rules the online world and happily lives their dreams, patiently building their business on a foundation of granite. Whether it takes 6 months, 2 years or 4 years to build a full time business, they see and feel gain in what they do, because they are loving the ride, enjoying the process of learning, studying, practicing and serving.

The pay to lose crowd struggles, because if your energy screams loss/fear you are blind to gain, fun, enjoyment, generosity, service, and all are concepts that successful entrepreneurs embody.

Before you spend another cent on traffic bots, solo ads, a system, a course or anything related to your business, remember that you cannot outspend your fear. It will always be waiting for you.

You can shift from paying to lose toward playing to gain.

PS....You can pain to gain, of course, but your energy cannot be coming from fear and lack....and we know most folks online throw money at problems, versus being happy to make sound, calculated investments in solutions.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rory Singh
    Some people are paying for bot traffic? Must be those ads that promise you 10 Billion visitors for $5.

    Anyway...good post Ryan!

    Focus on loss and we will lose!
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    • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
      I am still looking for those special bots Rory

      I see Warriors looking for these premium tools or systems, and just feel the fear-energy seething through the attempts. Gotta feel abundant to see those rocking results.
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  • Profile picture of the author Brent Stangel
    Work ain't work when you're having fun!

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    • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
      Exactly Brent, exactly.
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  • Profile picture of the author Frank Donovan
    Excellent point, Ryan. True entrepreneurs invest in the process, not the result.
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    • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
      Well said Frank. It is a full investment in the process - through practice/work/play and money, and solid results gradually flow in over time.
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  • Profile picture of the author Risktaker89
    I had my share of purchasing softwares which promises fast traffic but it is always disappointing..LoL

    But lessons were learnt so it is good

    Anyway, I love how you put it..

    Pay to lose vs Play to gain

    The pay to lose crowd usually leave the industry fast and call it a scam
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    • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
      Hi RT,

      This is the exact crowd that labels all ventures they fail with, a scam. I used to call scam a 4 letter word used by losers. Or a 4 letter word used by lazy entrepreneurs.

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  • Profile picture of the author JohnVianny
    This belongs to a misconcept englighted by MJ De Marco in "The Millionaire Fastlane": most of the people see only the final results, which newspapers and media in general tend to represent as it comes one day suddenly.

    So most of newbies think that all can happen in a week, or in one month.

    It's not cool to show what has been hidden in all of the "successful entepreneurs": nights in front of the screen, lots of failures, years and years to test before achieving results.

    So common people think at it as it's a matter of luck and sort of gambling, with fears and gain depending on the fate.

    Saying that, they invest totally blind, looking for a get rich quick schemes, and try to find "the hidden untapped oppurtunity" behind the corner, jumping in it for being the first served.

    Tha fact that they need a SYSTEM, which is Email Marketing, and a process of learning which is not short, but give rewards in the long term
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    • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
      Hi C,

      I freely share my wins and muck ups to show folks a bit of each; my humanity disarms some skeptics and softens up folks who feel that they, too, can retire to a life of travel through blogging.

      I sell a spectacular dream, back it up with practical advice, but goodness, folks see I am no overnight pro blogger. Lots of struggle and failure here, which is often the case for full time online entrepreneurs.

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  • Profile picture of the author jeandevenish
    Fear can be overcome with knowledge or courage. Both need you to take action.

    Fear can make you run, respond or keep you petrified.

    Thanks.
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    • Profile picture of the author jeandevenish
      Excellent post by the way.
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    • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
      Hi J,

      How we react or respond to fear makes the difference.

      I ran from fear for years of my life, which were lean years.

      But when I learned to face and feel and let go fears, I began doing stuff mainly for fun, became patient, and success flowed my way, steadily but surely.

      Ryan
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      • Profile picture of the author discrat
        Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

        Hi J,

        How we react or respond to fear makes the difference.

        I ran from fear for years of my life, which were lean years.

        But when I learned to face and feel and let go fears, I began doing stuff mainly for fun, became patient, and success flowed my way, steadily but surely.

        Ryan
        Thanks Ryan.
        I know cynics here chalk up the "fear" factor ( no pun intended) to mumbo jumbo semantics with no real value.

        But what you say is definitely true.

        Fear has been the culprit of many failed businesses and people who have been failures.

        I can definitely attest to that myself. Most people do operate with the confines of "fear".

        Although fear does rightfully have its place with utility in a human's life. i just do not think it does in business



        - Robert Andrew
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  • Profile picture of the author ChrisBa
    Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

    One pattern plays out regularly in the online world.

    Entrepreneurs pay, to lose.

    People fear losing money or traffic or time, throw money at a perceived problem - all the while, fearing that they are losing money, traffic or time - and sure enough the fear ensures that the money was poorly spent.

    You cannot outspend your fear.

    If you believe that money erases fear, you are in for a rude awakening. Believe you me; I know this from experience.

    There is another pattern - not seen as frequently - that plays out in the online world.

    Entrepreneurs play, to gain.

    These folks dive into their business mainly to have fun while solving a pressing problem. Or while empowering people to live their dreams.

    Here is the kicker; the work is the reward. The entrepreneur has fun doing what they do, so at the end of the day, any pennies or thousands or tens of thousands they make, is a bonus, or reward, or icing on the cake, or extra. Anything that flows out of work/play is gain; loss does not exist. 5 visitors to your blog. A comment. 4 social shares.

    The play to gain crowd rules the online world and happily lives their dreams, patiently building their business on a foundation of granite. Whether it takes 6 months, 2 years or 4 years to build a full time business, they see and feel gain in what they do, because they are loving the ride, enjoying the process of learning, studying, practicing and serving.

    The pay to lose crowd struggles, because if your energy screams loss/fear you are blind to gain, fun, enjoyment, generosity, service, and all are concepts that successful entrepreneurs embody.

    Before you spend another cent on traffic bots, solo ads, a system, a course or anything related to your business, remember that you cannot outspend your fear. It will always be waiting for you.

    You can shift from paying to lose toward playing to gain.

    PS....You can pain to gain, of course, but your energy cannot be coming from fear and lack....and we know most folks online throw money at problems, versus being happy to make sound, calculated investments in solutions.
    Very well put. It kind of goes hand in hand with people not getting the whole concept of investing for growth.
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    • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
      Hi Chris,

      True true. We invest energy and money for a steady gain over the long haul. Sometimes, folks see no apparent returns over weeks or months, lose faith and clarity in their decision, panic, and begin the painful to watch process of paying to lose. Really difficult to see, this endless cycle of failure and struggle.

      But shifting toward playing - and paying - to gain, or to win, and patiently putting in the time, will turn fortunes steadily.

      Ryan
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  • Profile picture of the author DeciBoy13
    I'd say Both!!

    I want to win and I also want to lose.

    Because when I lose I learn something new.

    When I figure something it's cool but the world ain't perfect and it's always something that I can fix, adjust, tweak, ect.
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    • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
      Hi D,

      I prefer learning from winning. But we each have our preferences, I get that.

      Or, learning from gaining. We are in perpetual gain, really; only the limited mind knows loss.

      Thanks for sharing.

      Ryan
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