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Why are people unmotivated?

by MeTellYou
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Hey,

I've been working with a lot of private students over the past two years, and I am sad to say almost all of them don't take any action. Don't get me wrong, I've been around long enough to understand that's the norm, but my question is... why do you think that's the case? Just distracted or...?
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  • Profile picture of the author KillerVirus
    That's one of the main reasons the only MMO products I ever promoted were from this forum.

    I like selling things people want and/or need.

    As to motivation, the average human is lazy. If you hand it to them they'll take it but they're loath to expend any effort.
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  • Profile picture of the author GordonJ
    Originally Posted by MeTellYou View Post

    Hey,

    I've been working with a lot of private students over the past two years, and I am sad to say almost all of them don't take any action. Don't get me wrong, I've been around long enough to understand that's the norm, but my question is... why do you think that's the case? Just distracted or...?
    And from KillerVirus:
    As to motivation, the average human is lazy. If you hand it to them they'll take it but they're loath to expend any effort.

    It is always an issue for me when we talk about "people", or most of the people, or the average person.

    Maybe in the first case it is your students, and how you attracted them to your offer, that is a possibility too, have you considered that?

    I've never met an average human, wouldn't know one if he bit me in me butt.

    From a behavior viewpoint, we do tend to take the path of least resistance, and along that path, we try to avoid as much pain (in all its forms) and gain as much pleasure as we can. That is the basic jist of our animalistic selves.

    But also, it is pretty common understanding in remote direct marketing, especially with courses and how to info...there are more librarians and collectors than there are DOERS. Some have bookshelves full of MANUALS. Once they buy it, read it, put it up on the shelf and never do anything with it.

    This bothers a lot of marketers, especially those that trade their time (coaching) for dollars. Do you know who it does not bother? The very successful and doing well marketer who doesn't worry about what THEY (the people) do or don't do...as long as they gave them what they paid for.

    So from a student perspective, if I buy something from someone who hypes easy to me, or push button or whatever they said to get me to buy, and then I find the hidden steps which isn't easy for me...I may not ask for a refund, but I will just add that to the collection.

    People I am surrounded by, are NOT lazy, very motivated, and they actually do the thing.

    But, it could be the process used too.

    Anyhow, I don't buy into the idea that people are either lazy or unmotivated.

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  • Profile picture of the author Frank Donovan
    I've never met anyone who wasn't motivated by something. But that motivation has to come from themselves - it's tough trying to persuade someone to be motivated in something they don't want to do.

    It's hardly surprising that the sort of buyers who are attracted by "easy money" pitches are likely to be less keen when it turns out that some work is required, but that's more to do with the marketing and the targeting than "unmotivated" people.
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    • Profile picture of the author Princess Balestra
      Originally Posted by Frank Donovan View Post

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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Originally Posted by Frank Donovan View Post

      I've never met anyone who wasn't motivated by something. But that motivation has to come from themselves - it's tough trying to persuade someone to be motivated in something they don't want to do.
      Ya. Great point there Frank. There's no way I could be a Doctor or Physician (and probably a thousand other Professions etc.) for example ― because none of them interest me.
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  • Profile picture of the author max5ty
    I had an opinion when I first read your comment...

    then did some quick research and verified my suspicions.

    People are more motivated now than they ever have been.

    More people are doing side hustles than ever before.

    I do think people are burnt out with all the nonsense, get rich, let me tell you how nonsense that has been going around in epidemic proportions.

    The paint is peeling off the nonsense.

    I don't know what your situation is, as far as what coaching program you have...but I firmly believe the statistics are just not currently in alignment with your observation.
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  • Profile picture of the author amitlrajdev
    They aren't unmotivated. They are just exhausted struggling.
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  • Profile picture of the author rclemente
    Hello, how is everyone doing?

    I feel some people are not motivated because of a couple of things, maybe they are tired of struggling going after opportunity after opportunity and they can't seem to find that business, job etc that they want. Also, some people not all just don't want to work for what they want. Lastly, some people are like that they settle for anything and that's it they don't work for it. If you are in any business that involves recruiting people into it, and you see yourself having to motivate people; then move on from those people because they have to be able to motivate themselves as Some Will Some Won't So What Next!
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  • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
    Originally Posted by MeTellYou View Post

    Hey,

    I've been working with a lot of private students over the past two years, and I am sad to say almost all of them don't take any action. Don't get me wrong, I've been around long enough to understand that's the norm, but my question is... why do you think that's the case? Just distracted or...?
    This is a different question than "Why are people unmotivated?"

    We are all motivated by whatever helps us get what we want. That degree of motivation may be enough to overcome our inertia of our comfort level....and maybe not.

    If you are asking why people pay for advice and courses...and then do nothing?

    The vast majority of people that pay for courses, guidance, coaching.... think that it's the course that will solve their problems, the guidance that will do the work...the course that will accomplish their dreams. They see their success as something that is handed to them, not created from themselves.

    Ask anyone why says they want to be wealthy, why they are not wealthy. The reasons will be different, but they will all have one thing in common. It won't be their fault. Some external circumstance beyond their control is what is keeping them from their goals. It is always someone else's fault.

    Like the people that think they will lose weight by buying the exercise bike. They see the "Buying as accomplishment". And smart marketers of weight loss plans and equipment always...always have to present the reason the customer is fat as something beyond their control. And the solution is always a discovery that the buyer wasn't aware of yet. It's the previous exercise machines...the previous diets that have failed...not the customer.

    The mistake gurus make is trying to change that fact of life. One big mistake coaches make is to hold their students accountable. This creates friction. It reveals the reality that the student/client/buyer isn't really ever going to do anything except buy information products.

    We have to be OK with that, or we'll starve from lack of clients. And when one exceptional student actually applies what they learn, we can be happy for them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Randall Magwood
    People are unmotivated for a wide variety of reasons. From a boring lifestyle, to a boring location, to a boring personality, a loser mindset, being told they're not good enough all their life, to simply not believing in the next new thing. You can only convert a small few who are motivated, so focus on them.
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  • Profile picture of the author Devilfish168
    because everyone want to make a " fast one " but in reality online business is not work like this, and " scammer " always using title " within one day, hours to earn your first buck online.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    Originally Posted by MeTellYou View Post

    Hey,

    I've been working with a lot of private students over the past two years, and I am sad to say almost all of them don't take any action. Don't get me wrong, I've been around long enough to understand that's the norm, but my question is... why do you think that's the case? Just distracted or...?
    Their motivated enough to pay for your services. Just not motivated to put it to use at this time.

    Maybe they are not unmotivated but they are consumers. Take away all the negatives of that word.
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  • Profile picture of the author Musharraf Khaasim
    There could be a number of reasons why someone is feeling unmotivated. It could be due to a lack of interest in the task at hand, feeling overwhelmed or stressed, feeling undervalued or unsupported, or a number of other factors.

    If you're feeling unmotivated, it's important to take a step back and figure out what the root cause is. Once you identify why you're feeling this way, you can start to take steps to address the issue. For example, if you're feeling overwhelmed, try breaking the task down into smaller, more manageable pieces. If you're feeling undervalued, talk to your supervisor about your concerns.
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  • Profile picture of the author toysoldier80
    They haven't latched onto something they are in love with. When you're in love with a project you can't put it down. When certain people are forced to do something, unmotivating comes into play because they have not developed a mindset to excel on projects that they might not necessarily agree with.
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  • Profile picture of the author savidge4
    unmotivated is a hard thing to work through - or help someone through.

    What gets interesting is when the lack of motivation at its root is more of an inability to take on risk.

    i would suggest, that yes they are people that are lazy, but there is a good amount of people that just crumble at the thought of the slightest amount of risk.

    As the old saying goes "No Risk, No Reward" and many a person can simply not take that first step - they stay on the safe path, and for better or worse will remain there.
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  • Profile picture of the author UrMotomoto
    It happen often when person just lost interest on what he doing , so need time to find smtn else.
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  • Profile picture of the author RMRC
    I think in this scenario, perhaps one of the reasons some people become unmotivated is because they are going along with the coaching or steps they believe will help them reach their goal and they hit a block. They can't continue until they solve whatever problem is blocking them from the next step and they become discouraged. So after days and weeks going by without being able to solve the problem or get anywhere, they slowly lose the motivation they initially had out of frustration. I've seen that happen a lot
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  • Profile picture of the author dave_hermansen
    Sometimes, people buy or take free courses and after going through it all, they see this mountain of things to do. It seems overwhelming with no guarantees.

    Some people look at a mountain and are defeated almost immediately by the immensity of climbing it. Others realize it takes one step at a time and several unanticipated detours and that, although every time they look up, it still seems daunting, perseverance is inching them ever closer to the top. The ones who give up forget to look down to see how far they have climbed already.

    Other than that, I imagine that it is a time management issue. If you do not commit to working "x" amount of hours every day on your project, including the weekends, you'll always have an excuse for why your goals are not accomplished. It's easy to let the familiar get in the way. Then, you blame the course for not fitting your lifestyle.
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  • Profile picture of the author DABK
    Nobody's said this:


    If they buy your course, they feel good... taking action in the direction you want to go makes you feel good.


    Doing the course, ditto.


    Implementing the course learning should be ditto, but here you run into this friend:
    If they implement, they tried. If they tried and don't make money (or the kind of money they hoped to), they failed. Failing is painful.


    What if, instead of implementing, they buy another course, and get a good hit, learn something new (and get a new hit), instead?


    People are always motivated to get what gets them to feel good (sometimes what gets them to feel good is bad for them and all that).
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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by DABK View Post

      Nobody's said this:


      If they buy your course, they feel good... taking action in the direction you want to go makes you feel good.


      Doing the course, ditto.
      I was talking along that line. Buying is an action. So they feel like they took action.

      When people bought by mail, another factor was shipping time. It bought the buyer several days of satisfaction, because they felt they actually did something, and had to wait for the course (or whatever they bought) to arrive. Then they could take their rime studying the course....which is also an action...without any real activity on their part.




      Originally Posted by DABK View Post

      Implementing the course learning should be ditto, but here you run into this friend:
      If they implement, they tried. If they tried and don't make money (or the kind of money they hoped to), they failed. Failing is painful.


      What if, instead of implementing, they buy another course, and get a good hit, learn something new (and get a new hit), instead?
      I was selling a high end advertising course to a business owner years ago. The course included phone consulting as needed.

      He actually called me to come out to his business. When I suggested that this was a match for him, he hesitated. He told me he felt uncomfortable making a snap decision. I had driven for 3 hours to get to him that day. So I was a little abrupt with him.

      I said something like "I think I know you a little after we talked on the phone and here today. And I mean this with all respect. I've been on thousands of these calls. So I kind of know what's happening here. Do you mind if I tell you? (He gave me the OK)

      You have been at your business for over 20 years. And it isn't going as well as you want. You have given me several reasons your business hasn't taken off. And they all have one thing in common. They are all someone else's fault"

      He got a little hot. I asked him to let me finish.

      "In the back of your mind, not even consciously, a deep part of your brain has figured something out. If you keep doing what you are doing, you can keep blaming who you are blaming. But if you get this course, and then don't implement it....and don't accept my help....then deep down you'll know it's your fault. And that isn't acceptable to you.

      And if you do implement what you learn, it will take you out of your comfort zone. Not the effort, but the results. We feel uncomfortable making a lot more money than we are used to.

      So you are going to feel uncomfortable no matter what you do today. Either you'll feel uncomfortable because you say "No" and that means you'll stay on the same path with your business...or you'll implement what you learn, with my help, and you'll be uncomfortable with your raise in income. But believe me, you'll get used to it."

      I thought he was going to cry. But he didn't. He said "OK. Let's do this". To tell the truth, I was a little shocked.

      This wasn't a sales technique. I was genuinely a little pissed that he essentially bought over the phone and just wanted me to stop by to deliver the course (It was manuals and DVDs. Many years ago)..... and then gave me pushback. But it was a big package, so I went. And I wanted referrals in his industry (furniture stores).

      What I said above may be something I would say to a sales rep that wanted my help, or to a business owner friend...maybe. Probably never to a group. I was a tad brutal. But I knew what was happening. I'm just glad he could see it too.
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  • Profile picture of the author Doug Terry
    Originally Posted by MeTellYou View Post

    Hey,

    I've been working with a lot of private students over the past two years, and I am sad to say almost all of them don't take any action. Don't get me wrong, I've been around long enough to understand that's the norm, but my question is... why do you think that's the case? Just distracted or...?
    Interesting question.

    Most people are motivated by something, in this case, it is the action of making the purchase. In their mind they've accomplished what they wanted, they've had the shot of endorphins from 'taking action' and they move on.

    They are some people who genuinely want to follow through but are distrusting and consequently have a fear of failure. This combination results in them creating the excuse for not following through on the implementation and they then move on to the next purchase.

    There's nothing that can be done to change this pattern of behavior unless you happen to be a psychologist and are looking for a job.

    From a seller's point of view, so long as you are delivering quality products in exchange for the purchase, that's as much as you can do.

    Just my thoughts, let me know what you think.
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  • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
    Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

    This is a different question than "Why are people unmotivated?"

    We are all motivated by whatever helps us get what we want. That degree of motivation may be enough to overcome our inertia of our comfort level....and maybe not.

    If you are asking why people pay for advice and courses...and then do nothing?

    The vast majority of people that pay for courses, guidance, coaching.... think that it's the course that will solve their problems, the guidance that will do the work...the course that will accomplish their dreams. They see their success as something that is handed to them, not created from themselves.

    Ask anyone why says they want to be wealthy, why they are not wealthy. The reasons will be different, but they will all have one thing in common. It won't be their fault. Some external circumstance beyond their control is what is keeping them from their goals. It is always someone else's fault.

    We have to be OK with that, or we'll starve from lack of clients. And when one exceptional student actually applies what they learn, we can be happy for them.
    More accurately Claude external circumstances are making it so damn hard it is like an invisible barrier, and some think that is my lot in life, higher powers are putting a thumb on me, and so forth.

    Not higher powers are making it so damn hard since you will get there, and cannot be an idiot when you do otherwise you may piss it all away.

    You get strength of character through struggle but some see it as confirmation that they are not allowed, and sure it may be beyond your comprehension but you have to keep going, or keep hoping even though the time periods are excessive.


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  • Profile picture of the author Redbubble Tool
    There can be many reasons why a person may be unmotivated. Some common causes include:

    Lack of clear goals or purpose: If a person doesn't have a clear idea of what they want to achieve or why it's important to them, they may find it difficult to stay motivated.

    Lack of self-confidence: If a person doesn't believe in their own abilities or feel like they are capable of achieving their goals, they may be less likely to be motivated.

    Stress and burnout: If a person is under a lot of stress or has been working hard for a long time without a break, they may find it hard to maintain their motivation.

    Negative emotions and mental health: Depression, anxiety and other mental health conditions may make it hard for a person to feel motivated.

    Boredom: Lack of interest, engagement or sense of purpose can lead to feeling unmotivated with their current activities.

    No immediate reward or feedback: lack of recognition or tangible outcome of their work can demotivate them

    It's important to note that motivation can vary from person to person and also can change based on the specific context or situation. Also, addressing the root cause can help to improve motivation.
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      Originally Posted by Redbubble Tool View Post

      It's important to note that motivation can vary from person to person and also can change based on the specific context or situation.
      ...and that when you can't be motivated to write your own post, you can always use an AI program.
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  • Profile picture of the author aduttonater
    Many people want instant gratification.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Originally Posted by aduttonater View Post

      Many people want instant gratification.
      Great point. : ) Usually ― when a Person wants to be a successful Entrepreneur (etc.) ― they have to be patient and put the work in ... Sometimes weeks or even months without seeing "results." I guess that's what separates the "serious" People from the "wannabes".
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  • Profile picture of the author Princess Balestra
    ain't posted here since'n las' year.

    the frick is wrong with moi?

    why my mojo drainin' outta my ass like breatha life from a legally snuffed pet?

    tellya I dowencatst.

    beat.

    done.

    all hope gone.

    so how ima go on?

    1 golden rule always is TAMARA.

    don't always seem like there is space for this moment in your life, but there she is.

    till'n whenevah.

    as a natchrl Sagittarian shit-spoutah,I would wish always to propel musself toward Tamara's glories ...

    an' so should you.

    less'n you desiah for perpetyool backwardo or inevitabyool shitola.

    or summoned avatars appear 24/7 in real time to ditz/spook you the hell outta your own ass.
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  • Profile picture of the author sparky
    personally, I accumulated every self-help & bi opp programme going and never did a thing with them - until:
    A/ I realised I had no where else to go after leaving the army.
    B/ Saw a show on the 'Idiot Box' that sparked the idea of what I really want to do with my life - nothing was too much trouble in pursuing my passion then.
    C/ Hitting rock-bottom after suffering a stroke then seeing my investments tank after losing my job.
    I'm now doing what I need to, to pull my life around, though not always as focused as I should be
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    Everyone does not need to build a cathedral. Many people just need to build a wall.


    There is very little chance of motivating someone who is not naturally a high achiever to become a high achiever. Unless they wander in to the thing that drives them to be a high achiever.

    If the thing itself doesn't provide the motivation to do the thing. Then people will be generally unmotivated.

    Because achievement usually takes long periods of consistent effort and discipline to not do the things that prevent the achievement. External motivation does not last.

    The thing needs to provide the motivation.

    So why are people unmotivated. Because they really do not want to do the thing. For whatever reason.

    If people don't believe they can hit the moon no amount of motivation to get them to shoot for the moon will get them to take any action to shoot for the moon. Ok shot guns and other threats of violence that are convincing may work.
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