Rejecting Friend Requests

by Josh Anderson 16 replies
If someone (like me) rejects your friend request... don't take it personally.

It is most likely not because someone do not want to be your friend... its just that they might not know you well enough, or at all for that matter, or know enough about you to consider adding you as a friend to their friends list.

As another warrior recently mentioned adding friends may be construed as some sort of endorsement by those viewing your profile.

Also, if you use an anonymous moniker for your username you are much more likely to be rejected... especially if your profile offers no clue as to who you are.

I am happy to get friend requests but if I do not know you well enough or at all and reject your request do not take it personally... lets become friends, do business, and get to know eachother first.

Of course if we have not had much interaction but I know you from your activity here and it appears that you are trustworthy and respected I would probably add you even if we were not personally acquainted.

I really only see two benefits to the friends feature on the forum:

1. You can change settings so that only friends can communicate with you privately.

2. A friends list is a way of showing others who view your profile those whom you respect or interact with comfortably here on the forum and in business.
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  • Profile picture of the author zerofill
    I have left some sitting in queue...I wanted to say something like this as well. Thanks Josh...

    I didn't want someone to think I was being an ass because I rejected them. But if I don't know you I don't add you.

    Now if I reject you and I do know you...slap me...My wife yells about my memory all the time lol.

    I actually like the avatars now for people that use their real pics...because I am way better with faces then with names.
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    • Profile picture of the author TheMagicShow
      You can make this process a bit easier by seeing if other well respected warriors have an individual as a friend on their list, if someone gets a bad rep just take em off your list, most people here in the forum are very ethical and are good people, having a little faith goes a long way.
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      • Profile picture of the author Kay King
        I'm glad this was posted as I've had the same dilemma. I've just let some sit because I felt bad rejecting them.

        However, if you have only a forum name and no real name or site - I don't know you. I'm not a social site butterfly so I've never made the transition in translation from friend as "someone I know" to "another name on my list".

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        • Profile picture of the author jhongren
          i think the avatar is good.

          real players will dare to put real pictures of themselves. those who didnt put may be due to personal reasons or hidding something.

          i think to add friends only if you have communicated with the person before. I have been receiving friends requests from people I have never talked to before

          Having making friends genuinely and sincerely =)

          Cheers,
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          • Profile picture of the author Scott Ames
            Originally Posted by jhongren View Post

            i think the avatar is good.

            real players will dare to put real pictures of themselves. those who didnt put may be due to personal reasons or hidding something.
            Does that include Allen?
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        • Profile picture of the author Kate Anderson
          I think a lot of people see it in the same light that they view Facebook, Twitter, etc.. which doesn't always constitute that "we're best friends" but rather that they like you, admire you, buy your stuff, follow you around the Internet ... oh wait, well you know what I mean.

          I have a lot of people request to add me to Facebook each day that I have no idea who they are. However, I take a few minutes to view their site, check out who they are and if I find something in common, I'll add them. It's a great way to make new friends..

          If people aren't open to that, just reject the requests from people you don't know or don't want to know. I don't think anyone would take it personally, I know I certainly wouldn't.. although it might make me opt-out of your mailing list (kidding.. sort of)


          Kate

          i think the avatar is good.

          real players will dare to put real pictures of themselves. those who didnt put may be due to personal reasons or hidding something.
          Using avatars with your business logo, mascot or something similar is often called marketing too.. and on a forum about marketing, it might just make sense to some of us.. To others, (and there are many reputable people that don't show their photo at all around here), it could be for a dozen different reasons, but I know for sure, that they are definitely "real players"..

          I have my photo in my profile picture area.. I'm not cute enough to feature it twice..
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          • Profile picture of the author Tirmizi
            Usually what happens is ... newbie guys when they see some really awesome post on the topic that they were searching for ... they seem to think here is someone that could really help me answer some of my further queries .... .

            so what they do is try to add that guy in the friendslist ... usually get the same responsese as above ...

            And my suggestino would be the same .. " not to take it personally" However, what they should have confidence in is .... " Warrior Forum " you are here ... and if you are new you don't have to take this route... if you have any questions or queries ..


            Just post a Thread ... I am sure if I know the answer to your query I'll definalty let you know , or as far as I am considered you can send me pm any time .... and Others they will help you out with whatever you are looking for ....


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  • Profile picture of the author Andrew Dillon
    ditto please don't take my rejection personally.
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  • Profile picture of the author pwebbiz
    Originally Posted by Josh Anderson View Post

    If someone (like me) rejects your friend request... don't take it personally.

    It is most likely not because someone do not want to be your friend... its just that they might not know you well enough, or at all for that matter, or know enough about you to consider adding you as a friend to their friends list.

    As another warrior recently mentioned adding friends may be construed as some sort of endorsement by those viewing your profile.

    Also, if you use an anonymous moniker for your username you are much more likely to be rejected... especially if your profile offers no clue as to who you are.

    I am happy to get friend requests but if I do not know you well enough or at all and reject your request do not take it personally... lets become friends, do business, and get to know eachother first.

    Of course if we have not had much interaction but I know you from your activity here and it appears that you are trustworthy and respected I would probably add you even if we were not personally acquainted.

    I really only see two benefits to the friends feature on the forum:

    1. You can change settings so that only friends can communicate with you privately.

    2. A friends list is a way of showing others who view your profile those whom you respect or interact with comfortably here on the forum and in business.
    Josh,

    I have to agree with you 110%. I sent out a bunch of friend requests to warriors that I really look up to such as yourself, Steven Wagenheim, Adeel Chowdhery, and Kevin Riley. I felt that all of you have contributed so much of your time and knowledge to the forum that I'd really like to follow your posts closer (in a creepy, stalkerish way) and continue to learn from you.

    I've also added the people that I do / have done business with so they're in easy reach.

    Anyway, the point is if you want people like Josh etc to add you, you need to have a reputation for making quality contributions to the forum. I think that about sums it up...
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    • Profile picture of the author Tsnyder
      I'm not a big social network participant so this may be
      a dumb question... lol

      Is there a downside to adding people to your friends list?
      I'd probably accept anyone who asked so clue me in if that's
      a mistake!

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      • Profile picture of the author pwebbiz
        Originally Posted by Tsnyder View Post

        I'm not a big social network participant so this may be
        a dumb question... lol

        Is there a downside to adding people to your friends list?
        I'd probably accept anyone who asked so clue me in if that's
        a mistake!

        Tsnyder
        One warrior proposed that it may be seen as an endorsement.
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        • Profile picture of the author Susan Hope
          Same for me, I agree with Josh's post. Please do not take it personally if I reject you.

          I had one request on the first day this new forum came to be and I noticed the requester had only joined WF a couple of days previously and used a username indicating a gambling website, I'm not interested in gambling personally and so on those two grounds, length of membership here and no real name even in the username I rejected the request.

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          • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
            I'm going to go to the opposite end of the fence on this one.

            Please don't be offended if I don't request YOU to be my friend.

            There are so many people here who I have gotten to know over the brief
            time that I have been here that if I requested each of them to be my friend
            I'd never get any work done.

            I'm really not much of a social bug anyway. I tend to keep to myself. But if
            I do know you and you send me a friend request, I will accept it. I'm pretty
            easy going that way. If I don't know you from Adam (so far hasn't happened)
            then I might be a little cautious.

            Honestly, I never expected to get as many friend requests as I have. I'm
            kind of honored to see that there are so many here who feel that way.
            Like I said, I'm not much of a social bug and never had many friends in
            the real world, let alone online.

            Anyway, if you don't see me popping into your in box with a friend request,
            it's just me being me being...nothing personal.

            Boy, don't this place just make you feel all warm an' fuzzy now?
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            • Profile picture of the author Alan Petersen
              I couldn't figure out how to do the friend request until just now. Steve, you're my first friend request. :-)

              I've had a few requests and I just accepted them but only one I didn't know from Adam but I see some valid points about being more picky about those requests.

              I don't see much value to it but I guess it's the social networking thing to do. It will be like MySpace, Linkedin, Twitter where the more friends/contacts/followers the cooler you are. :-)
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              • Profile picture of the author myob
                I get a lot of friend requests, but never knew what to do with them, so they just sat around. Sorry.
                Most contact me through PM. Isn't sending a PM better than looking for friends in all the wrong places?
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