Afraid of Failure....

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How many of you have failed numerous times at your IM business before you finally found that one idea that you knew would be the one to get you going. But then you kept putting it off and putting it off only to realize that you were afraid of failing because that's all you've done before (and your family and friends stopped believing you could make it work). Well, that's kind of where I'm at right now. I keep working at it daily but by now I should be on the move. It's like I have this little voice in my head telling me "all you have to do is....." and I say "yeah yeah I know" and go to doing something else. Plus with working full time and other things I have to do IM get's put on the back burner sometimes. So, what motivates you? What get's you out of that "scared" mode?
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  • Profile picture of the author yamahafzr
    Work in a no regrets style. Know that if it doesn't work, there's something else you can move onto.
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  • Profile picture of the author RGallowitz
    I failed 4 times, had 1 success, then failed twice again, had 2 huge successes etc...
    Not all projects will work.

    But...as my experience increased, so did my success rate.

    Don't be afraid! There are many people who have first time successes!
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    • Profile picture of the author Susanna Dodd
      Originally Posted by RGallowitz View Post

      I failed 4 times, had 1 success, then failed twice again, had 2 huge successes etc...
      Not all projects will work.

      But...as my experience increased, so did my success rate.

      Don't be afraid! There are many people who have first time successes!
      But when you found the ones that worked did you stick with them? By what you said you had 3 successful projects. Did you maintain them?
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  • Profile picture of the author RGallowitz
    When I refer to projects I refer to big stuff and not to my products etc...
    And yes, I definitely maintain them!

    But I kick the failures to the kurb...but in most cases I sell them off to someone else who has a different vision for them.
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  • Profile picture of the author webcosmo
    Failure is always part of success. Thats how we purify out skills.
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    • Profile picture of the author Lance K
      Susanna, you haven't failed yet, only learned. You've only failed once you've given up.

      If other obligations give you an excuse to put IM on the back burner, it's time to take stock. If you're serious about making it work, make a schedule. Allow x time for your IM activities and stick to it. Audit yourself daily or weekly to make sure you've stuck to it. If you haven't, get to work understanding why and make changes until you do stick to it.

      Also, play out all the scenerios in your head. What if I "fail" this time? What if I succeed this time? What's the worst that can happen in either case? What's the best? Who will look at me differently in either case? What are their motivations? Do you care? Why? What are your motivations?

      Surround yourself with supporitive and like minded people as much as you can. Sever ties or severly limit time spent associating with unsupportive, unmotivated, etc. people. Dream crushers suck. If you let them affect you, you'll never transform your dreams into specific goals.

      You can't be liked/encouraged by everyone. So you might as well please yourself. Once you do, you'll be amazed at the people left around you. Fulfilling relationships will take on a whole new meaning for you.
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  • Profile picture of the author rgibson95
    Working on my first success or failure, not sure yet. My favorite saying is the difference between try and triumph is a little umph. Go get it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kate Davies
      I have also heard it suggested that some people can be afraid of success, without even realising it. It's a weird theory, but I have heard it a few times. It's all deep rooted psychological stuff. The cure for that would appear to be, positive mental attitude training - e.g. hypnosis, subliminal messages in music etc.

      I'm not sure I agree with it, but it's a different perspective that's maybe worth thinking about.

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      • Profile picture of the author Lance K
        Originally Posted by digileaf View Post

        I have also heard it suggested that some people can be afraid of success, without even realising it. It's a weird theory, but I have heard it a few times.
        Kate, it's very true. Personaly, I love the way Denis Waitley puts it...

        "Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they are afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on the 'someday I'll' philosophy." ~ Denis Waitley
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  • Profile picture of the author Chuck Martin
    I can relate to what you're going through, Susanna. I've always been plagued with a tendency toward perfectionism. I tend to research my project idea endlessly and end up overwhelming myself with all the different approaches. Then I want to be sure to pick the "best" or "most perfect" approach. I end up being paralyzed with indecision.

    When I look back on the times I've actually accomplished something, it's been when I broken down the project into little baby steps that were not too complicated or involved a lot of decisions. I first worked on the steps that were foundational to the general direction I was heading. Accomplishing these first steps gave me a sense of accomplishment, producing the motivation and momentum to make decisions and finish my project.

    I think just taking the first little steps is so important. You don't have to get it perfect. You just have to get it going. Doing anything provides momentum towards reaching your goals.

    I have to keep reminding myself that nothing I do is set in concrete. It can always be tweaked later. I try to quickly paint the "broad strokes." This tends to overcome my fear of failure or "not doing it right." Afterwards I can make adjustments and fill in the details.

    Best wishes on your future endeavors, Susanna.
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    • Profile picture of the author Hesaidblissfully
      It's only "failure" if you don't learn from it. If you learn from it and act based on what you've learned, then it's feedback leading you towards what you want.

      I don't know of anyone who's very good at anything who also doesn't have a bunch of failures under their belt. People who are very successful may have had raw talent, or good mentors along the way, but they still had to make mistakes in order to improve their skill and get to where they wanted to go.

      So rather than seeing failure as a reflection on who you are as a person, or something to be afraid of, just see it as a learning experience and a necessary part of your growth as a busines person.
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  • Profile picture of the author J Bold
    Fear is the great denier.

    If you are too afraid you also tend to give up easily. You need to focus on positive thoughts.

    This really is very important. Fear is a killer when working in internet marketing as it works to deny you your success. Find a way to defeat the fear by just making yourself busy and having patience that a campaign or method can work if you just give it 2 things:

    1. Time
    and
    2. Hard work

    You can still do it. It's not as hard as it sounds, in the long run.
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    • Profile picture of the author drbill
      Hello all,

      Boy what great post and I am proud to be a part of this great forum. I have been growing pretty rapidly in the 5 short months in this business and want to continue to help others grow as well. I put a quote from Dale Carnegi below that might help.

      "Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no help at all." Dale Carnegi

      I keep on my desktop as my screen saver and fully believe it to be true:
      "Spectacular Achievement is Preceded by Unspactular Preparation" and if you have a good idea just because you might not think it is good, someone else will. All the hard work you put initially is probably the way to go.

      Thanks for the opportunity to assist,

      to all our success...drbill
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