How To Eliminate Procrastination, and Develop Good Habits...

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Hey everybody!

If you are anything like me, then you have probably struggled with procrastination before. I would like to share with you an idea that may help. I have used this technique multiple times with success.

In reading many different "self growth" and "success" books I found the common theme that it's your habits that make you rich or poor. You've probably heard it before... "Successful people make a habit of doing things that unsuccessful people don't like to do". Another thing that I picked up along the way is that it takes 31 days to develop a habit, so basically if you do the same thing for 31 consecutive days, then it becomes a habit.

While that's all good in theory, my problem is that I could never seem to make it for that first 31 days... Until I decided to get an accountability partner.

Now, before you disregard this post hear me out, because I'm not talking about your typical accountability partner. You need someone who genuinely interested in your progress. Someone who is so involved in your progress that there is no way for you to get around it. So how do you find someone like this? you have to give them a reason to be involved.

The best way for me to explain this is to give you a real life scenario of what I am doing now. I have been struggling with developing the habit of getting up earlier and the habit of daily exercise. So here is what I did.

I recorded a video and put it on my blog. Basically the video states my mission and that I committing myself to 45 days of getting up at 5am and running. It also says that I am willing to give $50 to anyone that calls me out on a day that I miss..

I will document my progress on a daily basis by video and show what time i get up and record when i get to my halfway point. Each day the video must be uploaded and posted to my blog by 7am.

If I don't complete this daily task and someone calls me out on it, then I am willing to send $50 to that person via PayPal. I am confident that this will work because the pain of paying $50 to a total stranger is greater than the pain of getting up and actually running. This is what I call "creating a greater pain".

Now that i have other people that are watching and waiting for me to slip up, I am more motivated to get up when the alarm goes off in the morning. Because I don't want to pay someone $50 just to get another hour of sleep.

I have used this model of "creating a greater pain" in the past and it has worked well. This is the first time that I have actually done it online. I think that if you use this model and get as many people involved then you will be able to form a new habit a lot easier than you think.

You don't have to do it online, either. You can put something in writing that "if I don't do this, then I will give you this" and give it to someone.

Here are a few tips:

If you want someone to take action, and get involved make them an offer that they can't refuse. -My offer is $50 for free for them doing practically nothing - pretty hard to turn down free money.

If you are going to create a "greater pain" then be sure it is actually a "greater pain" and not something that you will give in to.

Once you decide to do it, tell everyone that will listen.

Like I said, I have used this same structure to develop more good habits and help me meet deadlines for getting things done on numerous occasions. I know it works.

I'm not sure if I am allowed to post a link to my blog post or not, so If it gets removed then I understand. I am not trying to promote it, just think that it may be helpful to see an actual example of what I am doing, in case you like the idea and would like to do something similar.

You can see the post here: My 45 Day Challange | JustinGlover.com

I actually sent out a tweet about it and already some others have started creating their own "45 day challenges". Feel free to comment and let me know if you decide to put this technique to use.

Let me know your thoughts.

Thanks for your time,
Justin
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  • Profile picture of the author freudianslip27
    Hey Justin,

    It is certainly an interesting idea. Along those same lines, I've found that whenever I invest money into something, the stakes seem higher for me and I have more of a commitment to see things through. The more money it costs, the harder I try.

    I also agree that having an actual person to help keep you in line can help tremendously. Sometimes things can get lost and hours can fly by if you are working by yourself all the time.

    Interesting post,

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    • Profile picture of the author jglover
      Matt,

      I completely agree. Money is what motivates me as well. I figure if i can keep from paying someone just because I DONT do something, then that is enough motivation for me to actually get up and do it.

      Thanks for your thoughts.

      Anyone else? Im curious to hear what others think...
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      • Profile picture of the author Rush
        The best way to eliminate procrastination? Outsource.
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        • Profile picture of the author Bart Loos
          Originally Posted by Rush View Post

          The best way to eliminate procrastination? Outsource.
          So the best way to eleminate procrastinating to outsource.. is to outsource...

          hmmm

          Have fun

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          • Profile picture of the author Rush
            Originally Posted by Bart Loos View Post

            So the best way to eleminate procrastinating to outsource.. is to outsource...

            hmmm

            Have fun

            Bart
            Yes. It's pretty hard to procrastinate getting work done if you have a virtual assistant. You simply tell them what needs to be done and since it isn't up to you to get it done, it actually happens.
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            • Profile picture of the author theemperor
              Originally Posted by Rush View Post

              Yes. It's pretty hard to procrastinate getting work done if you have a virtual assistant. You simply tell them what needs to be done and since it isn't up to you to get it done, it actually happens.
              "Virtual Assistant - make me an affiliate website that makes $10,000 a month - I'll give you $1000 if successful." Feet up. Job done!
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              • Profile picture of the author Rush
                Originally Posted by theemperor View Post

                "Virtual Assistant - make me an affiliate website that makes $10,000 a month - I'll give you $1000 if successful." Feet up. Job done!
                Well maybe you guys procrastinate coming up with ideas, but that part isn't a problem for me. It's going through with the ideas where I tend to procrastinate. I come up with ideas, then have VA's act on them.
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        • Profile picture of the author jglover
          Originally Posted by Rush View Post

          The best way to eliminate procrastination? Outsource.
          hmm...I'm with Bart. What if that is one of the things you procrastinate about. I went for 6 months knowing that I needed to be outsoursing stuff, but just never pulled the trigger.
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        Originally Posted by jglover View Post

        Matt,

        Anyone else? I'm curious to hear what others think...
        I don't buy the whole tell the world n save me thing, if your ready to do this you don't need a reliance on other people or a monetary fine.

        The fire would be in your belly regardless.
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        • Profile picture of the author jglover
          Originally Posted by tryinhere View Post

          I don't buy the whole tell the world n save me thing, if your ready to do this you don't need a reliance on other people or a monetary fine.

          The fire would be in your belly regardless.
          I understand where you are comming from. I promise the fire is there, but its just a bonfire rather than a campfire. My thinking is that I'm going to succeed no matter what. I also that believe that leverage is a good thing. why do it all yourself if there is no need to do so?

          Thanks for the comment
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  • Profile picture of the author Andy Fletcher
    Be very careful substituting extrinsic (read economic/money) incentives for intrinsic ones. The human mind very quickly associates this monetary value as the "price" for the altered behaviour and it is very hard to undo. $50 may or may not seem like a lot now but in a month's time when you've just had a tax rebate and it's damned cold outside you will suddenly see $50 as a small price to pay for the comfort of your bed.

    What's more, that $50 will continue to hold value in your mind even after it is removed (ie the 45 days are up) and you'll start to see the bed as "free".

    Here's an example from a study I read to illustrate the point -

    A nursery school had a lot of trouble with parents showing up late to collect their kids. To counteract this the teachers introduced a $10 late fee for any parent who didn't show up on time. Lateness rates went up, not down and they showed up even later than they did before.

    Reasons -

    - The parents replaced the social responsibility of not inconveniencing the teachers with $10 and to them $10 was a price worth paying to be late.
    - There was no "per minute" fee so once you were late you may as well be really late, it cost you the same amount.

    It gets worse. The teachers realised their mistake and got rid of the $10 late fee. Lateness rates remained the same (worse) rate as before. The extrinsic motivator replaced the intrinsic one and parents no longer felt the social responsibility they had before.

    If your goal is to "create a greater pain" then you should focus it on something that holds greater (non-monetary value).

    Eg a friend of mine who works to help people quit smoking has experimented with a number of methods. An obvious one where his patients agree to pay a fine for every cigarette they smoke (to charity, not to him). The only noticeable effect of this one was patients gave more money to charity and eventually stopped showing up because they'd amassed a bigger debt than they could afford to pay!

    His most successful approach has been to link smoking to a detrimental outcome in a very personal way. Eg getting patients to imagine their grand children in vivid detail. Perhaps at their birthday party or something. Then he asks them if they want to miss this event or be there and constantly be wheezing. Or having those same grandchildren visit them in hospital.
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    • Profile picture of the author jglover
      Originally Posted by Andy Fletcher View Post

      Be very careful substituting extrinsic (read economic/money) incentives for intrinsic ones. The human mind very quickly associates this monetary value as the "price" for the altered behaviour and it is very hard to undo. $50 may or may not seem like a lot now but in a month's time when you've just had a tax rebate and it's damned cold outside you will suddenly see $50 as a small price to pay for the comfort of your bed.

      What's more, that $50 will continue to hold value in your mind even after it is removed (ie the 45 days are up) and you'll start to see the bed as "free".

      Here's an example from a study I read to illustrate the point -

      A nursery school had a lot of trouble with parents showing up late to collect their kids. To counteract this the teachers introduced a $10 late fee for any parent who didn't show up on time. Lateness rates went up, not down and they showed up even later than they did before.

      Reasons -

      - The parents replaced the social responsibility of not inconveniencing the teachers with $10 and to them $10 was a price worth paying to be late.
      - There was no "per minute" fee so once you were late you may as well be really late, it cost you the same amount.

      It gets worse. The teachers realised their mistake and got rid of the $10 late fee. Lateness rates remained the same (worse) rate as before. The extrinsic motivator replaced the intrinsic one and parents no longer felt the social responsibility they had before.

      If your goal is to "create a greater pain" then you should focus it on something that holds greater (non-monetary value).

      Eg a friend of mine who works to help people quit smoking has experimented with a number of methods. An obvious one where his patients agree to pay a fine for every cigarette they smoke (to charity, not to him). The only noticeable effect of this one was patients gave more money to charity and eventually stopped showing up because they'd amassed a bigger debt than they could afford to pay!

      His most successful approach has been to link smoking to a detrimental outcome in a very personal way. Eg getting patients to imagine their grand children in vivid detail. Perhaps at their birthday party or something. Then he asks them if they want to miss this event or be there and constantly be wheezing. Or having those same grandchildren visit them in hospital.
      Very Interesting. I have never thought about it quite like that. I think since I use this method for short periods of time, then that doesn't effect me as bad. I just use it to develop the habit, then it's natural from that point on.

      Thanks for your feedback
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      Originally Posted by Andy Fletcher View Post

      Here's an example from a study I read to illustrate the point -

      A nursery school had a lot of trouble with parents showing up late to collect their kids. To counteract this the teachers introduced a $10 late fee for any parent who didn't show up on time. Lateness rates went up, not down and they showed up even later than they did before.

      Reasons -

      - The parents replaced the social responsibility of not inconveniencing the teachers with $10 and to them $10 was a price worth paying to be late.
      - There was no "per minute" fee so once you were late you may as well be really late, it cost you the same amount.

      It gets worse. The teachers realised their mistake and got rid of the $10 late fee. Lateness rates remained the same (worse) rate as before. The extrinsic motivator replaced the intrinsic one and parents no longer felt the social responsibility they had before.

      If your goal is to "create a greater pain" then you should focus it on something that holds greater (non-monetary value).

      Eg a friend of mine who works to help people quit smoking has experimented with a number of methods. An obvious one where his patients agree to pay a fine for every cigarette they smoke (to charity, not to him). The only noticeable effect of this one was patients gave more money to charity and eventually stopped showing up because they'd amassed a bigger debt than they could afford to pay!

      His most successful approach has been to link smoking to a detrimental outcome in a very personal way. Eg getting patients to imagine their grand children in vivid detail. Perhaps at their birthday party or something. Then he asks them if they want to miss this event or be there and constantly be wheezing. Or having those same grandchildren visit them in hospital.
      Nice quote from the book freakonomics. Love the book a lot!
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      An interesting idea and interesting comments on the idea.

      You should have an out for illness or being hospitalized. A guarantee to perform regardless of circumstances could cost you.

      Also, it is ONLY the first person who catches you or is it EVERY person -- did you spell it out? YEA! I know technicalities, but the as they say, "The devil is in the details".
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      • Profile picture of the author theemperor
        I didn't like the running example - what if you hurt your ankle or get sick whilst doing it - you really gonna force your body and make things worse for $50.

        One thing I am trying to do, which is kind of the opposite idea, is to calm myself, relax, and then try to look forward to the work I am doing. Try to enjoy it like it is a hobby. People play for hours on games consoles but effectively what they are doing is a kind of "work" but they don't realise it. I want to tap into that mental/cognitive idea for doing IM.

        Also running can be enjoyable, it snowed here recently and running in the snow was fabulous - I wouldn't need to be paid $50 to do that again :p
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        • Profile picture of the author jglover
          Originally Posted by theemperor View Post

          I didn't like the running example - what if you hurt your ankle or get sick whilst doing it - you really gonna force your body and make things worse for $50.

          One thing I am trying to do, which is kind of the opposite idea, is to calm myself, relax, and then try to look forward to the work I am doing. Try to enjoy it like it is a hobby. People play for hours on games consoles but effectively what they are doing is a kind of "work" but they don't realise it. I want to tap into that mental/cognitive idea for doing IM.

          Also running can be enjoyable, it snowed here recently and running in the snow was fabulous - I wouldn't need to be paid $50 to do that again :p
          I feel the same way about other things. running however, is not an enjoyable activity for me. At least the process of getting started isn't. I have tried to harness that state of mind and in many activities I have been able to.

          I use this technique when I can't.

          Thanks for your thoughts
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      • Profile picture of the author jglover
        Originally Posted by bobsstuff View Post

        An interesting idea and interesting comments on the idea.

        You should have an out for illness or being hospitalized. A guarantee to perform regardless of circumstances could cost you.

        Also, it is ONLY the first person who catches you or is it EVERY person -- did you spell it out? YEA! I know technicalities, but the as they say, "The devil is in the details".
        Yea I got to thinking about that yesterday. What if I get hurt? I will have to put a statement in there that excludes that.

        On the same hand, I have a pretty good relationship with my readers. I like to think that they would understand if I got hurt. If not, who cares, it's $50.

        Thanks for your input!
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      Originally Posted by mohamed.hammad View Post

      amazing idea for earning new habits! I liked it so much

      I will try it soon to my blog visitors .. not only it will improve my habits but it can also build a better relationship with my blog readers
      Thanks! Glad to know that you found it useful!
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    I'm from the school that if you really want something bad enough then you'll do what it takes to achieve the goal.

    But, there is something to be said to putting some skin in the game.

    Good luck
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      Originally Posted by ant_arias View Post

      I'm from the school that if you really want something bad enough then you'll do what it takes to achieve the goal.

      But, there is something to be said to putting some skin in the game.

      Good luck
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      That is SO true, Anthony. I, for example, won't be earning as much money from my present job, online teaching, because the course I've developed is being farmed out to other mentors. Sure, I'll get students, but probably not the 15 or 20 I usually get each month.

      So I have a built-in motivator for finding other ways to make money online.

      Trouble is, I am an excellent procrastinator. Even when I do have plenty of time, I keep delaying what I should be doing and discovered that I really didn't want to do it. Maybe having to live like a pauper for a longer time will help, if there is any hope for me. GOT to succeed in the months ahead, or else.....

      However, the thought of again having to survive on 300 or 400 a month is too much to bear. Clearly, I need to get cracking and stop slacking, lol!
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        Originally Posted by webwriter View Post

        That is SO true, Anthony. I, for example, won't be earning as much money from my present job, online teaching, because the course I've developed is being farmed out to other mentors. Sure, I'll get students, but probably not the 15 or 20 I usually get each month.

        So I have a built-in motivator for finding other ways to make money online.

        Trouble is, I am an excellent procrastinator. Even when I do have plenty of time, I keep delaying what I should be doing and discovered that I really didn't want to do it. Maybe having to live like a pauper for a longer time will help, if there is any hope for me. GOT to succeed in the months ahead, or else.....

        However, the thought of again having to survive on 300 or 400 a month is too much to bear. Clearly, I need to get cracking and stop slacking, lol!
        You are right on buddy!

        Fear of loss is the biggest motivator in the entire world.

        Thanks for your thoughts
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        • Profile picture of the author webwriter
          Originally Posted by jglover View Post

          You are right on buddy!

          Fear of loss is the biggest motivator in the entire world.

          Thanks for your thoughts
          Another thing I do to is gather up bills and place them on my workspace, just in case I need a reminder. Everytime I look up from my work, I see those bills.
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          • Profile picture of the author jglover
            Originally Posted by webwriter View Post

            Another thing I do to is gather up bills and place them on my workspace, just in case I need a reminder. Everytime I look up from my work, I see those bills.
            thats a great Idea...

            I may have to try that. haha
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    There's an easy answer - stop doing it. Really, it's all your willpower and nothing else.
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      Originally Posted by LetsGoViral View Post

      There's an easy answer - stop doing it. Really, it's all your willpower and nothing else.
      Stop doing what? I may be missing something here...
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      Originally Posted by Jawshh View Post

      I needed that. Thanks
      glad i could help
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    • Profile picture of the author jglover
      Originally Posted by BIG Mike View Post

      I'm not a procrastinator, so can't really see what the underlying problem is or reasons are for doing it. If something needs to be done, I just do it - I guess it's because my mindset is such that I don't like leaving things undone.

      I do outsource a lot, but the purpose of outsourcing is to free my time up for managing my business activities...not to just get out of doing something.

      When I have a really large task/project to do, I break it down into manageable chunks of work. For example, I had a project where I needed to research and then manually enter data for 365 days. I didn't want to outsource it because the interpretation of the data was a critical component of the project.

      So I paced myself - 5 entries per day (about 30 minutes worth of work) over the ensuing 73 days. There wan't a tangible deadline, so by working on it a little each day, I eventually completed the project. I did miss a few days here and there, but I kept it manageable.

      I think it's a combination of mindset, organization and a willingness to make an equal effort on any task.
      Very true my friend! I envy you in this area, because I do have problems with procrastination. I am always "beginning to begin"
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    Thanks for the post. Gave me some ideas that I can use in my own personal life as well.

    Anyways, great job on putting your money where your mouth is. I'm sure that you will succeed in your quest to wake up early.

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  • Profile picture of the author boaterscott
    We can argue back and forth about whether the $50 idea is good or bad (great points on both sides), but from a marketing angle I like it. Perhaps I'll modify it a bit if I try it, but I wonder if this guy doesn't build up a huge list of followers while the "wait" for him to mess up.

    I'm now thinking of way to do a similar thing with my list - maybe not $50, but I think it might generate buzz in my niche.

    It sounds like many people here in Warrior land really do "just do it". I'm glad to find others who followthrough (or are learning how to followthrough)
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    • Profile picture of the author jglover
      Originally Posted by boaterscott View Post

      We can argue back and forth about whether the $50 idea is good or bad (great points on both sides), but from a marketing angle I like it. Perhaps I'll modify it a bit if I try it, but I wonder if this guy doesn't build up a huge list of followers while the "wait" for him to mess up.

      I'm now thinking of way to do a similar thing with my list - maybe not $50, but I think it might generate buzz in my niche.

      It sounds like many people here in Warrior land really do "just do it". I'm glad to find others who followthrough (or are learning how to followthrough)
      Thanks for your thoughts! Glad to see that this idea perhaps got your wheels turning. I used a similar idea in another niche with a very popular book giveaway, and grew my following by about 25%.

      Let me know how your project turns out...
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